WHAT WILL THE AUDIENCE LEARN?
This week on The Conscious Consultant Hour, we’re exploring a subtle but powerful force that often shapes our inner world without us even realizing it. Idealism.
While it might seem noble to hold high ideals, for ourselves, others, or the world, idealism can sometimes take us out of the present moment and into a version of reality that doesn’t exist. When we cling to how things should be, we often suffer from the gap between that vision and what actually is in reality.
Idealizing people, relationships, or outcomes can disconnect us from our intuition and cause us to miss the deeper wisdom available in real-life situations. Whether it’s expecting a partner to act a certain way, believing that we must live up to an impossible spiritual or professional standard, or feeling crushed when the world doesn’t meet our ideals, the result is often disappointment, frustration, and a subtle form of self-rejection and self-judgment.
In this episode, we’ll uncover how to recognize idealism when it shows up, how to gently come back to grounded reality, and how to make peace with what is, without giving up our hopes or values. Sam will share some very personal stories to highlight this. It is not about settling, it’s about living from truth instead of illusion. Listen in and learn how letting go of perfection can actually bring more freedom, clarity, and genuine fulfillment to your life.
Tune in and share your own thoughts and feelings about how you have idealized life on our YouTube livestream or on our Facebook page.
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In this solo episode of The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam Liebowitz reflects on the deeper layers of healing, emphasizing that true transformation requires us to feel our pain—not just think about it. He shares how emotional energy often stays trapped in the body, and that real progress comes when we’re willing to face discomfort, with the support of guides or community, and let those feelings move through us. Sam’s message calls on spiritually conscious individuals to embrace somatic awareness and courageous vulnerability as vital steps toward authentic liberation and growth.
In this segment of The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam Liebowitz explores the shadow side of idealism, reflecting on how ungrounded visions of perfection can disconnect us from the present and lead to personal suffering. Using the story of King Arthur and Camelot as a metaphor, he shares a personal revelation about how his own idealistic beliefs once blinded him to reality and caused avoidable pain. Sam encourages spiritually conscious individuals to honor their visions, but temper them with grounded awareness so they can make empowered choices rooted in truth, not illusion.
In this segment, Sam Liebowitz continues unpacking the hidden costs of ungrounded idealism, sharing how unrealistic expectations—of himself, others, and the world—led to painful disappointment and missed opportunities. He reflects on past ventures like The Millennial Project, where noble visions lacked the foundation of practical commitment and realistic planning, illustrating how idealism untethered from reality can create emotional turmoil, blame, and loss. Rather than abandoning dreams, Sam invites spiritually conscious listeners to balance their visionary nature with discernment, so they can make wiser, heart-centered choices that truly serve their growth and well-being.
In the final segment of this episode, Sam Liebowitz offers grounded guidance on how to temper idealism without losing our visionary spirit. He emphasizes the importance of cultivating inner safety, feeling deeply, and observing reality without distortion—so we can make clear, empowered decisions rather than acting from fantasy or avoidance. For spiritually conscious individuals, this is a heartfelt invitation to remove the rose-colored glasses, embrace truth as it is, and move forward with both feet firmly on the earth and eyes set on conscious evolution.
00:00:40.390 --> 00:00:55.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Good afternoon, my conscious co-creators. Welcome to another edition of the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity. I am very, very pleased that you are all here with me today.
00:00:56.200 --> 00:01:04.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We've got another one of those shows those special shows where it's just you and me. So I really hope that you'll
00:01:04.750 --> 00:01:30.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: comment on the live streams. Put your questions, your comments in so that we can have a conversation between you and me instead of with a guest last week if anybody tried to tune in. You noticed we did do a rerun last week. Unfortunately, my guest last week canceled at the last minute, and I just was coming off of a training, and and just didn't have the
00:01:30.270 --> 00:01:45.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the mental capacity to put together a show at the last minute. So we reran one of my favorite shows, which was my interview with the author, Paul Levy, all about his book on quantum Mechanics, and
00:01:45.240 --> 00:01:56.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: really a wonderful, wonderful show if you missed that if you missed the original airing or the rerun go to talkradio dot Nyc. Under the conscious consultant hour and check it out. It's a really good episode.
00:01:57.839 --> 00:02:00.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Okay, so for today.
00:02:00.980 --> 00:02:05.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of course, we're going to start off with a blog post, even though it's just me and you
00:02:05.770 --> 00:02:14.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and today's blog post. Actually, it kind of relates to the topic today which I'll get to in a moment. But today's blog post is entitled
00:02:14.720 --> 00:02:20.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to heal our pain. We must be willing to feel what we haven't felt before.
00:02:22.550 --> 00:02:25.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Most of us know what our challenges are.
00:02:25.590 --> 00:02:33.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The stories of our life are conscious, those memories are still vivid, if not fresh.
00:02:34.050 --> 00:02:37.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We work on those issues, yet they still trigger us
00:02:38.860 --> 00:02:41.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: as we walk on this path of healing.
00:02:42.190 --> 00:02:49.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We think that once we talk about our stories we will be better yet somehow we are not.
00:02:50.160 --> 00:02:53.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The same. Triggers still haunt us.
00:02:54.320 --> 00:02:59.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we fall into the same emotional traps we always have.
00:02:59.760 --> 00:03:01.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why is that?
00:03:01.680 --> 00:03:07.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What more do we need to do to change our patterns and move forward in our lives?
00:03:08.520 --> 00:03:18.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The key to really breaking those patterns comes when we understand that we can't think our way out of our pain
00:03:19.810 --> 00:03:25.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: releasing those stories and the experiences that they generate come not from the mind.
00:03:26.950 --> 00:03:30.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for the images and the feelings are not stuck in the brain.
00:03:31.290 --> 00:03:38.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Our nervous system, our body, our hearts, still carry that energy.
00:03:38.950 --> 00:03:48.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the weight of the pain we felt, and the trauma of those situations is lodged in the very cells of our body.
00:03:49.130 --> 00:03:53.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We forget that we are more than a brain and a mind.
00:03:53.880 --> 00:03:55.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We are also a heart.
00:03:56.840 --> 00:04:01.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We are also our heart, our body, and our spirit as well
00:04:01.500 --> 00:04:11.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to break these patterns and these cycles of unwanted behavior, we must 1st release the energy that is stuck in our bodies.
00:04:12.360 --> 00:04:20.849 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In other words, we have to feel our way through, not think our way through.
00:04:21.420 --> 00:04:27.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It is not enough to simply remember the incidences and think about them.
00:04:28.600 --> 00:04:37.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We have to listen to our bodies and feel those feelings that we have avoided and suppressed for so many years.
00:04:39.470 --> 00:04:41.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This can be difficult work.
00:04:42.170 --> 00:04:45.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: More than that, it can be very scary.
00:04:46.340 --> 00:04:51.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because it requires us to do what we have never done before.
00:04:52.800 --> 00:04:59.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to feel what we don't want to feel the pain, the shame.
00:04:59.670 --> 00:05:03.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the betrayal, the abandonment, the fear.
00:05:05.160 --> 00:05:13.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We are usually pretty good at feeling. The good feeling emotions, joy, excitement, gratitude, appreciation, love.
00:05:15.270 --> 00:05:19.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: yet feeling the uncomfortable feelings, is equally helpful.
00:05:21.180 --> 00:05:25.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: helpful, because those feelings show us where we are
00:05:26.440 --> 00:05:30.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: they? Show us, show us where we need to change.
00:05:30.970 --> 00:05:35.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and they show us where we need to forgive and let go.
00:05:36.290 --> 00:05:41.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or they show us where to be kinder to ourselves and to others.
00:05:43.550 --> 00:05:52.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: reaching deep down and accessing those feelings, is not for the faint of heart doing it on our own.
00:05:52.940 --> 00:05:56.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: can also be very challenging.
00:05:57.180 --> 00:06:05.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Seeking out a guide or a therapist to support us and guide us through. The process is one of the best things we can do
00:06:06.440 --> 00:06:12.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: find support from our community, finding support from our community is also helpful.
00:06:14.260 --> 00:06:20.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The important thing to keep in mind is that we don't have to do it all on our own.
00:06:22.070 --> 00:06:24.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We can get help and support.
00:06:25.260 --> 00:06:30.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if not from a trained professional, at least from an experienced guide.
00:06:31.760 --> 00:06:38.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The key is that we have to be willing to go where we haven't been willing to go before.
00:06:39.090 --> 00:06:43.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to feel what we haven't been willing to feel before.
00:06:43.980 --> 00:06:49.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and to experience what we haven't been willing to experience before.
00:06:50.540 --> 00:06:52.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Are you ready to dive in deep?
00:06:53.360 --> 00:06:58.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Are you willing to feel the pain once again, so you can let it go.
00:07:02.130 --> 00:07:10.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So as with most of my blog posts, I'm really writing this one to myself, because this is something
00:07:13.510 --> 00:07:20.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that I've experienced, that
00:07:20.570 --> 00:07:25.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: my wife, who's a therapist has pointed out to me many times, and in working with people
00:07:26.030 --> 00:07:30.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I've seen it and had to guide them themselves with this.
00:07:32.500 --> 00:07:34.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I am like most people.
00:07:35.060 --> 00:07:41.929 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I don't like going into those uncomfortable feelings. I don't like going into my pain, my shame, my guilt.
00:07:45.170 --> 00:07:47.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet. It's only when I do
00:07:48.660 --> 00:08:00.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that I make more room, that I release the energy that I am able to really process
00:08:01.520 --> 00:08:08.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and and release the hold and the grip those feelings have over me.
00:08:10.450 --> 00:08:16.689 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and, believe me, I know all my traumas. I know the experiences I've had in life.
00:08:17.180 --> 00:08:23.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I know you know a lot of the things that caused me challenges in my life.
00:08:24.220 --> 00:08:27.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I know it. It's conscious it's up here.
00:08:27.480 --> 00:08:39.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But have I felt it? Have I fully gone in and released that energy? I'm still working on it. I'm still a work in progress, just like everyone else
00:08:41.990 --> 00:08:49.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I can remember 11 years ago, a little over 11 years ago, when I did my 1st ceremony with a facilitator.
00:08:51.580 --> 00:08:59.749 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and all these images and things came up from an earlier part of my life that was very traumatic for me.
00:09:01.790 --> 00:09:04.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I was kind of confused@firstst
00:09:05.080 --> 00:09:06.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I was like.
00:09:07.610 --> 00:09:13.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I know all this. I've worked on this. I've done energy healing on it. I processed it.
00:09:14.460 --> 00:09:16.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why is it coming up now?
00:09:18.860 --> 00:09:26.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But the thing that was different that night is, I actually started to feel it.
00:09:26.930 --> 00:09:32.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I haven't felt the pain, felt the energy I was holding on to.
00:09:34.850 --> 00:09:40.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it was, you know I was jittery. I was like oh, it was. It was intense.
00:09:43.810 --> 00:09:53.749 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and what happened was by the end of the night, when I guess I had released
00:09:54.460 --> 00:10:04.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: all the energy I was ready to release around that situation, because I've had many ceremonies since then that still I was releasing energy around it.
00:10:05.310 --> 00:10:12.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But by the end of the night I felt like I had had this 1,000 pound weight on my shoulder that I finally dropped.
00:10:12.690 --> 00:10:16.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I didn't even know I was carrying it. I didn't even know it was there.
00:10:19.450 --> 00:10:25.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and so that experience it showed me so much about myself.
00:10:26.980 --> 00:10:30.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it showed me quite a lot about
00:10:30.630 --> 00:10:33.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what it means to truly heal.
00:10:38.260 --> 00:10:46.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And even though I felt it, and even though I understood the whole process.
00:10:49.050 --> 00:10:54.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Still, I'm a kind of an intellectual guy. I live in my mind like most people.
00:10:54.930 --> 00:11:00.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so there are lots of times where I don't
00:11:01.030 --> 00:11:03.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: go back and feel things until I'm
00:11:03.590 --> 00:11:07.659 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: really put in the position and forced to feel it to like.
00:11:07.910 --> 00:11:11.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: dive in until I intentionally do that work.
00:11:15.810 --> 00:11:22.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so I, when I, when I wrote this blog post a couple of years ago, it was both
00:11:23.120 --> 00:11:38.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: after me having another ceremony where I really had to feel things as well as helping others, and realizing that, like so many people in the group, were up in their heads and talking about
00:11:39.800 --> 00:11:49.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what had happened to them, but they weren't feeling what happened to them, so that energy was still there. It was still stuck inside of them. It was still in controlling them.
00:11:50.540 --> 00:11:59.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, look, I am not saying we have to marinate in our pain. I'm not saying we have to live inside our wounds.
00:12:00.680 --> 00:12:10.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The point of bringing up the feelings, bringing up the emotions, crying, yelling, screaming.
00:12:11.310 --> 00:12:14.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: feeling. The pain is to release it.
00:12:17.280 --> 00:12:26.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's to allow that stuckness inside of us to come out and let go
00:12:29.840 --> 00:12:34.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and look. I know I still have plenty to let go.
00:12:37.730 --> 00:12:40.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but I know the experience now.
00:12:42.440 --> 00:12:47.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I've helped others with the experience. My wife and I. When we do our groups.
00:12:48.670 --> 00:12:54.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's 1 of the important things is getting guiding people back to their body and back to the feelings.
00:12:56.180 --> 00:13:00.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because in this society, in this world we just don't feel enough.
00:13:00.520 --> 00:13:01.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't.
00:13:01.960 --> 00:13:07.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Whether you're a man or a woman does not matter. Women feel a lot more than men.
00:13:07.520 --> 00:13:14.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But these days a lot of women are not feeling their feelings. They're very much in their masculine aspect. They're very much.
00:13:14.700 --> 00:13:18.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I've got things to do my family to take care of my job. My, this, that
00:13:20.790 --> 00:13:23.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the society doesn't give us space
00:13:25.120 --> 00:13:33.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to just feel, to just be with our emotions, to just be with whatever is for us.
00:13:34.440 --> 00:13:37.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So it really does take intention.
00:13:37.610 --> 00:13:44.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it's very, very helpful to work with a guide, a coach, a therapist, an analyst.
00:13:45.210 --> 00:13:49.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: whatever flavor you, that appeals to you most.
00:13:53.150 --> 00:14:03.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but ultimately the whole point of diving in deep to these uncomfortable places, so we can be free.
00:14:03.880 --> 00:14:10.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not free, that they no longer live within us, they still live within us.
00:14:11.340 --> 00:14:17.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but so that they don't have control over us, so that
00:14:17.740 --> 00:14:21.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we make a choice. When we make a decision. When we show up.
00:14:22.260 --> 00:14:29.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we can show up from a more authentic place, we can show up from a more true place for ourselves.
00:14:32.430 --> 00:14:37.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And when we do that, then we noticed things shift.
00:14:38.350 --> 00:14:41.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean, it's so interesting to me
00:14:41.770 --> 00:14:45.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how when we shift things inside of ourselves.
00:14:46.460 --> 00:14:52.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: things start to shift around us. People shift, situations shift.
00:14:57.050 --> 00:15:01.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We talk about doing the inner work. I talk about doing the inner work all the time.
00:15:02.870 --> 00:15:05.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The inner work and the outer work are the same thing.
00:15:06.000 --> 00:15:10.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There is no difference between our inner world and our outer world.
00:15:10.490 --> 00:15:16.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The outer world is merely a reflection of what's going on inside of us.
00:15:17.580 --> 00:15:23.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So if there's something unpleasant in your outer world, it's time to look in.
00:15:24.760 --> 00:15:30.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's time to go to those places that are uncomfortable that don't feel good.
00:15:32.760 --> 00:15:39.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We have to feel our way through this process, not think our way through this process.
00:15:40.650 --> 00:15:52.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: My wife. I've mentioned her many times on the show. She's a somatic therapist. She does emdr and other kinds of somatic therapies, and she has said for years, years, she said.
00:15:52.410 --> 00:15:55.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: talk. Therapy can be helpful, but it's very limited.
00:15:56.280 --> 00:16:05.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You need to get to the body. You need to get to the feelings you need to get to those uncomfortable places, and just talking about it
00:16:06.430 --> 00:16:08.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: does a little bit doesn't do a lot.
00:16:10.190 --> 00:16:21.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So this week, my blog, it's a call to do that uncomfortable work and look.
00:16:21.980 --> 00:16:23.689 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I know it's not easy.
00:16:24.110 --> 00:16:26.749 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I've been doing this work now, for I mean.
00:16:27.050 --> 00:16:32.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: been doing the ceremonial work for 11 years. I've been doing personal development work for probably 20 years.
00:16:33.600 --> 00:16:35.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It ain't easy.
00:16:35.580 --> 00:16:36.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I get it.
00:16:37.070 --> 00:16:41.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's why you want to work with someone who's compassionate, who's done their own work.
00:16:42.230 --> 00:16:48.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Look. None of us is perfect. None of us has completely finished our work. It's lifelong work.
00:16:48.970 --> 00:16:53.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but it's the most rewarding endeavor we can ever engage in.
00:16:54.240 --> 00:16:59.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So if you're hearing this, if you're listening to this episode.
00:16:59.900 --> 00:17:05.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if there's some little piece of this that resonates with you, maybe it's a call for you
00:17:05.460 --> 00:17:11.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to dive in and feel a little bit more what you
00:17:12.119 --> 00:17:14.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: have been shy about feeling in the past.
00:17:17.240 --> 00:17:21.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I know I've been there, so that's our blog post for this week.
00:17:21.500 --> 00:17:28.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's entitled to heal our pain. We must be willing to feel what we haven't felt before.
00:17:29.440 --> 00:17:44.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and of course you can always find my blog at my personally branded website, theconsciousconsultant.com. And of course, on the talk radio website as well@talkradio.nyc slash blog.
00:17:44.450 --> 00:17:50.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All right. So we're going to go to break. And when we come back we're going to dive into our topic for today.
00:17:51.000 --> 00:17:54.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: which is how idealism is not ideal.
00:17:54.820 --> 00:18:03.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And this is a very personal topic for me, and I chose this topic because it's something that came up recently and is very present
00:18:03.740 --> 00:18:06.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for me personally right now. So
00:18:06.800 --> 00:18:29.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: please stay tuned. We'll be right back. You are listening to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity, and we do do this every Thursday 12 noon to one Pm. Eastern time right here on Talkradio, dot Nyc. And we'll be right back to get into our main topic of the day. Idealism is not ideal.
00:20:15.890 --> 00:20:21.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And welcome back to the conscious, consultant hour awakening humanity
00:20:21.430 --> 00:20:36.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: this week. It's just me and you so please, if you're listening, live, please comment on the live stream. Let me know what you think about what we're talking about this week. And yeah, ask questions, comments happy to
00:20:36.560 --> 00:20:38.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: get to all of them as I can.
00:20:39.040 --> 00:20:47.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So my topic this week is that idealism is not ideal. What do I mean by that?
00:20:49.090 --> 00:20:50.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You're welcome?
00:20:50.400 --> 00:20:58.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Let me start off with explaining why this topic kind of came to be, and why it's sort of
00:20:58.810 --> 00:21:02.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in present in my consciousness. Right now
00:21:02.320 --> 00:21:04.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and then. I'll kind of go through
00:21:06.460 --> 00:21:14.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how it's it's been present in my own life, and the meaning I'm trying to make now from it.
00:21:15.960 --> 00:21:22.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So I had a training a couple of weeks ago with with my teacher Armand, who was a brilliant man
00:21:24.280 --> 00:21:27.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we were. He was using the the
00:21:28.310 --> 00:21:34.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: movie Camelot, the 1967 version of Camelot, with Richard Harris and Vanessa Redgrave
00:21:35.480 --> 00:21:38.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: as an example. And we're talking sort of this
00:21:40.080 --> 00:21:44.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: this cycle. We're we're talking all about the masculine wound. And
00:21:44.850 --> 00:21:47.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and he was talking a lot about
00:21:48.060 --> 00:21:57.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Lancelot and King Arthur, and the Knights of the Round Table, and and Mordred, and the whole story of of King Arthur and the Knights of the Round Table.
00:21:58.130 --> 00:22:00.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But there was one little thing he said.
00:22:01.510 --> 00:22:07.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that really struck a chord in me, and he said
00:22:08.100 --> 00:22:14.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it was Arthur's idealism that doomed Camelot to failure.
00:22:16.590 --> 00:22:19.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I was like Whoa, Whoa!
00:22:21.760 --> 00:22:29.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that for some reason it just really resonated with me it just maybe I was finally ready to hear that.
00:22:32.210 --> 00:22:37.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because when I was a kid, King Arthur was one of my favorite
00:22:37.560 --> 00:22:40.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: fairy tales, one of my favorite stories.
00:22:42.420 --> 00:22:52.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and King Arthur's idealism, the idea of a Round table where no one is more important than anyone else, and bringing all the knights together and working together.
00:22:52.680 --> 00:22:54.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It always appealed to me.
00:22:58.360 --> 00:23:02.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so when he said that, and and
00:23:02.840 --> 00:23:09.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know went on and talked about other things, so he didn't spend a lot of time on that. But I sat with that during the evening.
00:23:13.990 --> 00:23:20.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I felt, I guess, a real ring of truth in that.
00:23:23.030 --> 00:23:23.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: No.
00:23:24.380 --> 00:23:31.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what do we mean by idealism. You know. What do we mean by someone being, you know, being idealistic? It's the I.
00:23:31.890 --> 00:23:40.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Idealism is about holding to a higher standard. It's about looking at
00:23:41.080 --> 00:23:46.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a a reality, something to live up to, not necessarily where we are.
00:23:47.220 --> 00:23:51.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: sort of the idea that you know things can be better than they are.
00:23:52.870 --> 00:24:05.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it's not that idealism is bad. Please don't take this the wrong way. I'm not bashing idealism. I'm not saying no, nobody should have the idealistic.
00:24:09.030 --> 00:24:14.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but it's when the idealism is ungrounded or is not tempered.
00:24:16.820 --> 00:24:19.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it takes us away from reality.
00:24:19.550 --> 00:24:22.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It takes us away from what's right in front of us.
00:24:25.000 --> 00:24:29.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so. What unfolded for me throughout that night.
00:24:31.990 --> 00:24:42.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I guess, were many points in my life, many difficulties I experienced in life, because I was being
00:24:44.430 --> 00:24:49.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: too idealistic and not grounded in the reality around me.
00:24:51.620 --> 00:24:54.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that really struck me very hard.
00:24:56.120 --> 00:25:00.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And there was a lot of pain and sadness over this.
00:25:02.340 --> 00:25:09.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because I realized that a lot of the challenges I had been through ended up being of my own making.
00:25:10.780 --> 00:25:14.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now I'm not saying I could have done any different or any better.
00:25:17.840 --> 00:25:25.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But it was that that idealistic side of me, the
00:25:25.700 --> 00:25:34.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: wanted to believe so badly that things were better than they are, that I couldn't see things the way they actually were.
00:25:40.630 --> 00:25:43.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that's what caused me a lot of suffering.
00:25:44.630 --> 00:25:48.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that's why I say idealism is not ideal.
00:25:53.410 --> 00:25:59.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because when we, when I hold this ideal.
00:26:00.820 --> 00:26:14.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Oh, that things are going to work out, and things are going to be great, and we're going to be wonderful together. And this and that, and we're not seeing the reality of the situation of the way people are of the way the world is
00:26:14.630 --> 00:26:17.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of of the way society is.
00:26:21.900 --> 00:26:26.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then we're headed for trouble. And then, just like King Arthur.
00:26:27.120 --> 00:26:36.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: who couldn't see that Mordred was going to destroy the Round Table and kept him in there again in this movie's particular version of it.
00:26:38.960 --> 00:26:46.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how we couldn't see what was going on with Lancelon and Guinevere until it was too late.
00:26:46.390 --> 00:26:51.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how he wanted to believe that they could be better. But they weren't. They were still human.
00:26:55.670 --> 00:27:04.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that when we see the world through rose-colored glasses.
00:27:05.610 --> 00:27:09.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we're not seeing things clearly, there's that tint on it.
00:27:12.330 --> 00:27:15.519 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's kind of funny, because in high school.
00:27:15.780 --> 00:27:31.129 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because I was a very optimistic person, people used to say, Oh, they're Sam with the rose colored glasses, and I eventually got a pair of tinted glasses. They were kind of purplish rose colored, so I literally saw the world through rose colored glasses.
00:27:35.600 --> 00:27:41.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now the thing is to see this in ourselves
00:27:41.370 --> 00:27:44.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: can be very challenging. It can be difficult.
00:27:46.470 --> 00:27:55.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because when we stop seeing ourselves through this idealistic lens, and we see ourselves
00:27:56.280 --> 00:28:01.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: through a more grounded, a more clear, a more present lens.
00:28:02.950 --> 00:28:08.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Sometimes those things we see are not so great and so wonderful.
00:28:09.100 --> 00:28:14.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we can not feel so good about ourselves because of it.
00:28:17.950 --> 00:28:28.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so for me it really shook me. This whole lesson, this whole thing really shook me
00:28:29.050 --> 00:28:30.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: on the inside.
00:28:34.690 --> 00:28:44.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because, like I said, I was the one who really created the situations
00:28:45.270 --> 00:28:48.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that caused a lot of pain, or myself.
00:28:49.910 --> 00:28:58.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because I wasn't seeing things clearly, and because I wasn't seeing things clearly. I made choices that were not
00:28:58.850 --> 00:29:03.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in my own best interest, that we're not grounded choices.
00:29:07.170 --> 00:29:11.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So that's why idealism is not ideal.
00:29:13.260 --> 00:29:17.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because it takes us away from the here and now it takes us away
00:29:18.620 --> 00:29:24.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: from being able to make the choices that really serve us and support us
00:29:25.190 --> 00:29:31.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and create a life for us where we can really thrive.
00:29:34.940 --> 00:29:35.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All right.
00:29:36.310 --> 00:29:42.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So so so this is our start of talking about how idealism is not ideal.
00:29:44.720 --> 00:29:48.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I'm going to talk about sort of.
00:29:50.270 --> 00:29:53.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know some of the things around it
00:29:53.900 --> 00:29:58.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a little bit more. Maybe I'll tell another little story, but it's also
00:29:58.800 --> 00:30:04.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: my goal is to get to the place where I'm I'm working towards now, which is
00:30:06.000 --> 00:30:11.349 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not how to counteract the idealism. But how do we temper the idealism
00:30:11.900 --> 00:30:18.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so that we still have our dreams? We still have that vision of how things could be.
00:30:18.920 --> 00:30:24.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But we recognize how things actually are. First, st all right. So
00:30:24.690 --> 00:30:26.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're gonna take a quick break
00:30:27.590 --> 00:30:35.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: again. If you have any questions, any thoughts, any ideas around this, please comment in the comment sections below the video.
00:30:36.420 --> 00:30:39.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And when we come back we're going to talk about.
00:30:40.980 --> 00:30:43.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know how
00:30:43.270 --> 00:30:50.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: taking idealism in other ways doesn't truly serve us, and how it can hinder us in some ways.
00:30:50.710 --> 00:31:03.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and what we can do about it. All right. So everyone, please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity. And we'll be right back in just a moment.
00:32:38.170 --> 00:32:46.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And welcome back to the conscious, consultant hour awakening humanity. We're talking this hour about how
00:32:46.750 --> 00:32:49.849 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: maybe idealism isn't so ideal.
00:32:50.830 --> 00:32:55.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so I talked about how
00:32:55.690 --> 00:32:59.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: my own idealism in my life
00:33:00.280 --> 00:33:05.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: kind of caused me to make some really bad decisions that didn't really serve me.
00:33:06.860 --> 00:33:15.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And this is something that that's very common. How when we idealize
00:33:16.180 --> 00:33:26.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the world, when we idealize people, when we idealize ourselves, we're disconnected from reality, we're disconnected from the way things really are.
00:33:28.400 --> 00:33:37.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and let's just look for a moment like how that works with ourselves, like when we see ourselves better than we actually are. What happens
00:33:37.790 --> 00:33:44.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we show up and we think we're stronger. We think we're smarter. We think we're better. We think we can handle something we can't.
00:33:46.110 --> 00:33:52.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and then we don't handle it because we didn't see things clearly, and that leads to disappointment.
00:33:52.690 --> 00:34:03.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We judge ourselves, we avoid dealing with things, we feel shame and guilt over the situation that we got ourselves into.
00:34:06.310 --> 00:34:08.929 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and in the end it's really it, it.
00:34:10.280 --> 00:34:14.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It causes us a lot of pain.
00:34:16.480 --> 00:34:19.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I don't want to say mistakes. Because
00:34:20.550 --> 00:34:26.349 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I I really feel mistakes are not a bad thing. That's how we learn. That's how we grow.
00:34:29.760 --> 00:34:40.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But when we over idealize ourselves and what we're capable of, and we over idealize others, and what they're capable of, and and how they're showing up
00:34:42.650 --> 00:34:48.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that disconnection from reality, that separation from the way things truly are.
00:34:48.980 --> 00:34:57.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It always leads to trouble, at least in my life. I mean, I don't know about you. I don't know your personal life in your situation. But I just know in my own life.
00:34:58.250 --> 00:35:01.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: whenever I've done that, it has always led to trouble.
00:35:04.660 --> 00:35:09.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and you know this idealism around ourselves.
00:35:10.540 --> 00:35:13.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can show up in a lot of different ways.
00:35:13.340 --> 00:35:16.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can show up with this idea of, we have to be perfect.
00:35:16.600 --> 00:35:23.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then we get neurotic about being perfect about every little thing I mean, like almost leading to Ocd.
00:35:23.350 --> 00:35:28.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because we think like, Oh, if everything is perfect, then then I'm good, then then I'm living up to this ideal.
00:35:29.380 --> 00:35:31.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Where's really?
00:35:31.360 --> 00:35:36.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's that's just about control, because we don't feel safe
00:35:37.350 --> 00:35:40.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because of some trauma that we've experienced.
00:35:45.620 --> 00:35:52.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so again, when we're separating ourselves from the reality
00:35:52.540 --> 00:36:02.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of why we're doing the things that we're doing and what we're capable of it. Really.
00:36:03.260 --> 00:36:08.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it really doesn't serve us. And and and you know, it was quite interesting. One of the
00:36:09.740 --> 00:36:13.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: one of the things I idealized that didn't work out in the past.
00:36:14.000 --> 00:36:17.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and it's so funny because it had just come up
00:36:17.800 --> 00:36:26.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that night as this being sort of one of these touch points in my life where my idealism I mean. Luckily I didn't get too too involved.
00:36:26.730 --> 00:36:52.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But my idealism really led to disappointment. And what's really interesting about it is, it was around this whole idea that was generated by this author back in the nineties, and somebody recently wrote an article about him, and and and he had interviewed me for this article, and he sent me the link to it, and I just read it yesterday. So this is really fresh for me. But
00:36:53.650 --> 00:37:01.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: this gentleman, by the name of Marshall T. Savage wrote a book called The Millennial Foundation.
00:37:02.260 --> 00:37:05.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Oh, the Millennial Project, Tmp, the Millennial Project.
00:37:05.830 --> 00:37:08.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: 8 easy steps towards colonizing the universe.
00:37:09.590 --> 00:37:15.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it was this really well thought out plan for
00:37:15.600 --> 00:37:20.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how to achieve space exploration in a sustainable.
00:37:21.020 --> 00:37:42.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: environmentally friendly way, and and the steps needed to do it. And he talked about. You know. We don't know what it's like to be colonists. I know that that word has a bad connotation these days, but we don't know what it's like to be explorers anymore. And so we need to sort of create an environment of being explorers before we go out and explore space.
00:37:43.790 --> 00:37:44.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But
00:37:45.210 --> 00:37:56.239 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: His ideas really touched the hearts of many people who were in the pro space Exploration movement, and
00:37:57.420 --> 00:38:02.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: he had these ideas and of of creating sort of a a floating
00:38:03.940 --> 00:38:17.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: colony in the ocean as a stepping stone towards then creating something in space to create a semi-enclosed environment that would be practiced for them living in a fully enclosed environment in space.
00:38:18.210 --> 00:38:23.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and it really ignited the imaginations of many people, myself included.
00:38:25.680 --> 00:38:29.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we started to try and create a way of How do we do this?
00:38:30.510 --> 00:38:42.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And this gentleman by the name of Gale? He he even came up with a an intermediate step, was, well, why don't we learn how to live together in a way like in a co-housing
00:38:43.030 --> 00:38:44.125 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: way,
00:38:45.500 --> 00:39:03.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And learn how to become self-sufficient in this in this community? And and he had bought this piece of land out in Texas, and you know a few people were going to move out there and live there, and it was close to a place where a city was near Austin, on the outskirts of Austin, and we were going to do all this.
00:39:04.310 --> 00:39:25.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I was part of it, and I was like, you know. Look I, my job is here, my, my! Everything is here for me. I can't commit to moving out there right away, but I want to help. I'll help you. I'll come out there with you. I'll I'll show up once a year, twice a year to support it. And and I was really very enthusiastic about it, like I saw like, Oh, this could be really cool.
00:39:26.250 --> 00:39:38.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And what happened? I remember the month that people were supposed to move out and start trying to do this. There were, there were like 4 people, and one by one they started to drop out except for one guy, Richard Cruz.
00:39:38.730 --> 00:39:39.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and
00:39:41.340 --> 00:40:01.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it ended up never happening. It ended up never going anywhere. There ended up because there started to be a lot of chapters around this idea, you know, organization and things went the way, not the way Marshall wanted. And so he removed himself from it. And eventually, you know, within a couple of years it all fell apart and and never really went anywhere.
00:40:03.470 --> 00:40:12.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And again I didn't move out there. I I didn't really put myself in a position where, by things not working out that it would really hurt me.
00:40:13.590 --> 00:40:19.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But at the time it was like, Oh, seeing the possibilities, and, like.
00:40:19.990 --> 00:40:24.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, I may not make it out to space, but this can be a step in that direction.
00:40:26.010 --> 00:40:34.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and my idealism kind of taking over when things fell apart, the disappointment and the bitterness.
00:40:34.270 --> 00:40:39.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And they're like, Oh, why didn't these people live up to their commitments and this and that? And
00:40:39.250 --> 00:40:42.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there were all these emotions that came up.
00:40:43.780 --> 00:40:58.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and I put a lot of time into this. I used to host meetings in my apartment, used to get together with people, and we talk about it and come with strategies and plans and worked on business plans. Just you have no idea how much effort we we put into this
00:40:59.570 --> 00:41:02.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to then have it just kind of all fall apart.
00:41:03.400 --> 00:41:05.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It felt like a betrayal.
00:41:09.070 --> 00:41:11.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So what does this have to do with idealism?
00:41:13.950 --> 00:41:16.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because I was seeing the ideal.
00:41:17.060 --> 00:41:39.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I was seeing everyone as living up to their word and and doing all this, and not seeing the grounded reality of what was the reality of this actually taking off of of people actually living up to their commitments? Have we ever done anything like this before? Had we had I gotten people to? Had we gotten people to make like small commitments before we got them to make the big commitment.
00:41:41.800 --> 00:41:47.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know. Now, looking back on it. I mean I'm older, I'm wiser. I'm more experienced.
00:41:47.990 --> 00:41:52.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know. I would approach it things totally differently if I were to do it now.
00:41:54.800 --> 00:42:00.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But again. It was a lesson for me, and how my idealism.
00:42:02.120 --> 00:42:06.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not seeing the possibility how this could fall apart.
00:42:07.620 --> 00:42:09.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: really led to a lot of disappointment.
00:42:11.970 --> 00:42:15.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that's 1 of the things about idealism
00:42:16.940 --> 00:42:25.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and not just disappointment, but it can lead to anger. It can lead to to blaming. It can lead to all kinds of things.
00:42:28.420 --> 00:42:35.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because we're where we're not grounded in reality, where we're not seeing the way things truly are
00:42:36.870 --> 00:42:42.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: most of the time. Things just don't work out the way we expect the way we want.
00:42:48.920 --> 00:42:49.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So
00:42:52.570 --> 00:43:01.019 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: again, this is another point. And and there were many points throughout that evening where this this lesson kind of came to me
00:43:01.150 --> 00:43:14.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: many points throughout my life there was a real estate project I was involved in that. I lost my shirt on because I wasn't being realistic about my own abilities and about the market, and about what was going on and about the people I was with
00:43:15.000 --> 00:43:16.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: doing it with.
00:43:19.210 --> 00:43:23.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we hold up to this overly optimistic ideal.
00:43:24.250 --> 00:43:27.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we're not grounded in the reality.
00:43:30.370 --> 00:43:35.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we can lose a lot of money. We can lose a lot of time, a lot of energy.
00:43:36.180 --> 00:43:40.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can lead to a lot of disappointment, failure
00:43:44.240 --> 00:43:54.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: hopefully, not things too much more serious, but a lot of pain and drama.
00:43:58.980 --> 00:44:04.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So because this lesson came in so strongly that night.
00:44:05.930 --> 00:44:10.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I felt that this was the appropriate topic to talk about this month on this
00:44:11.350 --> 00:44:14.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: show with without a guest, just me and you.
00:44:19.620 --> 00:44:22.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And again, I really want to emphasize.
00:44:23.130 --> 00:44:27.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm not saying that we shouldn't have ideals.
00:44:28.070 --> 00:44:29.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm not saying that we shouldn't
00:44:31.510 --> 00:44:34.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: nurture that side of us that is idealistic.
00:44:37.410 --> 00:44:40.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But we want to balance that idealism
00:44:41.270 --> 00:44:44.929 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with how things truly are in life.
00:44:47.210 --> 00:44:49.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that is only by achieving that balance
00:44:50.500 --> 00:44:57.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that we can really make decisions that truly, truly service
00:44:58.110 --> 00:44:59.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and work out for the best
00:45:01.540 --> 00:45:03.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: doesn't mean we have to be pessimists
00:45:04.270 --> 00:45:09.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: doesn't mean we have to assume. Everything's not going to work out.
00:45:11.810 --> 00:45:20.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But maybe just maybe we need to temper that idealism just a wee bit alright.
00:45:21.490 --> 00:45:23.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So when we come back.
00:45:24.250 --> 00:45:30.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're gonna talk about, what do we really need to do to temper that idealism?
00:45:30.280 --> 00:45:37.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What would really help us to see things more clearly? I keep talking about being grounded seeing the reality. How do we do that?
00:45:39.270 --> 00:45:44.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Especially if you're a fellow idealist like me? Where that's not your inclination.
00:45:45.670 --> 00:45:49.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How do we learn to not judge our idealism.
00:45:50.300 --> 00:45:55.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but still see the reality of what the truth is in front of us.
00:45:55.340 --> 00:45:59.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so we'll do that in just a minute when we come back
00:45:59.420 --> 00:46:10.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you are listening to the conscious consultant hour. I hope you're enjoying this show. If I'm touching upon something that's ringing true for yourself, I would love to hear about it.
00:46:11.440 --> 00:46:18.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So please comment on the live streams. If you're listening, live, let me know, and we will be right back in just a moment.
00:48:07.940 --> 00:48:13.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And welcome back to the conscious, consultant hour awakening humanity.
00:48:15.220 --> 00:48:18.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Well, it's been quite a journey today.
00:48:19.575 --> 00:48:25.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Talking all about how idealism is not ideal.
00:48:25.410 --> 00:48:29.855 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean sharing some personal stories, and
00:48:31.540 --> 00:48:34.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and kind of telling you my experience. And so
00:48:35.340 --> 00:48:40.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I've been talking a lot about how
00:48:41.120 --> 00:48:48.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's important to see things the way they actually are, and not the way we would like them to be.
00:48:50.960 --> 00:48:56.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and you know it's easy to say that.
00:48:59.220 --> 00:49:01.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But what do we do? How do we?
00:49:01.450 --> 00:49:06.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How do we stop being overly idealistic? How do we start to be more grounded
00:49:07.910 --> 00:49:14.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so that I, our idealism, doesn't cause us to make bad choices and bad decisions.
00:49:16.780 --> 00:49:21.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So there are a couple of things.
00:49:23.342 --> 00:49:28.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and so first, st I really again want to emphasize that I'm not
00:49:28.920 --> 00:49:37.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: bashing idealism that I'm not saying we should never be ideal idealistic, that we should never see things.
00:49:37.540 --> 00:49:39.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The possibility of things.
00:49:40.290 --> 00:49:41.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not the point.
00:49:42.640 --> 00:49:45.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The point is, we don't want to use idealism
00:49:46.320 --> 00:49:50.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to bypass the reality of the way things actually are.
00:49:56.010 --> 00:50:01.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because instead of seeing the world as we want it to be.
00:50:01.390 --> 00:50:05.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We see the world as it actually is.
00:50:07.660 --> 00:50:12.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we truly know what we need to do to move it in the direction
00:50:12.930 --> 00:50:14.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that we wanted to go.
00:50:23.480 --> 00:50:28.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so this this episode is really a call for everyone listening
00:50:29.230 --> 00:50:34.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to look at your own worldviews, to look at how you view
00:50:35.320 --> 00:50:39.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: other people, the world around you, society.
00:50:40.870 --> 00:50:45.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: family, and friends, coworkers, your business, your career.
00:50:47.110 --> 00:50:54.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And where are you idealizing things? Where are you making things better than they actually are.
00:50:58.460 --> 00:50:59.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so
00:51:00.420 --> 00:51:07.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how do we shift this? How do we shift this idealistic mindset into one that's a little more grounded in reality.
00:51:11.870 --> 00:51:13.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So the 1st thing is.
00:51:14.410 --> 00:51:19.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we have to feel safe to be here. Now we have to practice being here. Now
00:51:21.400 --> 00:51:25.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we have to learn what it means to truly embody
00:51:26.800 --> 00:51:29.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: this, this physical vehicle we have
00:51:30.980 --> 00:51:34.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and feel what is in our own body.
00:51:37.560 --> 00:51:43.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because as long as we do not feel safe to be here, we're not going to see the way things truly are.
00:51:44.620 --> 00:51:50.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So we need to cultivate that internal feeling of safety first, st
00:51:51.620 --> 00:52:01.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and so to do that it kind of goes back to my blog post at the beginning of the show, about feeling the pain, feeling the sorrow, feeling, the sadness, feeling the anguish.
00:52:01.920 --> 00:52:05.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so that those energies no longer have a hold on us.
00:52:08.920 --> 00:52:15.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and then, once we do that, we can truly be present.
00:52:16.820 --> 00:52:20.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Take a breath, give it some space. How can we prove present
00:52:20.960 --> 00:52:25.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we're constantly rushing and distracted and going from one thing to another to another.
00:52:29.640 --> 00:52:31.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So let's just say.
00:52:31.600 --> 00:52:37.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: let's just say we want to be more realistic about a coworker, somebody who we work with.
00:52:37.990 --> 00:52:42.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we rely on them to handle certain tasks, and we do other tasks in the business.
00:52:44.950 --> 00:52:52.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Are we seeing them clearly like, are there any red flags coming up that we're not seeing?
00:52:52.370 --> 00:53:00.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I remember I worked with a woman once where before I had sort of
00:53:01.240 --> 00:53:16.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: graduated and had started doing my own ceremony. She was leading a certain kind of ceremony, and she wanted to work with me, and I thought, oh, this is a great opportunity, even though I haven't fully finished training. I can work with her and start to co-lead things.
00:53:16.660 --> 00:53:23.019 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and because it was giving me what I wanted at the time, and there were these red flags that came up like how she would
00:53:23.860 --> 00:53:41.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: talk about the clients and and all the bad things they did, and and she would in some ways make herself a victim and and a lot of little things like this that I didn't quite notice that eventually got me in trouble. I didn't see how unstable she was at the time.
00:53:41.250 --> 00:53:45.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I didn't see that she hadn't really been doing her own work.
00:53:46.350 --> 00:53:51.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and and eventually there was a blow up, and she caused some trouble for me.
00:53:53.580 --> 00:53:56.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it was a shock to me. I was surprised
00:53:57.290 --> 00:54:03.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because I didn't see the reality, the realistic of who she was and how she was being
00:54:06.140 --> 00:54:08.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so. The 1st question is.
00:54:08.780 --> 00:54:17.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: think about the people involved in whatever, whether it's a hobby, a business family life, a relationship.
00:54:20.770 --> 00:54:26.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Take the emotion out of it for a moment, and ask yourself, how is
00:54:27.220 --> 00:54:31.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the person truly being? How did they show up in the world?
00:54:32.090 --> 00:54:34.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Look at the details?
00:54:35.020 --> 00:54:43.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Are they on time for meetings? How do they talk about themselves and others? What is their energy like when they show up.
00:54:43.950 --> 00:54:50.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know what, what, when, how do they show up when there are challenges, when things don't go their way?
00:54:53.110 --> 00:55:04.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If you really want to know a person's character, observe how they show up when things don't go the way they want. That's when you truly see a person's character, not when everything is going fine and honky, dory.
00:55:05.790 --> 00:55:08.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when there's a problem, how do they show up?
00:55:09.440 --> 00:55:13.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So? 1st ask, how are they really?
00:55:15.450 --> 00:55:19.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then how is the world really? How is society?
00:55:21.990 --> 00:55:25.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How is the the world at large?
00:55:27.170 --> 00:55:29.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Take the personal aspect out of it.
00:55:36.900 --> 00:55:38.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and in order to not
00:55:38.880 --> 00:55:47.739 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: fall into sort of the negative and the cynicism and the oh, everything is wrong. I can't believe it's all this way.
00:55:47.910 --> 00:55:50.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know. How. Come, it's not different.
00:55:51.530 --> 00:55:55.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: See what you can find that's real that you can appreciate
00:55:56.850 --> 00:56:01.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like. Look at what ain't so good. But look at also what's good.
00:56:01.430 --> 00:56:03.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's about being balanced.
00:56:03.840 --> 00:56:15.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not about only seeing the negative side. It's not about just seeing all the way that things can go wrong. It's seeing the way things can go wrong and seeing the way things can go right.
00:56:22.300 --> 00:56:28.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If you truly want to be an idealist, an idealist who gets things done.
00:56:30.790 --> 00:56:34.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then you have to see the way things really are.
00:56:39.310 --> 00:56:46.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And when you look at how things really are, then you can ask yourself those questions
00:56:48.370 --> 00:57:03.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like, What can I do to make things better, because when you see things, how things truly are, not how we wish them to be, then we can see like, maybe things aren't quite as good as we would want. Now we can ask ourselves, what can we do to change?
00:57:03.180 --> 00:57:10.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What can we do to make a shift? What can we do to make things better, and ultimately
00:57:11.830 --> 00:57:17.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: saying, idealism is not ideal. It's about looking at. What are we holding on? To?
00:57:19.120 --> 00:57:23.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What kind of rose-colored glasses are we wearing.
00:57:23.860 --> 00:57:26.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that if we were to take them off
00:57:26.700 --> 00:57:32.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and see things truly, clearly, without any tint, without the
00:57:33.940 --> 00:57:41.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: without the the infraction of wanting things to be a certain way. When we see things, how they truly are.
00:57:43.460 --> 00:57:52.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we can make a choice from an empowered place. Then we can make decisions that are realistic
00:57:52.830 --> 00:58:00.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that serve us and can actually move us towards the goal we want to go to
00:58:00.870 --> 00:58:08.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and not keep us stuck in a fantasy or keep us stuck in the cynicism of how things are.
00:58:11.800 --> 00:58:18.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The great part about idealism is, it can move us forward to make things better
00:58:20.560 --> 00:58:24.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: as long as we have both feet on the ground.
00:58:26.700 --> 00:58:29.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we're willing to see things
00:58:29.400 --> 00:58:40.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: as they are and not how we want them to be, and that, my friends, is my work.
00:58:41.850 --> 00:58:43.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that is why
00:58:44.750 --> 00:58:50.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I decided to do a show about this topic this week. So please let me know what you think.
00:58:51.000 --> 00:58:53.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: share your thoughts, your ideas
00:58:54.450 --> 00:59:08.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and listen. If you would love for me to discuss any particular topics in the future that are of specific interest to you, you can always email me at Sam, at theconsciousconsultant.com.
00:59:09.230 --> 00:59:13.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I would love to hear from you. I'd love to hear your feedback. I'd love to know
00:59:13.600 --> 00:59:27.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what I could do to improve, and how you see me, and what's the realistic non-ideal opportunity here
00:59:28.140 --> 00:59:30.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for us to move forward together.
00:59:30.370 --> 00:59:34.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So thank you all for tuning in. I so appreciate you all.
00:59:35.600 --> 01:00:05.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you, my loyal listeners. Please stay tuned later today. 5 pm. It's Frank Harrison and his show, frank about health, followed by those trio of mad people with serving up success with a splash at 6 Pm. Eastern time. No live shows tomorrow for July 4th Tommy gets the day off, so philanthropy and focus will return next week. Enjoy your 4th of July. Enjoy the holiday weekend. I hope you all are doing well.
01:00:05.500 --> 01:00:09.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Take care we will talk to you all next week.
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