EPISODE SUMMARY:
This week, on The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam welcomes Educator, TEDx speaker, and Author, Courtney Fae Long, MSW, LC, CHt.
Courtney is a leading-edge Sexuality Educator, TEDx speaker, and Author who has been teaching for 25+ years. She holds a Master’s Degree in Social Work (MSW) and certificates in Sexuality Education and Sex Therapy from the University of Michigan.
She offers an online school and retreats through her website, and you can watch her TEDx talk “Money and Sex: The Surprising Connection” online.
Courtney brings a fresh and empowering perspective to two of society’s most taboo topics, money and sex, revealing how our relationship with one often mirrors our relationship with the other. Through decades of working with individuals and couples, she’s uncovered deep emotional, psychological, and even spiritual patterns that keep people stuck in shame, scarcity, or silence.
In this episode, we explore how healing our beliefs around worthiness, pleasure, and receiving can ripple into every area of life, from the bedroom to the bank account Don’t miss this lively and enlightening conversation that just might transform the way you think about what you deserve.
Tune in and share all of your questions and comments about the connection between money and sex on our YouTube livestream or on our Facebook page.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Cmoq06v1J0&t=374s
In this episode of The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam Liebowitz discusses embracing the unknown without expectation, encouraging listeners to cultivate openness and receptivity in their lives. He emphasizes how unexpected events, whether seemingly tragic or delightful, can offer valuable lessons if we approach them with curiosity and trust. By releasing our preconceived notions and allowing life to surprise us, we can deepen our trust in the journey and experience personal growth in the face of uncertainty.
In this segment, Courtney Fae Long shares her personal journey from exploring spirituality to embracing sacred sexuality, which she describes as a profound awakening. Her journey, which involved overcoming shame around sexuality, led her to discover that sexual energy is not only deeply connected to our creative and spiritual selves but also impacts confidence and intuition. She emphasizes that sacred sexuality can lead to greater creativity, joy, and oneness, challenging societal norms and showing how this energy can unlock personal and collective transformation.
In this segment, Courtney Fae Long discusses the powerful connection between sexual energy and personal empowerment, explaining how societal restrictions on sexuality have historically aimed to control individuals. She highlights how reclaiming sexual power can enhance intuition, confidence, and even creativity, influencing all areas of life, including finances. Drawing on research and her own experience, she emphasizes the importance of embracing and prioritizing pleasure as a means of unlocking abundance and self-worth.
In this segment, Courtney Fae Long shares her "GLOW" methodology, a four-step process designed to empower individuals through sexual energy. The steps include grounding into the body, opening the heart to love and receiving, awakening orgasmic energy for creativity, and utilizing sexual energy to manifest wealth and opportunities. She explains how the practice of channeling sexual energy can enhance confidence, creativity, and abundance, and how individuals can use this energy to unlock their true potential in all areas of life.
00:00:27.530 --> 00:00:37.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Good afternoon, my conscious co-creators. Welcome to another edition of the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity.
00:00:37.240 --> 00:00:59.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I am very, very pleased that you are all here with me today. We've got another wonderful guest in store for you today. I'm sure you're going to enjoy her. But first, st of course, we have my blog post from a couple of years ago. So let's get started because I really want to bring her on soon. So today's blog post is entitled
00:00:59.830 --> 00:01:06.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: embracing the unknown without expectation, lightens our journey.
00:01:07.330 --> 00:01:10.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Life brings us so many things.
00:01:10.490 --> 00:01:13.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: some are expected, some are not.
00:01:13.640 --> 00:01:18.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We tend to have a harder time with those that are not expected.
00:01:18.630 --> 00:01:23.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: yet there is often a gift with those very same events.
00:01:24.020 --> 00:01:28.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Some may seem tragic, others may seem delightful.
00:01:28.670 --> 00:01:35.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What the actual experience is, is not as important as how we receive it.
00:01:36.250 --> 00:01:39.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and to receive it well takes practice.
00:01:40.280 --> 00:01:50.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It takes cultivating an energy of openness, receptivity, and fluidity to hold our expectations lightly.
00:01:51.240 --> 00:01:56.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: stepping forward without any preconceived notions or projections.
00:01:57.050 --> 00:02:00.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It means allowing life to surprise us.
00:02:00.790 --> 00:02:04.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not just in some ways, but in every way.
00:02:05.310 --> 00:02:14.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for when we are willing to drop our expectations and allow ourselves to get lost, both figuratively and literally.
00:02:14.560 --> 00:02:18.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we discover new wonders, new adventures.
00:02:18.650 --> 00:02:22.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We find new things out about ourselves.
00:02:23.470 --> 00:02:29.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: As we learn to live with curiosity and trust instead of fear and doubt.
00:02:29.510 --> 00:02:32.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we will deepen our trust in life.
00:02:33.860 --> 00:02:40.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for we may not know how. Tomorrow, next week, next month or next year will go.
00:02:41.780 --> 00:02:51.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet, as we learn to trust, we are empowered to move forward and face tomorrow, whatever it may bring.
00:02:51.770 --> 00:02:55.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for life will teach us new lessons every day.
00:02:56.100 --> 00:03:01.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if we are open to seeing and experiencing the lessons.
00:03:01.700 --> 00:03:07.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it is always up to us to learn these lessons and decide to grow
00:03:08.240 --> 00:03:11.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or reject them, and then stagnate.
00:03:12.130 --> 00:03:16.929 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There is so much power in dancing with the unknown.
00:03:17.760 --> 00:03:23.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in letting go of our expectations, and living in the present moment.
00:03:23.900 --> 00:03:29.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: being right here right now to experience what is in front of us
00:03:30.290 --> 00:03:34.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: without thinking about tomorrow or the next day.
00:03:34.960 --> 00:03:45.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just be with the unexpected, and give it space, space inside ourselves and space in our lives.
00:03:46.430 --> 00:03:50.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to see with curiosity what will unfold next?
00:03:51.420 --> 00:03:57.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What will come to us next, and what magic life still has in store for us.
00:03:58.940 --> 00:04:03.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Great inconveniences can lead to great outcomes.
00:04:04.350 --> 00:04:10.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Amazing situations can lead to incredible friendships, support, and community.
00:04:11.540 --> 00:04:16.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for when we share the results of the unexpected with others.
00:04:16.410 --> 00:04:21.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: they will come together to share with us their experiences as well.
00:04:22.700 --> 00:04:26.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and then our community grows tighter.
00:04:26.820 --> 00:04:34.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we share our struggles with the unknown, its grip is lightened, and our spirit rises.
00:04:36.210 --> 00:04:39.349 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that is unexpected indeed.
00:04:40.480 --> 00:04:43.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So how are you at handling the unexpected?
00:04:43.970 --> 00:04:49.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What can you do to lighten your grip on your own expectations?
00:04:51.180 --> 00:04:56.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's interesting that this blog post is coming around at this time, because
00:04:57.590 --> 00:05:05.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I wrote this post last August, when I was either when I was out in Colorado or after I just came back from Colorado.
00:05:07.740 --> 00:05:13.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and my wife and I had been planned. This trip out. We spent about
00:05:14.230 --> 00:05:16.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to spend about 2 weeks in Colorado.
00:05:17.810 --> 00:05:32.216 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: 1st we spent a weekend in Denver, and then we and, as I mentioned last week on my show, we we stayed in this house up on top of a mountain outside of golden Colorado, and then about 5 days out in
00:05:33.455 --> 00:05:40.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what was the name of the town? Silver Silverthorne, Colorado, out out in further west.
00:05:41.700 --> 00:05:44.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and what happened was the 1st weekend
00:05:45.170 --> 00:05:49.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: was the weekend. No, it was after the 1st weekend we were in Denver.
00:05:49.820 --> 00:05:53.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: My wife gets a message from her niece
00:05:53.920 --> 00:05:58.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that my wife's sister was diagnosed with cancer.
00:05:58.470 --> 00:06:02.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it had spread, and it was pretty bad.
00:06:03.170 --> 00:06:08.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so she sat with it for a day or 2 to really feel into what she should do.
00:06:08.990 --> 00:06:12.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and she said, You know what I've got to go to China to see my sister.
00:06:13.160 --> 00:06:16.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I can't. I can't regret this later.
00:06:17.260 --> 00:06:29.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I was like, Okay, whatever you need to do, we do. We changed her flight. She got a flight back to New York, spent literally less than 24 h in New York, got her on a flight to China.
00:06:29.824 --> 00:06:34.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and she spent the next month in China with her sister and her family there.
00:06:37.180 --> 00:06:40.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we were still committed to
00:06:40.390 --> 00:06:47.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the house sitting that we were doing in Colorado. So I stayed in Colorado, so I spent
00:06:48.530 --> 00:07:00.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not a full week, but the better part of a week by myself on top of a mountain, taking care of a dog and a cat. This this lovely house in a beautiful setting, but completely by myself.
00:07:00.580 --> 00:07:12.783 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then I went out to Silverthorne, and and how sat and and took care of a lovely Portuguese water dog. He was about 6 months old, chewed everything
00:07:14.440 --> 00:07:18.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it was a very interesting experience for me, because
00:07:18.810 --> 00:07:23.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it was the 1st time in a long time
00:07:24.450 --> 00:07:27.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that I was away from home by myself.
00:07:28.310 --> 00:07:32.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: ostensibly kind of sort of having a vacation.
00:07:32.340 --> 00:07:39.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but unexpectedly not with my wife, and
00:07:39.520 --> 00:07:44.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, after the 1st couple of days I realized that.
00:07:47.610 --> 00:07:53.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: taking sort of a vacation or going away and being in a beautiful place by myself, I have no problem with it.
00:07:54.650 --> 00:08:00.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But what was the hard part for me was, I was expecting to be with someone
00:08:00.430 --> 00:08:03.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that I wasn't going to be completely by myself.
00:08:04.290 --> 00:08:06.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I ended up by myself.
00:08:07.880 --> 00:08:18.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and even though I would drive into town, and, you know, eat dinner out at a restaurant, or whatever, and you know, do what I could. During the daytime
00:08:19.020 --> 00:08:26.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I still I was taking care of this house. I was taking care of the plants, taking care of the dog and the cat. They needed to be fed and walked, you know. Walk them around the property.
00:08:28.068 --> 00:08:33.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So I couldn't, just, you know, take off for a day or whatever.
00:08:35.010 --> 00:08:38.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so it was an interesting experience for me
00:08:39.700 --> 00:08:43.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to to just be with myself and by myself.
00:08:46.010 --> 00:09:01.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that was why the you know, the blog post I read last week was about being self-reliant, and this was a big lesson in sort of self-reliance. Not that I'm not a self-reliant person, but when you're married, or you're in a long term partnership, and you're living with someone.
00:09:02.250 --> 00:09:09.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and you're used to doing things and being together when unexpectedly you're not together.
00:09:11.000 --> 00:09:15.689 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It brings up certain feelings, it brings up certain experiences.
00:09:17.510 --> 00:09:23.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so, even though this was all unexpected, I was like, I just gotta make the best of it.
00:09:24.080 --> 00:09:26.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so I just stayed.
00:09:26.870 --> 00:09:31.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I did my best. I shouldn't say I did my best to just stay really present to
00:09:31.790 --> 00:09:38.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what I was doing, what I was feeling, and and try to
00:09:38.700 --> 00:09:45.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: have as good a time as I could have. And you know, once I got off the mountaintop and I went to Silverthorne.
00:09:45.626 --> 00:10:11.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I would take the dog to the local dog park, so I met people there, and I'd get advice from them. And so that was nice, and you know, I remember one time I went, and I tried to take the dog on a hike that somebody recommended, but by the time I got there, like all the parking spots, were taken for like blocks away, so I couldn't park there, so I had to take her back and and did a little, a much
00:10:12.100 --> 00:10:15.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a less
00:10:15.820 --> 00:10:23.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: vigorous walk. It took her. There was a little path by a by a river that went into town, so I took her along that.
00:10:24.210 --> 00:10:30.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you know, it was nice. It was fun to to kind of bond with this this Portuguese water dog, who was very playful
00:10:32.800 --> 00:10:36.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and still like throughout the whole week.
00:10:37.500 --> 00:10:41.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, I was just missing being around people.
00:10:42.980 --> 00:10:46.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and it really highlighted for me the difference, because my wife.
00:10:46.530 --> 00:10:49.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know she's a therapist. I've talked about her many times on the show.
00:10:50.530 --> 00:11:17.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: She likes the time to herself because she's always helping other people. She's always being present with other people she wants. She needs more time for herself on human design. She's a projector, so projectors need their own space to recharge their batteries. But me, I'm a manifesting generator. I'm a people person. I'm an extrovert. I love being around people. I could be around people all day long and not get tired of it.
00:11:17.730 --> 00:11:24.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So for me, kind of being forced to be on my own and and by myself. It was
00:11:24.530 --> 00:11:30.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not that I've I haven't been there before, I mean, I lived for many years on my own before I met my wife.
00:11:31.960 --> 00:11:36.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But it's been a long time, you know, and and it.
00:11:37.420 --> 00:11:42.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it was more just the unexpectedness of the experience that really got to me.
00:11:43.270 --> 00:11:47.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so that's where this whole blog post was was born from was.
00:11:49.130 --> 00:11:56.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: was just wanting to share my experience, and in the unexpectedness
00:11:57.140 --> 00:12:01.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of the journey, of the experience, and how much there is to learn
00:12:02.070 --> 00:12:10.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: about ourselves, about others when unexpected things happen, and
00:12:11.140 --> 00:12:18.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, of course. And then I came back and my wife was still in China for another couple of weeks. She didn't come back until September.
00:12:18.520 --> 00:12:24.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but but being home and being alone, it's a little bit different than being away and being alone unexpectedly. So.
00:12:26.640 --> 00:12:29.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But yeah, I just sort of observed myself.
00:12:29.990 --> 00:12:34.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how I felt and what I did and what I learned about myself, and
00:12:34.940 --> 00:12:39.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I never would have experienced that had what happened, not happened.
00:12:40.840 --> 00:12:43.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the reason why I say it's it's kind of
00:12:43.360 --> 00:12:47.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: interesting that that this blog post came up this week is because
00:12:48.170 --> 00:13:11.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: just last weekend we decided her sister's been on chemotherapy for the last 2 years, her niece told us. She's not doing too well. We were originally planning to go into China in October, and it was. She's like, I don't know what kind of condition she'll be in by October. So we said, You know what? Let's move things around. Let's rearrange things. We booked tickets. We're going to China for the 1st 2 weeks of
00:13:11.590 --> 00:13:16.646 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of August. So but this time I'm going with her.
00:13:17.700 --> 00:13:23.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so yeah, so it's just kind of interesting how things cycle around and come back.
00:13:25.230 --> 00:13:33.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so that's my blog post. I hope it means something to you. I hope the story behind it means something for you.
00:13:33.560 --> 00:14:01.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Again, the title of the post is embracing the unknown without expectation lightens our journey, and of course you can always find my blog posts on theconsciousconsultant.com, and on the station's website, talkradio, dot nyc slash blog, and if you like my blog post. You know I have a whole book the Everyday Awakening. You are more powerful than you know, and it's filled with the
00:14:01.230 --> 00:14:06.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: great great saying, so check it out if if you enjoy this.
00:14:07.559 --> 00:14:12.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So now it is my extreme pleasure to welcome to the show educator.
00:14:12.760 --> 00:14:17.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: fellow, Tedx, speaker and author, Courtney Fei. Lang
00:14:17.560 --> 00:14:36.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Long Courtney, is a leading edge sexuality, educator, Tedx, speaker and author, who has been teaching for over 25 years. She holds a Master's degree in social work and certificates in sexuality, education, and sex therapy from the University of Michigan.
00:14:36.630 --> 00:14:47.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: She offers online schools and retreats through her website. And you can watch her. Tedx talk money and sex. The surprising connection online.
00:14:47.750 --> 00:15:13.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Courtney brings a fresh and empowering perspective to 2 of society's most taboo topics, money and sex, revealing how a relationship with one often mirrors our relationship with the other through decades of working with couples and individuals. She's uncovered deep, emotional, psychological and even spiritual patterns that keep people stuck in shame, scarcity, and silence. Welcome to the conscious consultant hour, Courtney.
00:15:13.440 --> 00:15:16.369 Courtney Fae Long: Thank you so much, Sam. I'm so happy to be here.
00:15:16.530 --> 00:15:43.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's a pleasure to have you here. I really appreciate you. Taking the time to come on the show. I went a little long on my blog post. So we have to take a quick break. But when we come back let's talk about what got you interested in sexuality education. What kind of brought you into this whole field because this is not like your typical path, is it for most people?
00:15:46.980 --> 00:16:10.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So everybody, please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity. We do this every Thursday 12 noon to one Pm. Eastern time, right here on talkradio, dot Nyc. And all over social media. You can always find us on Youtube, Facebook, Twitter Linkedin Twitch, and we'll be right back with our guest, Courtney Fey long in just a moment.
00:17:55.630 --> 00:18:23.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And welcome back to the conscious, consultant hour awakening humanity. Our guest this hour is Courtney Fay, Long, the presenter of the Ted Talk money and sex the surprising connection. So, Courtney, what got you interested in the whole field of sexual education, sex therapy, and and this whole Matt? This whole mess I was going to say.
00:18:24.640 --> 00:18:30.320 Courtney Fae Long: Well, you know, many people have a spiritual awakening right, and
00:18:30.430 --> 00:18:47.080 Courtney Fae Long: I, along. My spiritual awakening was having my own spiritual awakening. So I had my own business. I was teaching all kinds of classes how to discover your life, purpose, self, care for caring people how to communicate with angels through all these things.
00:18:48.200 --> 00:19:07.310 Courtney Fae Long: And behind the scenes. I was exploring sexuality, and so I'll share just a little bit about that, because it was fascinating to me. I was raised Catholic, and had a lot of shame just around the topic of sex. I would never guess I'd be here with you, Sam. Talking about sex.
00:19:07.627 --> 00:19:11.442 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So you're as my friends like to say. You're a recovering Catholic,
00:19:11.760 --> 00:19:37.950 Courtney Fae Long: Exactly. Yes, and also I discovered as a teenager that I'm bisexual, so add that to it. Then, in my adult years, I found that I was highly sexual, that I love sex, and that goes against the societal script right of. And and at the same time I found that I was just curious and wanted to explore.
00:19:38.390 --> 00:19:46.199 Courtney Fae Long: So you know, fast forward to this was 2,011. I just happened to
00:19:46.330 --> 00:19:59.779 Courtney Fae Long: have an amazing experience with a lover that just completely blew me away and opened me almost like it was a spiritual opening and awakening, and I call it my initiation. And
00:20:00.220 --> 00:20:05.469 Courtney Fae Long: and it was just. It was one of these things where I discovered there's so much more
00:20:05.670 --> 00:20:16.630 Courtney Fae Long: to our sexual energy than we've been taught. And so that set me on the exploration, but I still went years without saying anything publicly.
00:20:16.820 --> 00:20:22.020 Courtney Fae Long: because I was still ashamed. So I had to really tackle my own shame in order to start sharing.
00:20:22.020 --> 00:20:37.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know it's interesting. I've spoken with many women who've had sort of the spiritual awakening of what's called or what's known as a Kundalini awakening, and more than one of them have told me that.
00:20:37.760 --> 00:21:01.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, when it happened it was so intense, but they found that they would like orgasm like crazy like one woman. I remember telling me she orgasmed like every day for a month because of this Kundalini awakening, that there was some sort of physical correlation to the sort of spiritual energy coursing through her body.
00:21:01.390 --> 00:21:11.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now it sounds like what you experienced was something a little different. But I'm curious if you feel that your spiritual practice before all this
00:21:11.750 --> 00:21:19.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: might have helped to make you more open and more ready for that kind of amazing experience.
00:21:19.490 --> 00:21:41.229 Courtney Fae Long: Yeah, absolutely just even the simple practice of embodiment grounding being present in the body, not just living in the mind, you know. Opening up my heart. I'm a certified hypnotherapist. So just, and I'm an intuitive as well. So just moving into those other realms of consciousness, I think really prepared me for this, for sure.
00:21:41.230 --> 00:21:46.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Gotcha gotcha. Now you said it was many years before you said anything around this.
00:21:46.810 --> 00:21:57.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What was the thing that finally got you to kind of get past that guilt and shame and say, Oh, okay, I think I need to start talking about this with people and and helping people with this.
00:21:57.780 --> 00:22:24.719 Courtney Fae Long: Well, 2 things one was, I would watch my students over the years really struggle with self-doubt, and they would get clarity around their life purpose, or want to start a business, for example, but they would hesitate to do it, and I was always puzzled, you know, like what is keeping them sorry. I think my Internet glitch. I was always puzzled. What is keeping them from taking action on their souls, calling. So what is that missing link with confidence.
00:22:25.430 --> 00:22:33.699 Courtney Fae Long: And the other thing that really made a difference was, I started realizing. This is not just about what happens in the bedroom.
00:22:34.040 --> 00:22:39.250 Courtney Fae Long: There is something that actually, scientists even call the afterglow effect
00:22:39.830 --> 00:22:53.929 Courtney Fae Long: that the scientists have basically coined it, that for 48 h after sex, we have elevated levels of oxytocin, the love hormone and dopamine, the feel-good neurotransmitter
00:22:54.290 --> 00:23:05.969 Courtney Fae Long: that leads to at least a 48 h period of increased feelings of love, excitement, creativity, confidence, and so on. So when I started realizing Sam
00:23:06.190 --> 00:23:07.720 Courtney Fae Long: is not just.
00:23:07.970 --> 00:23:26.739 Courtney Fae Long: oh, have great sex, and have even a spiritual sexual experience. I was starting to notice in my life. The more I worked with my own sexual energy, the more confident I was, the more magnetic I was, the more I was attracting speaking opportunities, and I just showed up differently in everything I did. My
00:23:27.240 --> 00:23:31.400 Courtney Fae Long: creativity was on fire, my intuitive channel was open. I was.
00:23:31.650 --> 00:23:32.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's.
00:23:32.160 --> 00:23:37.279 Courtney Fae Long: Fire writing a book very quickly, just so many things. And so I just started feeling like.
00:23:37.440 --> 00:23:42.239 Courtney Fae Long: I can't not share this, because this, I feel is the missing link to confidence.
00:23:42.420 --> 00:23:47.690 Courtney Fae Long: joy, creativity, and even oneness. You know, with the Us.
00:23:48.148 --> 00:23:49.522 Courtney Fae Long: God, Source, Spirit.
00:23:49.980 --> 00:24:06.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Right right? And there are. There are ancient spiritual practices, you know, certain practices of Tantra, not all Tantra, but certain tantric practices that are all about achieving sort of spiritual enlightenment through sexual acts.
00:24:07.400 --> 00:24:26.049 Courtney Fae Long: Yeah, absolutely. And many ancient societies who knew this. Like the ancient Mayans, the ancient Taoists, the ancient Aztecs, and many ancient societies that would call on sexual energy to bless their crops. You know they even knew the connection of the sexual and abundance.
00:24:26.470 --> 00:24:47.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm curious when you 1st started talking about this publicly. And you 1st started to do this, what kind of reaction did you get from people. Did people think that like, Oh, Courtney's lost it, or did people embrace it? Or were people like, you know, Courtney, you need to tone it down. I'm curious what kind of what were the initial reactions like.
00:24:47.230 --> 00:24:56.729 Courtney Fae Long: Oh, my gosh, what a great question! It was a mixture! I'd been primarily focusing on angels teaching about angels. So I literally announced one day
00:24:57.160 --> 00:25:01.689 Courtney Fae Long: going to be teaching angels anymore. I'm teaching sacred sexuality
00:25:03.190 --> 00:25:17.869 Courtney Fae Long: a lot of people on my email list. That's for sure. But some people really were excited to learn more, and even excited to say, Oh, well, this person who teaches about angels is talking about sex kind of I think that innocence in there, or the.
00:25:17.870 --> 00:25:22.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, almost like the Oh, this is trustworthy, then this is not, and.
00:25:22.670 --> 00:25:43.299 Courtney Fae Long: Of the shadow side of sex. So yeah, it was a mixed bag. But I thought it was going to be easier. That's what it was funny to me. I was like, Oh, here I teach about angels. So talking about sex would be easier in the world, but not at all because I think there's so much shame. And and even when I say the word sex, a lot of people, I think, conjure up an image of what that's about, and.
00:25:43.300 --> 00:25:43.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Right.
00:25:43.940 --> 00:25:52.650 Courtney Fae Long: You know, that is about intercourse, or porn, or whatever, and it's just like Oh, there's so much I have so much to share with people.
00:25:52.650 --> 00:25:55.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah, no, that's wonderful. That's wonderful. Well.
00:25:56.220 --> 00:26:02.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you said you thought it would be much easier. What other challenges did you have in the beginning
00:26:02.710 --> 00:26:13.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when when you started to make such a shift. I mean, this is really, you know, it's not just the topic itself, but it's also just sort of. In a way, it's like a branding shift. Right? It's like
00:26:14.300 --> 00:26:24.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you as the Angel lady. Suddenly. You're the sacred sexual lady like that's a big shift. I'm sure there were other challenges to that.
00:26:24.430 --> 00:26:37.579 Courtney Fae Long: Yeah, I mean, one of the biggest challenges I've had has been social media, because there's some really strict filters around sexual content. Even sometimes sexuality, education content.
00:26:37.690 --> 00:26:52.169 Courtney Fae Long: So that's a really hard part of to it's it's hard enough just to say this kind of message in a way that's understandable, let alone have to use code words like I can't say bedroom or pleasure on on certain social media platforms.
00:26:52.170 --> 00:26:53.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You do it, you know.
00:26:53.280 --> 00:26:53.830 Courtney Fae Long: Yeah.
00:26:53.830 --> 00:26:55.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the word pleasure. Wow.
00:26:55.190 --> 00:27:08.910 Courtney Fae Long: Word pleasure on Tiktok. I got a violation of community guidelines for saying the word pleasure. So that's been really challenging. And yeah, but just definitely, from a branding standpoint. It's almost like a whole new business, right?
00:27:08.910 --> 00:27:09.380 Courtney Fae Long: Right?
00:27:09.380 --> 00:27:33.469 Courtney Fae Long: Business to. Okay. Now, I want to teach people about sexuality. But I've tried to really draw the parallels as well, such as you know. When I teach about angels we're always asking, Well, what do the angels think like intuitive angel messages. And now I teach people how to become their own intuitive guide. You know their crystal, clear intuition in their own body.
00:27:33.470 --> 00:27:40.839 Courtney Fae Long: right right just out of curiosity. Has anyone ever asked you? What do your angels say about all the sexual stuff?
00:27:41.232 --> 00:27:46.330 Courtney Fae Long: No, actually, no one's ever asked me that, Sam. It's a good question.
00:27:46.330 --> 00:27:49.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All right. So what do they think about all this stuff? Did you get?
00:27:49.790 --> 00:27:51.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What? What kind of like message.
00:27:51.210 --> 00:27:51.610 Courtney Fae Long: Jordan.
00:27:51.610 --> 00:27:53.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You get from them. Therefore.
00:27:53.100 --> 00:28:03.790 Courtney Fae Long: Well, yeah, that our sexual energy really is our direct link to our higher self or to God. Source, spirit universe. It's the energy we were created from.
00:28:03.900 --> 00:28:20.149 Courtney Fae Long: and so they're very much in support of it. I mean, I was doing angel readings. This was years before I even mentioned anything about sex. But angels were saying, you know, call on me during your sexual experience, and then I would share with clients, and a few clients are like, oh, yeah, I already do that.
00:28:20.690 --> 00:28:21.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Really.
00:28:21.430 --> 00:28:25.380 Courtney Fae Long: There's a lot of parallels. Yeah, interesting, interesting.
00:28:25.950 --> 00:28:34.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, over the years, over the 15 years I've been doing my show. You know, I've interviewed a lot of different psychic spiritual people. People I consider tuned in.
00:28:34.930 --> 00:28:45.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and I remember years and years and years ago, like probably, you know, close to 15 years ago, interviewing a woman who, who was, was very psychic.
00:28:46.390 --> 00:28:51.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and I think I asked her about relationships. And she said, You know, spirit.
00:28:52.280 --> 00:29:14.849 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: they think our whole attitudes towards relationships is ridiculous. They're like, what are you making such a big deal over? Just be with each other, you know, and like all of these sort of societal Norms. And this is one of the reasons why I interviewed Leanne Feingold last week. To talk about Polyamory and and and ethical non-monogamy
00:29:15.050 --> 00:29:22.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is is that from when you look at things from an energetic perspective, like
00:29:22.600 --> 00:29:30.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: restrictive rules or cultural norms around things energetically kind of
00:29:30.730 --> 00:29:35.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: tighten the energy, collapse, the energy, and they're not as expansive.
00:29:35.590 --> 00:29:40.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and I'm not making any culture wrong. I'm not saying anyone should not
00:29:41.270 --> 00:29:44.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: follow what they believe is moral and ethical.
00:29:44.620 --> 00:29:52.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but I'm just to look at things from an energetic perspective. It's kind of interesting how, over the
00:29:52.920 --> 00:30:02.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: millennia so much energy has gone into sort of restricting sexual activity and restricting relationship, activity.
00:30:03.700 --> 00:30:07.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Which kind of goes against the energy of the whole thing, doesn't it?
00:30:07.770 --> 00:30:14.548 Courtney Fae Long: It really does. Yeah. And I have something that I'll share. I'll wait till after our break. But I have something to share about that.
00:30:14.820 --> 00:30:18.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Aye, wonderful wonderful! So so with that cliffhanger
00:30:19.190 --> 00:30:28.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: next break, please stay tuned. You are listening to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity, and we'll be right back with our guest, Courtney, Phelan.
00:32:11.420 --> 00:32:19.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Alright Courtney, you left us with a cliffhanger. So what do you have to say about this whole idea of relationships and restriction and stuff?
00:32:19.020 --> 00:32:32.520 Courtney Fae Long: Well, I thought that was such a brilliant point, Sam, because the restriction energy. So it goes back to our direct link to the divine to the whole universe, that our sexual energy is
00:32:32.720 --> 00:32:37.919 Courtney Fae Long: our soul essence flowing through our physical body.
00:32:37.930 --> 00:32:55.060 Courtney Fae Long: So there's religions that have really restricted it. And I believe wholeheartedly that eons ago, when these religions were formed, that they were possibly trying to control people, and with that they wanted people to believe
00:32:55.060 --> 00:33:11.689 Courtney Fae Long: that they don't have their own direct link to the divine. They need the spiritual leader. That's interpreting what God says, for example. So it was more of just let's strip the people from their sexual connection, their sexual power. Let's make sex wrong.
00:33:11.800 --> 00:33:16.880 Courtney Fae Long: and let's restrict the whole energy so that people follow the leader.
00:33:17.330 --> 00:33:37.589 Courtney Fae Long: you know, and so on. And we're literally as a society. We're still in that, I'd say a mess of just feeling like, Oh, sex is wrong. I shouldn't enjoy this. And and like you said, it's a very, it's a very expansive energy. It's not restrictive. So yeah, it's so exciting that we're having this almost a revival of people in their power. Looking at.
00:33:37.740 --> 00:33:47.960 Courtney Fae Long: do I want to be polyamorous? Do I want to experience ethical non-monogamy? Do I want to, you know, explore my own sexual energy through self pleasure. Which
00:33:48.290 --> 00:33:52.390 Courtney Fae Long: beautiful thing they're just. Yeah, there's a lot to it. But I just want to point. There's
00:33:52.560 --> 00:34:09.229 Courtney Fae Long: when we are sexually empowered. Our intuition is wide open. We know the next answer for our next action step, whether it's for our business, our money, making our love life to be happy and healthy. So it's really connected to our power.
00:34:09.239 --> 00:34:36.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah. Yeah. And so one of the interesting things I find about the the perspective with which you're taking is you're focusing on money and sex. You're like, you're focusing on sort of the impact that sex has on our financial life and and vice versa. I'm wondering what kind of brought that like highlighted that for you that got you to say like, Oh, my God! This is something really important, and we need to talk about.
00:34:36.670 --> 00:34:49.559 Courtney Fae Long: Yeah. Well, that's a really good question. There's a couple pieces. One was Napoleon Hill talks about this in his book, think and grow rich. He has a whole chapter on sex transmutation.
00:34:49.960 --> 00:34:57.089 Courtney Fae Long: And as I was exploring myself, I realized we can use our sexual energy to create. It's
00:34:57.120 --> 00:35:10.469 Courtney Fae Long: to manifest right and and a lot of people. It just became popular on Tiktok a handful of years ago. They call it the O. Method, and it's where, when you're getting close to orgasm.
00:35:10.470 --> 00:35:27.599 Courtney Fae Long: You imagine what you want to create, whether it's a new relationship or deeper love in your current relationship or more money business opportunity whatever. You imagine, what you want to create, and you use that heightened sexual energy which is the highest vibration we can experience.
00:35:27.650 --> 00:35:31.450 Courtney Fae Long: And it's almost like a portal of creation. So you imagine
00:35:31.830 --> 00:35:33.550 Courtney Fae Long: you want as though it's happening
00:35:33.900 --> 00:35:40.569 Courtney Fae Long: as you're getting close to orgasm, if possible, even while you're orgasming. And after in the afterglow.
00:35:40.770 --> 00:35:41.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah, so it's.
00:35:41.560 --> 00:35:43.629 Courtney Fae Long: Really a potent practice.
00:35:43.990 --> 00:36:03.329 Courtney Fae Long: and that's just there's a lot more to it. But that's the kind of the coolest part of the manifestation process that people get excited about. But I just started looking at. Wait a minute. Since I have become sexually empowered, I'm putting myself out there more in the world. I'm more confident going on social media or sharing my own story. I'm
00:36:03.330 --> 00:36:19.310 Courtney Fae Long: writing books, I'm you know, just things that I used to feel so stuck in self-doubt. I suddenly almost had the accelerator on, you know, I could share freely. So it was just all these pieces where I just started realizing I'm making a lot more money than I ever was.
00:36:19.380 --> 00:36:20.969 Courtney Fae Long: Then I started looking at
00:36:21.090 --> 00:36:32.490 Courtney Fae Long: how do these puzzle pieces fit together? So I say in my Tedx talk. I say Napoleon Hill, and think and grow rich, he said, yeah, there's a thing here, you know. This is connected money and sex.
00:36:32.720 --> 00:36:44.009 Courtney Fae Long: I figured out how it works, and looked at some of the research behind it, and figured out the steps which I put into my glow step. So I kind of created the map of how it works.
00:36:44.505 --> 00:36:46.484 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I see I see
00:36:47.640 --> 00:37:02.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: interesting, interesting. And so you know, money, both money and sex, are 2 highly charged topics in the world, and to bring them both together. Seems like it could be rather explosive
00:37:04.070 --> 00:37:05.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in a way.
00:37:06.590 --> 00:37:12.546 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Have you had like people? What's the term like?
00:37:13.530 --> 00:37:18.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: - what they call online. When when someone really comes after you.
00:37:18.710 --> 00:37:20.109 Courtney Fae Long: Backlash, or.
00:37:20.110 --> 00:37:21.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah, backlash. And like.
00:37:21.720 --> 00:37:22.370 Courtney Fae Long: Sing.
00:37:22.370 --> 00:37:23.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah.
00:37:23.993 --> 00:37:26.759 Courtney Fae Long: Well, you know, I'd say.
00:37:27.430 --> 00:37:30.209 Courtney Fae Long: had a terrible backlash, which is really good.
00:37:30.210 --> 00:37:31.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Okay. Good.
00:37:31.570 --> 00:37:42.850 Courtney Fae Long: Yeah, but also on a lot of social media platforms. I haven't found a way to speak super freely about it. So the the most freely. I've said it is in my Tedx talk on Youtube.
00:37:43.130 --> 00:37:49.470 Courtney Fae Long: Yeah. But the funny thing to me is often when I say, Oh, money and sex people immediately think prostitution.
00:37:49.680 --> 00:37:51.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah, it's like, there's.
00:37:51.100 --> 00:38:01.860 Courtney Fae Long: We have so much more to learn about this. But there's even scientific studies that link these together. You know, there's a lot of studies that say just sex.
00:38:02.440 --> 00:38:09.900 Courtney Fae Long: like, I mean just sex in terms of it's not like conscious, creative, sacred sex, just the kind of regular sex.
00:38:10.600 --> 00:38:24.769 Courtney Fae Long: Increases our happiness, that people who have sex once a week or more are happier than people who have sex less frequently than that. There's lots of health benefits like improving our immunity, reducing anxiety, reducing stress.
00:38:24.970 --> 00:38:31.969 Courtney Fae Long: whole long list of health benefits. There's studies that link sex with increased self-esteem and confidence. There's links.
00:38:32.560 --> 00:38:43.230 Courtney Fae Long: creativity, productivity at work the next day. And there was one study that actually noticed that the more sexually active someone is.
00:38:43.430 --> 00:38:45.969 Courtney Fae Long: the higher their wages at work.
00:38:45.970 --> 00:38:47.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Oh, interesting!
00:38:47.220 --> 00:38:58.670 Courtney Fae Long: Isn't that cool? It wasn't a direct thing they didn't think, oh, more sex causes more money. But they said, it's because of those well-being effects that sex helps us feel, you know, brighter, lighter.
00:38:58.670 --> 00:38:59.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah.
00:38:59.270 --> 00:39:24.509 Courtney Fae Long: Step that they think. Then it's helping people's work performance and therefore their wages. So it's it's really powerful. And part of the reason I've tried, you know, really tackling. This is because of the taboo. You know, I'm a spiritual woman entrepreneur. I know I've had my own struggles just realizing it's okay to make good money, you know, and not just enough to get by. But
00:39:24.580 --> 00:39:30.869 Courtney Fae Long: actually, many of us are being called to rewrite the script completely and say, actually.
00:39:31.080 --> 00:39:37.629 Courtney Fae Long: we are meant to be rich and overflowing, because the more money we have, the more people we can help.
00:39:37.860 --> 00:39:38.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Right.
00:39:38.460 --> 00:39:42.320 Courtney Fae Long: You know, and the nature of our soul just is abundant.
00:39:42.320 --> 00:39:42.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Right.
00:39:42.710 --> 00:39:47.739 Courtney Fae Long: It's almost like being in alignment with our soul. So yeah, there's a lot to it.
00:39:47.810 --> 00:39:51.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So how many years now have you been putting out this message.
00:39:52.070 --> 00:39:57.860 Courtney Fae Long: So like 6 and a half years. The sexual message out of my 25 years of teaching.
00:39:57.860 --> 00:39:58.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Wow!
00:39:58.390 --> 00:39:59.390 Courtney Fae Long: Yeah, yeah.
00:39:59.490 --> 00:40:09.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm curious if maybe you can give us an example of maybe someone you've worked with, who you've helped and and what sort of shifted in their life after you've
00:40:09.900 --> 00:40:13.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: kind of help them to really embody this this
00:40:14.130 --> 00:40:16.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: way of being. I guess I'd call it.
00:40:16.790 --> 00:40:19.780 Courtney Fae Long: Yeah, absolutely. I'll share about Lotus.
00:40:19.950 --> 00:40:41.870 Courtney Fae Long: one of my clients. And she's single. So that's it's a really good example that our sexual energy is within us, we can share it with a partner. But we can also do this on our own as well. So anyway, Lotus basically experienced a huge increase in her worthiness, her feeling of feeling worthy and confident.
00:40:42.130 --> 00:40:53.510 Courtney Fae Long: and she also noticed naturally, that she was making more money and like attracting more work she was doing. She was working for a company, but also doing some contract work.
00:40:53.620 --> 00:40:58.140 Courtney Fae Long: And she basically started making more money and started paying off her debt.
00:40:59.160 --> 00:41:22.430 Courtney Fae Long: Yeah, it was really powerful. And I think, you know, there's just a link, too, of the more confident we are, the more worthy we feel. Of course we're going to expect more money when we're negotiating pay rate at a job, or when we're attracting more clients. And she also had the confidence to start her own business as well as an angel communicator, which is so.
00:41:22.430 --> 00:41:23.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Oh!
00:41:23.390 --> 00:41:23.960 Courtney Fae Long: Oh!
00:41:23.960 --> 00:41:28.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Nice. So did she do this with partners, or she's doing this by herself.
00:41:28.920 --> 00:41:30.329 Courtney Fae Long: All by herself.
00:41:30.540 --> 00:41:31.519 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Oh, wow!
00:41:31.940 --> 00:41:41.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Wow! Interesting, interesting. I'm curious. Do you find more women are attracted to this message than men.
00:41:42.490 --> 00:41:57.959 Courtney Fae Long: That's a good question, I would say, maybe just slightly more women. But there's been a lot of men, too, a lot of men who are craving deeper, more meaningful sexual experiences, and just generally more authentic love. You know just.
00:41:57.960 --> 00:41:59.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The general keeper.
00:41:59.480 --> 00:42:04.199 Courtney Fae Long: Connection to themselves, to the universe, to their partner.
00:42:04.370 --> 00:42:15.143 Courtney Fae Long: Yeah, yeah, cause I work. You know, I have a wonderful business coach, and they're always trying to get me to niche down, you know. Just focus on women, and it's like no sorry.
00:42:15.460 --> 00:42:36.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah, yeah. Now, this sounds like something that that everyone needs to hear. I'm curious when when you work with someone and you, you 1st try and coach them and encourage them in this direction. What is usually their biggest challenge with with just getting started with, just, you know, beginning to embody this way of being.
00:42:36.780 --> 00:42:58.369 Courtney Fae Long: Well, I would say, because I teach glow practices that involve self pleasure, you know, also known as sacred masturbation. And so for a lot of women especially, it can be hard to get turned on enough to just get into the self pleasure. And also one of the biggest challenges is so simple. It's just
00:42:58.610 --> 00:43:03.240 Courtney Fae Long: time because people tend to put pleasure last on the to do list
00:43:03.460 --> 00:43:25.029 Courtney Fae Long: and think of it as a luxury like. Oh, you know, if I've got time or energy at the end of the day, not realizing actually sexual self pleasure gives us more energy. It energizes us. And also it's so important that we got to put it. You know, we got to prioritize it and put it higher on the to do list and carve out time.
00:43:25.030 --> 00:43:34.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Isn't that so interesting that the thing that like brings us joy? We put far down on the priority list.
00:43:34.020 --> 00:43:36.410 Courtney Fae Long: Yes, yep.
00:43:36.700 --> 00:43:42.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why do you think that is? Is that a self worth issue? Or is it just a societal programming issue?
00:43:42.690 --> 00:44:03.769 Courtney Fae Long: I think, both for sure. Because, yeah, we're we're programmed to think we got to be productive all the time, and even like a lot of my clients, the ones I have literally right now. They just have a hard time just taking a break, or resting, or just sitting outside in nature, let alone enjoying sexual pleasure. So it's it's almost like that culture of struggle and suffering. You got to struggle and suffer.
00:44:03.780 --> 00:44:19.910 Courtney Fae Long: suffer. And if you're lucky, you get a burst of joy here and there, but it's like no, we can infuse joy and pleasure into our everyday moments, and feel that more and more. So I think there's something about the permission, like giving ourselves permission to just feel good. It's okay to feel
00:44:19.910 --> 00:44:21.450 Courtney Fae Long: okay. And we're supposed to post.
00:44:22.050 --> 00:44:24.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely.
00:44:25.360 --> 00:44:45.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Okay, I do want to ask you about your your glow method. But I think I want to take the break first, st and then let's get into it when we come back. And then we have to finish this up, and I'd love to know you know where what you see in the future. If there are any new books you're working on, or anything you're working on for the future. Okay.
00:44:45.350 --> 00:44:46.579 Courtney Fae Long: Awesome sounds, great.
00:44:46.580 --> 00:44:57.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All right. Wonderful. So everybody, please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity, and we'll be right back to finish this all up with our guest, Courtney Feilung.
00:46:46.320 --> 00:46:52.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So, Courtney, before the break you mentioned about your glow methodology. Why don't you share that with our audience?
00:46:52.880 --> 00:47:13.999 Courtney Fae Long: Absolutely so. The glow number one, the G in glow, stands for grounding, and that is literally about grounding into our body, not grounding onto the earth, but just being present in our body, especially in our root Chakra, which is where our sacred genitals are, and really being so anchored in our root
00:47:14.320 --> 00:47:36.269 Courtney Fae Long: being so anchored in our root that we can really feel our intuitive guidance. So I say in my Tedx talk that our genitals are meant to be our GPS, our genital positioning system. I know we've got a lot of shame in that area as a society, but it's so important to be present in our body.
00:47:36.520 --> 00:47:37.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Hmm.
00:47:37.640 --> 00:48:07.019 Courtney Fae Long: Glow. Number 2 is the L in glow which stands for love. So this step is all about the heart. It's about melting our heart. Wall, this kind of energetic wall that we hold where we've had past hurts or resentments, where we say, Oh, I don't want to be hurt again. So then we kind of unconsciously block the flow of love. So it's just really about opening, opening our heart to love to receiving abundance.
00:48:07.090 --> 00:48:13.390 Courtney Fae Long: And the other part of it is getting in our feminine energy enough to actually receive, because, you know, so many of us
00:48:13.510 --> 00:48:20.440 Courtney Fae Long: give, give, give, but then, when it comes to receiving. We sometimes can be blocked so.
00:48:20.740 --> 00:48:31.610 Courtney Fae Long: and and each glow step literally. When I teach these, I spend months on each one. So I'm trying to give a little brief, you know, brief kind of snippets of it. But in general
00:48:31.870 --> 00:48:34.310 Courtney Fae Long: it's really about that process of opening.
00:48:34.630 --> 00:48:35.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Gotcha.
00:48:35.500 --> 00:48:41.160 Courtney Fae Long: Yeah. Glow number 3. The O in glow stands for orgasmic.
00:48:41.490 --> 00:48:51.109 Courtney Fae Long: So in glow number 3, it's about really lighting our sexual fire. Our sexual energy feeling turned on in our everyday life.
00:48:51.870 --> 00:49:00.100 Courtney Fae Long: in you know that feeling of when you have a sexual fantasy. Just imagine if you can feel that feeling when you're sitting at your desk
00:49:00.320 --> 00:49:10.400 Courtney Fae Long: sending an email, or when you're sitting down to create your next project or creative idea. So I would definitely recommend for the viewers.
00:49:10.730 --> 00:49:39.339 Courtney Fae Long: our sexual fantasies during the day, you know. Let your body feel turned on, because, as a society, what we have, we've been taught so little about sex that when we get turned on often we want to release it like, Oh, let me go self pleasure! Let me make love to my partner, and then we like kind of rush to the orgasm and release the energy. But if you can just hang with that feeling of like, Wow, this feels good to feel turned on and start thinking, how can I channel this
00:49:39.450 --> 00:49:46.320 Courtney Fae Long: energy into my creativity? And my work is it's phenomenal. So yeah, isn't that cool?
00:49:46.320 --> 00:49:48.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah, yeah, nice. Nice.
00:49:48.270 --> 00:50:05.580 Courtney Fae Long: Yeah, and then glow number 4. The W. And glow stands for wealth, and that is the step where it's all about utilizing our sexual energy to create what we want to manifest, whether that's money or opportunities that bring money to us, fulfilling our purpose.
00:50:05.700 --> 00:50:35.079 Courtney Fae Long: manifesting love, whatever it is. But that's that that really kind of advanced level where we say, Okay, this energy, our sexual energy is our creative life force, energy. It's powerful enough to create new life, a baby. So it's certainly powerful enough to create other. You know smaller things in our lives, or big things like, you know, wealth. And and again. It's all about just clearing the shame, clearing shame around.
00:50:35.080 --> 00:50:35.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know.
00:50:35.490 --> 00:50:48.139 Courtney Fae Long: Money, sex, just all of it. And just like you said about the the energy. It's not a restrictive energy. Our sexual energy is very expansive, and it helps us to feel alive. So these.
00:50:48.140 --> 00:50:48.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah.
00:50:48.580 --> 00:50:58.419 Courtney Fae Long: The last thing I'll say. But is these glow steps? It's about taking that energy from the root, Chakra, because that's where it's kind of stuck for most people. It's almost like a dormant volcano.
00:50:58.810 --> 00:50:59.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Chakra.
00:50:59.380 --> 00:51:07.260 Courtney Fae Long: That for some people, even if they've had great sex, they might not have tapped into this powerful sexual energy.
00:51:07.260 --> 00:51:07.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: -
00:51:07.990 --> 00:51:12.570 Courtney Fae Long: And you breathe it up. You move it up through the chakras all the way up.
00:51:12.570 --> 00:51:13.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's fine!
00:51:14.520 --> 00:51:20.129 Courtney Fae Long: The way out your crown into your energy field like a fountain, and that's where you get that
00:51:20.310 --> 00:51:22.820 Courtney Fae Long: glow, this profound glow.
00:51:22.820 --> 00:51:24.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Gotcha gotcha.
00:51:25.300 --> 00:51:32.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So you know, I'm trying to think of my listeners and and the challenges they might have with this. And I'm thinking of just.
00:51:32.580 --> 00:51:44.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know. Let's say you have 2 people who are partners. They could be opposite sex, same sex, and maybe they have a kid or 2. And they've been together a long time. And and you know, there's sort of this
00:51:44.830 --> 00:52:04.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the sort of traditional concept of like the longer you're together. And you have children, and you get tired and just. Even the idea of being affectionate or romantically as connected as you were in the beginning, is is much more difficult, and I'm wondering, what would you advise someone in that kind of situation?
00:52:05.070 --> 00:52:21.100 Courtney Fae Long: Well, the like really fun thing to do is to share with each other your top 3 turn ons just things that really turn you on, and it could be sexually like I get really turned on when you caress my hair.
00:52:21.250 --> 00:52:24.119 Courtney Fae Long: or it could be something in everyday life
00:52:24.270 --> 00:52:27.640 Courtney Fae Long: it really turned on when you surprised me with flowers.
00:52:29.000 --> 00:52:32.461 Courtney Fae Long: Right, or I get turned on. When you take the trash out.
00:52:33.244 --> 00:52:35.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Or wash the dishes.
00:52:35.220 --> 00:52:44.650 Courtney Fae Long: Yeah, wash the dishes exactly. And so we always want to focus on the positive, not the negative, you know. Not like, Oh, I get turned off when you don't take the trash out.
00:52:44.650 --> 00:52:45.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah, yeah.
00:52:45.200 --> 00:53:11.079 Courtney Fae Long: Focus on the positive. And just literally, I would literally just get up post-it notes and be like, here's my top 3 turn ons. What are yours? Make it maybe a fun date to even think about it and talk about it and share with each other. And then you just choose one choose one you know, to focus on in that moment. And remember, there's just such power and flirtation and compliments just telling each other.
00:53:11.770 --> 00:53:14.499 Courtney Fae Long: You look really hot in those jeans.
00:53:14.780 --> 00:53:15.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And.
00:53:15.460 --> 00:53:22.980 Courtney Fae Long: Wow! That smile! Oh, my gosh! Your smile just melts my heart. Just little compliments can also kind of help spark the fire.
00:53:22.990 --> 00:53:35.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah, gotcha gotcha. Unfortunately, we don't have a lot of time left. I would love to know, like you've written a lot of books in the past. Are you working on anything now? What? What's the future? Hold for Courtney?
00:53:35.460 --> 00:53:36.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yes.
00:53:36.680 --> 00:53:47.379 Courtney Fae Long: Sure am. I'm working on a book for women specifically, of how to light their sexual fire and manifest more money. And I say women are meant to be rich, I mean.
00:53:48.100 --> 00:54:04.120 Courtney Fae Long: but this one specifically for women. And I also am really focusing on women who want more sex than their partner who tend to have a lot of shame about it so highly. Sexual women who want more sex. Maybe they don't know how to ask.
00:54:04.320 --> 00:54:09.339 Courtney Fae Long: And yeah, so. But we'll be writing a book about that as well, and teaching classes.
00:54:09.470 --> 00:54:16.599 Courtney Fae Long: Yes, so lots ahead. And I do. I also teach retreats for private retreats, for couples and group retreats, and
00:54:16.710 --> 00:54:25.249 Courtney Fae Long: Kauai, Hawaii and Sedona, Arizona. I live in Phoenix, Arizona. So it's just short drive up the road to get to Sedona. Yeah.
00:54:25.410 --> 00:54:37.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Oh, wonderful, wonderful! One question before we close out. I'm curious. Just kind of came to mind. Is this the sexual dynamic between
00:54:38.190 --> 00:54:47.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: heterosexual versus homosexual versus trans people. Is, is there a difference when when people have a different sexual orientation than the normal thing.
00:54:47.490 --> 00:54:59.430 Courtney Fae Long: Well, that is a really good question. Our sexual energy, just by its nature, has both feminine qualities and masculine qualities. And so I would say, the energy is very neutral.
00:54:59.670 --> 00:55:24.780 Courtney Fae Long: and call on more of a kind of like a igniting masculine energy like the spark, the initiator. And you could call on a more kind of feminine, relaxed energy that's receiving. So it's yes. And when I had a relationship with a woman for many years, this is when I started exploring sexual energy because I realized we didn't have the same equipment that I was.
00:55:24.780 --> 00:55:25.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Do you see?
00:55:25.120 --> 00:55:26.540 Courtney Fae Long: When I was at the man.
00:55:26.540 --> 00:55:26.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah.
00:55:26.970 --> 00:55:29.720 Courtney Fae Long: And so I started feeling there's so much more
00:55:29.890 --> 00:55:32.930 Courtney Fae Long: to the energetic level where we can just.
00:55:32.930 --> 00:55:33.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And.
00:55:33.470 --> 00:55:45.540 Courtney Fae Long: Make love. It's almost like making love to each other's souls. And and that's where sex becomes not just physical, but the spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical.
00:55:45.820 --> 00:55:55.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Got it. Got it. Okay? I think that's a wonderful place to end off. If people want to learn more about you, get in touch with you. How do they find you? How they reach out to you?
00:55:55.330 --> 00:56:03.210 Courtney Fae Long: My website is Courtney faylong.com. Fay is FAE. And long is LONG.
00:56:03.400 --> 00:56:12.079 Courtney Fae Long: Courtney Fay long, and you can find me on all the social media platforms at Courtney Fay Long, except my Tiktok, is Courtney Fay, 2 2.
00:56:12.640 --> 00:56:25.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Okay, Courtney. All right, Courtney. Thank you so much for coming on the show this week to talk about 2 very important topics, sex and money. I really appreciate you. Thank you so much.
00:56:25.330 --> 00:56:37.560 Courtney Fae Long: Oh, Sam, thank you so much for having me. You're incredible. I was so excited for this, and you're just amazing. Thank you for everything you do in the world, and shout out to your Tedx, talk, everybody! Watch Sam's talk. If you haven't.
00:56:37.560 --> 00:57:07.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And thank you. Thank you, and watch. Courtney's as well. We'll put it in the show notes. Thank you so much. And of course, thank you, my loyal listeners, for tuning in each week. Without you there is no show. We so appreciate you. And don't forget if you did miss any part of today's show, you can always catch the replay on talkradio dot Nyc on all the major podcasting platforms, apple, Google spotify Pandora iheartradio. Thank you all for tuning in. Don't forget later today
00:57:07.710 --> 00:57:22.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Frank Harrison and his show, Frank about health, followed by that business trio, Bruce, Angie, and Nataj for serving up success with a splash. Take care, everyone! We will talk to you all next week.
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