Most of us know what our challenges are.

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The stories of our life are conscious.

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Those memories are still vivid, if not fresh.

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We work on those issues, yet they still trigger us.

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As we walk on this path of healing, we think that once we talk about our stories, we will be better.

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Yet somehow we are not.

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Those same triggers still haunt us.

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And we fall into the same emotional traps we always have.

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Why is that?

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What more do we need to do to change our patterns and move forward in our life?

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The key to really breaking those patterns comes when we understand that we can't think our way out of our pain.

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Releasing those stories and the experiences that they generated come not from the mind.

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For the images and the feeling are not just stuck in the brain.

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Our nervous system, our body, our hearts still carry that energy.

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The weight of the pain we felt and the trauma of those situations is lodged in the very cells of our bodies.

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We forget that we are more than a brain and a mind.

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There s also our heart, our body, and our spirit as well.

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To break these pattern and these cycles of unwanted behavior, we must first release the energy that is stuck in our bodies.

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In other words, we have to feel our way through, not think our way through.

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It is not enough to simply remember the incidences and think about them.

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We have to listen to our bodies, and feel those feelings that we have avoided and suppressed for so many years.

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This can be difficult work.

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More than that, it can be very scary.

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Because it requires us to do what we have never done before.

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To feel what we don't want to feel.

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The pain, the shame, the betrayal, the abandonment, the fear.

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We are usually pretty good at feeling the good feeling emotions.

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Joy, excitement, gratitude, appreciation, and love.

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Yet feeling the uncomfortable feelings is equally helpful.

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Helpful because those feelings show us where we are.

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They show us where we need to change.

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And they show us where we need to forgive and let go.

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Or they show us where to be kinder to ourselves and to others.

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Reaching deep down and accessing those feelings is not for the faint of heart.

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Doing it on our own can also be very challenging.

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Seeking our a guide or a therapist to support us and guide us through the process is one of the best things we can do.

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Find support from our community is also helpful.

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The important thing to keep in mind is that we don't have to do it all on our own.

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We can get help and support.

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If not from a trained professional, as least from an experienced guide.

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The key is that we have to be willing to go where we haven't been willing to go before.

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To feel what we haven't been willing to feel before.

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And to experience what we haven't been willing to experience before.

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Are you ready to dive in deep?

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Are you willing to feel that pain once again so you can let it go?

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~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Host of The Conscious Consultant Hour