Sometimes, we lose ourselves.

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We keep from speaking up.

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From saying what we need.

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Or giving ourselves what we desire.

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Our boundaries might become porous.

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Other might take more from us than we truly want to give.

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There are so many ways in which we disappear.

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It is all about not showing up for ourselves.

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We abandon who we are and what we are here for.

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And we do it over and over again.

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So what stops us from showing up for ourselves?

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From being truthful and sovereign over our actions?

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There are so many ways in which this happens.

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How do we come back and truly be here now?

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This is where we must dive in deep to our inner healing.

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To uncovering the patterns and traumas that rule our lives.

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For this did not start as adults.

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These habits and routines are something we have carried with us for most of our lives.

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From the time we are very young, we lose ourselves so that we may feel safe.

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That we may please others so they won't hurt us.

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To ensure that they will feed us and take care of us.

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So we can avoid the pain of being hurt or being left alone.

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Our sense of belonging and connection are tainted by these unconscious tendencies.

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Any unresolved pain, grief, or loss will be carried forward whether we realize it or not.

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To fully learn to show up for ourselves is not about discipline or strategy.

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It is about presence.

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Our presence to the guilt, shame, embarrassment or fear we all feel or have experienced.

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These energies keep us from being able to be still and aware.

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They force us to be distracted and scattered.

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For the idea of being truly present to these feeling is terrifying.

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We would do almost anything to avoid being in the middle of our deepest pain.

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Yet that is where our liberation is.

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To overcome our struggles and regain our sovereignty we must face the very thing that scares us the most.

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Our core wounds.

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Only once we have come to peace with them can we begin to be free of them.

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When we have compassion for ourselves and what we've been through, only then can we begin to release the energies we have been holding on to for so long.

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Through releasing those energies can we start to create new habits and new patterns.

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Ones that allow us to voice our needs and hold stronger boundaries.

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So we can begin to slowly step into our power and our dignity.

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Our fears won't go away.

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Will we still carry them with us for the rest of our lives.

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But they won't be in control of us anymore.

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And our authentic selves can begin to emerge.

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Allowing our true light to shine as it was meant to.

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To hold ourselves up without anger or regret.

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And listen to our heart's song for the first time.

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While we hear our souls calling us forth to a better future.

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More importantly, showing up in the present moment in a way that honors us.

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So we may no longer lose ourselves to the shadows of the past.

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Where in your own life have you lost yourself?

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Can you be present to the pain that caused you to do it in the first place?

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~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Host of The Conscious Consultant Hour