People tend to keep themselves busy.

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We are almost always in a constant state of doing something.

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If it is not work, it is errands around the home.

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We rarely just sit and be with ourselves.

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And when we do have the opportunity to relax, we normally do that with others.

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So how much time do we spend by ourselves?

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How much time do we spend distracting ourselves?

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Yet the real questions is, what are we distracting ourselves from?

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What is it that causes us to constantly be on the phone or the TV when we are by ourselves?

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Perhaps it is that we don't really want to feel that we're alone.

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Maybe underneath all that noise and busyness is the pain of feeling alone?

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When a pain is so deep and basic, we will do anything to avoid feeling it.

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We run away from feeling it because to feel the pain of loneliness can be devastating.

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Like when a parent loses a child or a spouse.

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When our life has been so tied to another human and suddenly they are gone, it can be quite shocking.

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Yet to really feel it, to feel the pain of being alone seems unbearable.

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But if we don't feel it we will never be free from it.

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We will continue to keep ourselves busy for the rest of our lives.

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And one day we will wake up and wonder where all the time went.

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There is no easy way through the pain.

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It is a part of us and if we do not allow ourselves to feel it, it will haunt us for the rest of our days.

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Perhaps we do not have to feel it all at once.

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Maybe we can just dip our toe in the pain and release a little at a time.

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Consistent action of a long period of time can add up to quite a lot.

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How ever we decide to approach our pain of loneliness is up to us.

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Yet when we deal with it, itis one of our deepest core issues to face.

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And when we are able to face it and embrace it we can be free of it.

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When we do that, then we can be alone whenever we want without fear.

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We can truly be with ourselves without distraction.

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And maybe we can even get rid of our addiction to being busy.

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Perhaps you can try being just with yourself without distraction?

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Maybe that fear of touching your loneliness, is not as bad as you thought?

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~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant