One of the most important life skills is never taught.
We don't learn it in school.
Our parents never really teach it to us.
Society in general is fairly ignorant of it.
It is essential not because we can't live without it.
Or because it will make a lot of money for us.
It won't even provide us with any security.
And that is the skill of Self Care.
Self Care is not about indulgence or being lazy.
It is not about eating ice cream or chocolate when we don't feel good.
About nourishing our body, our heart, our mind and our soul.
Self Care is about knowing when one aspect is being neglected while another aspect is being pampered.
Sometimes we think that Self Care is about sitting on the couch and binge watching our favorite series.
And perhaps sometimes, it is.
By meeting physical and emotional needs we are better able to perform at work or show up for a friend in need.
It can look very differently from one person to another.
Perhaps for one person Self Caring is about taking time to be alone and just be with oneself.
For another person it might be about hanging out with friends and connecting on personal level.
And yet for another it could be about going to a performance to satisfy their esthetic needs.
The key is to take care of yourself in what you truly need in the moment.
Like going to the doctor or the dentist when you are in pain.
Or getting a massage when your body aches.
Spending time in nature surrounded by the beauty of a forest, or the ocean, or mountains, or a lake, can be Self Care.
They were too busy just surviving to learn what it takes to thrive.
Not thriving in a materialistic, money driven way, but in a soulful, heart driven way.
It is demonstrating to your own nervous system that it is safe to be alive, and there is space for your own needs.
Imagine what the world would look like if everyone practiced true Self Care?
Perhaps there would be fewer wars, less strife, more compassion.
By truly taking care of ourselves, we have more space in our lives to show up in the best way possible.
The truly amazing thing is. when we really practice Self Care, life will support us and help us to keep taking better care of ourselves.
So where in your life can you learn to be better at Self Care?
Is there some aspect of your life that requires your attention and Self Care?
~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant
Host of The Conscious Consultant Hour