We all get angry sometimes.

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When we have experienced abuse, it can even turn to rage.

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That energy has great power to it.

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If we do not let it control us.

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Anger can be used to fuel action.

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To strive for justice.

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Or just make our voices heard.

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Yet the anger and the rage are not the whole story.

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For we must allow that energy to move through us, or it will take it's toll on us.

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Finding a safe space and a safe way to express our rage is essential.

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When someone can hold space for us to express our rage it can be very healing.

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Though a funny thing usually happens when we are given a chance to express our rage.

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While we might yell and scream and hit a pillow or stamp our feet, that release can only last so long.

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As the energy of the rage moves through us, it also depletes us.

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The protective mechanism of the anger and rage starts to wear out.

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Suddenly, after we've been screaming for quite a while, things might shift.

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And those yells turn to tears.

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Next, we find ourselves sobbing uncontrollably.

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That hidden feeling under the rage finally comes out.

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We are there, crying and wailing in our sadness.

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The sadness for what happened to us.

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For what someone did to us.

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That innocence we once had is now lost or the joy we once had is now gone.

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Being sad that such people even exist in this world.

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For we know that there is a better way to live.

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A better way to show up in the world.

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And a far better way to interact with other people.

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Our pain now has a voice beyond our rage.

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Once we have expressed our deep sadness, and our energy is all but spent, we can come to a new place.

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A place of acceptance.

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That place where even though we know what happened was not right, we accept that we lived through it.

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And we survived.

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So we stand here to day as a testament to the power of the human will to live.

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As we learn to no longer let what happened to us define us.

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To release the control that rage and anger had over us.

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So now we can learn to live from a new place inside.

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From a place of peace.

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And from that peaceful place perhaps we can find our heart once more.

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Buried beneath the muck of our lifetime.

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Ready to come out again and be seen.

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Be felt.

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Maybe even find a way to love life once again.

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Wouldn't that be worth the price of feeling the pain of our sadness?

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~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Host of The Conscious Consultant Hour