We are all afraid of something.

For some, it may not be that obvious most of the time.

Others are very present to their fear every day.

Different people find different ways to cope with their fear.

Some just run away from it.

Other people just suppress it for as long as they can.

Still others, probably most of us, find ways to manage it without truly dealing with it.

And then there are the rare individuals who dive into it.

They are so in tune with themselves that they can't bare to hold on the fear so they must resolve it right away.

Regardless of our own individual approach to fear, ultimately, we all have to face it one way or another.

For when we have a fear that we are ignoring, it is surely driving our behavior at an unconscious level.

That is the truly tricky thing about fear.

Whether we want it to or not, it is controlling so much of our lives.

And we are not even aware of it most of the time.

This is why no matter how scary the fear is, it is always better to deal with it than to ignore it or suppress it.

So how do we confront our fears?

We all take a different approach, yet eventually it always comes down to being truly honest with ourselves.

To be honest about what it is that truly scares us and why.

It is only when we look at the fundamental reasons we are afraid that we can find a way to release those fears.

Maybe, once we truly face them, the best thing we can do is to just give them space.

Hold them without judgment.

Ask them what it is they truly want.

Usually, when we allow the fear to have a voice, the energy dissipates.

Other times we may have to do some deep processing with a professional for those that are born of deep trauma.

The thing is there is no one way to deal with fear.

We can all find a different way to face our own fears.

Yet we eventually have to feel them, no matter what.

For the energy of fear remains in our nervous system until we actually feel it and allow it to run it's course.

The tricky part is not to get stuck in it and wallow in our fears.

Should you find yourself in that situation, it is time to look for professional help.

Most of the time we can deal with our fears with the support of a partner or a close friend.

As long as we can be truly honest with ourselves about what we are really feeling.

And that is not easy.

So what fears have you been holding on to?

How can you find a way to face, feel, and release your fears?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Host of The Conscious Consultant Hour