Sometimes we fall.

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We can fall in many different ways.

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In our relationships, our business, or our health.

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Falling is not the problem.

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It is a part of life.

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As soon as we learn to stand up we face the possibility of falling.

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The possibility of making mistakes and having things fall apart on us.

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We have all experienced this.

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Like the loss of a job, or a partner, or a financial set back, or even an actual physical fall.

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When we fall, we can feel lost, out of control, and helpless.

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For when we are in the state of falling, that moment before we hit the ground, nothing is certain.

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The future is completely unknown and that can be very scary.

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Not knowing if we will survive the fall is the scariest part of all.

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Will we be able to recover from the loss?

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Can we get back on our feet after we hit the ground?

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What will happen after the fall is over?

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Our mind faces all of these fears in a split second.

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Sometimes, when the fall take longer to happen, we can be distraught will all the possible outcomes constantly circling around inside of us.

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We almost can not help but to dwell on the worst possible result from our current fall.

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This is all normal and not something to judge as bad or wrong.

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Then we hit the ground.

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It can be a hard landing, a soft landing, or all varieties in between.

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Hitting the ground is not the problem either.

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That has to happen eventually.

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When we hit the ground we can now feel the earth beneath us.

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We can start to assess the damage and figure out how to stand up again.

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The moment of impact can be painful.

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Yet sometimes all the fears we have around landing is far worse than the impact itself.

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For the impact is over in a moment.

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And once the impact happens, now the real work begins.

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The work of dusting ourselves off and trying to stand back up.

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If we are fortunate, we didn't break anything in the fall.

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Though many times we do break things things when we fall.

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It might be a financial fall that breaks our relationship.

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Or a relationship fall that breaks our health.

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Regardless of the type of fall or the type of break, the real challenge is how we pick ourselves up afterward.

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How do we stand up after falling and take our first next step.

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That will determine a lot.

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Just the act of standing up itself is a big first step.

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For if we just lie there and not try to get up again out of fear and pain, then we have really fallen far worse than the initial fall.

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Our response to the fall is always the most important aspect of the fall.

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Even if we break a bone or injure ourselves as a result of the fall, we can always heal.

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Of course, the path of healing can be difficult and painful.

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Yet that path is far less painful and staying down and not recovering.

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Staying in that place of victimhood and and defeat.

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As long as we still have our breath, we have a chance.

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We have an opportunity for healing.

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An opportunity for growth.

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And as we heal from the fall and we learn to walk again, we can be stronger than before.

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We can find new ways to live, love, and be productive.

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Our creative nature can find different ways to express itself than it did before.

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Falling is never the problem.

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How we respond to the fall and get back up is always the most important aspect of any fall.

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It may not be an easy or obvious oath forward.

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Yet if we allow ourselves to learn from the fall we have gained something precious.

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Something that no one can ever take away from us.

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We learn how to fall and get back up.

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And that is the most valuable lesson indeed.

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Have you fallen in your life lately?

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Can you learn how to stand up and be stronger from that fall?

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~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Host of The Conscious Consultant Hour