A powerful reminder that hope isn't something you find when life falls apart — it's something already within you. Melissa Taylor's story shows that adversity doesn't break us; it reveals who we truly are.
Why Listen?
Feeling stuck or hopeless? Learn that hopelessness is a signal, not a dead end — it's an invitation to rise
Questioning your purpose? Discover how your "day job" might be the vehicle for your real mission (like Melissa's real estate career became her platform to transform lives)
Facing adversity? See how one woman turned childhood struggle into her greatest strength
Seeking authenticity? Experience a conversation guided by intuition and spiritual wisdom — including the channeled message that shifted Melissa's entire perspective
This episode proves: adversity doesn't shape you, it reveals you. And that's where hope lives
What happens when a child born to "fix everything" realizes she was never broken to begin with? Melissa Taylor arrived as the youngest of four in a family already struggling — not celebrated, but assigned a role before she could even speak. She spent years learning that people need you to be defined, boxed up, and placed in a lane so they feel comfortable. But what if there is no lane for you? In this raw conversation, Melissa shares how adversity doesn't define us — it reveals us. And hope isn't something we find; it's something we uncover within.
This episode includes the channeled message I received for Melissa during a healing session — a message that shifted everything. While the world sees a successful realtor and business coach, spirit showed me the truth: real estate is just the vehicle. Her real purpose is transforming lives. We explore how career paths are often divine setups, why being undefined creates freedom, and how hopelessness isn't your end — it's your breakthrough. If you're navigating adversity, questioning your purpose, or tired of fitting into others' definitions, this conversation will remind you: your most powerful self isn't found in definition, it's discovered in the journey.
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Jacintha begins the first segment by telling us about her background as a holistic practitioner and author, discussing her mission to create a space for men suffering from emotional and mental abuse, an often overlooked issue due to societal stigma. She then shares her personal experience watching a loved one suffer in silence and emphasizes the importance of removing the stigma for men to seek help. Guest Melissa Taylor then shares with us her journey as a realtor and how her personal challenges have shaped her approach to helping others. She wraps up the first segment by emphasizing the importance of meeting people where they are, particularly in difficult economic times, and highlighted her team's mission to start at the heart.
Melissa opens the second segment by sharing her personal journey of overcoming adversity and emphasizing the importance of addressing challenges one step at a time, rather than focusing on victimhood. She discusses the concept of surrender and the role of spirituality in finding solutions during difficult times. Jacinta furthers the point by her own experience of remaining calm during a storm by prioritizing tasks and focusing on solutions rather than problems. Both Jacinta and Melissa round out the segment by telling us the value of seeking help and maintaining hope, even when faced with seemingly insurmountable challenges.
Jacintha kicks of the third segment by sharing how Melissa's guidance and support had been instrumental in her own life, particularly during challenging times. Melissa expresses gratitude for their friendship and shared a mutual commitment to helping others. They both touch on the importance of community support and the value of having compassionate individuals who are always willing to lend a hand. Melissa tells us about how by learning to take responsibility for her own happiness and reactions, rather than seeking validation from others, she was able to see a shift in perspective that helped her overcome being a people-pleaser and the impact of her upbringing.
Jacinta starts the final segment by emphasizing the importance of taking responsibility for one's own happiness and encouraged listeners to seek support when needed. Both speakers stressed the value of hope and personal growth, with Melissa highlighting that help often comes in the form of change rather than immediate solutions. Todays episode is then all tied back together by Jacinta as she encourages us as listeners to reach out for help even if we think we don't need it.
00:01:08.040 --> 00:01:25.619 Jacinta Yang: Welcome to Beneath the Calm. I'm Jacintha, your host and your guide to personal and spiritual growth. I'm also host of podcast Self-Aware Soul, and I have a YouTube channel, Jacintha Healing Arts, where the content is all about
00:01:25.710 --> 00:01:33.769 Jacinta Yang: Personal and spiritual growth, and thank you for being with us today, and the title of the show
00:01:35.520 --> 00:01:44.979 Jacinta Yang: what hope looked like. And we have a special guest, Melissa Taylor. Before I introduce her, there's a few things that I'd like to share.
00:01:46.040 --> 00:02:00.629 Jacinta Yang: I'm a holistic practitioner, and I have been practicing for the last 20 years, but in the last 5 to 10 years, it's been more of a full-time thing, as I was asked to
00:02:00.910 --> 00:02:10.679 Jacinta Yang: pursue this, field because of the impact that I'm making in people's lives. A little bit background, I have published,
00:02:10.970 --> 00:02:15.290 Jacinta Yang: Three books, Take Charge, Reclaim Your Life, and be your true self.
00:02:15.610 --> 00:02:17.610 Jacinta Yang: It's all about,
00:02:18.630 --> 00:02:27.859 Jacinta Yang: insights and tools that I have used navigating through life challenges. This is why I have created this space.
00:02:28.030 --> 00:02:42.709 Jacinta Yang: Although the intention was, to actually create a space for men that are also suffering, that has also gone through, emotional and mental abuse, but is not recognized.
00:02:42.880 --> 00:02:48.370 Jacinta Yang: Because there's that stigma, that, you know, men has to be strong.
00:02:48.460 --> 00:03:03.470 Jacinta Yang: And it's not possible that they can be abused. Yes, they can be abused, emotionally, mentally. May not be so much so as physically, but they are still abused, and they still go through the same suffering as a lot of women are.
00:03:03.850 --> 00:03:11.039 Jacinta Yang: Only a couple days ago, I was, looking for some information on abuse, and I saw a lot of…
00:03:11.420 --> 00:03:22.820 Jacinta Yang: Resources, information on abuse that women suffer, but there was very few at all, that was addressed to men being abused.
00:03:24.380 --> 00:03:31.639 Jacinta Yang: Now, over the years working with clients and having close friends and someone really close and dear to me.
00:03:32.040 --> 00:03:32.920 Jacinta Yang: Oh.
00:03:33.210 --> 00:03:36.220 Jacinta Yang: Are abused, and they are suffering in silence.
00:03:36.430 --> 00:03:41.210 Jacinta Yang: And for those of us that are Family, friends.
00:03:41.620 --> 00:03:53.170 Jacinta Yang: closely related, we suffer along with them, and we feel helpless, because we can't really do much unless they actually reach out
00:03:53.370 --> 00:03:54.990 Jacinta Yang: To ask for help.
00:03:55.560 --> 00:04:00.999 Jacinta Yang: In some cases, if we did try to reach out and help them.
00:04:01.240 --> 00:04:05.450 Jacinta Yang: It could have actually severe consequences on them.
00:04:06.510 --> 00:04:10.630 Jacinta Yang: So we are really helpless, looking from the outside.
00:04:11.050 --> 00:04:18.870 Jacinta Yang: And to all the listeners that are listening today, I just want to say that if you are in a situation
00:04:19.540 --> 00:04:27.779 Jacinta Yang: That are dealing with any… Mental abuse from your partner, your wife, girlfriend, or whatever.
00:04:27.910 --> 00:04:32.759 Jacinta Yang: Just know that you are just as human as the rest of us women are.
00:04:32.860 --> 00:04:41.910 Jacinta Yang: And you deserve. You deserve to be heard. You deserve to be recognized that you, too, have
00:04:42.320 --> 00:04:49.909 Jacinta Yang: feelings and emotions like the rest of us. And it's not a shame to admit it, actually.
00:04:50.060 --> 00:04:53.640 Jacinta Yang: It takes a lot of courage and strength
00:04:54.230 --> 00:04:58.210 Jacinta Yang: To be able to come forward and speak about it.
00:04:58.360 --> 00:05:02.669 Jacinta Yang: And those of you that are watching your loved ones suffering.
00:05:02.930 --> 00:05:08.840 Jacinta Yang: If there's any way you can find to somehow support them.
00:05:09.040 --> 00:05:13.290 Jacinta Yang: And if you can't, then all we can do is send them love.
00:05:13.450 --> 00:05:14.750 Jacinta Yang: and healing.
00:05:14.950 --> 00:05:16.339 Jacinta Yang: That will help.
00:05:16.940 --> 00:05:20.529 Jacinta Yang: I'm talking about this today because…
00:05:20.970 --> 00:05:27.019 Jacinta Yang: That's what I am actually going through right now, watching someone very dear to me.
00:05:27.690 --> 00:05:29.609 Jacinta Yang: Suffering in silence.
00:05:30.560 --> 00:05:35.180 Jacinta Yang: And, this topic, what hope looks like.
00:05:35.510 --> 00:05:43.819 Jacinta Yang: It's very, actually, close to… what I'm… Talking right now. I hope…
00:05:44.220 --> 00:05:48.410 Jacinta Yang: For all of those that are suffering, In silence.
00:05:48.800 --> 00:05:51.099 Jacinta Yang: That they can find the strength.
00:05:51.870 --> 00:05:56.210 Jacinta Yang: To come forward, speak up, and if you can't…
00:05:56.720 --> 00:06:05.449 Jacinta Yang: find a way, and I know there are some people that are totally helpless and cannot, and the only thing we can do is just pray for them right now.
00:06:06.420 --> 00:06:12.259 Jacinta Yang: My hope… Speaking of hope, my hope is that this space
00:06:12.960 --> 00:06:16.159 Jacinta Yang: It's a space that you can find…
00:06:16.390 --> 00:06:19.409 Jacinta Yang: And reach out to me if you want.
00:06:20.030 --> 00:06:24.030 Jacinta Yang: My name is Jacinta, my website is Jacinta.
00:06:24.490 --> 00:06:31.030 Jacinta Yang: healingarts.com, or I can be reached at Jacintahealingarts at gmail.com.
00:06:32.540 --> 00:06:37.580 Jacinta Yang: My hope, again, is to… Remove the stigma.
00:06:38.510 --> 00:06:43.879 Jacinta Yang: so that men… Will feel it's okay to come forward.
00:06:44.510 --> 00:06:48.070 Jacinta Yang: And share their struggles. Reach out.
00:06:48.210 --> 00:06:50.170 Jacinta Yang: For support that need.
00:06:50.420 --> 00:06:55.800 Jacinta Yang: Because there's no reason why you need to suffer in silence.
00:06:56.270 --> 00:07:00.590 Jacinta Yang: Society has changed a lot. Women are also getting
00:07:00.770 --> 00:07:03.680 Jacinta Yang: Stronger, and also being a provider.
00:07:03.930 --> 00:07:08.500 Jacinta Yang: So, all of this doesn't have to be on your shoulder.
00:07:08.840 --> 00:07:12.279 Jacinta Yang: So, welcome, Melissa.
00:07:12.390 --> 00:07:16.540 Jacinta Yang: You are the children of four, right? And the youngest?
00:07:16.750 --> 00:07:19.730 Jacinta Yang: Not the oops, 10 years younger.
00:07:19.730 --> 00:07:20.270 Melissa Taylor: Yeah.
00:07:20.270 --> 00:07:23.719 Jacinta Yang: And, thank you so much for,
00:07:24.160 --> 00:07:29.039 Jacinta Yang: joining us today, and I know you have so much that you can share.
00:07:29.200 --> 00:07:32.320 Jacinta Yang: To inspire our, listeners.
00:07:32.750 --> 00:07:38.940 Jacinta Yang: Today, and when we met, I know we had a healing session where
00:07:39.180 --> 00:07:44.019 Jacinta Yang: Your guides and my guides, had this message for you that
00:07:44.310 --> 00:07:52.819 Jacinta Yang: being a realtor is only a vehicle. Let's, let's talk about that and go back and share a little bit about your story.
00:07:53.040 --> 00:07:59.010 Jacinta Yang: Your background, and what you do today, and how you're helping other people.
00:07:59.520 --> 00:08:12.310 Melissa Taylor: Sure, sure. First of all, I just want… you know, my heart goes out to you just think that we… we've been speaking about, your life and your struggles, and, you know, you are in my prayers as long… as well as your family, and
00:08:12.570 --> 00:08:19.759 Melissa Taylor: you know, I applaud you for creating this space. It takes courage to create a space where many have not created one.
00:08:20.400 --> 00:08:37.610 Melissa Taylor: And I really appreciate you having people on here, men, women, because the message that we bring is the hope that we… that somebody will hear one little piece, and it will be able to help them.
00:08:37.679 --> 00:08:47.710 Melissa Taylor: get through the day, the month, or the year, and sometimes it's minute by minute with some people. So, thank you for creating the space and for allowing me to participate.
00:08:48.180 --> 00:08:49.280 Melissa Taylor: Thank you.
00:08:49.740 --> 00:08:55.089 Jacinta Yang: So, tell us your story about what hopes look like for you.
00:08:55.190 --> 00:09:14.390 Melissa Taylor: Well, it was… it was really interesting, you know, sort of my life. As you know, I'm a realtor, like, where I am right now, I'm a successful realtor, I have an amazing team that is born from the same heart that I do, and one of our main missions
00:09:14.570 --> 00:09:18.400 Melissa Taylor: And what makes us a little bit different is we start at the heart.
00:09:18.510 --> 00:09:23.219 Melissa Taylor: we start at the heart. So, the way we operate now
00:09:23.790 --> 00:09:35.249 Melissa Taylor: is a cumulation of the challenges I've gone through in my life, and how I've overcome adversity, not easily.
00:09:35.370 --> 00:09:40.659 Melissa Taylor: And sometimes I overcome it and fall back down, and I'm constantly learning.
00:09:40.730 --> 00:09:57.190 Melissa Taylor: And I've discovered that the most important thing we can do is meet people where they are. I can't tell you, especially this year, we've had a difficult economic time over this last little bit, and I meet with families or individuals
00:09:57.730 --> 00:10:05.069 Melissa Taylor: And the majority, when I say the majority, I would say about 80% of my visits this year have been with families that are in distress.
00:10:05.080 --> 00:10:24.680 Melissa Taylor: For one reason or another, whether it's economics or it's family dynamics, whatever it is. And some of those, I've been able, together with the team and our amazing partners, lawyers, mortgage brokers, all of those… all of those people, to
00:10:24.680 --> 00:10:40.249 Melissa Taylor: Show people hope that selling necessarily isn't the best idea, and there are other options, and a few of them, we've been able to keep them in their homes, which to me is just as successful as helping them sell a home.
00:10:40.510 --> 00:10:51.840 Melissa Taylor: So, when you come from that place of heart, and I think having gone through, and I'll give you a sort of a brief overview of how my journey got me here.
00:10:51.860 --> 00:11:00.649 Melissa Taylor: I certainly didn't, you know, wake up one day and say, oh, you know, I dream of being a real estate agent. A lot of people have.
00:11:00.770 --> 00:11:13.020 Melissa Taylor: my childhood dream was… I still remember scanning. I wanted to be a, you know, bag groceries, I had all those toys, like, I didn't have any big, wild, crazy dreams to be a realtor.
00:11:14.370 --> 00:11:20.659 Melissa Taylor: However, so that's… that's how we work today. I have to address, and you hear people say all the time.
00:11:20.840 --> 00:11:29.339 Melissa Taylor: you know, I'm so grateful for what I've been through. I wouldn't change it because it made me who I am today.
00:11:30.350 --> 00:11:38.019 Melissa Taylor: I know when some people hear that, and they're in the midst, they're in a different space, they're in it, right?
00:11:38.250 --> 00:11:44.799 Melissa Taylor: That's difficult for them to hear, and it almost sounds like something to appease them.
00:11:45.100 --> 00:11:54.909 Melissa Taylor: And one thing I will offer that I have found in my life, because when I got through my first breakthrough, like, breakdown, then a breakthrough.
00:11:55.460 --> 00:12:07.359 Melissa Taylor: I naively thought, okay, this is it. Now it's a straight path forward until I dumped off the next time, and the next time, and the next time. And…
00:12:08.200 --> 00:12:14.250 Melissa Taylor: there is a world where I could discover all of these challenges as
00:12:14.710 --> 00:12:19.929 Melissa Taylor: as negative things, as where I've fallen down and it's not meant for me.
00:12:21.000 --> 00:12:33.959 Melissa Taylor: And the discussion today is what I really want to bring out, is when you get to that spot, we have choices. We often feel like we don't. We feel like we're a product of our circumstance.
00:12:34.210 --> 00:12:38.020 Melissa Taylor: And my encouragement is how…
00:12:38.730 --> 00:12:49.060 Melissa Taylor: it's actually, you'll understand when I get there, is going to be doing less in those moments, as opposed to frantically doing more.
00:12:49.320 --> 00:12:56.760 Melissa Taylor: And it's mindset. So let me… let me just start. I… I definitely have had an interesting… there's not enough time in this podcast, for sure.
00:12:57.290 --> 00:13:09.110 Melissa Taylor: to hear everything, but I had an interesting coming into the world, and I will tell you that, I mean, I'm gonna be 55 December 1st, if anyone wants to send a card. I'm always a
00:13:09.520 --> 00:13:11.020 Melissa Taylor: You're in the law?
00:13:12.670 --> 00:13:20.329 Melissa Taylor: However, however, I am gonna be 55, and most of what the…
00:13:20.500 --> 00:13:26.759 Melissa Taylor: ahas, or the revelations, I have discovered, have been in the last few years.
00:13:27.030 --> 00:13:33.570 Melissa Taylor: So, I've lived all those years without understanding, without…
00:13:33.570 --> 00:13:47.859 Melissa Taylor: Without, like, living in my own world, and having these things come at me over and over and over again, and thinking, like we all do, that I already know everything there is to know, not in the world, I mean, about my situation.
00:13:48.600 --> 00:13:54.320 Melissa Taylor: And we form an opinion about ourselves, About people around us.
00:13:54.690 --> 00:14:00.410 Melissa Taylor: It's very, very easy to slip into victim.
00:14:00.780 --> 00:14:02.720 Melissa Taylor: role. And this is…
00:14:02.840 --> 00:14:15.690 Melissa Taylor: This is… I'll talk about this at the end, from my perspective, because that could set off a lot of triggers for people when we talk about victimization. So I'll save that for the end, but…
00:14:15.970 --> 00:14:17.970 Melissa Taylor: Just to begin…
00:14:18.150 --> 00:14:34.930 Melissa Taylor: So, I was born into a family, and you know, the interesting thing, I never thought about it much before a few years ago, what was that family like before I came? I didn't have one iota, I didn't know I was supposed to care, I certainly didn't know that
00:14:34.930 --> 00:14:39.209 Melissa Taylor: It would have such a profound effect on my life.
00:14:40.700 --> 00:14:54.759 Melissa Taylor: I wouldn't understand any of that. So I was traveling, and I think that's… that's fair to say for many of us, right? We come into a situation, and we just go forward. We just go forward. And understanding
00:14:55.240 --> 00:14:58.050 Melissa Taylor: Other people's perspectives is really important.
00:14:58.060 --> 00:15:11.949 Melissa Taylor: So in my… in my certain case, I mean, I was born… and you know, whenever I say this, I'm ready for people to call me a liar, but I'm telling you that I was not an oops. I was not an accident. Alright?
00:15:11.960 --> 00:15:20.040 Melissa Taylor: So, but I was born, about 8 years after my youngest siblings, so they're 8, 10, and 12 years older than me.
00:15:21.210 --> 00:15:27.790 Melissa Taylor: I was born, I believe, having learned over these last few years, I found out that
00:15:28.320 --> 00:15:41.149 Melissa Taylor: It was… actually, I see you don't have too much time to go until break, so I will say I was born, that's great, I'm not gonna go through my whole life, but I was born into a certain dynamic.
00:15:41.270 --> 00:15:46.859 Melissa Taylor: Where 3 kids already existed for almost an entire decade within this element.
00:15:46.970 --> 00:16:02.950 Melissa Taylor: And I was born as hoping, just, you know, people say, have a baby, and they might… and it'll make it all better, and that was what I've learned sort of situation I was born into. I didn't know I was supposed to be this big problem solver in a family.
00:16:02.990 --> 00:16:04.310 Jacinta Yang: So…
00:16:04.310 --> 00:16:19.969 Melissa Taylor: that was an eye-opener about 49 years later. However, what transpired between that were a lot of interfamily dynamics that I didn't understand, and I was very much
00:16:20.710 --> 00:16:39.639 Melissa Taylor: put in a box, and had people have expectations about who I was, what I felt, how I thought about things, perhaps that I was selfish. These certain things had nothing to do with me. They say that people's opinions of you is none of your business.
00:16:40.360 --> 00:16:44.930 Melissa Taylor: And that's probably a good place if you need to… do you need to break? I'm not sure.
00:16:44.930 --> 00:16:45.730 Jacinta Yang: Yes.
00:16:45.730 --> 00:16:47.070 Melissa Taylor: Okay.
00:16:47.440 --> 00:16:52.670 Melissa Taylor: Okay. I promise I'll speed it up.
00:16:52.680 --> 00:16:54.610 Jacinta Yang: We'll come back shortly.
00:16:54.830 --> 00:16:56.600 Melissa Taylor: Okay, and I will speed that up for you.
00:18:39.500 --> 00:18:42.520 Jacinta Yang: Welcome back to Self Aware Soul.
00:18:42.730 --> 00:18:49.150 Jacinta Yang: as I was mentioning earlier today, or earlier, that this space was created
00:18:49.150 --> 00:19:03.050 Jacinta Yang: to share insights and tools to navigate through life challenges. And, this is a little something I'd like to share about this week that, has been a very rough week for me, and…
00:19:03.050 --> 00:19:09.620 Jacinta Yang: I feel it's something I can share with. So, to begin with, I have a very close
00:19:09.870 --> 00:19:12.800 Jacinta Yang: loved one who was in the hospital in the ICU.
00:19:12.900 --> 00:19:16.779 Jacinta Yang: And, due to high winds, the tree just fell.
00:19:16.950 --> 00:19:31.509 Jacinta Yang: And that's covered my roof on the garage, and there's a hole. Lot of things that has happened, and I noticed myself that I was calm through all this storm that was happening around me.
00:19:31.660 --> 00:19:38.490 Jacinta Yang: And I did… I did actually analyze myself that I'm feeling the calm, and what is it?
00:19:38.710 --> 00:19:42.550 Jacinta Yang: And I think the main thing was, I guess I…
00:19:43.350 --> 00:19:49.660 Jacinta Yang: Have gotten into a habit of prioritizing what needed to be addressed.
00:19:49.840 --> 00:19:56.640 Jacinta Yang: And that was first my family, even though things were happening around my house due to the high winds.
00:19:57.470 --> 00:19:58.590 Jacinta Yang: And…
00:19:59.270 --> 00:20:05.930 Jacinta Yang: after dealing with that, there's other things, but I've been calm through all that, and I think main… main thing is…
00:20:06.220 --> 00:20:10.940 Jacinta Yang: Rather than reacting and thinking, why is this happening to me?
00:20:11.840 --> 00:20:13.979 Jacinta Yang: It's… the main thing is just…
00:20:14.300 --> 00:20:22.479 Jacinta Yang: Deal with one thing at a time, and just address it. Address it according to what the priority needs.
00:20:22.890 --> 00:20:24.430 Jacinta Yang: And face that.
00:20:24.560 --> 00:20:29.010 Jacinta Yang: And if you don't think about the problem itself.
00:20:29.160 --> 00:20:37.219 Jacinta Yang: it won't look like a problem. It's just like, okay, what needs to be done? As Melissa was mentioning about, you know, the victim…
00:20:37.420 --> 00:20:42.210 Jacinta Yang: herd victim mentality. So if we don't stay in that victim…
00:20:42.510 --> 00:20:58.220 Jacinta Yang: mentality state, then we won't be a victim to anything. So, basically, the best way to deal with challenges is not look at them as challenges. Look at a situation
00:20:58.350 --> 00:21:01.270 Jacinta Yang: And find a solution for that.
00:21:01.660 --> 00:21:06.250 Jacinta Yang: Right, Melissa? So, welcome back, Melissa. Let's…
00:21:07.050 --> 00:21:07.600 Melissa Taylor: Hi.
00:21:09.300 --> 00:21:14.539 Melissa Taylor: Yeah, and I think to speed it up, I know you don't have a ton of time on here.
00:21:14.600 --> 00:21:19.640 Melissa Taylor: The… the number… you… people are often surprised at the number of
00:21:19.640 --> 00:21:35.860 Melissa Taylor: adversities, total breakdowns, whether it's financial, home, relationship, business deals, you know, that have been hundreds of thousands of dollars, that have… that have crashed and fallen. And of course.
00:21:36.300 --> 00:21:41.899 Melissa Taylor: more importantly, relationships, right? With self… with self and others, and…
00:21:42.050 --> 00:21:58.919 Melissa Taylor: I am writing a book, so you'll see that in the book, What Doesn't Kill Me? that'll be coming out in 2026. You'll be able to see that, but for this podcast, what you're saying 100%, I think the best thing is to deal with, or to speak on, that feeling of victim.
00:21:58.980 --> 00:22:02.510 Melissa Taylor: My experience when I talk to people and…
00:22:02.650 --> 00:22:22.540 Melissa Taylor: we bring up this victimization, like, you know, and using phrases like, don't be a victim, is very confusing to the afflicted, because they're not… they feel like this actually happened to me, like, what are you talking about? And the need to be heard
00:22:22.730 --> 00:22:42.510 Melissa Taylor: Everybody has that need, to be heard and to be felt. And so, when… I would love to dig down into what I'm talking about when I say about victim, because I am not denying or taking away the hurt party's right to be hurt. 100%.
00:22:42.510 --> 00:22:58.530 Melissa Taylor: It is what we do with that. The number of times I have built and been broken down, and built again, and been broken down, at any of those times, I could have stopped. And I mean this emotionally, not business-wise, emotionally.
00:22:59.050 --> 00:23:00.880 Melissa Taylor: And professionally. And…
00:23:01.010 --> 00:23:25.660 Melissa Taylor: when you're… the important thing is when you are broken down, and trust you me, I got some bad news, people. This isn't going to stop. Like, you're… we are cyclical. It will look different, your breakdown, some… some will be much more intense, an effect on your life, some will not be, some will include others, some… but they are always… they may change shape, but they're always going to come.
00:23:25.970 --> 00:23:33.970 Melissa Taylor: And there's a good reason for that. The growth that comes from that experience is possible.
00:23:34.590 --> 00:23:40.080 Melissa Taylor: I meet so… and I talk to so many people who… some have never heard that.
00:23:40.190 --> 00:23:59.099 Melissa Taylor: First of all, they've been brought up in families of, here we go again, we're the… we're the underdog, everyone's pooping on us. I don't know if you can swear here, so pooping on us. Like, they'll… they've had a history of this, and they've adapted it as, this is my family curse.
00:23:59.460 --> 00:24:04.459 Melissa Taylor: Whereas, I'm all about… what else?
00:24:04.780 --> 00:24:20.609 Melissa Taylor: could… could it be, right? That's true, like, that could be it. What if there was a possibility that there was something else happening there, and all you had to do was be exposed to seeing that opportunity?
00:24:20.940 --> 00:24:22.720 Melissa Taylor: And what I mean is.
00:24:23.190 --> 00:24:37.840 Melissa Taylor: we get to a… I don't know about you, but my experience… let's… I'm gonna talk about God, hopefully everyone's okay with that. He's a big part in… of my life, and spirituality in general has been a very big part of my life.
00:24:38.680 --> 00:24:47.519 Melissa Taylor: However, when you become a victim, it's really hard to think about anything, anything spiritual or anything helping you.
00:24:48.000 --> 00:24:53.720 Melissa Taylor: But we tend to surrender. When you're a victim, we've surrendered everything
00:24:53.720 --> 00:25:11.150 Melissa Taylor: to either our abuser or the one who's done us wrong. We are giving all the power. I used to tell one of my daughters, her brother would… would… he was an expert at pushing her buttons. An expert. In fact, he did it for sport, and she…
00:25:11.150 --> 00:25:21.880 Melissa Taylor: in return would get so upset, like, physically, emotionally, mentally, so upset, and all they were… well, I'm not gonna say all they were, but they were words.
00:25:21.880 --> 00:25:35.489 Melissa Taylor: And she didn't understand that she had a chance to own those words, or not own those words. So I would always get her to punch a pillow and explain to her, you're giving all your power to him. This is… this is joy for him.
00:25:35.630 --> 00:25:38.359 Melissa Taylor: Right? And you don't have to participate in it.
00:25:38.620 --> 00:25:50.180 Melissa Taylor: And in life, we quite often think that whatever is shown to us, whatever is offered to us, whatever is on our plate, we need to participate.
00:25:50.280 --> 00:26:04.400 Melissa Taylor: I mean, try and drive down 404 with an accident on the other side, and you'll understand what I mean. Very few people can drive by without making that part of their day. They need to see what's going on, they need to see it.
00:26:04.400 --> 00:26:12.990 Melissa Taylor: And we do that in our life. And I understand the feeling of being powerless, The feeling of…
00:26:13.120 --> 00:26:30.730 Melissa Taylor: Now, I'm gonna correct my word, I just had a message sent to me. Instead of saying, being powerless, and I don't… I want you to understand, it's feeling powerless, okay? You… you aren't actually powerless in those moments, but you're experiencing a lot of grief.
00:26:31.370 --> 00:26:34.649 Melissa Taylor: And there is a surrender that needs to happen.
00:26:34.820 --> 00:26:44.440 Melissa Taylor: Right? I mean, if you believe. Whatever you believe in, the surrender, and it usually happens, if any of you can, you know.
00:26:44.440 --> 00:27:03.750 Melissa Taylor: share in this experience where there's something that's gone wrong in your life, and you are trying everything to make a change. You are… I mean, you're not sleeping at night, you're up, you're redoing the calculations of the bills, because surely it's going to work out differently this time. You're losing sleep. It's just…
00:27:03.750 --> 00:27:15.669 Melissa Taylor: All-encompassing, and there will come a time, if you don't find a solution, or you don't find the person who can help you in that situation, there will come a time where you…
00:27:15.710 --> 00:27:38.079 Melissa Taylor: in some form or another, you will drop to your knees, you will lay on the ground. I have… I have been laid out flat in my backyard on the ground, like this, with my kids coming out, going, what's happening? And I'm like… and that's me, in that particular moment, surrendering, not to my aggressor.
00:27:38.080 --> 00:27:41.479 Melissa Taylor: But surrendering, and we all say some form of…
00:27:41.560 --> 00:27:48.599 Melissa Taylor: Somebody, God, universe, help me. And we get to that last moment.
00:27:49.570 --> 00:27:52.759 Melissa Taylor: And… for myself.
00:27:52.930 --> 00:28:02.329 Melissa Taylor: Most often, what happens after that fateful day, and I finally give up, and I ask for help, something arrives in the form of help.
00:28:02.560 --> 00:28:10.639 Melissa Taylor: Be it something that solves the problem, be it a fresh mind, be it a new way for me to look at what's happening.
00:28:10.810 --> 00:28:13.120 Melissa Taylor: Most often, it's a piece.
00:28:13.360 --> 00:28:33.219 Melissa Taylor: That comes over me, right? It's a piece that comes over me, and they… what I've learned very long lessons through the years, and what I'm really working on now, is living, and you said it, Jacintha, when you were talking about being in that storm, and being able to retain a calm
00:28:33.670 --> 00:28:37.310 Melissa Taylor: And most of us think this isn't available to us.
00:28:37.450 --> 00:28:51.760 Melissa Taylor: It's for other people. They don't understand how big this problem is. There's a lot of veritable reasons and excuses why you wouldn't believe, because this is…
00:28:51.870 --> 00:28:54.290 Melissa Taylor: A leap of faith in yourself.
00:28:54.590 --> 00:29:00.539 Melissa Taylor: This is a leap of faith in yourself that you can walk through life.
00:29:00.820 --> 00:29:10.919 Melissa Taylor: without having to get to that desperate point where you're throwing your body down to say, I can't do this anymore by myself.
00:29:11.230 --> 00:29:16.490 Melissa Taylor: To where every day you do a little bit of remembering.
00:29:16.730 --> 00:29:21.500 Melissa Taylor: Right? Remembering what you do possess.
00:29:21.630 --> 00:29:28.409 Melissa Taylor: What you do have, the good person that you are, maybe you don't feel like it today, but that you have been.
00:29:28.890 --> 00:29:33.419 Melissa Taylor: That difference you made in someone's life, you know?
00:29:33.620 --> 00:29:38.750 Melissa Taylor: If we remember this, and we remember to ask for help.
00:29:39.090 --> 00:29:50.130 Melissa Taylor: Every morning. Be with me, and you can call it God, Universe, you know, Flower, sunflower, whatever you want to call it. Connect. Be with me.
00:29:50.300 --> 00:29:53.690 Melissa Taylor: I don't want to walk alone. I'm gonna… I need you with me.
00:29:54.550 --> 00:29:58.840 Melissa Taylor: And… People… I know that's a lot, you're about to go to break.
00:29:58.840 --> 00:29:59.819 Jacinta Yang: One more minute.
00:29:59.820 --> 00:30:13.389 Melissa Taylor: Yeah, I can see that you're about to go to break, and when we come back from break, the… what I would love to do to sort of bring it all together for you is talking about the difference between understanding and feeling.
00:30:13.580 --> 00:30:21.709 Melissa Taylor: When you're going through that, And how small… people… people quite often think hope is a solution.
00:30:22.460 --> 00:30:25.500 Melissa Taylor: And I want to show you that hope.
00:30:25.880 --> 00:30:35.619 Melissa Taylor: is just… it's this small. It is… it is an opening this small. It's like you're in a dark car, and you have everything closed.
00:30:35.880 --> 00:30:42.890 Melissa Taylor: And you lift up the shade of your car or your house, and you see just a slit of sunshine.
00:30:43.230 --> 00:30:52.269 Melissa Taylor: And just… if you remember a time that you've done that, after many, many days of rain, just a slip… you can even see there's not as many shadows.
00:30:52.970 --> 00:30:56.249 Melissa Taylor: And that's where hope begins, and we'll talk about that.
00:30:56.250 --> 00:31:00.170 Jacinta Yang: Thank you, Melissa. We're gonna get into a break, and we'll come back and talk some more.
00:31:00.320 --> 00:31:01.670 Melissa Taylor: You'll get great things.
00:32:45.700 --> 00:32:47.839 Jacinta Yang: Thank you, Bach. Thank you for…
00:32:48.050 --> 00:33:01.639 Jacinta Yang: Being here with us today at Beneath the Calm, our guest, Melissa Taylor, who is a realtor. Before I bring her back, I just want to share something about her.
00:33:02.290 --> 00:33:05.609 Jacinta Yang: So that you know who she really is.
00:33:07.080 --> 00:33:14.469 Jacinta Yang: I met Melissa when she came for a healing session, and we had a very interesting… I think our first session was just…
00:33:14.580 --> 00:33:23.639 Jacinta Yang: amazing. We had a good laugh, because so many of her guides came in and gave messages, and the message was that she is here.
00:33:23.830 --> 00:33:31.840 Jacinta Yang: To really help many people that need support and guidance, And…
00:33:32.180 --> 00:33:36.800 Jacinta Yang: The real estate business session is actually a vehicle.
00:33:37.170 --> 00:33:43.030 Jacinta Yang: For her to do what she's meant to do, On her path in life.
00:33:43.370 --> 00:33:53.119 Jacinta Yang: Now, after that, I actually have to say, she helped me, find my home, sell my home, and moved to Keswick.
00:33:54.060 --> 00:34:00.709 Jacinta Yang: But she is… She has proven to be a really unique realtor.
00:34:01.210 --> 00:34:08.830 Jacinta Yang: She helped me actually pack, to move, because I was actually going through a lot of health struggle myself.
00:34:09.429 --> 00:34:19.030 Jacinta Yang: And, it was so nice to have someone like her just offer… she just brought boxes and start packing.
00:34:19.429 --> 00:34:23.469 Jacinta Yang: But aside from that, A few years ago.
00:34:23.960 --> 00:34:27.389 Jacinta Yang: When my son was diagnosed with cancer.
00:34:27.580 --> 00:34:36.259 Jacinta Yang: I didn't know too many people in this new town that I moved into. She was one of the person that was in this town. I called her.
00:34:36.940 --> 00:34:46.099 Jacinta Yang: I guess I needed support, and she came over, and we… I think it was 10, 10.30 at night, and she was with me till midnight.
00:34:48.130 --> 00:34:53.070 Jacinta Yang: That just really shows who she really is. She's there.
00:34:53.179 --> 00:34:54.420 Jacinta Yang: When you need.
00:34:55.429 --> 00:35:05.810 Jacinta Yang: when you need help. She's very busy, you cannot get a hold of her on a normal basis. I know that, because sometimes she doesn't respond to the text messages.
00:35:06.210 --> 00:35:13.719 Jacinta Yang: But one thing about her is that when she knows that you really need She does show up.
00:35:14.100 --> 00:35:18.340 Jacinta Yang: And I am so grateful to have a friend like her.
00:35:18.550 --> 00:35:22.370 Jacinta Yang: Because I think we both share similar values.
00:35:22.520 --> 00:35:26.670 Jacinta Yang: We are always here for anyone that need us.
00:35:27.070 --> 00:35:34.800 Jacinta Yang: Anyone that needs support will always be there, so I want to share that anyone that…
00:35:35.170 --> 00:35:40.229 Jacinta Yang: Feels that they are struggling through life's struggles and challenges.
00:35:40.730 --> 00:35:42.219 Jacinta Yang: You're not alone.
00:35:42.480 --> 00:35:56.860 Jacinta Yang: There's always someone in… in your life that probably you know, and if you don't know, that's fine too. But I just want you to know you're not alone. If you're hearing this, you can reach us at any time.
00:35:57.010 --> 00:36:00.540 Jacinta Yang: And we will… Be more than happy.
00:36:00.720 --> 00:36:02.989 Jacinta Yang: To be there, to lend a…
00:36:04.360 --> 00:36:13.199 Jacinta Yang: a helping hand, a shoulder to cry on, an ear for you to fill, that I… I am gonna say I…
00:36:13.490 --> 00:36:17.619 Jacinta Yang: I'm happy to say that it comes from both of us.
00:36:18.070 --> 00:36:31.149 Jacinta Yang: Right, Melissa? So, I want to thank you for being such an amazing friend, and for being the person that you are. We certainly have,
00:36:31.410 --> 00:36:34.000 Jacinta Yang: Path in a very similar ways.
00:36:34.800 --> 00:36:35.359 Jacinta Yang: Welcome back.
00:36:36.000 --> 00:36:49.399 Melissa Taylor: Thank you so much, Jacintha, and that is shared, and I… it's been such a joy getting to know you and share the good works that we can do together, so that's… that's been fantastic.
00:36:49.650 --> 00:36:59.200 Melissa Taylor: And I value you, so thank you very much. The… you're… I… I just want to say, you're gonna say in the next segment, I hope, the… the thing?
00:36:59.550 --> 00:37:02.550 Melissa Taylor: What? About… about my dad? The message?
00:37:02.550 --> 00:37:03.170 Jacinta Yang: Oh, yes.
00:37:03.170 --> 00:37:04.670 Melissa Taylor: I'll be doing that in the next segment, so I'.
00:37:04.670 --> 00:37:07.029 Jacinta Yang: Well, now that you reminded me, sure.
00:37:07.180 --> 00:37:11.600 Melissa Taylor: Okay, make sure you say that, because that links us very uniquely.
00:37:11.920 --> 00:37:17.700 Melissa Taylor: So, back to… back to what we were saying, and that feeling, and… I…
00:37:17.830 --> 00:37:28.790 Melissa Taylor: when I am in that feeling, it feels like you are the only person who would understand. Like, like yourself. You're the only person that could possibly understand this, and I grew up
00:37:29.040 --> 00:37:45.229 Melissa Taylor: Really as a people pleaser. I didn't understand why, but once I understood, kind of, how I was brought into the world, it makes sense to me now, at 54. 55 December 1st, I'm just saying. At 54, it makes me understand it.
00:37:46.140 --> 00:37:55.680 Melissa Taylor: However, I… I really… Judged and based my happiness on the reactions of people around me.
00:37:56.460 --> 00:38:11.650 Melissa Taylor: I can't say that I outwardly was ever taught that. I wasn't forced to do that. It was a path that gave me, I thought, the best fulfillment that I could have.
00:38:11.850 --> 00:38:29.260 Melissa Taylor: Right? Is if you make someone else happy, then, okay, I've done something right. And my world became separated into right and wrong. And listen, everybody around me, including my family, had their own
00:38:29.520 --> 00:38:42.220 Melissa Taylor: standards or requirements for right and wrong. So, you add up all those people, I don't know how I thought I could make everybody happy, and…
00:38:42.380 --> 00:38:46.969 Melissa Taylor: As a result, get a big piece of happiness myself.
00:38:47.640 --> 00:39:04.579 Melissa Taylor: Thankfully, so many people have come into my life, you being one, Jacintha. So many people have come, and programs that I've done, I… I work tirelessly on my growth. My… my… and, you know, my growth spiritually, emotionally.
00:39:04.810 --> 00:39:12.350 Melissa Taylor: All of it, and it is a forever, a forever thing, and the fact… I remember doing one course.
00:39:12.570 --> 00:39:30.719 Melissa Taylor: And it… it talked about how, kind of like the oxygen mask, right? You need to take care of yourself before you take care of someone else. And I was probably in my 20s. I was the youngest, remember? Everyone else had families, and I was the youngest, and my mom and dad were considering moving away.
00:39:31.110 --> 00:39:34.210 Melissa Taylor: And she was very… very, like…
00:39:34.550 --> 00:39:45.620 Melissa Taylor: how could I do that, and leave my grandchildren, and leave my… my family? And so here was my opportunity to offer my mom a gift, so I thought.
00:39:45.860 --> 00:39:47.500 Melissa Taylor: Let me tell you, it fell flat.
00:39:47.650 --> 00:39:50.960 Melissa Taylor: My gift to her was, you know.
00:39:52.070 --> 00:40:10.099 Melissa Taylor: you've worked so hard to raise us, and, you know, we all love each other, and we're here. It would be such a beautiful and healthy thing for you to do what you wanted. And so, the reaction from that… this was my first attempt to, you know, try this out.
00:40:10.170 --> 00:40:22.269 Melissa Taylor: which everyone assured me wasn't selfish, it's, you know, what we need, which I do truly believe, by the way. You have to follow what suits for you. However, it didn't land that way.
00:40:22.740 --> 00:40:42.339 Melissa Taylor: And so you can imagine, if the basis of my value is on what people think of me and what they think of doing… well, she literally looked at me in absolute disgust and said that would be the most selfish thing she could do, and she couldn't believe that that was something I would suggest.
00:40:42.740 --> 00:40:49.820 Melissa Taylor: So, you see, two comp… it was born completely from, you deserve this too, Mom.
00:40:50.270 --> 00:40:56.020 Melissa Taylor: And it was rejected with a veracity. And that effect… that…
00:40:56.320 --> 00:41:03.910 Melissa Taylor: threw me off that ladder for a long time, because that… well, I'm just talking to you about it today, so clearly it was impactful.
00:41:04.060 --> 00:41:11.310 Melissa Taylor: And so many moments in my life about that. And part of what I'm talking about, you know, breaking down and rebuilding.
00:41:11.430 --> 00:41:23.570 Melissa Taylor: I did it probably many, many, many tens of thousands of times more than I needed to, because that would break me down. I was a product of my environment.
00:41:23.850 --> 00:41:28.879 Melissa Taylor: If someone was happy, I was happy. If someone was angry.
00:41:29.080 --> 00:41:34.649 Melissa Taylor: It was my fault. I didn't suddenly become unhappy, I became responsible.
00:41:35.840 --> 00:41:45.380 Melissa Taylor: It didn't… it could be completely something not to do with me, or not even in my family, but I was responsible. It was something I did. That is a lot of weight to carry.
00:41:45.380 --> 00:41:46.200 Jacinta Yang: Perry.
00:41:46.710 --> 00:41:50.049 Melissa Taylor: And… and I did understand that, wait a second.
00:41:50.380 --> 00:41:55.769 Melissa Taylor: This being in a box, or being this predictable person.
00:41:56.010 --> 00:42:03.729 Melissa Taylor: is not helping me at all. I'm exhausted, I'm beaten down, and I'm tired, and I'm certainly not
00:42:03.730 --> 00:42:18.230 Melissa Taylor: going towards anything that was in my vision. I was just… I was like a pinball in a pinball machine. I was just trying to make that person happy, then that person happy. It's just everyone I came into contact, as long as I could make them happy, then life was grand.
00:42:19.630 --> 00:42:28.029 Melissa Taylor: And it took a lot of courage. Some people literally do not think. They think it's extremely selfish to think of… to think of yourself.
00:42:30.070 --> 00:42:40.330 Melissa Taylor: this'll be an interesting twist, and I hope you can understand, and Jacintha, correct me if you think I need to expound on it, because what gave me the freedom
00:42:40.600 --> 00:42:46.109 Melissa Taylor: was actually to look at what I was responsible for.
00:42:46.590 --> 00:42:55.670 Melissa Taylor: Now, I use the word, and I coach as well, and I coach to my team, and obviously my kids, and I constantly tell them is.
00:42:55.820 --> 00:43:06.450 Melissa Taylor: when something happens, okay, our immediate thing is the reaction. We are the victim. What happened to us? That's our immediate reaction.
00:43:06.510 --> 00:43:22.079 Melissa Taylor: And I immediately say to them, this is fantastic. I want you to pick up a mirror. I don't want you to tell me how bad… because two things can be true. That person could have hurt you. All of those things, I'm not taking that away from you.
00:43:22.370 --> 00:43:31.460 Melissa Taylor: And what is something that you could have done differently, or can do differently right now.
00:43:31.960 --> 00:43:35.640 Melissa Taylor: You cannot leave all of the power
00:43:35.780 --> 00:43:42.360 Melissa Taylor: In that person, in that oppressor. If that person, whether it's a friend and they've hurt you.
00:43:42.650 --> 00:43:47.139 Melissa Taylor: You can't be the victim, and when I speak about this, it's more of…
00:43:47.370 --> 00:43:51.379 Melissa Taylor: Like, you wear it. It's a coat. You wear.
00:43:51.590 --> 00:43:56.010 Melissa Taylor: Inside your house. You know, this is… you are vulnerable.
00:43:56.480 --> 00:44:03.390 Melissa Taylor: And the way to change your vulnerability is to pick up that mirror, because when you become responsible.
00:44:03.780 --> 00:44:15.390 Melissa Taylor: for a thing. I'm not saying for the incident. I'm saying for how I'm feeling right now. Do I own it? Do I objectify? Is there a way that I can surrender?
00:44:15.830 --> 00:44:27.999 Melissa Taylor: and speak with God, the universe, whatever that connection is, I strongly believe we all need that power bigger than ourselves, but you want to be responsible for something, because then.
00:44:28.110 --> 00:44:30.900 Melissa Taylor: You are response able.
00:44:31.380 --> 00:44:40.930 Melissa Taylor: You are not able to respond to any situation until you can own it.
00:44:41.280 --> 00:44:46.849 Melissa Taylor: Lookit, a flag in the wind cannot stop waving.
00:44:47.200 --> 00:44:53.490 Melissa Taylor: It can't… it can't just stop waving. The wind needs to stop in order for it to stop waving.
00:44:53.630 --> 00:44:55.339 Melissa Taylor: You aren't a flag.
00:44:55.970 --> 00:45:00.930 Melissa Taylor: You are filled with… with… that people may not know.
00:45:01.120 --> 00:45:06.969 Melissa Taylor: Opinions and questions. I find we all are filled with so many questions, and we're afraid to ask.
00:45:07.250 --> 00:45:17.309 Melissa Taylor: Because we're supposed to know, right? We're all adults, and if we're not adults, we figure there's a magic key that opens the door when we're 40 and it gives us all the answers to life.
00:45:17.890 --> 00:45:20.559 Melissa Taylor: You know, and it just isn't so.
00:45:20.860 --> 00:45:34.330 Melissa Taylor: It is that development of those skills of loving yourself and saying, wait, I want to be responsible for something, and I am. I'm not leaving this space till I figure out what it is, because I want to be able to respond.
00:45:34.600 --> 00:45:36.130 Jacinta Yang: We're going into a break.
00:45:36.870 --> 00:45:38.269 Jacinta Yang: Thank you.
00:47:14.710 --> 00:47:26.529 Jacinta Yang: Welcome back to Beneath the Calm. Thank you for being with us today. Before we went on break, Melissa was talking about being responsible.
00:47:26.990 --> 00:47:42.299 Jacinta Yang: I'm just gonna touch a little bit about that. We are responsible for ourselves first, before we are responsible for anybody. We are responsible for our reaction, we are responsible to how we…
00:47:42.420 --> 00:47:50.719 Jacinta Yang: take things when somebody's trying to hurt us. They can only hurt us if we allow them, and yes, it's…
00:47:50.920 --> 00:47:54.609 Jacinta Yang: I do say, if we allowed them. And sometimes.
00:47:54.760 --> 00:48:03.099 Jacinta Yang: it's difficult. It's difficult in spite of that, of the fact that we know that we have our own power.
00:48:03.280 --> 00:48:10.519 Jacinta Yang: And we can be only affected if we give the power to the other person who's hurting us, so…
00:48:10.810 --> 00:48:20.249 Jacinta Yang: It's up to us to choose whether we want to own what they are throwing at us, or we just want to just grab it and toss it.
00:48:20.420 --> 00:48:37.339 Jacinta Yang: Toss it aside. Now, I think Melissa wanted me to, share some of the insights and visions, I guess, during our sessions, I do, with my gifts, I do sometimes see visions and messages and…
00:48:37.660 --> 00:48:41.569 Jacinta Yang: You name it. It can happen at any time, I…
00:48:41.760 --> 00:48:45.830 Jacinta Yang: Don't have control over what comes through when.
00:48:46.910 --> 00:49:04.220 Jacinta Yang: But I recall Melissa, on a yearly basis, in January, we always get together. She likes to get some of insights and feel about what… what she wants to know, how her year's gonna be, and
00:49:05.570 --> 00:49:14.440 Jacinta Yang: whether I intend or not, I do sense and feel and see things,
00:49:14.710 --> 00:49:16.979 Jacinta Yang: When someone is talking to me.
00:49:17.230 --> 00:49:18.070 Jacinta Yang: Are you doing that?
00:49:18.070 --> 00:49:19.200 Melissa Taylor: dad thing, Jacintha?
00:49:19.200 --> 00:49:20.269 Jacinta Yang: Yes, so…
00:49:20.270 --> 00:49:21.390 Melissa Taylor: This is the one, yeah.
00:49:21.390 --> 00:49:34.559 Jacinta Yang: Yeah, so I'll… before we do the dad thing, I'll say that I think the first time my connection to your dad was we were having lunch or dinner, for your birthday.
00:49:34.580 --> 00:49:45.540 Jacinta Yang: And I've not… I was just very… I think we were just… we just met recently, and I didn't know anything about your family, who…
00:49:45.740 --> 00:49:56.019 Jacinta Yang: where they are, or what they are, was suddenly I asked her, have you thought of going to Vancouver? Not knowing your father was there, and…
00:49:57.180 --> 00:50:14.829 Jacinta Yang: shortly after our meeting, you found out your dad was ill, and then you had gone over. Anyhow, your… during one of the times when I was getting message for you, your dad had mentioned something about the Northern Lights, and for years, I think it drove us.
00:50:14.830 --> 00:50:15.450 Melissa Taylor: Years!
00:50:15.450 --> 00:50:22.999 Jacinta Yang: crazy, wondering what that meant, because that was the only thing he gave. Just one word, northern light.
00:50:23.000 --> 00:50:36.050 Melissa Taylor: And let me, let me just say here, because, I mean, I can tell you… do you know how many things have Nor… like, there's weights that have Northern, like, there's musicals, there's… I spent a long time searching.
00:50:36.050 --> 00:50:37.460 Jacinta Yang: Well, not only you.
00:50:37.730 --> 00:50:38.430 Melissa Taylor: That's neat.
00:50:38.430 --> 00:50:44.150 Jacinta Yang: And I don't… I don't remember when it was, but I think finally I got this message that
00:50:44.880 --> 00:50:55.559 Jacinta Yang: that Northern Light, that message that you got was that you were the Northern Light. So, expand on that, and share how you feel that resonated with you.
00:50:56.800 --> 00:51:05.149 Melissa Taylor: It, it, it did, it definitely did resonate with me, because there's been, like, an uncanny thing that has followed in my life.
00:51:05.470 --> 00:51:20.369 Melissa Taylor: And I certainly am not claiming to understand it even today. However, I'm more going with the flow of life, so I expect it, I'm, you know, and I enjoy it. But throughout, not but, and…
00:51:20.530 --> 00:51:27.929 Melissa Taylor: Throughout my life, People would gravitate to me in situations where
00:51:28.280 --> 00:51:34.710 Melissa Taylor: maybe you don't even want to be gravitated to, like, you're trying to hide, right?
00:51:34.710 --> 00:51:42.250 Jacinta Yang: That's what the empath energy does, you know? We gravitate people to us because they need.
00:51:42.940 --> 00:51:43.500 Melissa Taylor: Yes!
00:51:43.500 --> 00:51:44.730 Jacinta Yang: support.
00:51:45.380 --> 00:51:56.130 Melissa Taylor: And it was freaky as heck for the majority of my life, because perfect strangers would share, like, in a standing, like, together.
00:51:56.130 --> 00:52:05.909 Melissa Taylor: very personal challenges and things, and it was just so bizarre, and I would attempt to hide, but it would… it would just…
00:52:06.020 --> 00:52:08.479 Melissa Taylor: happen. Didn't matter where you were.
00:52:08.680 --> 00:52:16.239 Melissa Taylor: Soap… That started to… when you said that years later, and it obviously was happening.
00:52:16.490 --> 00:52:35.849 Melissa Taylor: it… it… it actually made sense, and not, like, immediately, my ego self is saying, not… I'm not taking that, like, oh, she's the Northern Light. I'm not taking it like that at all. How I take it is, I have a responsibility while I'm here.
00:52:35.980 --> 00:52:53.869 Melissa Taylor: to be able to not avoid those connections, but I'm meant to make those connections for… and listen, sometimes it's for the other person, and sometimes it's for me, right? And I don't… I don't question that anymore, and I'm very open to…
00:52:53.950 --> 00:52:59.429 Melissa Taylor: To meeting people and being present in that situation and whatever happens.
00:53:00.200 --> 00:53:10.129 Melissa Taylor: one of the… and being responsible, and that really changed my life, and that is… I'm gonna tell you guys, in whatever…
00:53:10.230 --> 00:53:24.610 Melissa Taylor: situation you find yourself, even if you think that's ridiculous and I can't do it, and what do you mean I'm responsible? Right? Remember, I'm talking about response. I want to get you to response able. I'm not telling you to blame, I'm not telling…
00:53:24.790 --> 00:53:28.420 Melissa Taylor: And it might not be about the past, it might be what you can do right now.
00:53:28.560 --> 00:53:31.630 Melissa Taylor: But I want you to understand
00:53:31.960 --> 00:53:47.780 Melissa Taylor: I have not found one person I have come into contact with that has not had that discovery of where they actually do have choice, where they do have control, where they do have help.
00:53:47.880 --> 00:53:53.600 Melissa Taylor: Where there is something to… to actually do instead.
00:53:54.960 --> 00:54:02.600 Melissa Taylor: that's… that's it. I… and I think Jacintha will agree, even with your work, Jacintha.
00:54:03.300 --> 00:54:18.340 Melissa Taylor: I'm an instrument to help. I don't… I'm not the one that solves everything. I strongly believe that you have a God that has this sorted out, and because of our free will, there's confusion, and we want to cross people in our lives.
00:54:18.550 --> 00:54:22.420 Melissa Taylor: Who were able to show us To think a different way.
00:54:22.730 --> 00:54:33.759 Melissa Taylor: You know, I remember… this is a crazy thing, and I know we're almost ending, but it's nuts, but if you're that person that… I remember driving down, and all of a sudden.
00:54:33.760 --> 00:54:42.749 Melissa Taylor: Trees. I've passed trees. I grew up in a campground. There's, like, trees everywhere. And all of a sudden, this tree, not this tree, all the trees.
00:54:42.940 --> 00:54:59.079 Melissa Taylor: looked differently. Like, if you think about it, trees can… you can either see them as sitting on the ground, right? They've got their roots, but they're sitting on the ground, or you can see them grow… like, reaching from the earth, and it's such a slight…
00:54:59.250 --> 00:55:11.509 Melissa Taylor: perspective difference, and quite frankly, I've never been able to get that back again, because when you try to do these things, just like when you try to solve your own problems.
00:55:12.240 --> 00:55:17.760 Melissa Taylor: By yourself, you very rarely are going to get to the best
00:55:17.760 --> 00:55:32.459 Melissa Taylor: solution. You 100% will get band-aids. I should be covered in band-aids from head to toe. I really should. And if you're out there, I'd love to sit and talk with you and tell you about all the band-aids. However.
00:55:32.510 --> 00:55:34.250 Melissa Taylor: You don't need to.
00:55:34.590 --> 00:55:37.500 Melissa Taylor: And you are okay either way.
00:55:37.820 --> 00:55:55.420 Melissa Taylor: I want to be today with Jacintha, with great gratitude, letting me be here, maybe that one who lifts that… that little blind for you, so you can see that… that bit of light, because Jacintha, myself, and so many other people in my world are…
00:55:55.720 --> 00:55:59.639 Melissa Taylor: Are actually really ready to listen.
00:55:59.780 --> 00:56:03.890 Melissa Taylor: And we're not… well, I can speak to myself, I'm not special, I'm just a person.
00:56:04.580 --> 00:56:20.229 Jacinta Yang: Yeah, and speaking about responsibility, we are responsible for our own happiness, and therefore, it's up to us to be willing to take the step to take care of ourselves.
00:56:20.340 --> 00:56:34.169 Jacinta Yang: And sometimes we need help to help take care of ourselves, and when we don't know. When we are suffering, sometimes we do feel very helpless, so I just urge you…
00:56:34.280 --> 00:56:43.220 Jacinta Yang: Any of the listeners that are going through a rough patch, or know someone that's going through a rough patch.
00:56:43.620 --> 00:56:47.300 Jacinta Yang: That, you know, there is support, there's help.
00:56:47.420 --> 00:56:55.500 Jacinta Yang: And not to be, embarrassed or shy, or feel ashamed to reach out, because
00:56:55.830 --> 00:57:07.059 Jacinta Yang: You deserve to be happy. You deserve to make a change. Life will always throw us challenges, but it's up to us how we face them.
00:57:07.290 --> 00:57:12.290 Jacinta Yang: In the beginning, we may not know how to, but when we reach out for support.
00:57:12.410 --> 00:57:31.140 Jacinta Yang: Reach out to either Melissa or me. We will help give you tools. And once you use the tools, get adept to using the tools. And that way, when new challenges arrive, it won't be a challenge, it will be just something to get through. As I was mentioning, I…
00:57:31.400 --> 00:57:47.490 Melissa Taylor: Can I just say one quick thing, Jacintha, on that, before you close out? I want them to know that help, like Jacintha's talking about, doesn't look like an answer. It doesn't look like a doctor with the answer. It looks like
00:57:47.490 --> 00:58:01.970 Melissa Taylor: a change. It looks like a difference. It looks like when you now look at that family picture, you want to smash it. Or it looks like you found a shard of glass that… that belonged in that picture. It will look
00:58:02.070 --> 00:58:04.840 Melissa Taylor: broken. And that's hope!
00:58:05.220 --> 00:58:08.040 Melissa Taylor: That's hope, as long as it's different. Go ahead, sorry.
00:58:08.040 --> 00:58:17.160 Jacinta Yang: And hope is a big deal, actually, when we hope that we can get through it. So, hang on to that hope, I would say. Hang on to that hope.
00:58:17.720 --> 00:58:22.900 Jacinta Yang: And believe that the sun will shine after the rain.
00:58:23.050 --> 00:58:25.900 Jacinta Yang: The rainbow will come up.
00:58:26.050 --> 00:58:29.140 Jacinta Yang: There's light at the end of the tunnel, just belief.
00:58:29.530 --> 00:58:40.480 Jacinta Yang: So, thank you all today, and I hope that both Melissa and I were able to share something that can put a little light in…
00:58:40.910 --> 00:58:47.430 Jacinta Yang: In your world. And, and then you can shine your own light.
00:58:48.690 --> 00:58:49.540 Melissa Taylor: Amen!
00:58:49.810 --> 00:58:51.220 Jacinta Yang: Okay.
00:58:51.900 --> 00:58:53.570 Melissa Taylor: Thanks, Jacintha, so much.
00:58:53.570 --> 00:58:54.340 Jacinta Yang: Thank you.
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