Scott is an Intuitive Energy Practitioner and Transformational Coach. He has attained Reiki Master Teacher, Polarity Therapist, RYSE Teacher, Theta Healer, and Find Your Voice Certification Coach, and is an Amazon Best-Selling author. Through monthly podcasts and one-on-one sessions, Scott is keenly aware of how each individual walks a different path. He realizes that their voice is essential to a blissful life and is eager to work with those curious enough to seek new perspectives and understanding to create the life they envision.
When Scott lost his wife, that began a process of self understanding. In " taking off his Superman Cape" as he describes it, Scott gained the courage to become assertive and curious, beginning a transformational journey of his own. Traveling has become an integral part of his learning process.
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In this heartfelt opening segment of The A Train to Sedona, Linda Marsanico introduces her guest Scott Holmes, a compassionate intuitive energy practitioner whose life has been shaped by profound personal loss and spiritual awakening. Scott shares how the illnesses and transitions of both his daughter and wife opened him to deep reservoirs of resilience, humor, and service—guiding him toward hospice work, Reiki healing, and a broader spiritual path rooted in compassion and presence. Embracing an “accidental Buddhist” philosophy, he reflects on the sacredness of everyday encounters and how conscious kindness, even in a simple smile, can elevate the collective vibration.
In this deeply vulnerable segment of The A Train to Sedona, Scott Holmes recounts how the profound loss of his wife became the unexpected catalyst for his spiritual awakening. At 60 years old, newly alone and stripped of the roles that had once defined him, Scott began a journey inward—embracing Reiki, releasing layers of emotional armor, and discovering the sacred energy within and around him. Through solitude, therapy, and spiritual exploration, he redefined self-love, learned to set boundaries, and now lives with purpose and freedom, helping others heal while embracing his own vibrant, soul-aligned path.
In this powerful continuation of The A Train to Sedona, Scott Holmes shares a mystical and life-shifting pilgrimage to a Burmese Buddhist temple in Penang, Malaysia—an adventure sparked by a message from a spiritual guide during a mediumship session. Trusting intuition and synchronicity, Scott followed the call and experienced a soul retrieval in the temple’s sacred presence, receiving three golden lights into his heart space—an energetic integration that deepened his spiritual journey and accelerated his personal transformation. He then discusses his current mission: a compassionate project to give voice to men of all ages by inviting them to define manhood on their own terms, honoring both the masculine and feminine within, and fostering healing through authentic storytelling, mentorship, and connection.
In the closing segment of The A Train to Sedona, Scott Holmes offers an insightful overview of his healing modalities—explaining how Reiki, polarity therapy, and RYSE facilitate the movement and clearing of energy to support emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being. Emphasizing that healing begins within, Scott encourages daily presence practices and energy rituals as pathways to clarity, balance, and self-empowerment. He also reflects on his co-hosting role alongside Sarah Jane, his upcoming book From Burnout to Burning Bright, and his mission to inspire others around the globe to embrace their own healing, voice, and soul’s journey with compassion and presence.
00:00:48.040 --> 00:00:55.320 Linda Marsanico: Hello, everyone. Welcome to the A Train to Sedona broadcast. I'm Linda Marzanico.
00:00:55.570 --> 00:01:09.590 Linda Marsanico: The A Train to Sedona is also the name of a memoir I wrote about my journey to love and compassion. I share my failures, my successes, in the hopes that my journey will inspire yours.
00:01:10.300 --> 00:01:21.019 Linda Marsanico: You can buy a signed copy on my website at lindamarSanico.com and buy the book page. You can get an unsigned copy from Amazon, Walmart.
00:01:21.180 --> 00:01:23.320 Linda Marsanico: Barnes & Noble, and bookstores.
00:01:24.670 --> 00:01:39.440 Linda Marsanico: I also have a free gift for you. I call it the Cheat Sheet for High Vibration Living. 7 exercises designed to help your energy be vibrant and in the moment. And the one I'm highlighting today is
00:01:39.440 --> 00:01:46.280 Linda Marsanico: being in the moment. There are a number of exercises to help you be in that place where all things are possible.
00:01:46.530 --> 00:01:51.549 Linda Marsanico: You can download a copy on my website at lyndonarsanico.com.
00:01:52.200 --> 00:02:06.720 Linda Marsanico: I have two disclaimers. One, that this broadcast does not establish a professional relationship, and two, that the opinions expressed here do not necessarily reflect talkradio.New York City.
00:02:07.710 --> 00:02:11.859 Linda Marsanico: Today, my guest is Scott Holmes.
00:02:12.310 --> 00:02:15.970 Linda Marsanico: Scott is an intuitive energy practitioner.
00:02:16.550 --> 00:02:18.659 Linda Marsanico: And transformational coach.
00:02:19.010 --> 00:02:26.039 Linda Marsanico: He has attained Reiki Master Teacher, Polarity therapist. Risk teacher.
00:02:26.220 --> 00:02:27.739 Linda Marsanico: Set a healer.
00:02:27.880 --> 00:02:31.689 Linda Marsanico: And find your voice certification coach.
00:02:31.820 --> 00:02:34.899 Linda Marsanico: And is an Amazon best-selling author.
00:02:37.260 --> 00:02:46.289 Linda Marsanico: Through monthly podcasts and one-on-one sessions, Scott is keenly aware of how each individual walks a different path.
00:02:46.500 --> 00:02:52.159 Linda Marsanico: To the realization that their voice is essential to a blissful life.
00:02:52.580 --> 00:03:02.479 Linda Marsanico: And he's eager to work with those curious enough to seek new perspectives and understanding to create the life they envision.
00:03:03.570 --> 00:03:06.160 Linda Marsanico: Welcome to the show, Scott.
00:03:07.240 --> 00:03:09.169 Linda Marsanico: And you need to unmute yourself.
00:03:12.460 --> 00:03:13.609 Scott Holmes HTB: Sorry about that.
00:03:13.930 --> 00:03:17.439 Scott Holmes HTB: I was… I was so intrigued with… with what you were saying that I…
00:03:19.110 --> 00:03:22.509 Scott Holmes HTB: I just got caught up with it. Hi, thank you for having me on, Linda.
00:03:22.510 --> 00:03:24.500 Linda Marsanico: Oh, I'm so glad to have you here.
00:03:24.850 --> 00:03:33.989 Linda Marsanico: My first question, Scott, is what are the influences from your past that bring you to where you are today?
00:03:35.270 --> 00:03:36.620 Scott Holmes HTB: There are many, but of…
00:03:36.970 --> 00:03:44.719 Scott Holmes HTB: The main ones were my daughter, who became very ill, mostly involved when she was 13 months old.
00:03:45.330 --> 00:03:56.759 Scott Holmes HTB: She had, contracted herpes encephalitis simplex2. Long name for basically the herpes virus that, attacked her brain.
00:03:56.910 --> 00:04:01.069 Scott Holmes HTB: And left her just short of, of, passing.
00:04:01.520 --> 00:04:08.700 Scott Holmes HTB: She was 13 months old when she became ill, and after Quite a rollercoaster ride.
00:04:09.230 --> 00:04:12.529 Scott Holmes HTB: She passed at 15 years old.
00:04:14.210 --> 00:04:15.929 Scott Holmes HTB: She was my youngest daughter.
00:04:16.070 --> 00:04:23.050 Scott Holmes HTB: And… Going through that, it taught me quite a few things about life.
00:04:23.200 --> 00:04:25.160 Scott Holmes HTB: about survival?
00:04:25.560 --> 00:04:31.020 Scott Holmes HTB: My own mortality, which I lost at a very young age, And…
00:04:31.370 --> 00:04:37.109 Scott Holmes HTB: Being able to survive those things that, as a parent, you don't think you ever could.
00:04:38.140 --> 00:04:42.990 Linda Marsanico: Yes. What a loss that is. How many children do you have, Scott?
00:04:42.990 --> 00:04:46.389 Scott Holmes HTB: She had 3 daughters, and she was the youngest of the 3.
00:04:46.650 --> 00:04:47.560 Linda Marsanico: I see.
00:04:48.010 --> 00:04:52.760 Scott Holmes HTB: What it taught us about resilience, about, the entire family.
00:04:52.930 --> 00:04:57.099 Scott Holmes HTB: And… and about, how to get through it.
00:04:57.250 --> 00:05:03.110 Scott Holmes HTB: With humor, in spite of… if anyone who's been in a hospital
00:05:03.380 --> 00:05:11.340 Scott Holmes HTB: in emergency rooms and the like on a regular basis, you understand Black humor, where…
00:05:11.780 --> 00:05:22.239 Scott Holmes HTB: Things that wouldn't be funny or would be outrageous to say in regular conversation becomes hilarious in that moment when you're dealing with doctors and nurses who see this all the time.
00:05:24.160 --> 00:05:31.240 Linda Marsanico: Well, humor can be helpful for the endorphins of the brain to lighten up a situation. It's…
00:05:32.300 --> 00:05:34.899 Linda Marsanico: Something I never liked to leave home without.
00:05:34.990 --> 00:05:48.639 Scott Holmes HTB: Humor and curiosity are the two things that I never leave home without, as well as that well of love that you try to carry around with you, and understanding compassion.
00:05:49.090 --> 00:05:50.419 Scott Holmes HTB: Really, the second…
00:05:50.800 --> 00:05:58.919 Scott Holmes HTB: major hurdle that I had in my life was my wife, at 38 years old, was diagnosed with
00:05:59.320 --> 00:06:00.849 Scott Holmes HTB: Breast cancer.
00:06:01.150 --> 00:06:06.349 Scott Holmes HTB: And we had a 20-year rollercoaster ride with her.
00:06:06.500 --> 00:06:08.559 Linda Marsanico: Having gone through that.
00:06:10.010 --> 00:06:18.410 Scott Holmes HTB: She was a warrior. She… You know, on our fifth year anniversary of being declared cancer-free.
00:06:18.580 --> 00:06:20.740 Scott Holmes HTB: She found another lump.
00:06:20.950 --> 00:06:25.849 Scott Holmes HTB: And had to go through it again, as well as chemo, as well as radiation.
00:06:26.080 --> 00:06:30.740 Scott Holmes HTB: And that just… just started 20 years of…
00:06:31.200 --> 00:06:39.719 Scott Holmes HTB: Up and down of FDA studies, of tests, of hospital visits. She was a lifelong teacher.
00:06:40.070 --> 00:06:42.040 Scott Holmes HTB: She taught for 25 years.
00:06:42.540 --> 00:06:46.860 Scott Holmes HTB: And her… Happy place was the classroom.
00:06:47.280 --> 00:06:51.460 Scott Holmes HTB: It really, really, really was, and when she had to give that up.
00:06:52.830 --> 00:06:59.359 Scott Holmes HTB: that's when she went from being a warrior to being a cancer patient. And it changed her whole perspective.
00:06:59.870 --> 00:07:05.809 Scott Holmes HTB: And so, over the years, I've, I've helped One-on-one counseling with,
00:07:05.910 --> 00:07:08.260 Scott Holmes HTB: Men and women going through breast cancer.
00:07:08.380 --> 00:07:20.979 Scott Holmes HTB: I do hospice, work now also, for those going through, end-of-life transition. And all of that is because that is the gift
00:07:22.950 --> 00:07:27.220 Scott Holmes HTB: I say it's a gift, but it's the ability to deal with all of that.
00:07:27.920 --> 00:07:30.020 Scott Holmes HTB: I never thought I could.
00:07:30.150 --> 00:07:37.399 Scott Holmes HTB: And going through grief, I never thought I'd be able to counsel others about it, because I never thought I could get through it.
00:07:37.950 --> 00:07:40.369 Linda Marsanico: Well, it is quite a gift, Scott.
00:07:40.890 --> 00:07:46.010 Linda Marsanico: To be able to deal with that, to get through it with… Humor and resilience.
00:07:46.770 --> 00:07:51.569 Scott Holmes HTB: Yeah, it really is. You know, I, I…
00:07:51.890 --> 00:07:58.449 Scott Holmes HTB: Reiki… I do Reiki, self-Riki every day, but I do Reiki with clients.
00:07:58.630 --> 00:08:05.790 Scott Holmes HTB: And doing it with… at end of life is interesting because it brings relief,
00:08:06.340 --> 00:08:14.040 Scott Holmes HTB: from the constant anxiety of people who are nearing transition. It relaxes their body physically, it relaxes their mind.
00:08:14.270 --> 00:08:21.280 Scott Holmes HTB: And I often say that anything that I've ever given in that realm.
00:08:21.570 --> 00:08:23.340 Scott Holmes HTB: I've gotten back tenfold.
00:08:23.420 --> 00:08:24.510 Linda Marsanico: Just…
00:08:25.080 --> 00:08:34.400 Scott Holmes HTB: The understanding, the, the, realization, the perspective of people who are nearing that transition.
00:08:34.850 --> 00:08:39.680 Linda Marsanico: Such a vulnerable time for them, and then for you to be so sensitive and
00:08:40.580 --> 00:08:44.449 Linda Marsanico: Aware from your own life experiences to be able to help them.
00:08:45.390 --> 00:08:53.760 Scott Holmes HTB: Yeah, it's… Doing hospice work is interesting. You get to do a 40-hour workshop
00:08:54.020 --> 00:08:55.920 Scott Holmes HTB: So that you can donate your time.
00:08:57.980 --> 00:09:02.320 Scott Holmes HTB: So it's, really, they do an effective
00:09:02.500 --> 00:09:08.560 Scott Holmes HTB: Training program to be able to get rid of all of your Preconceptions, judgments.
00:09:09.300 --> 00:09:12.589 Scott Holmes HTB: Are any expectations of what end of life looks like?
00:09:13.310 --> 00:09:15.839 Linda Marsanico: I would imagine it's quite a big responsibility.
00:09:16.240 --> 00:09:19.370 Linda Marsanico: So, I understand the 40-hour work, shop.
00:09:19.860 --> 00:09:35.830 Scott Holmes HTB: It really is, and… but I'll tell you, it is so well… well worth it in the time that I've put into it, the people I've met, the families that I've been able to help through that… that time. It really is rewarding work.
00:09:35.850 --> 00:09:39.919 Scott Holmes HTB: And something I plan on doing for the rest of my days.
00:09:41.770 --> 00:09:45.579 Linda Marsanico: So, Scott, what would you say the role of spirituality is in your life?
00:09:47.380 --> 00:10:02.909 Scott Holmes HTB: spirituality, I've come to define it in very different ways. I was raised Protestant, married a nice Irish Catholic girl who, who then we raised our children in the Catholic Church, and I, and I converted.
00:10:03.170 --> 00:10:07.280 Scott Holmes HTB: And as I've come through on this end of life,
00:10:07.510 --> 00:10:11.560 Scott Holmes HTB: I call myself the accidental… accidental Buddhist.
00:10:12.010 --> 00:10:17.159 Scott Holmes HTB: I traveled to, Thailand, Vietnam.
00:10:17.400 --> 00:10:23.159 Scott Holmes HTB: and throughout, Southeast Asia, and I found that I was
00:10:24.770 --> 00:10:28.909 Scott Holmes HTB: really accepting of Buddhist mentality, the Buddhist weight of life.
00:10:29.210 --> 00:10:37.699 Scott Holmes HTB: just in their perspective. Here, through religion, we always think of God as out there. Eastern religions find that
00:10:38.020 --> 00:10:39.609 Scott Holmes HTB: God is within.
00:10:39.850 --> 00:10:40.490 Linda Marsanico: Yes.
00:10:40.490 --> 00:10:45.419 Scott Holmes HTB: And I always felt that, and didn't realize that it was a thing.
00:10:45.600 --> 00:10:47.419 Scott Holmes HTB: Until I, I…
00:10:47.710 --> 00:10:57.169 Scott Holmes HTB: learned Buddhist and Hindu and Taoist, practices, and realized how we are all the essence of
00:10:58.350 --> 00:11:02.040 Scott Holmes HTB: higher power. And we are,
00:11:02.630 --> 00:11:08.630 Scott Holmes HTB: connected to Source, we are connected to God, we are in however you perceive Him to be.
00:11:08.780 --> 00:11:11.989 Scott Holmes HTB: And… Well, we are a reflection of that.
00:11:12.270 --> 00:11:15.539 Scott Holmes HTB: And so, finding compassion in everyday
00:11:16.140 --> 00:11:28.019 Scott Holmes HTB: experiences, finding that compassion in, anyone we meet, if we can Make someone's life… Even one degree better.
00:11:28.020 --> 00:11:28.910 Linda Marsanico: Woohoo.
00:11:28.910 --> 00:11:30.580 Scott Holmes HTB: I, I always do that.
00:11:31.890 --> 00:11:39.299 Linda Marsanico: I think of compassion as an everyday experience, as you're saying. It's one of my quotes that I've,
00:11:39.740 --> 00:11:42.100 Linda Marsanico: that I… I think that we have…
00:11:42.370 --> 00:11:56.510 Linda Marsanico: an interaction. We can smile, we can… we have choices to make in these interactions. And so we can make a choice to be loving rather than irritable. You know, when I walk down the street and someone smiles at me.
00:11:56.970 --> 00:12:01.470 Linda Marsanico: I feel like a burst of sunshine. A simple thing like that.
00:12:02.260 --> 00:12:06.729 Linda Marsanico: and… I… I choose to smile at others as well.
00:12:07.270 --> 00:12:08.050 Linda Marsanico: So…
00:12:09.100 --> 00:12:14.280 Scott Holmes HTB: My… my wife is one of those people that
00:12:15.010 --> 00:12:28.980 Scott Holmes HTB: people are attracted to her. She… she smiles at cashiers and waitresses and people walking by, and she'll comment, oh my goodness, that… that dress looks gorgeous on you today. Just…
00:12:29.590 --> 00:12:34.150 Scott Holmes HTB: She… she just throws it out there, and… And it's not…
00:12:34.390 --> 00:12:43.059 Scott Holmes HTB: It's not fake, it's not illusory, it's… it's who she is, and she sees the best in people, and wants them to know
00:12:44.190 --> 00:12:52.559 Scott Holmes HTB: That, you know, what she sees about them. And it's absolutely, changed my perspective on life.
00:12:52.730 --> 00:13:00.180 Scott Holmes HTB: I've often said that it was a million-mile journey for me, from my head To my heart.
00:13:01.160 --> 00:13:04.139 Scott Holmes HTB: And being… being a man, it was always very, very hard.
00:13:04.570 --> 00:13:11.010 Scott Holmes HTB: and very… Self-involved, I guess, very insular.
00:13:11.360 --> 00:13:18.380 Scott Holmes HTB: And she really has helped me come out of that, and really to be more compassionate in every day.
00:13:19.040 --> 00:13:21.520 Scott Holmes HTB: Experiences.
00:13:22.530 --> 00:13:29.660 Linda Marsanico: When I think of the experiences that we have and the fact that we think and feel and act, there's an energy that goes out.
00:13:30.330 --> 00:13:36.180 Linda Marsanico: That is felt by all, so I've done blogs about this. I call us broadcast journalists.
00:13:36.790 --> 00:13:44.970 Linda Marsanico: And so, you know, you… I'm sure you've walked into a room, and you could feel the vibe in the room, either it's positive or negative.
00:13:45.100 --> 00:13:53.609 Linda Marsanico: but to… Be conscious of what we're thinking and feeling and doing, saying, is an important
00:13:54.580 --> 00:14:03.140 Linda Marsanico: way of being to add to the beauty and the love and compassion in the world. Now, we are coming up to a…
00:14:03.390 --> 00:14:04.940 Linda Marsanico: commercial break.
00:14:05.210 --> 00:14:10.239 Linda Marsanico: And when we come back, I'd like to ask you about
00:14:10.520 --> 00:14:13.140 Linda Marsanico: The start of your spiritual journey.
00:14:14.370 --> 00:14:22.539 Linda Marsanico: And so, for our listeners, and also, later on in the show, Scott, there's a story about this
00:14:22.710 --> 00:14:26.340 Linda Marsanico: Buddhist temple in Malaysia that will get you to tell.
00:14:26.790 --> 00:14:34.300 Linda Marsanico: But anyway, for listeners, come back after the break, and we'll talk to Scott about the beginning of his spiritual journey.
00:16:47.860 --> 00:16:58.660 Linda Marsanico: Hello, everyone. Welcome back to the A Train to Sedona broadcast. I'm Linda Marcanico, with my guest, Scott Holmes.
00:16:58.980 --> 00:17:01.389 Linda Marsanico: And Scott, you'll need to mute yourself.
00:17:05.930 --> 00:17:09.110 Linda Marsanico: Okay, so I'd like to find out
00:17:09.819 --> 00:17:12.709 Linda Marsanico: When did you start your spiritual journey?
00:17:13.280 --> 00:17:16.310 Scott Holmes HTB: I was a very late bluer. Very late.
00:17:16.540 --> 00:17:19.550 Scott Holmes HTB: It was, after my wife passed.
00:17:19.760 --> 00:17:27.479 Scott Holmes HTB: And here I was. I had… my daughters had families of their own. I was living in the house.
00:17:28.280 --> 00:17:31.570 Scott Holmes HTB: Now, very quiet, and I had the cat.
00:17:32.360 --> 00:17:37.540 Scott Holmes HTB: And the cat really didn't like long conversations. I don't know what it is about cats, they're very impatient that way.
00:17:39.030 --> 00:17:41.669 Scott Holmes HTB: But it was the first time in my life that I had been alone.
00:17:42.010 --> 00:17:45.000 Scott Holmes HTB: I got married very young, I was married at 19, I had…
00:17:45.320 --> 00:17:49.149 Scott Holmes HTB: My first daughter at 20, and at 25, I had 3 children.
00:17:50.130 --> 00:17:53.090 Scott Holmes HTB: So, life was very, very busy.
00:17:53.410 --> 00:17:59.290 Scott Holmes HTB: And at 60 years old, I finally found myself Alone, for the first time.
00:17:59.460 --> 00:18:06.019 Scott Holmes HTB: And I did not know how… who I was, what I should feel, how I could feel, all of that.
00:18:06.620 --> 00:18:07.940 Scott Holmes HTB: A friend of mine said.
00:18:08.080 --> 00:18:13.240 Scott Holmes HTB: let's go… let's go to Reiki. I'm like, okay, what do I have to lose?
00:18:14.490 --> 00:18:22.080 Scott Holmes HTB: And it was the very first time that I realized that I could see, feel, touch energy. I could see it. I could feel it. I could…
00:18:22.270 --> 00:18:24.910 Scott Holmes HTB: Start to… to use energy.
00:18:26.350 --> 00:18:32.020 Scott Holmes HTB: Reiki 1 went to Reiki 2, Reiki 2 went to, Masters.
00:18:32.330 --> 00:18:36.609 Scott Holmes HTB: In Reiki. I've since taught it a few times.
00:18:37.450 --> 00:18:40.280 Scott Holmes HTB: And it's all about energy. We are energy.
00:18:40.410 --> 00:18:47.650 Scott Holmes HTB: No matter what we try and do, we are energy. No matter what modality you do, and I've done more than I listed there.
00:18:48.010 --> 00:18:51.760 Scott Holmes HTB: To, to learn about Who and what we are.
00:18:52.810 --> 00:18:57.740 Scott Holmes HTB: How energy moves, how it can work, In working with clients.
00:18:58.090 --> 00:19:05.350 Scott Holmes HTB: Teaching them. My job is to teach them how to do it themselves. My job is to have them heal themselves.
00:19:05.790 --> 00:19:10.000 Scott Holmes HTB: And that spirituality, whether it was,
00:19:10.180 --> 00:19:21.460 Scott Holmes HTB: when I went to India a couple years ago, having… Sitting on a mountain, in India.
00:19:22.070 --> 00:19:27.139 Scott Holmes HTB: And not hearing a thing except for the monkey that was in the tree behind me.
00:19:28.240 --> 00:19:34.320 Scott Holmes HTB: And being comfortable No one knew in the world knew where I was.
00:19:34.510 --> 00:19:36.620 Linda Marsanico: And having complete.
00:19:36.620 --> 00:19:39.389 Scott Holmes HTB: Disconnection from everything except for myself.
00:19:39.730 --> 00:19:40.900 Linda Marsanico: How beautiful.
00:19:41.400 --> 00:19:47.330 Scott Holmes HTB: Yeah, and being… and being… Comfortable with that.
00:19:48.430 --> 00:19:51.700 Scott Holmes HTB: And then that knowing, and I find spirituality
00:19:52.060 --> 00:20:01.499 Scott Holmes HTB: It's finding yourself, is refinding yourself, is taking all the layers that have been laid on you through life, no matter what it has given you, and being able
00:20:01.900 --> 00:20:07.299 Scott Holmes HTB: To see yourself for the first time, and listen, and to hear that voice that we all have within us.
00:20:07.980 --> 00:20:14.120 Scott Holmes HTB: And that's where, for me, where spirituality really came from was… That listening.
00:20:14.590 --> 00:20:15.890 Linda Marsanico: Understanding.
00:20:15.900 --> 00:20:19.230 Scott Holmes HTB: Knowing you are a part of something bigger than yourself.
00:20:19.420 --> 00:20:19.880 Linda Marsanico: Yes.
00:20:19.880 --> 00:20:21.279 Scott Holmes HTB: And then it's okay.
00:20:22.750 --> 00:20:34.079 Linda Marsanico: It's wonderful to feel connected. In my book, The A Train to Sedona, I have tips, and one tip is faith and the knowledge that we are all connected.
00:20:34.230 --> 00:20:41.200 Linda Marsanico: And of course, prayer goes into that as well, because when I pray, I know that I'm not alone, I know that
00:20:42.180 --> 00:20:47.150 Linda Marsanico: I will be responded to. It's… it's a very fine feeling.
00:20:47.940 --> 00:20:48.979 Linda Marsanico: To know that.
00:20:49.330 --> 00:21:07.310 Scott Holmes HTB: It absolutely is, and no matter how we do it, in every religion, no matter where it is, they do the same thing, whether it's through prayer or meditation or however you want to speak it, through the… I've used the mala, 108 beads, rosary beads are…
00:21:07.620 --> 00:21:08.080 Linda Marsanico: Yes.
00:21:08.080 --> 00:21:17.360 Scott Holmes HTB: really much the same thing, and in… in every religion, there's a… that's similar. When you're praying for someone, you're sending energy to them. So, however we…
00:21:17.500 --> 00:21:21.850 Scott Holmes HTB: Phrase it, or… or kind of paint… painted.
00:21:21.990 --> 00:21:25.220 Scott Holmes HTB: We're doing the same thing, and that is connecting with other people.
00:21:25.490 --> 00:21:32.500 Scott Holmes HTB: And that's… And that's where we are with… with… throughout all of this, however we name it.
00:21:32.880 --> 00:21:35.150 Scott Holmes HTB: It's connectivity… connectivity.
00:21:36.190 --> 00:21:39.540 Linda Marsanico: Yes, sending out the energy from prayer to others.
00:21:41.010 --> 00:21:44.359 Linda Marsanico: when I… feel I can't do anything.
00:21:45.140 --> 00:21:49.460 Linda Marsanico: For someone, I send love from my higher self to their higher self.
00:21:49.890 --> 00:21:51.739 Linda Marsanico: I just keep sending love.
00:21:51.960 --> 00:21:58.359 Linda Marsanico: And that feels very… Satisfying and peaceful to me.
00:21:59.790 --> 00:22:01.399 Scott Holmes HTB: Now, have you…
00:22:02.130 --> 00:22:07.810 Scott Holmes HTB: to ask you a question, when you do that for people, do they ever say, I felt it?
00:22:08.570 --> 00:22:10.449 Linda Marsanico: I haven't had that experience.
00:22:11.880 --> 00:22:23.290 Scott Holmes HTB: when… I always send unconditional love and healing light, very much the same way you do. It's in prayer and meditation, and I visualize that person, and I… and I send it to them. And…
00:22:23.720 --> 00:22:26.800 Scott Holmes HTB: I… I let them… I let them know that I've…
00:22:27.170 --> 00:22:31.329 Scott Holmes HTB: They have it, and it's there, whether… and they can receive it at any time.
00:22:31.750 --> 00:22:40.879 Scott Holmes HTB: I always think of it as a package that's delivered, and they can open it at any time that they can when they're alone, when they can really do that.
00:22:41.130 --> 00:22:49.589 Scott Holmes HTB: And it changes them, because they're being recognized, they're being seen, they're being thought of, they realize that you have sent that intention.
00:22:49.980 --> 00:22:55.549 Scott Holmes HTB: And it… and it really changes how they feel in that moment.
00:22:55.710 --> 00:23:00.790 Scott Holmes HTB: And it's pretty, gratifying.
00:23:01.220 --> 00:23:06.240 Scott Holmes HTB: Yes. That you can… that you can change somebody's day by… by, you know, doing that.
00:23:06.750 --> 00:23:07.700 Linda Marsanico: Indeed.
00:23:09.360 --> 00:23:14.560 Linda Marsanico: So… How did the loss of your wife kickstart your inner understanding?
00:23:17.610 --> 00:23:20.130 Scott Holmes HTB: I had always been dependent on her,
00:23:20.480 --> 00:23:27.850 Scott Holmes HTB: to kind of gauge where I was. She was… my first wife was my compass in that respect.
00:23:28.140 --> 00:23:28.590 Linda Marsanico: Mmm.
00:23:29.020 --> 00:23:32.599 Scott Holmes HTB: And… when she was gone, I…
00:23:32.900 --> 00:23:37.400 Scott Holmes HTB: really had no compass whatsoever. I didn't… didn't have a gauge.
00:23:37.750 --> 00:23:42.270 Scott Holmes HTB: And it was that learning of self, that understanding of self.
00:23:43.180 --> 00:23:47.010 Scott Holmes HTB: I realized I had had so many layers of armor for survival.
00:23:47.710 --> 00:23:59.949 Scott Holmes HTB: the loss of my… our daughter, and then, her trials and tribulations going through it, that I had put so many layers of armor on just to get through the day, just to be able to stand upright.
00:24:00.200 --> 00:24:04.880 Scott Holmes HTB: I was the rock that held… I felt… I was the rock that held everything together.
00:24:05.290 --> 00:24:13.230 Scott Holmes HTB: And… Realizing that that armor just took so much energy and so much out of me.
00:24:14.050 --> 00:24:19.399 Scott Holmes HTB: And so I had gone to, therapy for about 5 years after she passed.
00:24:19.630 --> 00:24:24.830 Scott Holmes HTB: And in doing that, I shed… that armor… One layer at a time.
00:24:25.120 --> 00:24:28.710 Scott Holmes HTB: Until I was able to kind of walk upright.
00:24:29.030 --> 00:24:32.980 Scott Holmes HTB: and… and feel like I was… Just me.
00:24:33.260 --> 00:24:35.720 Scott Holmes HTB: I laid myself bare and vulnerable.
00:24:36.260 --> 00:24:40.319 Scott Holmes HTB: I had a therapist who would not let me get away with a thing, by the way.
00:24:40.650 --> 00:24:42.179 Linda Marsanico: Great person, great person.
00:24:42.180 --> 00:24:53.180 Scott Holmes HTB: And she was amazing. And she would say to me, you know, two years ago, you said to me this, is that really how it is? Or which one is… which one's right? And she would call me on everything.
00:24:53.440 --> 00:25:04.649 Scott Holmes HTB: There were days driving to the therapist where I would say, okay, how… how can I get out of this? Can I tell her I'm sick? Can I… can I… can I tell her? Because I… I have no idea what I'm going to talk about, I don't know what I'm going to get into.
00:25:06.090 --> 00:25:14.860 Scott Holmes HTB: We also did EMDR, if you're familiar with it, where it was tracking and would bring you back to different points in your life.
00:25:14.980 --> 00:25:26.639 Scott Holmes HTB: So that you could recreate it, you could relive it, but also from this perspective of being a 60-year-old man who's going through it, and not an 8-year-old, or a 12-year-old, or a 15-year-old. Yes, yes.
00:25:26.810 --> 00:25:32.120 Scott Holmes HTB: And those small traumas and large traumas in your life, and be able to understand them.
00:25:32.560 --> 00:25:38.400 Scott Holmes HTB: And it really… freed me from a lot of those things that I had been conditioned.
00:25:39.410 --> 00:25:48.160 Scott Holmes HTB: And, when I thought about myself, and how I saw myself, and it repositioned how I understood myself to be.
00:25:49.060 --> 00:25:52.500 Scott Holmes HTB: So that now I can… Live freely.
00:25:52.740 --> 00:25:56.789 Scott Holmes HTB: I often say that I'm living my best 18-year-old life.
00:25:57.590 --> 00:26:13.380 Scott Holmes HTB: When I was graduating high school, I wanted to be a teacher. I wanted to write. I wanted to travel. I wanted to do all of those things. I wanted to experience everything. And now, I travel internationally two or three times a year. I, I'm teaching, I'm writing.
00:26:13.610 --> 00:26:19.950 Scott Holmes HTB: constantly. And those writing… that writing, that collaboration, I do a lot of collaborative writing.
00:26:20.770 --> 00:26:24.090 Scott Holmes HTB: Allows me to open up and see those things.
00:26:24.090 --> 00:26:24.530 Linda Marsanico: Yes.
00:26:24.530 --> 00:26:30.010 Scott Holmes HTB: really deeply. It allows me to express myself in ways that I never could before.
00:26:30.800 --> 00:26:36.990 Scott Holmes HTB: And it's just an amazing ride that I'm finding that at 67 years old.
00:26:37.440 --> 00:26:41.659 Scott Holmes HTB: I have just started and realized I've only done two-thirds of my life.
00:26:42.210 --> 00:26:44.320 Scott Holmes HTB: Because I have a contract to…
00:26:44.660 --> 00:26:51.450 Scott Holmes HTB: to 100 years old, and I am bound and determined to make this last third of my life to be the best.
00:26:51.810 --> 00:26:53.389 Scott Holmes HTB: It could possibly be.
00:26:53.550 --> 00:26:57.540 Scott Holmes HTB: The Tai Chi that I'm learning now is really helping with that also.
00:26:59.040 --> 00:27:04.019 Linda Marsanico: I know several people, including myself and you now, who would like to live to 100.
00:27:04.350 --> 00:27:12.689 Linda Marsanico: I'm very interested in your statement that you took your Superman cape off. Will you tell our listeners about that?
00:27:12.690 --> 00:27:18.080 Scott Holmes HTB: People pleaser. I was… people pleaser extraordinary.
00:27:18.930 --> 00:27:23.029 Scott Holmes HTB: So, anytime anybody would call, I would…
00:27:23.200 --> 00:27:28.300 Scott Holmes HTB: Immediately put my cape on, I'd fly off to solve their problem, no matter what was going on in my life.
00:27:28.710 --> 00:27:34.959 Scott Holmes HTB: And that was… and I… and I felt like that was my job, was to save everyone.
00:27:35.090 --> 00:27:39.860 Scott Holmes HTB: Absolutely save everyone. And so the first call that people had was to me.
00:27:40.080 --> 00:27:50.419 Scott Holmes HTB: Whether it was a flat tire, whether it was someone got hurt, or somebody was in the hospital, the first person that they called was me, and I would always be there.
00:27:50.630 --> 00:27:53.899 Scott Holmes HTB: And never… I always dropped whatever I was doing.
00:27:54.360 --> 00:27:58.630 Scott Holmes HTB: As you well know, when you do that, the problem is
00:27:59.250 --> 00:28:08.879 Scott Holmes HTB: Whatever you're working on, you still have to get back to, and you already use up all that time for somebody else solving their problems.
00:28:09.000 --> 00:28:12.179 Scott Holmes HTB: So therefore, my problems just got higher and higher and higher.
00:28:12.440 --> 00:28:16.799 Scott Holmes HTB: And I never truly got through all the things that I needed to.
00:28:17.860 --> 00:28:22.630 Scott Holmes HTB: So I… Started putting my cape in the closet, on the hangar.
00:28:22.860 --> 00:28:30.200 Scott Holmes HTB: So that when people called, I would take a breath and say, I can't right now.
00:28:30.390 --> 00:28:33.309 Scott Holmes HTB: I'll be able to in a couple hours, or tomorrow.
00:28:34.180 --> 00:28:36.150 Scott Holmes HTB: And amazingly.
00:28:36.340 --> 00:28:44.870 Scott Holmes HTB: they started finding ways to solve their own problems. I had trained my daughters as they got older, even if they were married.
00:28:45.570 --> 00:28:46.920 Scott Holmes HTB: To call me first.
00:28:47.510 --> 00:28:49.840 Scott Holmes HTB: Well, they started asking their husbands.
00:28:50.060 --> 00:28:52.949 Scott Holmes HTB: to be able to do those. They ask people, their friends.
00:28:53.520 --> 00:28:59.579 Scott Holmes HTB: And it was amazing how those calls just really stopped coming.
00:29:00.610 --> 00:29:02.330 Scott Holmes HTB: I would still help them.
00:29:03.150 --> 00:29:05.070 Scott Holmes HTB: But I wasn't the first person they called.
00:29:06.580 --> 00:29:07.989 Linda Marsanico: How liberating.
00:29:08.210 --> 00:29:09.550 Scott Holmes HTB: Amazingly so.
00:29:09.770 --> 00:29:13.489 Linda Marsanico: And you allowed people to find other resources.
00:29:13.990 --> 00:29:16.979 Linda Marsanico: Did you get any flak from your daughters?
00:29:16.980 --> 00:29:21.920 Scott Holmes HTB: Absolutely. Absolutely. Dad, you've changed.
00:29:22.260 --> 00:29:26.049 Scott Holmes HTB: No, I haven't changed. I've just stopped saying yes. That's all.
00:29:27.620 --> 00:29:38.569 Linda Marsanico: Takes a lot of courage to be assertive, because people around us don't… may not be comfortable with our changes, but it's so essential to the human spirit to be assertive.
00:29:39.270 --> 00:29:44.950 Scott Holmes HTB: Absolutely. I was always the… I was… I stopped being the people pleaser. I still like to please people.
00:29:46.060 --> 00:29:48.159 Scott Holmes HTB: But only on my terms, Bill.
00:29:48.950 --> 00:29:51.020 Linda Marsanico: When you can afford to emotionally.
00:29:51.190 --> 00:29:56.659 Scott Holmes HTB: Exactly, exactly, and that's… Self-preservation, self-love.
00:29:56.840 --> 00:30:09.600 Scott Holmes HTB: You know, people talk about taking care of themselves, but it's not getting a pedicure, a manicure, you know, a massage. It's about preservation of yourself, and putting those… and maintaining those boundaries around us.
00:30:09.600 --> 00:30:19.750 Linda Marsanico: Yes, saying no, setting boundaries, and revealing who we are to the world. This is who I am, and this is what I need. I think it's an essential part of compassion.
00:30:20.120 --> 00:30:29.929 Linda Marsanico: To be assertive. I don't think we can be compassionate without assertion. People may differ in their opinion, of my opinion, but it's what I feel is so…
00:30:30.830 --> 00:30:33.470 Linda Marsanico: We're getting ready for a break.
00:30:33.660 --> 00:30:36.899 Linda Marsanico: Scott, and when we come back.
00:30:37.990 --> 00:30:41.599 Linda Marsanico: I want to make sure we have room for two things.
00:30:42.100 --> 00:30:47.300 Linda Marsanico: Why it has become important for you to give a voice to men, and your…
00:30:47.790 --> 00:30:49.930 Linda Marsanico: story about the Buddhist temple.
00:30:50.410 --> 00:30:53.960 Linda Marsanico: So, we'll start off with the Buddhist… which do you want to start off with?
00:30:53.960 --> 00:30:55.730 Scott Holmes HTB: We'll do the Buddhist temple, yes.
00:30:55.730 --> 00:31:00.840 Linda Marsanico: And we'll make room. Sounds good. So, listeners, come back for a juicy conversation.
00:32:46.320 --> 00:33:05.010 Linda Marsanico: Hello, everyone. Welcome back to the A Train to Sedona broadcast. I'm Linda Marasanico, with my guest, Scott Holmes. And I'm asking Scott to tell a story, a very interesting story, about a Buddhist temple in Malaysia. You have the floor.
00:33:05.650 --> 00:33:06.910 Scott Holmes HTB: Thank you very much.
00:33:07.440 --> 00:33:10.100 Scott Holmes HTB: So it starts… starts off with…
00:33:11.170 --> 00:33:14.759 Scott Holmes HTB: we… my best friend and I were heading to Vietnam.
00:33:15.570 --> 00:33:19.550 Scott Holmes HTB: And… We had… we had,
00:33:19.680 --> 00:33:26.210 Scott Holmes HTB: gone to be… we were heading to Vietnam, and I went to my… a friend of mine who was a medium, Samantha.
00:33:27.550 --> 00:33:32.840 Scott Holmes HTB: I had been doing some work with her and sat down for a reading. I wasn't quite sure what it was.
00:33:33.560 --> 00:33:35.459 Scott Holmes HTB: As I'm sitting across from her.
00:33:36.050 --> 00:33:38.160 Scott Holmes HTB: She looks off to the side.
00:33:38.450 --> 00:33:41.500 Scott Holmes HTB: And she starts talking to somebody who I can't see.
00:33:42.220 --> 00:33:47.619 Scott Holmes HTB: And she's almost arguing with him. What do you mean? He has to… I don't understand. What…
00:33:48.040 --> 00:33:51.599 Scott Holmes HTB: What is a Penang? I don't… she kept arguing with him.
00:33:52.070 --> 00:33:53.000 Scott Holmes HTB: And…
00:33:53.240 --> 00:34:00.230 Scott Holmes HTB: I said, what was that about? She says, it was one of your guides. I said, really? He said, yes, very short-tempered, and he stormed off.
00:34:00.470 --> 00:34:06.060 Scott Holmes HTB: I said, well, what did he say? He said, tell him he has to go to Penang, to the Burmese.
00:34:06.490 --> 00:34:08.150 Scott Holmes HTB: Buddhist temple.
00:34:10.409 --> 00:34:14.340 Scott Holmes HTB: Three… those are two… two sentences I'd never heard before in my life.
00:34:14.980 --> 00:34:18.840 Scott Holmes HTB: I said, so what does that mean? She says, I don't know.
00:34:20.900 --> 00:34:25.839 Scott Holmes HTB: And I'm sure I didn't. So after the session, we looked it up in Penang.
00:34:26.360 --> 00:34:32.249 Scott Holmes HTB: Which I didn't realize was part of Malaysia. It was a large island off the coast of mainland Malaysia.
00:34:32.840 --> 00:34:39.910 Scott Holmes HTB: And when we looked it up, there was only one Burmese Buddhist temple in Penang.
00:34:41.199 --> 00:34:43.840 Scott Holmes HTB: It had a 40-foot golden Buddha.
00:34:44.770 --> 00:34:56.339 Scott Holmes HTB: Absolutely, absolutely impressive, and behind it was gold filigree, and it was just absolutely amazing, and I'm like, what am I supposed to do with that? She said to me, you're supposed to find your soul parts.
00:34:57.840 --> 00:35:01.449 Scott Holmes HTB: Okay, what does that mean? She says, not really sure.
00:35:01.810 --> 00:35:03.230 Scott Holmes HTB: So, here I am.
00:35:03.570 --> 00:35:09.840 Scott Holmes HTB: Here I am, and I'm trying to make sense of this. My friend and I go to Thailand.
00:35:10.620 --> 00:35:17.440 Scott Holmes HTB: And Vietnam for 17 days, and I'm looking, and I'm saying, wow, I really can't get to Malaysia.
00:35:18.190 --> 00:35:23.699 Scott Holmes HTB: A week after we get back, the company that we had gone with Sends me an email.
00:35:24.610 --> 00:35:27.449 Scott Holmes HTB: And it says, okay, Singapore and Malaysia. I'm like.
00:35:28.090 --> 00:35:38.440 Scott Holmes HTB: I've never seen that before, so I click on it. I look at the itinerary, and don't you know, Singapore, Malaysia, and the very last stop is in Penang.
00:35:39.120 --> 00:35:48.959 Scott Holmes HTB: Okay, I look at it, I look at the hotel, It is 3 blocks… from the Burmese Buddhist Temple.
00:35:50.190 --> 00:35:54.220 Scott Holmes HTB: I look up at the sky, I said, okay, I hear you, I get it.
00:35:54.500 --> 00:35:55.500 Scott Holmes HTB: Thank you.
00:35:56.370 --> 00:35:59.350 Scott Holmes HTB: I go home, and my girlfriend at the time.
00:36:01.020 --> 00:36:06.929 Scott Holmes HTB: I said, well, how would you like a 24-hour flight In an airplane.
00:36:07.240 --> 00:36:15.490 Scott Holmes HTB: It's gonna be… you're not gonna understand the language, you're probably not gonna like the food, it's gonna be really, really hot.
00:36:15.670 --> 00:36:20.240 Scott Holmes HTB: And, how would you like to go? She said, Sure.
00:36:21.940 --> 00:36:27.340 Scott Holmes HTB: So… Five months later, we're with a group, In Singapore.
00:36:27.670 --> 00:36:31.510 Scott Holmes HTB: going through Malaysia, and the very last day was Penang.
00:36:32.450 --> 00:36:35.740 Scott Holmes HTB: And… There was going to be a…
00:36:36.150 --> 00:36:40.349 Scott Holmes HTB: About a 4-hour window in the afternoon where we're gonna be able to go back to it.
00:36:40.690 --> 00:36:44.899 Scott Holmes HTB: So the guy looks at me, winks at me, and says, we have a special stop.
00:36:45.060 --> 00:36:51.369 Scott Holmes HTB: And he'd stop the bus, the, Burmese Buddhist Temple.
00:36:51.630 --> 00:36:55.580 Scott Holmes HTB: So that I could go, because he knew I was… it was the reason I was on the trip.
00:36:56.720 --> 00:36:59.850 Scott Holmes HTB: I walked in, And…
00:37:00.100 --> 00:37:07.670 Scott Holmes HTB: It was an open-air temple, it was absolutely stunning, and this golden Buddha was just standing there. I had no idea what to do.
00:37:08.170 --> 00:37:14.800 Scott Holmes HTB: So I sat there and just opened myself up, Closed my eyes.
00:37:15.030 --> 00:37:20.340 Scott Holmes HTB: And said, if there are any soul parts, Of mine that are here.
00:37:21.890 --> 00:37:23.360 Scott Holmes HTB: I allow them in.
00:37:24.000 --> 00:37:27.710 Scott Holmes HTB: And in my mind's eye, I saw 3 golden lights come down.
00:37:28.300 --> 00:37:30.749 Linda Marsanico: Where is my heart space?
00:37:31.870 --> 00:37:33.180 Scott Holmes HTB: Didn't know what to make of it.
00:37:33.350 --> 00:37:35.980 Scott Holmes HTB: And really was a little bit stunned physically.
00:37:37.280 --> 00:37:46.240 Scott Holmes HTB: my girlfriend taps me on the shoulder and says, everybody else is gone, we need to go back to the bus. And so we walked back to the bus, and it was…
00:37:47.450 --> 00:37:53.500 Scott Holmes HTB: It took me probably about a month to kind of… Realize what had happened.
00:37:54.410 --> 00:38:05.210 Scott Holmes HTB: And I… and I asked, in doing research, I asked why that was important. It was because my journey would be sped up, that those soul parts will complete my… complete me.
00:38:05.380 --> 00:38:10.340 Scott Holmes HTB: so that I can… Continue my journey.
00:38:10.450 --> 00:38:11.769 Scott Holmes HTB: Much faster.
00:38:11.970 --> 00:38:18.559 Scott Holmes HTB: I would… I would transcend much, much quicker, because I wouldn't be looking for those parts of me that I would behold.
00:38:19.100 --> 00:38:26.480 Scott Holmes HTB: And that soul parts, the reason they were with the, the, at the temple, was because they were safe.
00:38:27.410 --> 00:38:30.810 Scott Holmes HTB: If we… in this life, if we are…
00:38:31.220 --> 00:38:36.289 Scott Holmes HTB: Damaged in battle, or suddenly killed, Part of our soul stays.
00:38:36.690 --> 00:38:38.289 Scott Holmes HTB: It's not sure where to go.
00:38:38.730 --> 00:38:41.969 Scott Holmes HTB: And so it sought safety within the temple.
00:38:42.390 --> 00:38:45.660 Scott Holmes HTB: And that's the explanation that I've been… I was given.
00:38:46.110 --> 00:38:47.130 Scott Holmes HTB: And…
00:38:47.350 --> 00:38:55.710 Scott Holmes HTB: I was told, just watch out for different changes in your personality, because you've got parts of you that you've never had carried with you before.
00:38:56.960 --> 00:39:03.700 Scott Holmes HTB: But it really did, you know, I shake my head sometimes.
00:39:03.900 --> 00:39:07.800 Scott Holmes HTB: I took the word of a… someone I couldn't see.
00:39:08.360 --> 00:39:12.410 Scott Holmes HTB: And I traveled halfway around the world. I live in Boston, Massachusetts, and…
00:39:12.960 --> 00:39:16.380 Scott Holmes HTB: Went to Singapore, 24-hour flight.
00:39:17.140 --> 00:39:18.900 Scott Holmes HTB: to a place I'd never been.
00:39:20.430 --> 00:39:21.490 Scott Holmes HTB: unfaith.
00:39:21.890 --> 00:39:24.570 Linda Marsanico: Yes, faith is amazing.
00:39:25.040 --> 00:39:26.260 Linda Marsanico: Motivator.
00:39:26.520 --> 00:39:32.219 Linda Marsanico: And who had you consulted, you said you asked.
00:39:32.620 --> 00:39:34.549 Linda Marsanico: About the soul parts, and…
00:39:34.850 --> 00:39:44.469 Scott Holmes HTB: I asked a couple of shamans, I asked Yogini, About this, journey.
00:39:44.610 --> 00:39:50.420 Scott Holmes HTB: And they all told me how important it was to be able to complete this Because…
00:39:50.850 --> 00:39:53.569 Scott Holmes HTB: It is part of my…
00:39:53.990 --> 00:40:00.400 Scott Holmes HTB: ascension, if you will. It was part of my being able to, understand this life.
00:40:00.570 --> 00:40:03.269 Scott Holmes HTB: And then I would do it on a much different level.
00:40:06.600 --> 00:40:10.429 Linda Marsanico: It certainly was an adventure. Certainly was.
00:40:10.700 --> 00:40:14.049 Linda Marsanico: So… I'm interested now
00:40:14.260 --> 00:40:23.529 Linda Marsanico: to ask you, why has it… we're shifting 90 degrees? Why has it become so important to give men a voice in the projects you're involved with?
00:40:24.170 --> 00:40:25.230 Scott Holmes HTB: Oh my goodness.
00:40:26.100 --> 00:40:31.129 Scott Holmes HTB: So I'm doing a project with a psychotherapist out of Toronto.
00:40:31.870 --> 00:40:38.660 Scott Holmes HTB: And in her practice, With men, she asks the question, win.
00:40:39.150 --> 00:40:40.770 Scott Holmes HTB: Did you become a man?
00:40:44.070 --> 00:40:54.450 Scott Holmes HTB: And I… I thought about how I would answer that, and it's intriguing, because it all depends on how we were conditioned about what the definition of a man is.
00:40:56.120 --> 00:40:57.569 Scott Holmes HTB: How do we define it?
00:40:57.870 --> 00:40:59.660 Scott Holmes HTB: What does it encompass?
00:41:00.890 --> 00:41:04.609 Scott Holmes HTB: And so I'm in the process now of asking men
00:41:04.890 --> 00:41:07.200 Scott Holmes HTB: Over the… from 30 to 100.
00:41:09.650 --> 00:41:13.120 Scott Holmes HTB: what… When did you become a man?
00:41:13.430 --> 00:41:19.159 Scott Holmes HTB: And how do they define it? We ask defining questions about it, so they can tell their story.
00:41:20.460 --> 00:41:26.619 Scott Holmes HTB: Women… solve problems in a much different way than men. Men internalize.
00:41:26.950 --> 00:41:32.879 Scott Holmes HTB: women, generally, go outside. They seek the counsel of other women. They look for experience.
00:41:33.030 --> 00:41:36.460 Scott Holmes HTB: Men are taught not to ask.
00:41:37.310 --> 00:41:39.489 Scott Holmes HTB: They are taught to just do.
00:41:40.470 --> 00:41:41.990 Scott Holmes HTB: when I ask…
00:41:42.150 --> 00:41:49.059 Scott Holmes HTB: Men these questions, they're able to tell me their life story, what their challenges were, how they got through them.
00:41:49.710 --> 00:41:52.260 Scott Holmes HTB: How they define what a man is.
00:41:53.890 --> 00:41:57.320 Scott Holmes HTB: What I found in my own life is that
00:41:57.460 --> 00:42:07.320 Scott Holmes HTB: Becoming a man fully is finding your inner feminine as well as your inner masculine, how you define them, how you balance them, how you are able to
00:42:08.130 --> 00:42:09.790 Scott Holmes HTB: Have them coexist.
00:42:10.400 --> 00:42:16.210 Scott Holmes HTB: And that inner work is a reflection of your relationships outside of yourself.
00:42:18.550 --> 00:42:27.600 Scott Holmes HTB: It is absolutely amazing When you ask… sit down and ask a man one-on-one, How they define their life.
00:42:29.140 --> 00:42:31.249 Scott Holmes HTB: and the answers that I get.
00:42:32.240 --> 00:42:36.489 Scott Holmes HTB: I've got over 25 interviews in. I'm going to do 200.
00:42:37.710 --> 00:42:43.640 Scott Holmes HTB: And, it's for a book that we will publish the end of 2026.
00:42:44.070 --> 00:42:44.500 Linda Marsanico: Whoa.
00:42:44.500 --> 00:42:49.940 Scott Holmes HTB: She's gonna… It's… she's gonna do this scholastic part of that.
00:42:50.070 --> 00:42:56.680 Scott Holmes HTB: And we're… the way we're doing it is being able to give men a resource
00:42:56.930 --> 00:43:00.620 Scott Holmes HTB: A resource to be able to see who they are.
00:43:01.100 --> 00:43:05.240 Scott Holmes HTB: Men 30 to 45, 45 to 60, and 60 and above.
00:43:05.640 --> 00:43:09.969 Scott Holmes HTB: Because they all have different perspectives on the answers to these questions.
00:43:10.490 --> 00:43:15.310 Scott Holmes HTB: And what I'm finding is that most men, younger men especially.
00:43:16.040 --> 00:43:18.980 Scott Holmes HTB: They have either had no role models.
00:43:20.520 --> 00:43:25.389 Scott Holmes HTB: Or very dysfunctional role models in defining how
00:43:26.060 --> 00:43:28.980 Scott Holmes HTB: How… and what a man is.
00:43:29.930 --> 00:43:33.890 Scott Holmes HTB: Maybe they were raised, you know, by a single mom.
00:43:33.890 --> 00:43:34.660 Linda Marsanico: Yeah.
00:43:35.120 --> 00:43:39.289 Scott Holmes HTB: Maybe they just didn't have any role models as men.
00:43:39.470 --> 00:43:45.239 Scott Holmes HTB: I have found that in this part of my life, that I am mentoring
00:43:45.370 --> 00:43:47.170 Scott Holmes HTB: An awful lot of men
00:43:48.360 --> 00:43:55.549 Scott Holmes HTB: Because they haven't had a dad, their dad is no longer around, or they haven't had any guidance.
00:43:55.590 --> 00:43:56.650 Linda Marsanico: To do that.
00:43:56.860 --> 00:44:01.250 Scott Holmes HTB: And it's amazing How receptive they are.
00:44:01.950 --> 00:44:03.700 Scott Holmes HTB: to mentoring.
00:44:03.810 --> 00:44:06.459 Scott Holmes HTB: And just holding space for them.
00:44:07.880 --> 00:44:11.319 Linda Marsanico: It sounds like a wonderful project, Scott.
00:44:11.440 --> 00:44:13.160 Linda Marsanico: A lot of work.
00:44:13.160 --> 00:44:18.000 Scott Holmes HTB: And putting the call out to men out there, It's a 20-minute interview.
00:44:19.330 --> 00:44:36.080 Scott Holmes HTB: And what we do is I transcribe it, and then send it back to them in a readable form, so they can okay using it. We only use first names, we use generic places to live, so there's no identifiers, because the story is the most important part.
00:44:37.310 --> 00:44:47.369 Linda Marsanico: I'll want to put you in touch with Jacinta Yang, whose show Follows Mine. It's Beneath the Calm, and she's interested in helping men
00:44:47.780 --> 00:44:56.089 Linda Marsanico: talk about themselves. She's hoping to have men reveal themselves. So, after we finish, I'll give you her…
00:44:56.250 --> 00:44:58.100 Linda Marsanico: contact information.
00:44:58.620 --> 00:45:01.149 Linda Marsanico: It's going to be very helpful.
00:45:01.300 --> 00:45:05.830 Linda Marsanico: So, we're ready for a break.
00:45:06.060 --> 00:45:14.260 Linda Marsanico: And when we come back, I have some questions about Reiki and polarity, and is it RIS-R-Y-S-E?
00:45:14.260 --> 00:45:16.239 Scott Holmes HTB: Rise, are willing to see?
00:45:16.240 --> 00:45:18.370 Linda Marsanico: R, R-Y-S-E.
00:45:19.260 --> 00:45:21.699 Linda Marsanico: And listeners come back.
00:45:22.060 --> 00:45:23.959 Linda Marsanico: To continue this conversation.
00:47:30.300 --> 00:47:39.600 Linda Marsanico: Hello, everyone. Welcome back to the A Train to Sedona broadcast. I'm Linda Marisanico, with my guest, Scott Holmes.
00:47:39.730 --> 00:47:54.340 Linda Marsanico: So, Scott, you have a number of certifications. Now, I just want you to know that in this segment, we have just about 10 minutes, and then we need to go off because there's another show after. So I may have to… we'll just moderate what we do.
00:47:54.580 --> 00:47:59.659 Linda Marsanico: So you, you mentioned Reiki. Could you tell us a little bit more about Reiki?
00:48:01.210 --> 00:48:06.150 Scott Holmes HTB: Ricky is… Movement of energy.
00:48:07.130 --> 00:48:10.310 Scott Holmes HTB: When we have pain, Physical pain.
00:48:11.130 --> 00:48:13.260 Scott Holmes HTB: It is blocked energy.
00:48:14.870 --> 00:48:17.580 Scott Holmes HTB: The healing starts when the energy moves.
00:48:18.450 --> 00:48:19.030 Linda Marsanico: Yeah.
00:48:19.030 --> 00:48:24.030 Scott Holmes HTB: Reiki, breaks up the energy so that it moves. If your elbow hurts.
00:48:24.640 --> 00:48:29.879 Scott Holmes HTB: Your body brings energy to it in order to heal.
00:48:30.490 --> 00:48:32.730 Scott Holmes HTB: After a while, it just continues to hurt.
00:48:33.170 --> 00:48:39.790 Scott Holmes HTB: And so, when you bring energy down through it, and it allows it to flow through… flow through.
00:48:40.740 --> 00:48:42.760 Scott Holmes HTB: All of a sudden, the pain goes away.
00:48:42.930 --> 00:48:44.680 Scott Holmes HTB: We… we are…
00:48:44.850 --> 00:48:53.829 Scott Holmes HTB: grounded to the earth, and we have energy that comes in through our crown all the way down, and all the way back up. We're a circuit that goes both ways, up and down.
00:48:54.180 --> 00:48:55.150 Scott Holmes HTB: And…
00:48:55.400 --> 00:49:07.739 Scott Holmes HTB: when you facilitate the movement of energy, you feel better. If you feel better, you think better, and clearer. There is a clarity, there is a grounding. And when you are in that harmony.
00:49:08.090 --> 00:49:10.959 Scott Holmes HTB: You make much better decisions about life, about…
00:49:11.260 --> 00:49:17.380 Scott Holmes HTB: That… about everything that goes on around you, and you can be much more present within your life.
00:49:18.230 --> 00:49:19.420 Scott Holmes HTB: Polarity?
00:49:19.660 --> 00:49:24.130 Scott Holmes HTB: Polarity therapy is… what I call Reiki on steroids.
00:49:24.290 --> 00:49:30.909 Scott Holmes HTB: It does. It does, acupressure to clear meridians.
00:49:31.400 --> 00:49:33.770 Scott Holmes HTB: Touch points to be able to relieve.
00:49:34.230 --> 00:49:37.070 Scott Holmes HTB: Those… those parts that are,
00:49:37.750 --> 00:49:44.450 Scott Holmes HTB: That are just stopped to be able to really move that energy through you. And…
00:49:45.070 --> 00:49:50.760 Scott Holmes HTB: In the patterns that your body has, it allows it to work at a much, much higher level.
00:49:52.020 --> 00:49:58.709 Scott Holmes HTB: And RISE is… the… Use of energy.
00:49:59.090 --> 00:50:02.710 Scott Holmes HTB: To clear… to clear a room full of people.
00:50:03.370 --> 00:50:07.580 Scott Holmes HTB: It is a magnification of that energy. It is…
00:50:08.400 --> 00:50:13.219 Scott Holmes HTB: As we find, if you've ever been in a prayer circle, if you've been through a group meditation.
00:50:13.360 --> 00:50:17.779 Scott Holmes HTB: The amplification of that energy is just so…
00:50:18.100 --> 00:50:23.709 Scott Holmes HTB: Amazing. You can feel it in your body when you have that number of people.
00:50:24.060 --> 00:50:31.489 Scott Holmes HTB: And rises… Basically, focusing that energy and putting it out to the room… entire room full of people.
00:50:32.130 --> 00:50:35.689 Scott Holmes HTB: Healing them of what they need healed at that moment.
00:50:36.610 --> 00:50:40.079 Scott Holmes HTB: And I know that healing is… is a… is a…
00:50:40.940 --> 00:50:44.670 Scott Holmes HTB: Does people look, you can't heal people? No, I don't.
00:50:44.890 --> 00:50:47.160 Scott Holmes HTB: What I do is I facilitate energy.
00:50:47.450 --> 00:50:53.359 Scott Holmes HTB: The healing takes place within your own body. You are your own doctor. You can heal yourself.
00:50:53.360 --> 00:50:54.760 Linda Marsanico: by…
00:50:55.210 --> 00:50:57.090 Scott Holmes HTB: Changing energy.
00:50:57.960 --> 00:51:03.260 Scott Holmes HTB: How is that possible? Well, if you have emotions, you can feel them in different parts of your body.
00:51:03.700 --> 00:51:11.189 Scott Holmes HTB: why people get ulcers. They… they hold their energy there, their anxiety there, and it increases,
00:51:11.330 --> 00:51:16.350 Scott Holmes HTB: the acids in your stomach, and so therefore causes problems. Well.
00:51:16.650 --> 00:51:22.750 Scott Holmes HTB: If you change the emotional energy, if you change how it goes through your body.
00:51:22.860 --> 00:51:31.110 Scott Holmes HTB: It will change how you feel physically. You can relieve pain. If it can cause pain, it can also release pain.
00:51:31.110 --> 00:51:32.470 Linda Marsanico: Yes. And so…
00:51:32.520 --> 00:51:35.260 Scott Holmes HTB: All of these different modalities, no matter what
00:51:35.850 --> 00:51:38.940 Scott Holmes HTB: And there are… there are 700 of them.
00:51:39.270 --> 00:51:40.810 Scott Holmes HTB: In all sincerity.
00:51:41.750 --> 00:51:50.349 Scott Holmes HTB: There's only one body, there's only so much energy, there's only so many touchpoints, there's only so many chakras that you can deal with.
00:51:50.550 --> 00:51:58.580 Scott Holmes HTB: And being clear, and doing rituals during the course of the day, or in the morning, as I suggest.
00:51:58.890 --> 00:52:01.630 Scott Holmes HTB: By the way, rituals are just habits.
00:52:01.850 --> 00:52:03.930 Linda Marsanico: Where you are actually present.
00:52:03.930 --> 00:52:16.120 Scott Holmes HTB: It becomes a ritual. In other words, you are present in doing that, whether it's yoga or meditation, like I do every day, or whether it is Reiki that I… self-Riki that I do every day.
00:52:17.290 --> 00:52:21.390 Scott Holmes HTB: 15-20 minutes in the morning, and my day is completely different.
00:52:21.500 --> 00:52:33.900 Scott Holmes HTB: And it becomes a ritual because it's what I need in order to stay and maintain the integrity of my body, of my emotional, body, of my spiritual body.
00:52:34.130 --> 00:52:36.720 Scott Holmes HTB: And… The clarity of mind.
00:52:37.850 --> 00:52:40.120 Scott Holmes HTB: And it's something that everybody can do.
00:52:40.120 --> 00:52:46.300 Linda Marsanico: Yes, indeed, we have a lot of abilities in our toolkit. Let's see how many minutes we have.
00:52:46.800 --> 00:52:48.320 Linda Marsanico: We have 5.
00:52:48.540 --> 00:52:55.470 Linda Marsanico: Now, you are a co-host with Sarah Jane. How did that come about? That's how I met you.
00:52:55.470 --> 00:52:59.299 Scott Holmes HTB: That is how we met. Sarah Jane is one of the most…
00:52:59.700 --> 00:53:05.910 Scott Holmes HTB: heartfelt, warm, amazing women that I have ever met. She lives in Bournemouth, UK.
00:53:06.090 --> 00:53:09.900 Scott Holmes HTB: And we were, co-hosting on a panel.
00:53:10.480 --> 00:53:12.529 Scott Holmes HTB: And she said, how would you like to be
00:53:12.880 --> 00:53:24.019 Scott Holmes HTB: On my… my broadcast. She is the greatest collector of people that I have ever met. She… I have met people from all around the globe because of Sarah.
00:53:24.470 --> 00:53:27.400 Scott Holmes HTB: She said, well, would you like to co-host?
00:53:28.390 --> 00:53:34.740 Scott Holmes HTB: really me? I mean, I… you know, I'm just a simple guy out of Boston, she says, no, I'd love you to have a… come on.
00:53:35.240 --> 00:53:47.640 Scott Holmes HTB: And so now it's she and I, and we interview people from all over the world, all walks of life, in all different modalities, and no matter what they do. And I have had the greatest adventures.
00:53:47.640 --> 00:53:48.550 Linda Marsanico: Yes.
00:53:49.410 --> 00:53:52.030 Scott Holmes HTB: Being able to talk to people from all over the…
00:53:52.140 --> 00:54:00.400 Scott Holmes HTB: The globe, who want to do healing work, who help people, who coach people, who allow them to be better.
00:54:00.890 --> 00:54:03.309 Scott Holmes HTB: And it really inspires me
00:54:04.420 --> 00:54:13.840 Scott Holmes HTB: Because with all of the… everything that we get in the news that is very negative, and everything is, woe is me, and the world's gonna end tomorrow.
00:54:14.600 --> 00:54:20.519 Scott Holmes HTB: The number of people out there who are giving life and love to everyone.
00:54:20.740 --> 00:54:28.979 Scott Holmes HTB: that want to do good work. It inspires me to do more. I want to talk to people. I want to…
00:54:29.240 --> 00:54:36.829 Scott Holmes HTB: get them to see the good in life. I want them to be better in their own life, to find their soul journey.
00:54:37.230 --> 00:54:40.899 Scott Holmes HTB: I want all of that for them, and it is amazing!
00:54:41.030 --> 00:54:43.150 Scott Holmes HTB: absolutely amazing.
00:54:43.700 --> 00:54:45.830 Scott Holmes HTB: How those ripples just…
00:54:45.830 --> 00:54:50.379 Linda Marsanico: Yes. I think you're going outward. And so, I want to ask you, how can people find you?
00:54:51.320 --> 00:54:55.199 Scott Holmes HTB: Well, my website is rscotthomes.com.
00:54:55.500 --> 00:55:07.639 Scott Holmes HTB: My… my, face… I'm on Facebook, of course, and, on Instagram, RScott Holmes.
00:55:07.960 --> 00:55:15.620 Scott Holmes HTB: And… it's the work that I… the work that I do is one-on-one, and I do teach…
00:55:15.930 --> 00:55:22.000 Scott Holmes HTB: And we are, I'm now writing a book, lead author in a book with Brave Halo Publications.
00:55:22.270 --> 00:55:24.029 Scott Holmes HTB: Called from Burnout.
00:55:24.550 --> 00:55:25.740 Scott Holmes HTB: to Burning Bright.
00:55:27.350 --> 00:55:28.850 Linda Marsanico: From burnout to…
00:55:28.850 --> 00:55:30.400 Scott Holmes HTB: Do Burning Bright.
00:55:30.570 --> 00:55:33.619 Linda Marsanico: Oh, that's lovely. So, I want to say…
00:55:34.210 --> 00:55:46.059 Linda Marsanico: Thank you for being with us. I want to also say that next week, my guest will be Sabina, who's with a spiritual group that has a lot to say about what's going on in the world.
00:55:46.800 --> 00:55:57.980 Linda Marsanico: Now, also, following my show, We have Jacinta Yang, Whose show is debuting today.
00:55:58.160 --> 00:55:59.830 Linda Marsanico: Beneath the calm.
00:56:01.670 --> 00:56:04.110 Linda Marsanico: And, as I mentioned to you.
00:56:04.440 --> 00:56:16.300 Linda Marsanico: Scott, I do… I want to send you her email address after we get off. This has been a delightful conversation. You interviewed me with Sarah on her show.
00:56:16.820 --> 00:56:25.599 Linda Marsanico: And now I get to return the favor. That was a lovely experience, and I've learned so much about you, your sensitivities, and
00:56:25.790 --> 00:56:30.259 Linda Marsanico: I'm really excited that you took off that Superman coat, the cape.
00:56:30.510 --> 00:56:34.120 Scott Holmes HTB: It is… it's liberating.
00:56:34.650 --> 00:56:42.719 Linda Marsanico: It is. And, of course, you ushered in an area, or an era, of creativity for your daughters to
00:56:42.950 --> 00:56:46.770 Linda Marsanico: Find ways to… good solutions.
00:56:47.850 --> 00:56:49.610 Scott Holmes HTB: And it made them more independent.
00:56:49.610 --> 00:56:51.599 Linda Marsanico: Yes, yes, which is a good thing.
00:56:52.180 --> 00:56:56.990 Linda Marsanico: So, again, thank you so much for being on the A train to Sedona.
00:56:58.110 --> 00:57:00.640 Scott Holmes HTB: My pleasure, and it's been amazing.
00:57:02.110 --> 00:57:04.270 Linda Marsanico: Thank you so much, and listeners.
00:57:04.790 --> 00:57:16.219 Linda Marsanico: Hope you enjoy the show. We're, I think, a minute less, but it's better than being a minute more when you have a show following right behind.
00:57:17.170 --> 00:57:18.559 Scott Holmes HTB: I appreciate all the time.
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