EPISODE SUMMARY:
This week on The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam goes solo again to explore something so simple it is easily overlooked, yet so rare it can change a life: the act of truly listening.
In a world of constant noise, urgent opinions, and conversations that often feel like waiting rooms for our own next words, the experience of being deeply heard has become a quiet form of medicine. Sam opens this reflection by reading from the work of Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen, whose words on listening have touched generations of healers and seekers and whose insight that listening may be the oldest and most powerful instrument of healing sets the tone for the conversation that follows.
In this thoughtful and personal episode, Sam draws on Remen's reflections to explore what gets in the way of real listening. He looks at the noise within, the urge to respond, to advise, to fix, and to relate it back to ourselves and the noise around us, the speed of modern life that leaves little room for presence. He considers why so many people walk through their days feeling unheard and what it costs us individually and collectively when listening becomes a lost art. The points Remen raises about generous silence, about the difference between listening to reply and listening to understand, and about the way our attention itself can be a healing offering become the through-line of a deeper exploration into why this practice is both so simple and so difficult.
Sam turns toward what becomes possible when we soften enough to truly hear another and when we allow ourselves to be heard in return. He reflects on the courage listening sometimes asks of us, the discomfort of staying present when we cannot solve, and the unexpected intimacy that grows when silence is allowed to do its work. This episode is an invitation to slow down, to listen more deeply to others and to ourselves, and to remember that some of the most healing moments in any life happen not when something is said but when someone is finally, fully heard.
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Segment 1
Sam opens by sharing a blog post titled "Giving a Voice to Our Needs is the Only Way to Get Them Met," reminding us that unmet needs are rarely the fault of others — most often, it's our own fear, self-judgment, and silence that stand in the way of receiving what we truly desire. He encourages listeners to practice the courageous act of voicing their needs, starting with the smallest, most manageable asks in everyday life, whether with a partner, coworker, or even a restaurant server, because articulating our needs is itself an act of self-empowerment that opens the door for life to respond. Sam closes the segment with a gentle invitation: try expressing just one small need this week, approach it with mindfulness and discernment about timing, and notice how showing up honestly for yourself begins to shift what you attract and receive.
Segment 2
Drawing from a moving poem by Rachel Naomi Remen titled "The Art of Listening," Sam explores how truly listening to another person is one of the most sacred gifts we can offer — creating a holy sanctuary where the hidden, unloved, and unheard parts of someone's soul can finally find a home. He reminds us that generous listening doesn't just heal the person being heard; it becomes a mirror for our own inner world, allowing us to recognize our shared humanity, our own buried truths, and even to catch fleeting glimpses of the divine singing softly through every human story. Sam closes with a beautiful paradox and a heartfelt challenge: that in order to truly be seen, we must first learn to truly see others — and that by showing up as more conscious, present listeners, we just might help weave a more connected and compassionate world.
00:00:44.080 --> 00:01:03.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Good afternoon, my conscious co-creators! Welcome to another edition of the Conscious Consultant Hour, Awakening Humanity. I am very, very pleased that you are all here with me today for another wonderful show.
00:01:03.460 --> 00:01:17.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yes, and this happens to be another, solo show without any guests. I'm supposed to have a guest, but it got canceled last minute, didn't have a chance to get somebody else on, so it's just you and me for the show, so please.
00:01:17.990 --> 00:01:27.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Please, if you have comments, questions, things you want to know about, preferably on my topic today, which is the art of listening.
00:01:28.380 --> 00:01:37.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But as I share what I'm going to share with you today, please bring your own questions and comments to it.
00:01:37.860 --> 00:01:44.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I promise to shout you out, and to, make sure I get to them in the show.
00:01:45.820 --> 00:01:56.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Okay, first, of course, before I get into my main topic, I do have my blog post from a couple of years ago.
00:01:57.490 --> 00:02:00.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And this blog post is entitled…
00:02:01.160 --> 00:02:03.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's kind of, I guess, sort of related.
00:02:04.740 --> 00:02:11.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Giving a voice to our needs is the only way to get them met.
00:02:13.680 --> 00:02:16.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: As human beings, we all have needs.
00:02:17.370 --> 00:02:22.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The need for love, recognition, companionship, and many more.
00:02:23.570 --> 00:02:27.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet many times, these needs go unfulfilled.
00:02:27.590 --> 00:02:31.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it can be easy to get resentful.
00:02:31.390 --> 00:02:38.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We can trap ourselves in a cycle of judging ourselves for wanting something more.
00:02:39.390 --> 00:02:43.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Them being resentful because we are not receiving it.
00:02:44.550 --> 00:02:51.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Every time we want to do something to feed our souls, we seem to stop ourselves.
00:02:52.540 --> 00:02:59.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Even though it is something we desire so much, somehow, those needs don't get met.
00:03:02.000 --> 00:03:06.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can be easy to blame others for our lack of fulfillment.
00:03:08.090 --> 00:03:11.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we do, we miss an opportunity.
00:03:12.650 --> 00:03:16.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The opportunity to grow and evolve.
00:03:17.340 --> 00:03:24.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To look deeper into ourselves as to why things are going the way they are.
00:03:25.840 --> 00:03:29.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: For if we can really be honest with ourselves.
00:03:30.680 --> 00:03:36.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It is not others who are stopping us from getting our needs met.
00:03:37.170 --> 00:03:38.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It is ourselves.
00:03:39.710 --> 00:03:44.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Our own judgment and criticism of ourselves.
00:03:45.590 --> 00:03:50.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We stop ourselves much more than anyone else can.
00:03:53.160 --> 00:03:56.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it is ultimately our choice.
00:03:57.010 --> 00:03:58.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: our decision.
00:03:59.640 --> 00:04:06.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The decisions that we make every day are what cause our needs not to be met.
00:04:07.100 --> 00:04:11.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet that is a hard truth to come to.
00:04:12.690 --> 00:04:19.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If we can allow ourselves To be that honest with ourselves.
00:04:19.670 --> 00:04:21.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then we can move forward.
00:04:22.820 --> 00:04:28.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then, we can actually give a voice to our needs.
00:04:29.090 --> 00:04:30.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we can hear them.
00:04:31.400 --> 00:04:33.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Often for the first time.
00:04:34.760 --> 00:04:39.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we vocalize and give recognition to our needs.
00:04:39.760 --> 00:04:42.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then others can truly hear us.
00:04:44.230 --> 00:04:50.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then we can start to do something that actually gets those needs met.
00:04:52.260 --> 00:04:55.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It does take courage to speak our needs.
00:04:56.750 --> 00:05:01.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: For there is always the fear that they will… that they still won't be met.
00:05:03.840 --> 00:05:12.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet it is the only way for us even to have the possibility Of getting our needs met.
00:05:14.080 --> 00:05:21.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Giving a voice to what we really need out of life is one of the most important things we can do.
00:05:23.980 --> 00:05:29.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If we are ever to be happy with our lives, It is a must.
00:05:31.050 --> 00:05:36.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And when we do, Life has a funny way.
00:05:36.940 --> 00:05:39.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Of bringing our needs to us.
00:05:41.960 --> 00:05:45.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So… I wrote this post a couple of years ago.
00:05:48.780 --> 00:05:52.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And really, it kind of evolved after…
00:05:53.050 --> 00:05:57.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Working with so many clients over the last several years.
00:05:59.790 --> 00:06:02.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Who come and work with me.
00:06:02.560 --> 00:06:06.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And they talk about how, you know, their needs aren't getting met.
00:06:08.400 --> 00:06:18.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, and… Usually, not always, but usually, one of my first Questions to them is… Did you…
00:06:19.160 --> 00:06:22.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Tell so-and-so about your needs.
00:06:22.940 --> 00:06:30.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Did you tell your partner, your boss, your coworkers, your employees, your managers, your family members?
00:06:31.330 --> 00:06:32.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Did you tell them?
00:06:33.180 --> 00:06:36.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what you need. What's okay, what's not okay?
00:06:39.310 --> 00:06:50.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, like, 80% of the time, they're like, no? Don't they know? Aren't they supposed to know? And I'm like, no.
00:06:51.000 --> 00:06:53.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: People are not mind readers.
00:06:54.850 --> 00:06:59.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And… Most people are not going to give us
00:06:59.680 --> 00:07:02.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: An inch more than we ask for.
00:07:05.270 --> 00:07:09.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This is why, like, in business, it's always a negotiation.
00:07:11.320 --> 00:07:19.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The other side asks what they want, we ask for what we want, and then slowly you go back and forth, and you reach some compromise.
00:07:20.520 --> 00:07:25.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But you have to start with stating what your needs are. What do you want?
00:07:30.400 --> 00:07:35.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I think that's… and I feel like that's where we fall down the most.
00:07:39.560 --> 00:07:45.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It takes courage to voice our needs. Look, I'm not saying this is easy.
00:07:47.160 --> 00:07:51.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Well, it's simple, but it's not necessarily easy.
00:07:53.040 --> 00:07:57.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because… We always get held back by…
00:07:57.800 --> 00:08:06.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The fear of rejection, the fear that our needs still won't be met, the fear that we'll be criticized, you know, there are all kinds of fears that pop up.
00:08:06.470 --> 00:08:09.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we actually speak our needs.
00:08:12.100 --> 00:08:20.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And those fears themselves that keep us from speaking up, those are the things that are keeping us from getting our needs met.
00:08:21.560 --> 00:08:28.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And look, when I say getting our needs met, this doesn't have to be some huge thing. It can be something small.
00:08:30.160 --> 00:08:42.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can be, you know, you're standing outside, and someone's smoking a cigarette, and you just ask them, hey, would you mind moving over there to smoke? It bothers me.
00:08:43.929 --> 00:08:59.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can be something simple, like a coworker doing something in the office when we get there, and just, it really annoys you, and just having a conversation with them and telling them to stop doing what it is, that thing is that really annoys us.
00:09:02.010 --> 00:09:10.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Or, it could be as difficult or as challenging as having an honest conversation with your partner
00:09:11.620 --> 00:09:16.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: About what you truly need out of the relationship that you might not be getting.
00:09:17.290 --> 00:09:24.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, more honesty, more presence, you know, not being on their phone when you have a conversation with them.
00:09:24.860 --> 00:09:28.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's so many different things.
00:09:31.460 --> 00:09:39.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, look, I'm not saying, like, you immediately go out and say, I need this, and I need that, and I need this. Just start small.
00:09:40.740 --> 00:09:50.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just start with the little things, because the little things actually are usually more important than the big things in the grand scheme of things.
00:09:52.180 --> 00:09:56.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What's a little thing? What's just a little thing that…
00:09:57.030 --> 00:10:01.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You want, that you're not getting in any situation.
00:10:05.050 --> 00:10:06.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, and maybe it's…
00:10:07.340 --> 00:10:17.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can be something as emotionally charged as every time you get together with your family, they want to talk politics, and you have opposite views, and you just can't stand it. So you just say, hey, look.
00:10:18.870 --> 00:10:23.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I don't want to talk about politics when we get together. Let's talk about something else.
00:10:23.930 --> 00:10:29.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Do you want to talk about politics? You can go talk about it with someone else. I don't want to talk about politics with you.
00:10:30.960 --> 00:10:38.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Right? I mean, stating our needs is not just about what we want or what we want to get, it's also about
00:10:38.820 --> 00:10:42.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What we don't want. What's uncomfortable for us.
00:10:43.510 --> 00:10:45.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It doesn't feel right for us.
00:10:47.270 --> 00:10:54.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, it's scary to be up front. Very few of us are taught
00:10:55.010 --> 00:11:02.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we're young, to speak up for ourselves, and to speak up for our needs, and what feels right and what doesn't feel right for us.
00:11:05.400 --> 00:11:11.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, you know, it's so funny, when I'm doing ceremonial work with my wife, and we have a group of people.
00:11:12.570 --> 00:11:22.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we have to remind them at the beginning, like, hey, if you get a headache, if you get a stomachache, like, let us know. There are things we can give you. You can, you know, take this or that.
00:11:23.140 --> 00:11:31.239 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And people will just sit there and suffer, and they won't say, oh, I've got a headache, can you give me something? Oh, I got a stomachache, can you give me something?
00:11:33.080 --> 00:11:40.999 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, you know, sometimes those are just opportunities to work through something. Sometimes those are just signals from the body that something's out of alignment.
00:11:41.710 --> 00:11:47.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But sometimes it's just a physical thing, and you just need an aspirin or a Tums.
00:11:48.980 --> 00:11:56.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But it just amazed me when I really looked back over all the groups we've done, and all the people we've worked with.
00:11:57.070 --> 00:12:01.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that… How often people don't express their needs.
00:12:03.920 --> 00:12:08.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in a safe container. I mean, not even in a… in a… in a…
00:12:08.840 --> 00:12:14.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: A place that doesn't feel so safe, but in a very safe, supportive environment.
00:12:15.180 --> 00:12:22.739 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If we can't express our needs in that kind of container, how can we express our needs at work or with our families?
00:12:25.460 --> 00:12:30.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And hey, you know, you parents out there, this goes for you, too.
00:12:31.470 --> 00:12:34.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's learning to say to your kids, now look.
00:12:34.520 --> 00:12:37.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Your kids are not there to fulfill your needs.
00:12:37.700 --> 00:12:43.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But that doesn't mean you can't be a good model for them, express your needs to them.
00:12:43.750 --> 00:12:46.849 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So that they know how to express their needs.
00:12:47.480 --> 00:12:50.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So you say to your little boy, your little girl.
00:12:51.120 --> 00:13:02.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I just got home from work. I know you're really excited. I would love to play with you, but I just need 5-10 minutes to decompress. Is it okay if I just take a little time for myself?
00:13:03.940 --> 00:13:10.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, you might not get the response, oh yeah, sure, mommy, sure, daddy.
00:13:10.500 --> 00:13:12.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But that's okay.
00:13:13.740 --> 00:13:19.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Like, they don't have to agree with you, you know, and then it becomes a negotiation, and then you're like, well.
00:13:20.100 --> 00:13:25.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: whether it's okay or not, I'm taking my time, or, you know, you find a way.
00:13:25.960 --> 00:13:33.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But the point is, it's not about actually getting those needs fulfilled, but about at least expressing them.
00:13:36.070 --> 00:13:40.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And by doing that with your kids, who are not going to understand.
00:13:41.000 --> 00:13:48.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You give them a good example, so that when they get older, they're better at expressing their needs.
00:13:48.790 --> 00:13:57.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But then maybe the next time, when your boss yells at you, you feel a little more okay to say.
00:13:58.110 --> 00:14:00.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Please don't raise your voice at me.
00:14:00.950 --> 00:14:02.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's no need for that.
00:14:06.160 --> 00:14:07.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yes.
00:14:07.890 --> 00:14:16.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's uncomfortable. And yes, people are gonna give us pushback, and yes, it feels daunting.
00:14:17.690 --> 00:14:20.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But if we can start with…
00:14:21.120 --> 00:14:24.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just expressing the littlest of needs.
00:14:28.130 --> 00:14:29.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just one thing.
00:14:30.070 --> 00:14:34.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just think about, in your own life, right now.
00:14:34.470 --> 00:14:41.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What's one small, simple need that you have that you have not expressed?
00:14:41.510 --> 00:14:44.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To friends, family, coworkers.
00:14:46.580 --> 00:14:48.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: other situations.
00:14:51.670 --> 00:14:58.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can even be, like, Going to a restaurant, and when you order your food, telling them.
00:14:58.450 --> 00:15:15.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: please don't have them not add too much salt, or please, I'd like my bacon extra crispy, or, oh, I like my eggs, you know, dry or wet, or… you know, just stating your preference for how you want something when you're being served.
00:15:19.200 --> 00:15:24.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean, it's so funny, we get so nervous and so anxious.
00:15:25.080 --> 00:15:31.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: about… letting people know what we want, it actually makes their job easier.
00:15:31.220 --> 00:15:35.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Like, once we express our needs to them, then they know…
00:15:36.390 --> 00:15:40.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Exactly what they need to do to give us what we want.
00:15:42.080 --> 00:15:52.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, look, you have to know who your audience is, like, not everybody's gonna give us what we want. Many people might do the opposite, not give us what we want.
00:15:53.850 --> 00:15:56.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But you see, it's not really about them.
00:15:56.510 --> 00:16:02.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's about us being empowered enough to state what we need.
00:16:05.030 --> 00:16:11.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because if we don't even state what we need, how can life bring it to us?
00:16:13.520 --> 00:16:22.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If we don't let people know what's okay and what's not okay for us, How can they know?
00:16:22.470 --> 00:16:25.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What they're supposed to do, how they're supposed to show up.
00:16:27.010 --> 00:16:34.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And look, this goes in, like, all arenas, with your doctor, your lawyer, your accountant, you're this, you're that.
00:16:35.350 --> 00:16:36.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Doesn't matter.
00:16:37.940 --> 00:16:46.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Doesn't matter whether it's your husband, or wife, or lifetime companion, or parent, or child.
00:16:48.600 --> 00:16:50.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Whoever it is.
00:16:50.560 --> 00:17:02.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just the act of us being brave enough to express our needs That by itself… is tremendously empowering.
00:17:05.750 --> 00:17:11.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And whether they give it or not to us, then it's up to us how we decide to react.
00:17:12.690 --> 00:17:18.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, if we are very clear with our boss that the way they talk to us is not okay.
00:17:19.200 --> 00:17:20.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we keep…
00:17:20.630 --> 00:17:33.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: having to deal with the same situation over and over again, then we really gotta ask ourselves, is this the right environment that I want to work in? Is this the person I want to work for? Maybe I need to find a different situation, a different boss.
00:17:34.980 --> 00:17:38.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And yes, like, even going on an interview.
00:17:38.400 --> 00:17:42.999 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I know, it's scary. When you're interviewing, you want the job, you need money.
00:17:45.670 --> 00:17:48.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But letting them know what you need.
00:17:49.230 --> 00:17:55.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This is how much salary I need, this is how much vacation I need, this is the kind of benefits I need.
00:17:59.610 --> 00:18:01.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, most times.
00:18:01.990 --> 00:18:08.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We let the employer tell us how much the salary is going to be, instead of asking for the salary we want.
00:18:09.520 --> 00:18:14.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, you know, the funny thing is, the employer is always going to give us the lowest number they can offer us.
00:18:15.270 --> 00:18:17.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But if we ask for a higher number.
00:18:17.770 --> 00:18:26.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If they really want us, they might give us the higher number, but we accept something that's lower, because we don't tell them, this is what we really want.
00:18:26.760 --> 00:18:31.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, look, I know the job market is awful out there right now.
00:18:33.140 --> 00:18:39.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But if you're the right person for that job, and they know it, You can negotiate a little.
00:18:40.720 --> 00:18:53.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because it's standing up for ourselves. I mean, ultimately, speaking up for our needs is standing up for ourselves. It's standing up for ourselves in a way that's
00:18:55.020 --> 00:18:58.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: very… how would I describe it?
00:19:00.040 --> 00:19:02.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Hmm. That's very immediate.
00:19:03.430 --> 00:19:05.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's very present.
00:19:09.950 --> 00:19:14.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And again, It still might not be met.
00:19:15.350 --> 00:19:23.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the need we're asking for, it still might not be met, and that's okay. I mean, it might not be okay in that situation, but…
00:19:24.320 --> 00:19:28.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To me, the really important part is at least we state it.
00:19:29.960 --> 00:19:32.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That we stand up for ourselves.
00:19:32.760 --> 00:19:37.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That we stand up for what we need and want and desire.
00:19:39.200 --> 00:19:44.239 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the funny thing is… The more we do it, the more we get what we want.
00:19:45.250 --> 00:19:50.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That the more we say to life, This is what I want.
00:19:51.850 --> 00:19:54.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The much more likely we are to get it.
00:19:55.970 --> 00:20:01.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Doesn't mean it'll always happen. Doesn't mean it'll happen in every situation.
00:20:01.770 --> 00:20:04.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Doesn't mean that… you know.
00:20:05.230 --> 00:20:12.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't have to practice discernment and find the appropriate moment to ask.
00:20:13.850 --> 00:20:25.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, sometimes it's about finding just the right time to ask for what we want, when we know the other person is much more likely or in a mood to give it to us.
00:20:26.970 --> 00:20:32.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, if your partner comes home and they're in a bad mood, or your boss shows up one day at work and they're in a bad mood.
00:20:33.500 --> 00:20:37.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: At that moment, you might not want to ask for what you want.
00:20:37.830 --> 00:20:42.239 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: might want to just wait a little bit. I'm not saying not to ask at all.
00:20:43.110 --> 00:20:45.849 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But I'm saying be mindful of the timing.
00:20:47.140 --> 00:20:52.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: think about, hmm, if I ask now, are they likely to say yes or no?
00:20:53.440 --> 00:20:58.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And find the time when they might be more likely to say yes.
00:20:59.700 --> 00:21:04.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This is not being manipulative, this is just being smart.
00:21:06.630 --> 00:21:15.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, look, sometimes situations are untenable, and regardless of whether they're in a good mood or mad mood, you've got to say.
00:21:15.990 --> 00:21:19.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Look, I don't know what your problems are, but this is not okay.
00:21:22.640 --> 00:21:25.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yes, sometimes we need to do that.
00:21:27.830 --> 00:21:32.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But I think that's not nearly as rare.
00:21:32.930 --> 00:21:38.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: As just waiting for the appropriate moment to ask for our needs.
00:21:44.380 --> 00:21:49.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And look, my invitation to all my listeners
00:21:49.970 --> 00:21:51.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just try it for a week.
00:21:52.530 --> 00:21:56.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Like, let me know next week when I do my next show.
00:21:57.050 --> 00:22:00.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How was that for you, to ask for your needs?
00:22:04.240 --> 00:22:11.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, start simple, start easy. Start with the easiest ask you can do.
00:22:14.870 --> 00:22:20.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, you know, maybe it's something as just simple as asking your partner to bring you a glass of water.
00:22:24.050 --> 00:22:26.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Or to wash the dishes.
00:22:27.170 --> 00:22:31.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Or to put something away. Just ask.
00:22:34.290 --> 00:22:35.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, and, and look.
00:22:35.940 --> 00:22:40.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To all the ladies out there, I'm gonna say something that might make you a little upset, but…
00:22:40.750 --> 00:22:58.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Guys are dumb, and you need to ask them the same thing all the time, okay? Like, men are just not designed to look to see what… most men, I should say, are not designed to see, like, what your needs are. Women are much better at… at… at…
00:22:58.080 --> 00:23:03.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: seeing what someone else's needs are, I think it's a natural sort of mothering instinct.
00:23:03.730 --> 00:23:08.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They, like, know without someone telling them, oh, you gotta do this, you gotta do that. Men…
00:23:09.370 --> 00:23:13.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To get it. We're… some men are good at it, most men are not.
00:23:15.800 --> 00:23:22.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So you might get tired after a while, like, why do I always have to tell them to put down the toilet seat? Why do I always have to tell them to do this or that?
00:23:24.420 --> 00:23:29.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Trust me, it's not that he doesn't care. It's not that he doesn't want to make you happy.
00:23:30.650 --> 00:23:33.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's just not the way men are wired, in general.
00:23:34.600 --> 00:23:44.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And again, I'm talking… in all my things I say on my show, I'm usually talking in generalities, and there are always specific situations where things are different.
00:23:46.300 --> 00:23:49.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that goes for asking for our needs, too.
00:23:51.040 --> 00:24:00.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In not every situation is it a good idea to ask for our needs. If we're dealing with a volatile partner, or parent, or child.
00:24:02.340 --> 00:24:08.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Asking for our needs can… can trigger something that maybe we just don't want to deal with.
00:24:09.810 --> 00:24:13.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's why I say it's important to find the appropriate time.
00:24:16.420 --> 00:24:21.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But again, those kinds of situations are more the exception than the rule.
00:24:23.040 --> 00:24:28.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm just talking about normal, everyday life with everyday people.
00:24:29.990 --> 00:24:33.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Asking for our needs is so, so important.
00:24:36.630 --> 00:24:49.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now look, this does not mean you go around telling everyone else what to do for you, right? This is not about being self-centered, this is not about being an egomaniac and telling the entire world to bend to your will.
00:24:51.430 --> 00:24:56.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Right? It's not asking for your desires, it's asking for your needs.
00:25:00.420 --> 00:25:09.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And… it sh… Best when it comes from a place of presence, and awareness, and knowing what's appropriate.
00:25:10.390 --> 00:25:11.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know?
00:25:11.730 --> 00:25:20.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Somebody just came home from the doctor, and they got a bad diagnosis, and they're not feeling good. This is not the time to ask them to take out the trash.
00:25:23.530 --> 00:25:30.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Alright, but if they were just hanging out with their friends, they're feeling good, yeah, go ahead, ask them to take out the trash.
00:25:31.220 --> 00:25:37.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So having that discernment of when it's appropriate and when it's not appropriate is very important.
00:25:41.940 --> 00:25:44.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Again, you know, mindfulness.
00:25:44.880 --> 00:25:49.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Being mindful of the situation, of the people you're dealing with.
00:25:49.660 --> 00:25:53.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And being mindful of what you're asking for.
00:25:54.560 --> 00:25:57.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Not every ask is appropriate in every moment.
00:26:00.450 --> 00:26:03.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But I'm really just talking about the discipline.
00:26:03.540 --> 00:26:05.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Of learning to ask for our needs.
00:26:07.190 --> 00:26:11.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because for most of us, it's really uncomfortable.
00:26:14.310 --> 00:26:16.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so, for those of us
00:26:17.170 --> 00:26:20.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Actually want to get more of our needs met?
00:26:21.470 --> 00:26:23.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This is a shout-out to you.
00:26:24.850 --> 00:26:25.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Alright.
00:26:26.560 --> 00:26:30.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So, that is my blog post for this week.
00:26:30.960 --> 00:26:36.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The title of it is, Giving a Voice to Our Needs is the Only Way to Get Them Met.
00:26:37.210 --> 00:26:50.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And of course, you can always find my blog posts on theconsciousconsultant.com, my personally branded website, as well as on the station's website at talkradio.nyc slash blog.
00:26:50.930 --> 00:26:53.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Oh, and by the way.
00:26:53.480 --> 00:27:02.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I know I mention all the time that, you know, about my book, Everyday Awakening, which came out, like, five and a half years ago?
00:27:03.780 --> 00:27:08.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Or six and a half years ago. About five and a half years ago.
00:27:09.120 --> 00:27:26.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Well, people have been asking me for an audiobook for the longest time, and I finally created an audiobook. Amazon made it real easy. Unfortunately, it's not my voice. I know most people want to hear my audiobook and my voice. It's actually in an AI-generated voice.
00:27:26.760 --> 00:27:37.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But it was just the simplest, easiest way of getting it done, of not having to spend hours recording everything and getting it perfect. So…
00:27:37.620 --> 00:27:48.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If you want a copy of the Everyday Awakening audiobook, it is available on Amazon. You go to Everydayawakeningbook.com.
00:27:48.540 --> 00:27:57.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That link will take you right to the Amazon listing. Click on audiobook, and you can get your copy of Everyday Awakening.
00:27:58.110 --> 00:28:17.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you are more powerful than you know in audio format. So please, please, please, if you like, what I talk about when I talk about my blog posts, pick up a copy of the book. I think you'll really like it in this way. You can listen to it in the car while you're jogging, doing whatever else you want to do.
00:28:18.420 --> 00:28:21.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Okay, so we're going to take a quick break.
00:28:21.500 --> 00:28:23.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And when we come back.
00:28:23.440 --> 00:28:33.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We'll get into today's topic, which is the art of listening. And I actually have another piece to read, which is not from me.
00:28:34.010 --> 00:28:37.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But I have another piece to read that'll start us all off.
00:28:38.040 --> 00:28:44.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So, everyone, please stay tuned. You are listening to The Conscious Consultant.
00:28:45.140 --> 00:28:55.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Our Awakening Humanity. We do this every Wednesday, 12 noon to 1 p.m. Eastern Time, right here on talkradio.nyc, and we'll be right back.
00:28:55.560 --> 00:28:56.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In just a moment.
00:30:12.840 --> 00:30:19.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Welcome back to the Conscious Consultant Hour, Awakening Humanity. Thank you all for staying with me.
00:30:19.920 --> 00:30:33.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: on this solo show, no guests today. But we will have a great guest next week, so, make sure you tune in next week, when I bring Jay Fassett
00:30:33.290 --> 00:30:35.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: On the… on the show.
00:30:35.260 --> 00:30:43.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So, our main topic for today is about the art of listening.
00:30:44.460 --> 00:30:48.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why am I talking about the art of listening, you may ask?
00:30:50.700 --> 00:30:54.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Well… I don't know about you.
00:30:55.030 --> 00:30:57.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But I find in this world.
00:30:59.620 --> 00:31:04.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: A lot of people are really good at talking?
00:31:05.780 --> 00:31:11.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: A lot, a lot of people are good at listening.
00:31:12.730 --> 00:31:17.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But more often than not,
00:31:19.050 --> 00:31:25.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when I'm having a conversation with someone, They're usually not very present.
00:31:27.100 --> 00:31:28.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They're good at, like.
00:31:29.440 --> 00:31:34.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Talking and talking, and what's new with them, and what's going on with them, and this and that.
00:31:34.550 --> 00:31:37.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And they don't necessarily ask a lot of questions.
00:31:38.140 --> 00:31:40.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How am I doing? What's up with me?
00:31:41.150 --> 00:31:43.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Not so much.
00:31:43.640 --> 00:31:49.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And even when they do, very often they'll ask a question, and then they'll go off on a tangent.
00:31:54.440 --> 00:32:02.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so, I guess because I experienced this so much in my life, I thought it was worth…
00:32:03.280 --> 00:32:05.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Dedicating a show.
00:32:06.610 --> 00:32:11.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To the art of listening, and why listening is so, so important.
00:32:13.190 --> 00:32:16.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's important for us, it's important for everyone else.
00:32:18.780 --> 00:32:22.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, you know, it sometimes can be a little difficult.
00:32:23.210 --> 00:32:28.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To be truly honest with ourselves about how good a listener we are or we aren't.
00:32:30.590 --> 00:32:34.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And think about the last couple of conversations you've had with people.
00:32:37.000 --> 00:32:39.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Did you speak more than you listened?
00:32:40.700 --> 00:32:47.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, there's the old adage, we have one mouth and two ears, so we're supposed to listen twice as much as we speak.
00:32:47.930 --> 00:32:50.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm actually…
00:32:54.380 --> 00:32:59.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you know, the funny thing is, we learn a lot more when we listen than when we talk.
00:33:01.120 --> 00:33:12.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, look, I get it. Some of us just don't feel heard, and we have such a strong desire to share, and just to feel seen and heard. I get it.
00:33:15.190 --> 00:33:19.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But maybe we can fulfill that desire to be seen and heard.
00:33:20.070 --> 00:33:24.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: While seeing and hearing someone else as well.
00:33:25.700 --> 00:33:30.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So there's this piece that I use at the end of ceremonies that I thought
00:33:31.390 --> 00:33:36.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I would share with my audience. I think this is a really good piece. It's not written by me.
00:33:36.590 --> 00:33:40.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the title of it actually is The Art of Listening.
00:33:42.120 --> 00:33:44.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it goes like this.
00:33:45.670 --> 00:33:54.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we listen, We offer, with our attention, An opportunity for wholeness.
00:33:56.020 --> 00:34:02.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: are listening creates a sanctuary For the homeless parts.
00:34:02.770 --> 00:34:04.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Within the other person.
00:34:06.010 --> 00:34:09.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That which has been Denied.
00:34:10.219 --> 00:34:11.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Unloved.
00:34:11.540 --> 00:34:12.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: devalued.
00:34:13.080 --> 00:34:16.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: by themselves, And by others.
00:34:17.730 --> 00:34:19.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That which is hidden.
00:34:21.139 --> 00:34:26.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In this culture, The soul and the heart.
00:34:26.230 --> 00:34:27.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Too often.
00:34:27.699 --> 00:34:29.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: go homeless.
00:34:30.480 --> 00:34:31.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Listening.
00:34:31.929 --> 00:34:34.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Creates a holy silence.
00:34:36.400 --> 00:34:39.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When you listen generously to people.
00:34:39.900 --> 00:34:43.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They can hear the truth in themselves.
00:34:44.239 --> 00:34:45.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Often.
00:34:45.760 --> 00:34:47.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: For the first time.
00:34:49.230 --> 00:34:55.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And in the silence of listening, You can know yourself.
00:34:56.260 --> 00:34:58.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In everyone.
00:35:00.630 --> 00:35:05.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Eventually, You may be able to hear.
00:35:06.650 --> 00:35:11.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In everyone… And beyond everyone.
00:35:12.460 --> 00:35:14.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The unseen.
00:35:14.420 --> 00:35:16.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Singing softly.
00:35:16.810 --> 00:35:18.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to itself?
00:35:19.400 --> 00:35:20.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: into you.
00:35:24.550 --> 00:35:29.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that was written by Rachel Naomi Remin.
00:35:29.880 --> 00:35:32.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's called The Art of Listening.
00:35:34.800 --> 00:35:40.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And this piece, it really… Means a lot to me.
00:35:40.500 --> 00:35:42.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because it says so much.
00:35:43.290 --> 00:35:45.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: With so few words.
00:35:47.330 --> 00:35:51.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So I really wanted to… Kind of take you through this on…
00:35:51.550 --> 00:35:54.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why the art of listening is so important.
00:35:56.620 --> 00:35:58.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So let's just go through the first line.
00:35:59.790 --> 00:36:06.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we listen, We offer with our attention an opportunity for wholeness.
00:36:08.860 --> 00:36:14.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we allow the other person to speak.
00:36:14.770 --> 00:36:17.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And truly listen to them.
00:36:18.470 --> 00:36:22.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're giving them an opportunity to feel whole.
00:36:26.540 --> 00:36:28.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To feel more themselves.
00:36:32.580 --> 00:36:34.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To feel more connected.
00:36:36.770 --> 00:36:38.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To feel like they matter.
00:36:40.680 --> 00:36:45.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Listening is a powerful powerful tool.
00:36:46.400 --> 00:36:48.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That we can use.
00:36:49.160 --> 00:36:54.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to truly… Help and support another being.
00:36:56.920 --> 00:36:58.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The second line.
00:36:59.980 --> 00:37:01.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: are listening.
00:37:02.050 --> 00:37:04.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: creates a sanctuary.
00:37:05.110 --> 00:37:07.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: For the homeless parts.
00:37:07.450 --> 00:37:09.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Within the other person.
00:37:12.780 --> 00:37:16.999 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: By just listening to them, We're holding space.
00:37:17.730 --> 00:37:21.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To allow them to express those sides of themselves.
00:37:22.190 --> 00:37:25.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But they probably never get a chance to express.
00:37:26.940 --> 00:37:29.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To feel safe enough to admit their
00:37:30.290 --> 00:37:35.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Fears, their… their grief, their pain, their anger.
00:37:38.590 --> 00:37:42.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to express those Those feelings that…
00:37:43.180 --> 00:37:47.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They probably never get an opportunity to express.
00:37:50.450 --> 00:37:56.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Our listening is one of our greatest gifts we can give to another person.
00:38:01.620 --> 00:38:11.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The second line is really about the same thing. That which has been denied, unloved, devalued, by themselves and by others.
00:38:11.610 --> 00:38:13.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That which is hidden.
00:38:14.320 --> 00:38:22.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Right? When we listen to people and ask them questions and really be present to what they're talking about.
00:38:22.950 --> 00:38:29.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're saying, Tell me about those things you don't feel so good about yourself.
00:38:31.120 --> 00:38:35.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What have you been denying, unloving? Devaluing?
00:38:37.010 --> 00:38:42.739 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Both yourself and other people devaluing those sides of yourself.
00:38:44.980 --> 00:38:49.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Listening to them, truly, deeply listening to them.
00:38:50.650 --> 00:38:58.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Allows them to express Those things that most people never listen to.
00:38:59.910 --> 00:39:07.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And because most people never listen to those things, Those things feel… like, they're…
00:39:07.510 --> 00:39:10.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Have no worth to them, no value to them.
00:39:12.470 --> 00:39:14.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: No purpose, no meaning.
00:39:16.500 --> 00:39:17.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: are listening.
00:39:18.200 --> 00:39:19.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Gives meaning.
00:39:20.260 --> 00:39:25.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To that which they have not been able to express to anyone else in their life.
00:39:29.460 --> 00:39:32.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the next line highlights this so well.
00:39:33.440 --> 00:39:38.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In this culture, The soul and the heart too often go homeless.
00:39:41.760 --> 00:39:44.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To really listen to someone's heart.
00:39:44.430 --> 00:39:45.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: heartache.
00:39:45.940 --> 00:39:51.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To listen to their soul, their dreams, their desires, their vision.
00:39:53.870 --> 00:39:56.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In this world, in this society.
00:39:58.600 --> 00:40:01.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Too often, those sides of people are…
00:40:01.900 --> 00:40:06.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Are not valued, are not listened to, are not given
00:40:06.980 --> 00:40:09.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The time of day are not listened to.
00:40:12.870 --> 00:40:14.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: really listening.
00:40:17.550 --> 00:40:19.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To another person's needs.
00:40:20.480 --> 00:40:22.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Opens their heart up.
00:40:26.940 --> 00:40:32.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The next line, listening, creates a holy silence.
00:40:32.720 --> 00:40:35.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we listen deeply to people.
00:40:35.510 --> 00:40:37.239 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with our presence.
00:40:38.280 --> 00:40:43.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Not just with our ears, but with our whole being when we listen to them.
00:40:45.740 --> 00:40:48.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It creates this space.
00:40:48.840 --> 00:40:51.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To allow them to express something
00:40:52.760 --> 00:40:55.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That can be so sacred to them.
00:40:57.730 --> 00:41:01.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Doesn't have to be sacred to anyone else, but to them, it's sacred.
00:41:04.750 --> 00:41:07.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, sometimes when we listen to people.
00:41:09.510 --> 00:41:14.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They feel like they're being heard for the first time in their lives.
00:41:18.320 --> 00:41:22.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And when someone feels heard, feels truly heard.
00:41:23.670 --> 00:41:27.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That moment can be truly a spiritual experience.
00:41:31.630 --> 00:41:35.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can do so… Much for the other person.
00:41:39.850 --> 00:41:41.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the next line.
00:41:41.760 --> 00:41:45.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we listen generously to people.
00:41:45.490 --> 00:41:49.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They can hear the truth in themselves.
00:41:49.460 --> 00:41:51.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Often for the first time.
00:41:54.380 --> 00:41:56.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we listen generously.
00:41:57.300 --> 00:42:06.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we're really there with them, Hearing their heartache, their pain, Or maybe even their joy.
00:42:09.450 --> 00:42:15.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The truth of what they're saying lands in themselves, often for the first time.
00:42:17.480 --> 00:42:22.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I cannot tell you how many times I've been listening to people
00:42:23.120 --> 00:42:28.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And they say something like, oh my god, I've never told anyone that in my entire life.
00:42:31.880 --> 00:42:38.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Think about the last time you had a conversation with someone who really listened generously to you.
00:42:39.750 --> 00:42:41.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How did that feel for you?
00:42:42.220 --> 00:42:44.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What came out of you?
00:42:44.590 --> 00:42:50.689 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That never came out before. What truth Did you share with them?
00:42:52.820 --> 00:42:56.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That maybe you never shared with anyone before.
00:43:00.720 --> 00:43:03.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Listening… listening generously.
00:43:05.780 --> 00:43:06.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Ugh.
00:43:08.870 --> 00:43:12.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can give tremendous space.
00:43:12.900 --> 00:43:14.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To the person speaking.
00:43:18.760 --> 00:43:20.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And what do we get out of it?
00:43:21.250 --> 00:43:22.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Here's the next line.
00:43:23.510 --> 00:43:28.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And in the silence of listening, You can know yourself.
00:43:28.840 --> 00:43:30.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In everyone.
00:43:31.240 --> 00:43:34.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we really learn to listen to people.
00:43:34.700 --> 00:43:37.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Not just one person, but to people in general.
00:43:38.690 --> 00:43:42.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we hear… Their tragedies.
00:43:42.360 --> 00:43:47.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Their desires, their dreams, their… what their needs are.
00:43:49.020 --> 00:43:57.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Many times we can recognize inside of ourselves the exact same frustrations, the exact same
00:43:58.050 --> 00:44:04.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Celebrations, the exact same heartache, and the exact same fulfillment.
00:44:06.460 --> 00:44:08.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That we're hearing in men.
00:44:10.850 --> 00:44:19.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we truly, truly listen to people, We can find ourselves much more connected.
00:44:20.890 --> 00:44:24.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Not just connected to them, but connected to ourselves.
00:44:35.770 --> 00:44:39.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And what eventually happens? The net last line.
00:44:40.020 --> 00:44:49.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Eventually, you may be able to hear in everyone And beyond everyone.
00:44:49.470 --> 00:44:53.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The unseen, singing softly.
00:44:53.420 --> 00:44:56.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to itself, into you.
00:44:57.790 --> 00:44:59.659 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What is the unseen?
00:45:00.740 --> 00:45:02.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: He hasn't seen this spirit.
00:45:03.800 --> 00:45:08.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: God, Creator, whatever you want to call it, the universe.
00:45:10.410 --> 00:45:16.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That when we really, truly, deeply listen to people.
00:45:17.170 --> 00:45:22.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Listen to their experiences. Listen to their stories.
00:45:26.250 --> 00:45:30.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Listen to their… Feelings, their emotions.
00:45:31.820 --> 00:45:33.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to their history.
00:45:36.240 --> 00:45:43.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That may be when we truly listen We can hear life.
00:45:43.960 --> 00:45:46.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Talking to us, singing to us.
00:45:47.490 --> 00:45:49.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Reflecting back to us.
00:45:56.040 --> 00:46:01.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In those moments, In those very rare moments.
00:46:03.150 --> 00:46:06.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Where we can be so present with someone.
00:46:06.720 --> 00:46:12.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Listening to something deep that they have never shared with anyone else before.
00:46:15.970 --> 00:46:19.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe, just maybe, there's some recognition.
00:46:21.480 --> 00:46:24.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Of something we've never shared before with anyone.
00:46:28.710 --> 00:46:32.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Of a part of ourselves that we see in them.
00:46:35.390 --> 00:46:36.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of something.
00:46:37.690 --> 00:46:41.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: some… fleeting moment.
00:46:45.040 --> 00:46:48.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That calls our heart forward.
00:46:54.060 --> 00:46:57.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There is so much… Power.
00:46:57.660 --> 00:46:59.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in listening.
00:47:01.600 --> 00:47:03.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There is so much.
00:47:04.700 --> 00:47:07.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Richness in listening.
00:47:08.320 --> 00:47:10.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's so much to learn.
00:47:11.860 --> 00:47:15.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Not just about others, but about ourselves.
00:47:19.120 --> 00:47:27.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And maybe, in the listening, Maybe it's not just about
00:47:27.810 --> 00:47:33.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The self-reflection of the good things in us. But maybe it's the triggers, too.
00:47:34.430 --> 00:47:37.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we listen to someone's story, truly.
00:47:39.460 --> 00:47:41.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And maybe there's something in it that…
00:47:42.910 --> 00:47:45.019 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Doesn't feel so good to us.
00:47:46.610 --> 00:47:51.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe there's… Something in their pain that they share with us.
00:47:52.280 --> 00:47:56.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that we realize, oh my god, I think I did that to somebody sometime.
00:47:59.970 --> 00:48:01.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe.
00:48:02.870 --> 00:48:10.019 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What we see reflected back to us is not just our beauty and our heart, but also our pain.
00:48:12.780 --> 00:48:17.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that reflection gives us an opportunity for more wholeness.
00:48:20.780 --> 00:48:25.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The opportunity for wholeness is not just for the other person, it's for us as well.
00:48:29.410 --> 00:48:35.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And when we allow someone to give voice, Choose…
00:48:35.630 --> 00:48:37.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All of this in their life.
00:48:42.410 --> 00:48:44.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe, just maybe.
00:48:45.620 --> 00:48:49.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Bill… Give us space.
00:48:54.270 --> 00:48:58.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To voice something within ourselves that's been waiting.
00:48:58.500 --> 00:49:01.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: For decades to come out.
00:49:05.060 --> 00:49:09.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That may be, ultimately, the most important thing.
00:49:10.950 --> 00:49:14.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: About the art of listening to others.
00:49:15.100 --> 00:49:17.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is that when we do it.
00:49:17.820 --> 00:49:20.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we continue to do it generously.
00:49:22.600 --> 00:49:26.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That people will start to listen to us generously.
00:49:28.260 --> 00:49:33.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That may be by us showing up a little bit differently in life.
00:49:34.330 --> 00:49:43.519 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Instead of being so focused on sharing what we have to share, we focus on listening to what the other person has to share.
00:49:45.060 --> 00:49:47.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Eventually, they're gonna stop.
00:49:49.020 --> 00:49:52.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: After they've shared what they needed to share and ask us…
00:49:54.030 --> 00:49:56.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What do we have to share?
00:49:57.230 --> 00:49:59.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What do we need to express?
00:50:00.030 --> 00:50:02.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How can they listen generously to us?
00:50:08.160 --> 00:50:11.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I remember… Years and years ago.
00:50:12.460 --> 00:50:21.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Somebody's saying… That when we give to others, What we truly seek.
00:50:23.410 --> 00:50:26.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That it has to come back to us.
00:50:31.270 --> 00:50:37.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So, if you're one of the people, Who feels unseen, unheard, unloved.
00:50:38.060 --> 00:50:39.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and devalued.
00:50:41.690 --> 00:50:45.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe by you, listening generously to others.
00:50:50.180 --> 00:50:54.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That eventually, there, you will start to listen generously to you.
00:50:55.670 --> 00:50:59.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And not only will you have helped them to feel more whole.
00:51:00.980 --> 00:51:03.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They will help you to feel more hollow.
00:51:06.160 --> 00:51:08.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's kind of a paradox, isn't it?
00:51:09.780 --> 00:51:13.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That in order to truly be heard, we need to truly hear.
00:51:16.810 --> 00:51:23.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That in order for us To truly be seen, we have to truly see others.
00:51:26.070 --> 00:51:30.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And for us to truly know ourselves, we need to know others.
00:51:35.060 --> 00:51:36.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we really listen.
00:51:38.290 --> 00:51:41.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Really listen to what people are saying.
00:51:43.780 --> 00:51:44.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: here.
00:51:46.910 --> 00:51:49.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Hear what's underneath what they're saying.
00:51:50.650 --> 00:51:54.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Hear what their pain is, what their sorrow is.
00:51:54.890 --> 00:51:56.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What their anger is.
00:51:57.370 --> 00:51:59.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: As well as, what is their joy?
00:52:02.510 --> 00:52:04.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What is their excitement?
00:52:05.870 --> 00:52:08.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What is it that's making them happy?
00:52:09.120 --> 00:52:12.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we hear all of that from them.
00:52:15.250 --> 00:52:19.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then we can recognize within ourselves more and more of that.
00:52:20.370 --> 00:52:24.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We recognize our own pain, our own sorrow, our own grief.
00:52:25.550 --> 00:52:29.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: As well as our own joy, our own elation.
00:52:32.390 --> 00:52:36.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: our own… Gratitude, our own appreciation.
00:52:39.870 --> 00:52:46.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That maybe life is just waiting for us to listen a little bit more.
00:52:46.760 --> 00:52:49.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So it can reflect back to us.
00:52:49.580 --> 00:52:52.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What it is we need to hear so much.
00:53:00.040 --> 00:53:04.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm not saying listening is the answer to everything.
00:53:07.710 --> 00:53:13.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But I just see, in this world, Where people are so distracted.
00:53:14.580 --> 00:53:16.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: On their phones all the time.
00:53:19.650 --> 00:53:21.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Everybody.
00:53:21.870 --> 00:53:28.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I see, I meet, they're so longing to be heard, to be seen, to be felt.
00:53:36.300 --> 00:53:40.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That if we can just… Or for our little peace.
00:53:41.120 --> 00:53:42.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Of listening.
00:53:42.830 --> 00:53:45.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Our little piece of seeing them.
00:53:49.590 --> 00:53:50.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That may be…
00:53:51.170 --> 00:53:57.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just maybe we can come together a little bit more in this world instead of getting further apart.
00:54:00.550 --> 00:54:04.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But maybe if we just listen to them instead of discounting them.
00:54:06.870 --> 00:54:10.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Even if what they're saying is not something we want to hear.
00:54:14.470 --> 00:54:18.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But if we just offer to them that opportunity.
00:54:20.140 --> 00:54:26.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe they will feel in some small way that they have a little more capacity to hear us.
00:54:29.800 --> 00:54:34.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean, look, we're not listening to others in order to be heard, that's not the point.
00:54:36.270 --> 00:54:38.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's just a consequence.
00:54:38.530 --> 00:54:40.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That will naturally happen.
00:54:41.760 --> 00:54:46.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we stop worrying about speaking so much.
00:54:46.580 --> 00:54:50.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And start focusing on listening.
00:54:52.660 --> 00:54:58.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So… I hope you enjoyed this episode.
00:54:58.840 --> 00:55:02.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I hope you learned something about the art of listening.
00:55:04.010 --> 00:55:06.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I'm really curious.
00:55:07.640 --> 00:55:13.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If over this next week you spent more time listening and less time talking.
00:55:14.130 --> 00:55:17.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How would things feel different for you?
00:55:18.030 --> 00:55:20.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What might show up differently in your life?
00:55:26.240 --> 00:55:27.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Let me know.
00:55:29.050 --> 00:55:31.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Comment on the livestream.
00:55:32.640 --> 00:55:36.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, get back to me next week. Email me.
00:55:36.320 --> 00:55:41.749 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, I'm easy to get a hold of, sam at theconsciousconsultant.com.
00:55:43.430 --> 00:55:47.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Let me know how you, practicing listening more.
00:55:49.250 --> 00:55:51.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How has it changed your life?
00:55:52.410 --> 00:55:55.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How are people showing up a little bit differently for you?
00:56:02.200 --> 00:56:04.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I just share this because…
00:56:07.550 --> 00:56:09.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It felt like the right time.
00:56:11.530 --> 00:56:14.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I've always been a pretty good listener to others.
00:56:17.250 --> 00:56:21.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I just wanted to create an army of good listeners out there.
00:56:22.710 --> 00:56:25.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Who can truly hear other people.
00:56:26.160 --> 00:56:29.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Give them a chance to express themselves.
00:56:32.020 --> 00:56:34.519 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So they can feel seen and heard.
00:56:35.250 --> 00:56:38.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And maybe if more people felt seen and heard in this world.
00:56:39.450 --> 00:56:46.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We might have… Maybe just a little bit… Better world to live in.
00:56:48.840 --> 00:56:54.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Well, thank you all so much. I appreciate you tuning in and listening today.
00:56:54.710 --> 00:56:57.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I hope you enjoyed this episode.
00:56:57.490 --> 00:57:09.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And don't forget, if you did miss any part of today's episode, you can always catch the replay on talkradio.nyc, and on all over social media, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn.
00:57:10.090 --> 00:57:11.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Twitter, Twitch…
00:57:12.560 --> 00:57:21.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And on all your favorite podcasting platforms, Apple, Spotify, Pandora, iHeartRadio, wherever you listen to podcasts, you can find the Conscious Consultant Hour.
00:57:22.740 --> 00:57:31.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And yes, if you'd like to listen to the audiobook of my book, Everyday Awakening, please go to Amazon.
00:57:32.330 --> 00:57:40.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's on sale this week. It's regularly, like, $14 and change. It's only $8 and change if you pick it up this week.
00:57:42.280 --> 00:57:46.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Let me know, pick it up, leave a review, let me know how you liked it.
00:57:47.750 --> 00:57:53.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you all for tuning in. I truly, truly appreciate you.
00:57:56.130 --> 00:57:58.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Take care, everyone.
00:57:58.720 --> 00:58:02.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We will talk to you all next week.
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