Feeling safe with a group of people is not guaranteed.
There are many factors that go into feeling safe.
Some, have to do with the group.
Others, have to do with ourselves.
It is not something we can work out with the mind.
Logical reasons fall short when the feeling of unsafety comes up.
For only the heart knows when it truly feels safe.
Emotional safety is a feeling.
It is not a thought or a mental construct.
If we are living in our trauma and our past, then no one may feel safe to us.
The anxiety of the memories keep bubbling up.
We may not even be aware of the trauma.
Yet we know when something doesn't feel right.
No one else may be affected.
The other people may never know how we feel.
When we notice that we are feeling unsafe for no reason at all, that is the time to look inside.
To ask ourselves why we feel unsafe.
And seek when we have felt that way before.
What story are we telling ourselves?
Does this feeling seem familiar?
Is there any evidence to show us we should or should not feel safe?
Perhaps it is a story of a painful event.
Of of an uncomfortable experience.
Yet although it is in the past, we still carry it around inside of us.
We keep it present until we work it through.
Not only with other.
Even more importantly with ourselves.
We know what to do, we know how to be.
It is not about the other person or people.
So where do you not feel safe?
What is the story you are telling yourself that continues to make you feel unsafe?
And how about we change that...
~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant