They say that familiarity breed contempt.

This is particularly true when it comes to our community.

When we grew up inside a group we see everything.

The good, the bad, and the ugly.

It can be easy to resent our community and move away from it.

For we have experienced first hand all the challenges.

The pain it has caused us and the trauma it has inflicted.

We can become so disheartened by it that we want nothing to do with it.

Not only do we seek distance from it, we also do not want to be identified with it.

So we reject it and it's place in our lives.

Until we begin to find our healing path to wholeness.

To that place where we can accept ourselves.

All parts of ourselves.

Including the community that we come from.

When we heal from our trauma we can find a way to appreciate the good parts of our upbringing.

The places where we had joy and nourishment from the traditions of the community.

Yet this only occurs when we learn to fully accept ourselves.

To accept where we come from our own unique place in our heritage.

As long as we are fractured about our own past, we will never be able to see the good in it.

So learning to accept all of traits that make the community we come from unique is a process of learning to accept all of ourselves.

Even the parts we don't like.

Especially the parts we have hidden away in the shadows our of fear or shame.

Bringing all of ourselves to the light for all to behold gives us peace and calm.

To do this it is essential for us to truly accept where we come from.

All of it.

The good, the bad, and the ugly.

So where are you not accepting your own community?

What parts of yourself are you denying because of this lack of acceptance?

~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Host of The Conscious Consultant Hour