This week on The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam goes solo to explore a question many of us quietly struggle with: Why is it so hard to rest? In a world that constantly rewards productivity, achievement, and forward motion, slowing down can feel uncomfortable, even threatening. Whether it’s the guilt of doing nothing, the anxiety that arises in stillness, or the endless pull of “just one more thing,” rest has become something we resist rather than receive.
In this honest and reflective episode, Sam unpacks the deeper reasons behind this resistance. From conditioned beliefs about worth and productivity to the way our nervous systems have adapted to constant stimulation and stress, he explores why simply “being” can feel so foreign. He also shares personal experiences and insights into the challenge of carving out time for ourselves, time that isn’t about fixing, improving, or achieving, but about allowing.
This conversation is an invitation to reconsider what rest really means. Not as laziness or escape, but as a necessary return to balance, presence, and inner connection. Sam offers gentle reflections on how we can begin to soften our resistance, listen more deeply to our bodies, and rediscover the power of stillness. Because sometimes, the most important thing we can do… is nothing at all.
Tune in and share your own experiences with the difficulty of taking time to rest on our YouTube livestream or on our Facebook page.
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In this opening segment, Sam Liebowitz invites listeners into a heart-centered reflection on how we often judge others’ choices without truly understanding the emotional, psychological, and soul-level experiences shaping their path. He reminds us that what looks “obvious” from the outside is often deeply complex within, calling us to move beyond ego and into compassion, honoring that each person’s readiness for change unfolds in divine timing. The conversation then gently transitions into the deeper theme of rest, revealing that our inability to slow down is not a failure of willpower but a reflection of a nervous system conditioned by stress, survival, and unresolved emotions. True rest, he explains, is a sacred state the body must feel safe to enter, and our constant “doing” is often a subconscious attempt to avoid the discomfort that stillness can bring. Ultimately, this segment serves as an invitation to cultivate both inner and outer compassion—supporting others without judgment while also turning inward to ask: what am I avoiding through my busyness, and can I allow myself the grace to simply be?
In this segment, Sam Liebowitz deepens the exploration of rest by revealing how our constant stimulation—through technology, productivity, and dopamine-driven habits—conditions us to feel uneasy in stillness, making true rest feel unfamiliar rather than restorative. He explains that when we finally slow down, suppressed emotions like fear, grief, and anxiety naturally rise to the surface, not as something wrong, but as an invitation for healing and integration. Rather than forcing rest, he encourages a gentle, compassionate approach—building a bridge from busyness to stillness through small, intentional practices like mindful walking, breathwork, and moments of checking in with our feelings. By creating a sense of safety in the body and honoring our emotions without judgment, we begin to retrain the nervous system to accept rest as nourishing rather than threatening.
00:00:44.350 --> 00:00:59.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Good afternoon, my conscious co-creators! Welcome to another edition of the Conscious Consultant Hour, Awakening Humanity. I am very, very pleased that you are all here with me today.
00:00:59.930 --> 00:01:04.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's one of those special shows, it's just you and me today, so…
00:01:04.599 --> 00:01:22.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Please post on the livestream if you're listening live. Let me know if you have any questions, comments about what we're talking about, or something different. I'm happy to be here and respond to your questions and comments throughout the entire show.
00:01:22.630 --> 00:01:29.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But first, of course, we do have our blog post today before we get into our main topic.
00:01:30.720 --> 00:01:37.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In today's blog post, It's kind of an important one, I feel.
00:01:37.600 --> 00:01:44.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The title is… Other people's choices can be confusing.
00:01:44.550 --> 00:01:48.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: For we are not in their situation.
00:01:49.450 --> 00:01:51.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Humans are funny creatures.
00:01:51.880 --> 00:01:55.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They seem to be smart, logical creatures.
00:01:55.680 --> 00:01:58.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet they still do odd things.
00:01:58.900 --> 00:02:02.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Like, stay in painful relationships.
00:02:02.400 --> 00:02:06.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Or continue to allow themselves to be treated poorly.
00:02:06.730 --> 00:02:09.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can be very confusing for us.
00:02:10.060 --> 00:02:12.749 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We can see it so clearly.
00:02:13.390 --> 00:02:14.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for us.
00:02:14.700 --> 00:02:22.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They should obviously get divorced, leave their job, move out of their home, or any number of other situations.
00:02:23.630 --> 00:02:30.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Being on the outside of the situation, Gives us a certain clarity.
00:02:31.160 --> 00:02:37.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet we may not be so clear when it comes to our own situations.
00:02:38.060 --> 00:02:47.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we are emotionally involved in a certain situation, it clouds our judgment and causes us
00:02:47.150 --> 00:02:49.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To not be logical.
00:02:50.540 --> 00:02:57.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And being logical in an emotional situation rarely happens.
00:02:57.570 --> 00:02:58.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: For good reason.
00:02:59.910 --> 00:03:05.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We cannot be logical in matters that involve our hearts.
00:03:07.470 --> 00:03:13.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Whether it is a matter of a relationship, A career or business?
00:03:13.780 --> 00:03:18.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Finances, or any other aspect of our lives.
00:03:19.250 --> 00:03:24.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Exactly because it is OUR situation.
00:03:25.500 --> 00:03:36.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When it is someone else's situation, we do not have the same attachments, the same perspective, or the same emotions that they do.
00:03:37.830 --> 00:03:41.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And while it may be obvious to us that the
00:03:41.540 --> 00:03:47.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Situation the person is in does not serve or is actually hurting them.
00:03:48.090 --> 00:03:53.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The unknown of leaving may be far more scary or painful to them.
00:03:55.400 --> 00:04:05.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To break free of a situation that they have been involved in for years or decades may take a lot more support than we realize.
00:04:06.320 --> 00:04:13.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Leaving a relationship or a job that is abusive sounds like a natural thing to do.
00:04:13.750 --> 00:04:15.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it is.
00:04:15.910 --> 00:04:27.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet, actually doing it when you realize you are the person in the middle of the situation may be far more difficult than we realize.
00:04:28.740 --> 00:04:32.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There may be many factors involved that we don't see.
00:04:34.050 --> 00:04:40.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Ultimately, it is always up to the person themselves, who is in the middle of it.
00:04:40.690 --> 00:04:42.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To make an act.
00:04:43.050 --> 00:04:45.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Upon that decision.
00:04:47.710 --> 00:04:50.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Only they know.
00:04:50.780 --> 00:04:52.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When they are truly ready.
00:04:53.850 --> 00:04:58.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Only they can make that step forward to freedom.
00:05:00.710 --> 00:05:04.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We can support and encourage them all we can.
00:05:05.210 --> 00:05:18.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But we must respect their own decisions, for we truly do not know how we would act if we were in the exact same situation.
00:05:21.190 --> 00:05:28.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for the familiarity Of the pain they are in may be far more comfortable
00:05:29.840 --> 00:05:36.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Than the pain of entering the unknown of something different.
00:05:37.760 --> 00:05:42.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It requires a great deal of trust.
00:05:43.840 --> 00:05:46.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: A tremendous amount of faith.
00:05:46.530 --> 00:05:47.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in life.
00:05:49.480 --> 00:05:55.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The best thing we can do as outsiders is to be there for them.
00:05:56.200 --> 00:06:02.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To support them in their decisions, even when they don't make sense to us.
00:06:04.070 --> 00:06:07.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This does not mean we have to enable them.
00:06:08.070 --> 00:06:13.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It just means we show up with compassion and love for them.
00:06:13.680 --> 00:06:22.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And support them in ways we can when they finally do take that scary step forward.
00:06:24.640 --> 00:06:29.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is that not… What we would want ourselves.
00:06:30.360 --> 00:06:33.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is there someone in your life who confuses you?
00:06:34.300 --> 00:06:40.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Can you stand by them, even when what they do doesn't make sense to you?
00:06:44.400 --> 00:06:51.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So… This, this blog post I wrote a couple of years ago.
00:06:52.060 --> 00:06:54.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Probably a little less than a couple of years ago.
00:06:55.320 --> 00:07:05.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It was after, after some ceremonies, And hearing about…
00:07:05.600 --> 00:07:10.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: People within the community sort of talking to each other about this one particular person.
00:07:11.030 --> 00:07:16.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: About, oh, why are they still in that relationship? Why don't they change? And, oh, they just…
00:07:17.280 --> 00:07:20.129 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Complain about the same thing over and over again.
00:07:22.330 --> 00:07:25.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I was discussing it with my wife.
00:07:26.920 --> 00:07:32.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And she really pointed out that When you've been…
00:07:32.630 --> 00:07:35.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In a relationship for so long.
00:07:37.580 --> 00:07:49.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And again, the relationship doesn't have to be a familial relationship or an intimate relationship. It can be a relationship with your boss, with your business, with your career.
00:07:50.550 --> 00:07:52.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Change is scary.
00:07:53.800 --> 00:07:59.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And even if… We're under a lot of stress, even if we're in a lot of pain.
00:08:02.170 --> 00:08:05.849 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To change into something else, which is unknown.
00:08:06.190 --> 00:08:10.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Can be far scarier than staying in the pain you know.
00:08:12.920 --> 00:08:19.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Right? What's that old expression? The devil you know is much better than the devil you don't know?
00:08:23.240 --> 00:08:24.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so…
00:08:24.990 --> 00:08:32.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It really struck me, because I'm probably as guilty as anyone else at looking at someone else's situation.
00:08:33.460 --> 00:08:38.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Looking at… at… How they're staying in that situation that…
00:08:38.990 --> 00:08:43.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're thinking to ourselves, oh my god, I would never stay in that situation.
00:08:47.400 --> 00:08:48.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But they do.
00:08:49.630 --> 00:08:55.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Much longer than… Any of us think we would do.
00:08:56.840 --> 00:08:59.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: As a matter of fact, I've been in that position.
00:09:01.360 --> 00:09:06.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, my loyal listeners know I've talked about it on my show.
00:09:07.860 --> 00:09:13.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, that I was in a situation helping friends out when I was in college and right after college.
00:09:13.590 --> 00:09:15.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: For quite a long time.
00:09:16.220 --> 00:09:24.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And everybody was like, they're just friends, you don't have to support them, they're not even your lovers, you know, why are you doing this? And…
00:09:26.620 --> 00:09:29.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I just felt it was the right thing to do.
00:09:32.150 --> 00:09:37.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So I've been on the receiving end of that. Oh, I can't believe…
00:09:38.040 --> 00:09:40.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They're still doing that for so long.
00:09:41.260 --> 00:09:44.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I was the person they were saying that about.
00:09:49.800 --> 00:09:55.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But… you know what I've come to…
00:09:55.980 --> 00:10:00.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Learn and see and experience over the years.
00:10:03.360 --> 00:10:06.849 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is that… We don't know.
00:10:07.370 --> 00:10:12.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What it feels like to be inside someone else's skin.
00:10:14.790 --> 00:10:16.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't know.
00:10:18.700 --> 00:10:23.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What their emotional, psychological makeup is like.
00:10:25.430 --> 00:10:31.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because as adults, we look at a thing, at a situation, and we think, it's obvious what you should do.
00:10:34.000 --> 00:10:45.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But our choices… That we made years ago. And the experiences that we had years ago, impact.
00:10:46.810 --> 00:10:51.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Everything about how we show up, and what decisions we make.
00:10:53.830 --> 00:11:01.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And because of… Some pain, some trauma, some tragedy that we had
00:11:01.670 --> 00:11:04.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we were 5 years old.
00:11:04.390 --> 00:11:08.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe we could never make any other choice.
00:11:08.550 --> 00:11:13.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because no other choice Feels safe to us.
00:11:18.010 --> 00:11:20.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's always easy to criticize.
00:11:20.770 --> 00:11:24.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's always easy to say, oh, I would never do what they're doing.
00:11:27.060 --> 00:11:29.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Far more difficult.
00:11:29.670 --> 00:11:31.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To have compassion.
00:11:33.850 --> 00:11:36.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And to be there for the person.
00:11:36.630 --> 00:11:43.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And to say, look, I don't understand why you're making this choice, but I'll support you anyway.
00:11:46.680 --> 00:11:48.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that compassion.
00:11:49.150 --> 00:11:53.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is far more… Supportive.
00:11:53.670 --> 00:11:55.739 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Than you can possibly know.
00:11:58.410 --> 00:12:05.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because if everybody else is telling the person, oh, you should leave, you should do this, you should do that, and you're the only one that says.
00:12:06.050 --> 00:12:08.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I don't understand it, but I'm there for you.
00:12:10.900 --> 00:12:18.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You might be the only person that pers… that your friend would feel like they could trust, that they could open up to.
00:12:18.910 --> 00:12:20.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But they feel seen.
00:12:26.320 --> 00:12:28.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And when you think about it.
00:12:29.010 --> 00:12:34.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: whenever we say something like, oh, I would never do that.
00:12:34.620 --> 00:12:38.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Oh, it's so obvious, they should do this and that and the other thing.
00:12:40.040 --> 00:12:42.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is that coming from your heart or your head?
00:12:42.890 --> 00:12:49.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is that… Is that your compassion talking, or is that your ego talking?
00:12:51.210 --> 00:12:55.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's so easy for us to criticize other people.
00:12:56.330 --> 00:13:00.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And to say we would never do what they do in their situation.
00:13:02.550 --> 00:13:04.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What about your own situations?
00:13:05.300 --> 00:13:11.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Have you taken a hard look at the choices… at the choices you've made?
00:13:12.890 --> 00:13:16.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that maybe other people would say, oh, I never would have made that choice.
00:13:19.430 --> 00:13:21.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So easy to criticize.
00:13:22.690 --> 00:13:24.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Much harder.
00:13:24.330 --> 00:13:26.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To show up with compassion.
00:13:30.400 --> 00:13:35.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And in the end… I know for myself, personally.
00:13:40.660 --> 00:13:43.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The compassion always meant a lot more to me.
00:13:45.260 --> 00:13:47.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The criticisms never served me.
00:13:48.530 --> 00:13:50.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The, well, why are you still doing that?
00:13:51.540 --> 00:13:55.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All that does is made me push against it even harder.
00:13:56.900 --> 00:14:01.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, if less people had been, oh, you're crazy, why are you doing that?
00:14:04.050 --> 00:14:07.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If just one person had said to me.
00:14:12.790 --> 00:14:16.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I don't understand it, can you explain it to me?
00:14:16.320 --> 00:14:17.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Can I help you?
00:14:18.520 --> 00:14:22.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is there anything I can do to help you get out of that situation?
00:14:25.200 --> 00:14:28.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Who knows, maybe I wouldn't have stayed in it so long.
00:14:33.690 --> 00:14:34.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah.
00:14:38.220 --> 00:14:40.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This blog post is a call
00:14:41.470 --> 00:14:44.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To rein in that ego a little bit.
00:14:45.160 --> 00:14:48.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And to maybe let your heart…
00:14:49.230 --> 00:14:52.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Speak to someone who's in a challenging situation.
00:14:52.900 --> 00:14:55.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Even if you disagree with their choices.
00:14:56.510 --> 00:14:59.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why don't you be a little curious instead?
00:15:00.770 --> 00:15:02.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Ask them.
00:15:02.230 --> 00:15:04.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why are they deciding to stay?
00:15:06.040 --> 00:15:07.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What do they want?
00:15:08.640 --> 00:15:11.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What can you do to support them in what they want?
00:15:14.270 --> 00:15:15.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You never know.
00:15:16.140 --> 00:15:20.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe just… Showing up with that compassion.
00:15:21.240 --> 00:15:24.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Might just be the very thing they need.
00:15:24.460 --> 00:15:26.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To make a different choice.
00:15:30.330 --> 00:15:33.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So… That's my blog post.
00:15:33.990 --> 00:15:39.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's entitled, Other People's Choices Can Be Confusing
00:15:39.590 --> 00:15:42.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: For we are not in their situation.
00:15:43.670 --> 00:15:48.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you can always find my blog at theconsciousconsultant.com.
00:15:49.240 --> 00:15:54.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And of course, on the station's website at talkradio.nyc slash blog.
00:15:57.090 --> 00:15:58.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Soap.
00:15:58.350 --> 00:16:18.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Let me know how you feel about that blog post. Oh, and don't forget, if you do like my blog posts that I read every week at the beginning of my show, and you kind of like my different perspectives and different insights, I do have a book, Everyday Awakening, which you can get at all major booksellers.
00:16:18.180 --> 00:16:37.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: came out in November of 2020, and it still sells copies now and then. I actually gave a copy to a couple of friends a few weeks ago, and one of them were like, oh my god, I love this book, I told all my friends about it, I sent them the link, I told them they have to buy it. Which I truly, truly appreciate when someone does that.
00:16:39.250 --> 00:16:46.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So… I entitled this week's episode, and our topic this week is
00:16:47.660 --> 00:16:51.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why does rest feel so hard?
00:16:51.590 --> 00:16:54.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why rest feels so hard?
00:16:54.280 --> 00:16:55.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to do.
00:16:58.030 --> 00:17:01.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And… it really…
00:17:02.130 --> 00:17:08.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It really comes from the ceremony my wife and I just held this past weekend, working with our clients.
00:17:10.920 --> 00:17:13.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Excuse me, got a little something in my throat.
00:17:13.660 --> 00:17:22.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Where more than one person… Had a real challenge.
00:17:24.819 --> 00:17:29.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just sitting and resting. Just being and not doing.
00:17:31.570 --> 00:17:36.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: just… Allowing themselves to feel good.
00:17:36.920 --> 00:17:38.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and held.
00:17:38.740 --> 00:17:40.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: For a period of time.
00:17:41.910 --> 00:17:46.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Without having to… Take care of anybody.
00:17:47.190 --> 00:17:56.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean, it's so funny how so many people, especially women, are so used to taking care of people all their lives, all the time.
00:17:57.340 --> 00:18:00.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then when it comes time for them to rest.
00:18:02.180 --> 00:18:06.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's a tricky thing. It's a challenging thing.
00:18:07.250 --> 00:18:08.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's hard.
00:18:09.200 --> 00:18:13.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's really hard to just sit and rest.
00:18:13.600 --> 00:18:15.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And by rest, I don't mean sleep.
00:18:17.640 --> 00:18:18.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Rest.
00:18:19.610 --> 00:18:21.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is not working.
00:18:23.120 --> 00:18:26.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Rest is not doing something.
00:18:27.690 --> 00:18:28.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Rest.
00:18:31.980 --> 00:18:35.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's really a choice, it's a decision.
00:18:41.400 --> 00:18:47.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And… It's a decision that we may make in our minds.
00:18:47.890 --> 00:18:50.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But whether we actually do or not.
00:18:51.470 --> 00:18:56.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's up to the body. It's up to our nervous systems.
00:18:59.920 --> 00:19:02.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And…
00:19:02.270 --> 00:19:07.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Many people know about it, but many people, I'm sure, don't know about the sort of
00:19:08.070 --> 00:19:11.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Two… there are other, but there are two basic types.
00:19:11.980 --> 00:19:18.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of aspects to our nervous system. There's the sympathetic nervous system and the parasympathetic nervous system.
00:19:19.750 --> 00:19:25.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the sympathetic nervous system is what… sort of drives
00:19:26.010 --> 00:19:31.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Action, doing, striving, being alert, problem solving.
00:19:31.840 --> 00:19:36.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Think of it as the… being on.
00:19:36.220 --> 00:19:37.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: nervous system.
00:19:39.040 --> 00:19:43.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the parasympathetic, well, that's the one that's involved in rest.
00:19:44.160 --> 00:19:47.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Repair, connection, digestion.
00:19:48.200 --> 00:19:53.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Sort of the things that… When we're not out running around.
00:19:55.260 --> 00:19:57.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That… that our body needs to do.
00:20:00.060 --> 00:20:06.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so when our sympathetic nervous system is active, We're alert.
00:20:06.350 --> 00:20:07.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're looking around.
00:20:07.870 --> 00:20:22.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Oh, I gotta do this, I gotta do that. Oh, what about tomorrow? And this, oh, and I gotta get this done later today, and oh, I forgot to do that. And if your mind is going like that on all the things you have to do, that's your sympathetic nervous system.
00:20:24.980 --> 00:20:33.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But let's say you've just had a big meal. I mean, tonight is the first night of Passover, there's the Seder, people are going to be eating a lot of food who are Jewish.
00:20:36.910 --> 00:20:41.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And at the end of that meal, They're gonna be like, ugh.
00:20:42.190 --> 00:20:48.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Food coma. I just need to digest for a while. I just need to sit here and rest for a little bit.
00:20:49.930 --> 00:20:53.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's the parasympathetic nervous system.
00:20:53.190 --> 00:20:54.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: being activated.
00:20:58.130 --> 00:21:02.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so, one of the important things about rest is…
00:21:04.410 --> 00:21:08.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We can't just think our way into resting.
00:21:11.190 --> 00:21:14.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because it's not about the mind, it's about the body.
00:21:17.160 --> 00:21:21.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the body has to feel safe enough to rest.
00:21:24.490 --> 00:21:28.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's like when you watch… Animals out in the wild.
00:21:29.240 --> 00:21:37.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If there's a predator around, if you're a gazelle and there are lions, you're alert, and you're looking around, and you're ready to bolt at any moment.
00:21:40.490 --> 00:21:49.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And let's say a lion attacks, and you get away, and you've run far, far away, and now there are no more lions around.
00:21:50.190 --> 00:21:52.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And now, you can rest.
00:21:53.240 --> 00:21:56.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This is all very instinctive.
00:22:00.470 --> 00:22:06.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not… It's not something mental.
00:22:07.240 --> 00:22:09.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's something we feel in our bodies.
00:22:13.620 --> 00:22:19.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And to be still, Can feel really unsafe.
00:22:21.790 --> 00:22:26.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Especially when… Most of our life.
00:22:27.690 --> 00:22:34.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we've had to deal with stressful situations. Maybe, you know, we did not have the best
00:22:34.960 --> 00:22:42.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: family situation growing up. Maybe, you know, our parents used to fight all the time.
00:22:43.020 --> 00:22:55.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe, you know, there was always commotion and always so much going on, or maybe, you know, there was a sibling who was sick, and everyone had to care for that sibling. Like, there was always action.
00:22:59.620 --> 00:23:04.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so… Us human beings, we're very adaptable.
00:23:05.640 --> 00:23:09.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We adapt to all kinds of situations.
00:23:09.980 --> 00:23:12.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And whether it's from childhood or adulthood.
00:23:13.070 --> 00:23:20.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we've been in a stressful situation for a long period of time, and we've been on the go-go-go for so long.
00:23:20.720 --> 00:23:22.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Our bodies get used to that.
00:23:24.120 --> 00:23:28.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Our systems adapt that as, like, being normal.
00:23:28.800 --> 00:23:40.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, with the cortisone, the different hormones and the chemicals being secreted, and just the posture of the nervous system. It's like, I've gotta be on all the time, or something's gonna go wrong.
00:23:46.370 --> 00:23:55.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so… When things suddenly get quiet for us, when we finally try and get rest and get still.
00:23:56.210 --> 00:24:01.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The nervous system doesn't really feel that it's peaceful.
00:24:02.370 --> 00:24:05.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It feels like uncertainty.
00:24:05.640 --> 00:24:08.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's, we don't know what's gonna happen.
00:24:10.900 --> 00:24:13.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so what happens when we get quiet?
00:24:14.390 --> 00:24:21.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We get in our head, the thoughts start going right and left and all over the place. We start checking our phone, we're doom scrolling.
00:24:21.910 --> 00:24:23.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Or doing something.
00:24:25.570 --> 00:24:32.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And there's this little anxiety, there's this agitation around that we just…
00:24:33.070 --> 00:24:35.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Feel like we gotta be doing something.
00:24:38.150 --> 00:24:43.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's so funny, because this has happened in the last few ceremonies, where there was always at least one person
00:24:44.280 --> 00:24:45.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: who's, like.
00:24:46.720 --> 00:24:57.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: oh, I need something more. I just… I feel like I'm not doing my work. I need to work on something. And I'm like, well, how do you feel? I'm like, oh, I feel peaceful, I feel good. It was like.
00:24:57.560 --> 00:25:00.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How often do you feel peaceful in your day-to-day life?
00:25:01.280 --> 00:25:05.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I'll be like, well, not, not that often.
00:25:05.730 --> 00:25:12.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's like, why don't you just sit and enjoy being peaceful?
00:25:18.310 --> 00:25:25.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because… Every one of these people have been in Traumatic situations.
00:25:27.480 --> 00:25:33.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that peacefulness, that restfulness, that… that state of stillness.
00:25:34.760 --> 00:25:36.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It doesn't feel like rest.
00:25:37.390 --> 00:25:43.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it feels like something's wrong, or something's about to happen, right? Waiting for the other shoe to drop.
00:25:51.340 --> 00:25:57.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so… We're used to being in this… productive…
00:25:57.870 --> 00:26:01.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, do-do-do state all the time.
00:26:05.120 --> 00:26:09.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Whereas really, you know, we think, oh, I'm just being productive.
00:26:09.440 --> 00:26:13.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But really, it's like in… we're stuck.
00:26:13.980 --> 00:26:21.239 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In this highly functional state of anxiety, Where… On the outside.
00:26:21.350 --> 00:26:29.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it looks like, you know, we're being productive, and we're accomplishing things, and yeah, I'm accomplishing, look at all the stuff I'm accomplishing.
00:26:32.030 --> 00:26:35.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But underneath, what's really happening with the nervous system?
00:26:37.450 --> 00:26:43.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's constantly scanning for… a problem. It's constantly scan… scanning
00:26:43.680 --> 00:26:50.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for what could go wrong, there's this anticipation about…
00:26:50.170 --> 00:26:55.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, oh, oh, like, like, it's not safe to just do nothing, I have to, I have to be busy.
00:26:56.940 --> 00:27:03.019 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so we stay busy to avoid actually feeling the anxiety.
00:27:04.670 --> 00:27:14.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Or the fear. Or whatever, like, tack your emotion on here. We stay busy to avoid feeling this emotion.
00:27:19.050 --> 00:27:25.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But for the nervous system, the truth is that busyness is how we're regulating ourselves.
00:27:26.320 --> 00:27:34.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: By staying busy, we feel… we're in control. We feel like, ugh, okay.
00:27:36.150 --> 00:27:45.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If I'm busy, I'm doing good. I'm accomplishing something. I feel good about myself. I feel like I'm safe. I'm safe, I'm safe.
00:27:48.460 --> 00:27:50.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But the truth is…
00:27:50.800 --> 00:27:56.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not so much that we're addicted to the doing, although our nervous system has kind of gotten used to it.
00:27:59.460 --> 00:28:05.849 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Our doing is a coping mechanism for how we regulate ourselves
00:28:05.960 --> 00:28:18.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Through whatever anxiety or… or… or feeling is underneath that we are Terrified. Absolutely terrified.
00:28:19.500 --> 00:28:22.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To become… to come face-to-face with.
00:28:25.460 --> 00:28:37.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So, I don't want you to get me wrong. I'm not saying being productive is a negative thing. I'm not saying that constantly do, do, doing is so wrong or so bad.
00:28:39.140 --> 00:28:42.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I just want to shine a different light on it.
00:28:43.400 --> 00:28:51.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And to help you to realize that this constant state of doing is how you're regulating yourself.
00:28:53.280 --> 00:29:08.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we find ourselves caught doing the same thing over and over and over again, when we're filling up every single second by checking our phones, by calling someone, by working on a project, by having to get something done.
00:29:10.980 --> 00:29:16.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe what we should be asking ourselves is.
00:29:17.100 --> 00:29:20.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why am I keeping myself so busy?
00:29:23.810 --> 00:29:30.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why don't I want to just let myself Relax.
00:29:35.440 --> 00:29:39.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because our bodies need rest. We need rest.
00:29:40.480 --> 00:29:45.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we're constantly in this activated state, we're gonna wear ourselves out.
00:29:46.320 --> 00:29:50.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: By the end of the day or the end of the week, we're gonna feel exhausted.
00:29:52.500 --> 00:29:55.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And even though we're exhausted, there's still things to do.
00:30:01.720 --> 00:30:11.849 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So… I think I'm gonna take a break here. I've got a lot more material to cover.
00:30:13.480 --> 00:30:19.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, I do want to get through it all, so I think this would be a nice, logical break.
00:30:19.280 --> 00:30:26.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So when we come back, I'm gonna start talking about the loop that kind of keeps us activated.
00:30:27.560 --> 00:30:35.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: M… why REST kind of… Brings up those things we've been avoiding and what to do about it.
00:30:35.570 --> 00:30:39.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And really, how do… Get to rest.
00:30:40.400 --> 00:30:43.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How to bring ourselves to rest.
00:30:43.300 --> 00:30:49.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In a much more supportive way, rather than just going from 100 to 0.
00:30:49.380 --> 00:31:04.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All right? So, you are listening to The Conscious Consultant Hour, Awakening Humanity. I do this show every Wednesday now, no longer Thursdays, Wednesdays, 12 noon to 1pm Eastern Time, here in New York City.
00:31:05.010 --> 00:31:10.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we will be right back with the rest of our show in just a moment.
00:32:26.180 --> 00:32:31.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And welcome back to the Conscious Consultant Hour, Awakening Humanity.
00:32:31.410 --> 00:32:42.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're talking this week about rest, why rest is so hard, for most of us, and what we can do about it.
00:32:43.910 --> 00:32:46.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, and…
00:32:46.840 --> 00:32:52.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, when I talk about rest, I just want to remind everyone I'm not talking about sleep.
00:32:52.780 --> 00:32:57.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm talking about taking a moment to just be with yourself.
00:32:57.680 --> 00:32:59.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to not do.
00:32:59.950 --> 00:33:03.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We are so addicted to doing in this society.
00:33:06.220 --> 00:33:08.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so I've talked a lot about
00:33:08.400 --> 00:33:15.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, how our nervous system, the sympathetic and the parasympathetic, you know, why rest feels a little unsafe.
00:33:16.120 --> 00:33:23.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And why, like, this… this hypervigilance of having to do, do, do looks like productivity.
00:33:24.120 --> 00:33:27.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But it's really all about regulation.
00:33:29.680 --> 00:33:41.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so, one of the things that kind of keeps us stuck in this loop, and I'm… I'm guilty of this, look, you know, I'm telling you all these things, like, I'm saying all this for me as much as I am to help you.
00:33:43.450 --> 00:33:49.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But, you know, there's this wonderful chemical called dopamine that our body produces
00:33:50.080 --> 00:34:00.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That when we're constantly on our phone, constantly doing something, constantly getting notifications, constantly doing something, it creates this dopamine-driven loop.
00:34:01.750 --> 00:34:07.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That basically helps to keep our nervous system activated all the time.
00:34:08.920 --> 00:34:15.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so, when we're so… get so used to the dopamine in our system being there.
00:34:17.340 --> 00:34:22.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It starts to make the quiet, peaceful moments kind of boring.
00:34:23.710 --> 00:34:28.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It seems like there's no point to it. It's almost uncomfortable.
00:34:30.150 --> 00:34:45.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's like when you're used to noise being around all the time, when there's silence, it feels uncomfortable. I mean, look, I live in the middle of Manhattan, I'm used to hearing sirens, and traffic, and people walking by, and honking, and ambulances, and fire trucks, and police.
00:34:45.880 --> 00:34:50.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that when I go somewhere else, when I get out of the city for a weekend.
00:34:50.739 --> 00:34:58.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's quiet at night. I have a hard time falling asleep the first night. Always, always, always.
00:34:59.310 --> 00:35:06.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Second night, maybe it's a little bit better. Third night, a little bit better. By the fourth night, okay, I can get used to the silence.
00:35:10.610 --> 00:35:18.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because when we're constantly stimulating ourselves, when we're constantly scrolling on our phones, when we're constantly doing something.
00:35:19.470 --> 00:35:23.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're sort of training our mind to expect
00:35:23.710 --> 00:35:30.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: action, stimulation. We're training it to expect Excitement, something.
00:35:32.420 --> 00:35:36.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So, stillness… feels uncomfortable.
00:35:38.460 --> 00:35:42.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, you know, this is one of the great things about meditation.
00:35:43.530 --> 00:35:44.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we…
00:35:45.030 --> 00:35:54.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, meditation could also be doing something. Like, if you're one of those people, it's like, oh, I gotta sit down and do my mantra and meditate for 20 minutes, right now, every day, like at this time, and at that time.
00:35:56.250 --> 00:36:03.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When you're doing it in order to do something, even though it seems to be doing something that's good for you.
00:36:03.810 --> 00:36:07.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: As opposed to engaging with it.
00:36:07.950 --> 00:36:12.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: As an opportunity to be still, And to just be.
00:36:14.390 --> 00:36:17.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, then we're still activated.
00:36:19.590 --> 00:36:28.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But… but… Just being still, One of the great ways Start to soften things.
00:36:28.940 --> 00:36:36.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To start to get your nervous system and your body used to not being activated, not doing something all the time.
00:36:39.590 --> 00:36:47.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And one of the most Difficult things about just sitting and being still, just resting.
00:36:47.580 --> 00:36:52.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is it often brings up These feelings that we've been avoiding.
00:36:53.680 --> 00:37:00.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe avoiding for a day, a week, a month, a year, a decade? 50 years? Who knows?
00:37:02.330 --> 00:37:05.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because when we actually slow down our body.
00:37:06.690 --> 00:37:12.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we actually take the time to give ourselves some space.
00:37:15.310 --> 00:37:21.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All kinds of emotions can start to come up that don't necessarily feel so good.
00:37:22.760 --> 00:37:29.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe there's grief over some loss we've suffered in the past that we never truly were… was present to.
00:37:29.690 --> 00:37:31.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe there was fear.
00:37:32.190 --> 00:37:33.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: loneliness.
00:37:34.670 --> 00:37:36.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Pain.
00:37:37.770 --> 00:37:44.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, things we haven't thought about that are really uncomfortable for us, old memories.
00:37:46.880 --> 00:37:51.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not that we avoid rest, because we don't want to feel peaceful.
00:37:53.290 --> 00:37:56.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's we don't rest because we don't want to feel these…
00:37:57.030 --> 00:38:01.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Challenging emotions that come up in the process.
00:38:02.150 --> 00:38:04.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because we don't want to feel sad.
00:38:05.090 --> 00:38:06.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't want to cry.
00:38:10.100 --> 00:38:16.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't wanna… Feel how much fear we've lived through in our life.
00:38:21.030 --> 00:38:27.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You see, because rest… It doesn't just give us a moment of peace.
00:38:28.630 --> 00:38:35.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It shows us… What we've been running away from for so long.
00:38:38.550 --> 00:38:40.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that's not easy.
00:38:42.020 --> 00:38:43.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Not easy at all.
00:38:44.880 --> 00:38:46.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I remember.
00:38:47.890 --> 00:38:49.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Was it 2 years ago?
00:38:50.200 --> 00:38:55.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We went down to San Miguel de Alente for a Christmas vacation.
00:38:56.280 --> 00:38:58.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we spent just one evening
00:38:59.000 --> 00:39:03.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in the Airbnb we rented, just being with each other, and just sitting.
00:39:04.690 --> 00:39:06.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And all this fear came up.
00:39:08.830 --> 00:39:13.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I was really just allowing myself to be present to the fear.
00:39:14.870 --> 00:39:20.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And as I was… Allowing myself some time just to sit with the fear.
00:39:22.930 --> 00:39:27.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What came with it was how many choices, how many decisions in my life
00:39:28.510 --> 00:39:30.929 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I had made out of fear.
00:39:32.030 --> 00:39:33.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I never knew.
00:39:33.810 --> 00:39:35.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Never knew.
00:39:35.690 --> 00:39:38.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I had that much fear in me.
00:39:38.790 --> 00:39:43.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I never knew that fear had guided so many decisions in my life.
00:39:46.970 --> 00:39:47.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Boys tough.
00:39:48.050 --> 00:39:49.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That was challenging.
00:39:50.270 --> 00:39:52.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It did not feel good.
00:39:55.510 --> 00:39:59.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I know there's still a lot of fear underneath the surface.
00:40:00.860 --> 00:40:05.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But at least in the moment, I gave it a little space.
00:40:06.020 --> 00:40:16.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I gave my body a little time to metabolize the fear, so maybe, just maybe, it has a little bit less of a hold on me.
00:40:18.210 --> 00:40:19.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that's the thing.
00:40:20.720 --> 00:40:23.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we give ourselves some time and space.
00:40:24.810 --> 00:40:30.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe when we're present to these emotions and we feel them, we metabolize them.
00:40:30.690 --> 00:40:37.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe we can hold them with greater space so they control us a little bit less.
00:40:40.970 --> 00:40:44.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, the thing to remember about rest is that
00:40:44.340 --> 00:40:49.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If our nervous system is used to being go-go-go-go-go all the time.
00:40:51.640 --> 00:41:07.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we don't just downshift from, like, a 10 to a 1 to go from full speed to just deep breath right away. Our bodies don't work like that. Our bodies adjust very, very slowly.
00:41:07.590 --> 00:41:17.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So we need a… We need a path. We need a bridge to get from go-go-go-go-go to Rest.
00:41:20.130 --> 00:41:21.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, and I…
00:41:21.680 --> 00:41:30.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I've just been experiencing this the last few days. I mean, it's kind of funny that this is my topic this week, because last week, my computer crashed.
00:41:30.190 --> 00:41:53.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I, like, it took me a while to figure out what was going on, and then I realized, oh my god, like, I've got to get a new system, I can't… I can't be without a computer, because I, you know, I work on it literally every single day, and ordered a new system, and then how to try and recover as much of the data from my old system as possible, and doing this, and doing that. And literally, for the last several days, I've just been
00:41:53.870 --> 00:41:57.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Go, go, go, go, go, all day long and all night long.
00:41:59.490 --> 00:42:19.019 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But yesterday, it was a beautiful day here in New York City. It was, like, close to 80 degrees. I said to my wife, I said, let's just go eat out. Let's go somewhere, take a walk, eat, and then we can walk through the park on the way back. So we went… we went down, ate at this restaurant, then walked through Central Park coming back.
00:42:19.950 --> 00:42:23.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so that taking some time to just walk slowly…
00:42:24.180 --> 00:42:32.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to notice our surroundings. I even spotted a hawk's nest in a tree. I saw a hawk flying, and then it landed in a nest. I'm like.
00:42:32.870 --> 00:42:37.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's a hawk's nest, and I saw there was a second hawk in it, and then it flew away to get something and flew back.
00:42:39.420 --> 00:42:40.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So nice.
00:42:41.500 --> 00:42:47.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Walking slowly is a way to start to… Calm the nervous system down.
00:42:47.410 --> 00:42:56.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: doing a little bit of conscious breathing. Well, my wife had a phone call, we were sitting on a breath… on a bench in the park, and just breathing for a bit.
00:42:58.540 --> 00:43:05.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: doing some stretching, and just, you know, working in the body. I actually went to the gym today, felt good.
00:43:07.350 --> 00:43:16.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, you know, just not, like, grabbing the phone right away, and it's like, oh, yeah, I gotta do this, I gotta check this, oh, I got all these messages.
00:43:17.000 --> 00:43:22.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, just sitting without the phone for a while, like, turn notifications off.
00:43:22.910 --> 00:43:37.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Give yourself the grace of 5, 10 minutes of not communicating with anyone, not looking at what's going on in the world. Trust me, the world is still going on, whether you're looking at it or not.
00:43:40.420 --> 00:43:48.749 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because going from from being on to resting. It's not flipping a light switch from on to off.
00:43:49.760 --> 00:43:56.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's a gradual movement there. You need to give your body some time and some grace.
00:43:58.340 --> 00:44:08.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And one of the most important things, to really allow Our… our nervous system to… Fall into rest.
00:44:10.620 --> 00:44:13.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's really all about safety.
00:44:15.410 --> 00:44:22.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's like… The nervous system is constantly asking us.
00:44:23.290 --> 00:44:28.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Am I safe? Am I safe? Am I safe? Do I feel safe enough to let go?
00:44:29.490 --> 00:44:33.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not about, do I have time to rest? It's not about, do I deserve to rest?
00:44:34.940 --> 00:44:39.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But is there enough safety? Do I feel enough safety?
00:44:39.780 --> 00:44:42.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In the surroundings, in my life.
00:44:42.870 --> 00:44:46.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To just stop doing, to release control.
00:44:48.700 --> 00:44:58.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, we're constantly building safety through, you know, having our routines, through being in a familiar place.
00:44:59.640 --> 00:45:03.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Through regulating our breath, through connecting with others.
00:45:06.420 --> 00:45:11.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, there's certain people we feel safe with, and certain people we do not feel safe with.
00:45:13.650 --> 00:45:19.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So if you want to downshift a little bit, be with people you actually feel safe with.
00:45:21.970 --> 00:45:27.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, you know, it's kind of funny, because resting is really a skill.
00:45:28.570 --> 00:45:37.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like, we kind of take it for granted, like, we think that, like, oh my god, yeah, of course, I know how to rest, just lie down and you'll go to sleep. No, that's not rest.
00:45:38.230 --> 00:45:43.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're never really taught… I mean, I don't know, have you been taught? I was never taught as a kid, how do you rest?
00:45:44.630 --> 00:45:51.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, maybe at the end of the night, your parents are tired, and they're like, go rest, go to sleep, go to sleep, but that's not teaching you how to rest.
00:45:53.920 --> 00:45:55.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're never taught.
00:45:56.400 --> 00:45:58.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're never taught, and we never practice it.
00:45:59.210 --> 00:46:17.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean, look, if you're a Type A personality, high achiever, entrepreneur, or maybe you're just a caregiver, or a mother, and you have family to take care of, or even a father, where you're taking… maybe you're the stay-at-home dad, but where you're taking care of children, you're taking care of parents, you're taking care of business.
00:46:18.510 --> 00:46:24.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're constantly training ourselves, and we know how to work, and how to work, and how to work.
00:46:25.320 --> 00:46:29.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But we've never actually trained ourselves how to rest.
00:46:30.530 --> 00:46:33.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And again, this is why meditation is wonderful.
00:46:34.300 --> 00:46:39.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because meditation is a way of training ourselves to rest.
00:46:43.630 --> 00:46:46.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, you know, when we first do it, it's uncomfortable.
00:46:47.480 --> 00:46:57.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, it's like, when we learn to rest, it's learning a skill. Whenever we learn a new skill, it's uncomfortable, it's awkward, we don't know if we're doing it right, it doesn't feel good.
00:46:58.860 --> 00:47:04.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Especially if there have been some deep emotions we've been avoiding
00:47:07.690 --> 00:47:09.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we rest.
00:47:11.060 --> 00:47:25.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: things start coming up, and we're like, oh, oh, oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, I can't feel that. No, no, no, no, I have to go do something. Because if I don't do… because if I do something, I distract myself, so I don't have to feel this. Otherwise, I'm going to be feeling this. Oh my god, I don't know if I can feel this.
00:47:26.900 --> 00:47:33.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Alright, we're not thinking this consciously, this is all very subtle. This is all very unconscious.
00:47:36.150 --> 00:47:40.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So if you stop… And try and give yourself some rest.
00:47:40.990 --> 00:47:43.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you find that no matter what.
00:47:44.800 --> 00:47:49.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You just can't rest. You gotta do something, even if nobody's asking you to do anything.
00:47:50.160 --> 00:48:01.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When you try and rest, but then you can't, and you get on your phone, and you start checking in with people, and start doing this, and you're not resting, that's a clue that there's something more going on.
00:48:02.940 --> 00:48:06.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And if it's too strong, and if it's too intense.
00:48:08.040 --> 00:48:11.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's the time to seek out the help of a professional.
00:48:11.470 --> 00:48:15.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's the time to, like, find a therapist.
00:48:16.090 --> 00:48:23.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Or maybe a body worker, or maybe an energy worker, whoever… Resonates with you.
00:48:30.010 --> 00:48:33.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not this past weekend, the weekend before, I actually
00:48:33.850 --> 00:48:41.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: had some body work done. This person, who's a friend, who became a massage therapist, and I just…
00:48:41.210 --> 00:48:43.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, we have a really good relationship.
00:48:45.100 --> 00:48:46.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It felt so good.
00:48:47.090 --> 00:48:49.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just to lie there on the table.
00:48:50.710 --> 00:48:58.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Not scroll on my phone, not play some little puzzle or game, not check social media, not text somebody.
00:49:01.130 --> 00:49:04.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But to just rest, and have somebody else take care of me.
00:49:04.960 --> 00:49:06.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Take care of my body.
00:49:09.000 --> 00:49:10.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That felt so good.
00:49:11.970 --> 00:49:14.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You want to practice resting?
00:49:14.490 --> 00:49:16.929 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Go get body work done once a month.
00:49:19.390 --> 00:49:24.239 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's funny, because I hadn't had it done for a while, I was really missing it.
00:49:29.110 --> 00:49:31.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So it felt really good.
00:49:32.720 --> 00:49:39.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But, you know, I do want to point out that You know, real rest?
00:49:41.770 --> 00:49:44.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is not about collapsing.
00:49:45.350 --> 00:49:51.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not about sitting there and scrolling on your phone, and it's not about checking out and being numb.
00:49:52.830 --> 00:49:57.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because those things… are not restorative.
00:49:57.580 --> 00:50:00.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Those things do not regulate the nervous system.
00:50:00.830 --> 00:50:03.659 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And they don't help you to reconnect with yourself.
00:50:04.920 --> 00:50:15.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If your go-go-go collapse, go, go, go, collapse, or go, go, go, scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll, go, go, go, scroll, scroll, scroll, or go, go, go, numb, you know.
00:50:15.220 --> 00:50:17.239 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Let's have a drink, or five.
00:50:17.350 --> 00:50:20.739 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Let's smoke some pot, let's do some drugs, let's whatever.
00:50:21.620 --> 00:50:24.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just checking out is not resting.
00:50:27.530 --> 00:50:29.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: True rest.
00:50:32.080 --> 00:50:37.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is about giving yourself the gift of reconnecting with yourself.
00:50:39.760 --> 00:50:43.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's about stopping, and taking a breath.
00:50:46.130 --> 00:50:50.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And maybe just asking yourself a simple question.
00:50:51.630 --> 00:50:54.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What am I feeling when I'm not doing anything?
00:50:58.730 --> 00:51:08.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What if… Instead of just… Working straight through your day for 8, 9, 10, 11, 12 hours.
00:51:10.270 --> 00:51:15.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That you just stopped once an hour, once every 40 minutes.
00:51:18.010 --> 00:51:19.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Once every half hour.
00:51:23.600 --> 00:51:32.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And just ask yourself, What am I feeling right now, right here, in this moment?
00:51:35.980 --> 00:51:41.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And to tell you honestly, truthfully, if I just take a moment to check in with myself.
00:51:42.670 --> 00:51:46.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to not focus on the fact that I'm doing my show this week?
00:51:46.670 --> 00:51:50.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But to just be, what am I feeling right now?
00:51:51.100 --> 00:51:52.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm feeling a little tired.
00:51:54.420 --> 00:51:56.929 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because I've been a little stressed.
00:51:57.210 --> 00:51:59.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Over my computer crash.
00:51:59.760 --> 00:52:03.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I've been working hard to get things up and running.
00:52:03.600 --> 00:52:05.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So I'm tired.
00:52:06.870 --> 00:52:11.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, I did go to the gym this morning, and that's a good form of stress.
00:52:12.100 --> 00:52:15.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I don't feel as tired as I felt last night or the night before.
00:52:16.450 --> 00:52:18.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But I still feel tired.
00:52:21.460 --> 00:52:24.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's important to acknowledge that.
00:52:25.900 --> 00:52:31.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, you might stop right now and ask yourself, what are you feeling right now?
00:52:31.810 --> 00:52:33.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And maybe it's not tired.
00:52:34.020 --> 00:52:36.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe there's some anxiety.
00:52:36.370 --> 00:52:38.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe you're feeling a little depressed.
00:52:39.140 --> 00:52:49.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe you're feeling uncertain because of everything going on in the world. Maybe you have family coming over tonight, and you're feeling stressed because you have so much you feel you have to get done.
00:52:51.290 --> 00:52:56.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe there's a loss, maybe you lost someone in your life recently, and so you're feeling
00:52:56.950 --> 00:52:59.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That sense of loss and grief.
00:52:59.980 --> 00:53:02.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe you're feeling sad.
00:53:05.140 --> 00:53:07.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: most important thing.
00:53:07.740 --> 00:53:12.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I can say about all those challenging emotions is.
00:53:12.990 --> 00:53:16.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To stop making them wrong or bad.
00:53:17.600 --> 00:53:21.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Their feelings. Their information.
00:53:22.780 --> 00:53:24.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They're not good or bad.
00:53:25.090 --> 00:53:29.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They're just how your body feels.
00:53:29.610 --> 00:53:32.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And there is nothing wrong with that.
00:53:34.770 --> 00:53:36.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Honor that.
00:53:36.360 --> 00:53:38.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Be present to that.
00:53:41.180 --> 00:53:42.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Allow.
00:53:42.960 --> 00:53:44.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yourself.
00:53:44.340 --> 00:53:48.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The gift of actually feeling those emotions.
00:53:49.950 --> 00:53:53.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because if we don't allow ourselves to feel
00:53:54.320 --> 00:54:01.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Anxious, uncertain, scared, sad, depressed, angry, you name your uncomfortable emotion.
00:54:05.200 --> 00:54:08.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If we don't allow ourselves to feel those.
00:54:10.100 --> 00:54:18.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then we're not allowing ourselves to feel the opposite, feeling the good emotions, feeling joy, awe, excitement.
00:54:18.670 --> 00:54:20.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Pleasure.
00:54:22.260 --> 00:54:28.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we deaden ourselves to what we feel, we deaden ourselves to all of our life.
00:54:35.610 --> 00:54:41.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So really, there are a couple of things I want you to really take away from this episode.
00:54:43.440 --> 00:54:50.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And first and foremost, If rest feels… Challenging for you.
00:54:52.150 --> 00:54:54.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not because you're doing it wrong.
00:54:56.490 --> 00:55:02.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's because your nervous system learned through years and years and years
00:55:03.050 --> 00:55:08.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That doing something feels much safer than not doing something.
00:55:11.200 --> 00:55:19.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not that rest is really hard, it's just… Unknown. Uncomfortable. Unfamiliar.
00:55:23.060 --> 00:55:24.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I'm not saying…
00:55:25.110 --> 00:55:31.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you should go from working all the time to resting all the time. That's never gonna work for us.
00:55:36.040 --> 00:55:39.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Put in little moments of rest in your day.
00:55:40.140 --> 00:55:44.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not about taking a whole day off and just resting, or taking an evening off and…
00:55:47.380 --> 00:55:52.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Resting for an evening. Maybe it's just about resting for 5 minutes.
00:55:56.110 --> 00:55:59.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, there's this principle that says that
00:56:00.300 --> 00:56:09.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we should actually take a 20-minute break every hour. That we should only work for, like, 40 minutes straight, and then take a 20-minute break, and then work for 40 minutes straight, and then take a 20-minute break.
00:56:11.370 --> 00:56:17.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That can be really challenging for most people, I know, taking 20 minutes out of every hour to rest.
00:56:18.060 --> 00:56:19.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So how about this?
00:56:20.440 --> 00:56:23.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just start by taking 1 minute to rest.
00:56:24.320 --> 00:56:25.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And do that for a week.
00:56:26.180 --> 00:56:28.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then make that 1 minute 2 minutes.
00:56:29.570 --> 00:56:31.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then maybe 3 minutes.
00:56:31.600 --> 00:56:35.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in 4 minutes. And maybe just give yourself
00:56:35.940 --> 00:56:39.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: 5 minutes of rest each hour during the day.
00:56:41.040 --> 00:56:44.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And look, if you're going to an office, if you're going to work.
00:56:44.930 --> 00:56:47.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just go to the bathroom and sit on the toilet.
00:56:48.160 --> 00:56:50.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And just sit there for 5 minutes.
00:56:51.150 --> 00:56:53.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then go back to your desk.
00:56:55.380 --> 00:56:59.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Go outside and just take a walk around the block and come back.
00:57:01.420 --> 00:57:08.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Give yourself this most precious and necessary gift of rest.
00:57:10.000 --> 00:57:12.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If you can start doing it just a little bit.
00:57:12.710 --> 00:57:21.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then just a little bit more. And then just a little bit more, and then just a little bit more. And you build up your tolerance for resting.
00:57:22.330 --> 00:57:24.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And being with yourself.
00:57:26.350 --> 00:57:32.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I can guarantee you, over the long term, you will get so much out of it.
00:57:33.350 --> 00:57:36.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Not the least of which is, you'll be healthier.
00:57:37.250 --> 00:57:42.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Emotionally, physically, systematically healthier.
00:57:46.420 --> 00:57:47.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So…
00:57:50.800 --> 00:57:52.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is rest hard for you?
00:57:53.340 --> 00:57:58.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Do you have a practice that helps you to rest each day, each week?
00:57:59.410 --> 00:58:00.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Let me know.
00:58:01.740 --> 00:58:07.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I hope what I talked about resonates with you this week. I hope you've gotten something out of it.
00:58:08.120 --> 00:58:12.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Even if you're not listening live, even if you're listening to it after the fact, let me know.
00:58:13.190 --> 00:58:14.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Touch base.
00:58:15.150 --> 00:58:16.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And let me know
00:58:16.980 --> 00:58:21.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yes, Sam. I really appreciate it, or you know what? Didn't resonate with me at all.
00:58:22.090 --> 00:58:25.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Even that feedback would be tremendously valuable.
00:58:26.030 --> 00:58:31.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So thank you all for tuning in with me this week. I appreciate you so much.
00:58:32.130 --> 00:58:41.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And please remember, if you did miss any part of today's show, you can always catch the replay on talkradio.nyc or on your favorite podcasting app.
00:58:43.200 --> 00:58:44.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you all so much.
00:58:45.070 --> 00:58:48.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I've got a wonderful guest in store for you next week.
00:58:48.600 --> 00:58:50.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I hope you tune in again.
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