It is important to express how we feel.

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To let others know where we stand.

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And share how things are affecting us.

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Sometimes we do not share enough.

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Other times we share too much.

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There are also moments when our sharing turns into something else.

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For when we express ourselves we can come from a different place internally.

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Then there is a sudden shift from sharing how we feel into complaining.

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We can cross that line very easily.

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Often we do it without even noticing.

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What started as a moment of sharing how something unpleasant affected us can soon turn into a complaint about the other person.

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Or the situation.

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Perhaps someone or some organization did something wrong.

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And we can feel completely justified in telling the world how we feel about it.

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Yet when we slip into a place of victimhood our expressing turns into complaining.

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Suddenly it is no longer about how we feel.

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It can quickly shift into making the other person wrong.

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For there is a fine line that affects how we express ourselves.

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And that line is determine by where we are coming from, internally.

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Are we coming from a place of knowing that we are a creator of our life?

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Or are we coming from a place where life is happening to us and we have no choice?

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This sort of victim mentally is rampant in our society.

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So it easy to get seduced by it and fall into that energy without knowing it.

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This is why it is important for us to listen to our own words.

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For what comes out of our mouths tells us where we are.

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As well as the inflection we say it with.

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For that fine line is determined by our inflection.

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It can go one way or another so easily.

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So checking in with ourselves and seeing where we are really at becomes key.

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How mindful are you when you express yourself?

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Can you catch yourself when you step over the line from expressing to complaining?

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~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Host of The Conscious Consultant Hour