We all want attention.
Even when we feel like hiding.
That doesn't mean we want to be ignored.
There is something in us that needs to be seen.
We create all kinds of work and art to be seen.
The real challenge is how we respond when we are not seen.
What do we do when the people we want to see us the most don't even look?
It can be hard to feel invisible.
We feel lousy when others misinterpret our words or actions.
Do we feel inadequate because they don't see us?
Do we feel less than?
Does it stir up our insecurities?
If it does, congratulations!
Now we have some real gold to deal with.
What do we need from the world to feel that we are enough?
The tricky part about the whole issue is that we will always be let down when we depend on others this way.
For they have their own challenges to deal with.
They are dealing with their own insecurities.
To see how good we are and how we are more than enough, even when we don't feel it.
For how can anyone else truly see us clearly if we do not see ourselves clearly?
This is where the act of self-care and self-compassion come in.
When we are in the midst of those feelings of loneliness and despair is when we need to be kinder and gentler with ourselves.
Then we can begin to grow more fully into ourselves.
And we can accept and access our gifts more fully.
We can stand up and be tall even when we are all by ourselves.
And then when someone does truly see us, we can take it in not from a place of need or feeling less than, but from a place of true humility.
For when we see ourselves clearly, we can others clearly as well.
We are all greater and carry more possibilities inside of us than we can ever discover.
So how can you see yourself more clearly?
How can you let go of the need to be seen by others?
~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant