EPISODE SUMMARY:
Welcome back to another special episode of The Conscious Consultant Hour. Join us this week as we dive deep into the topic of sadness, and how we can use it to help us live more fully.
Sadness is something we often try to avoid, push away, or cover up. It can feel heavy and uncomfortable, and many of us have been taught that feeling sad means something is wrong with us. But sadness, like all emotions, has a purpose. It's not here to punish us but to reveal something important.
When we give ourselves permission to feel our sadness, rather than resisting it, we open the door to deeper healing and a more honest connection with ourselves.
Instead of seeing sadness as a problem to fix, what if we saw it as an invitation? Sadness invites us to slow down, to listen more carefully to the parts of ourselves that are hurting or longing for attention. It reminds us that we care deeply, that we have dreams, hopes, and connections that matter to us. By honoring our sadness instead of numbing it, we begin to build trust with ourselves and that trust lays the foundation for real growth and emotional freedom.
Living fully means welcoming all of who we are, even the parts that feel tender and raw. Sadness is not something to "get rid of" but something to work with, to learn from, and ultimately, to befriend. When we stop fighting our pain and start listening to it, we find that life opens up in new and surprising ways. We become more present, more compassionate, and more free to experience the richness of being human.
Tune in and share your own thoughts and feelings about sadness and how we can use it on our YouTube livestream or on our Facebook page.
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In this reflective episode of The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam Liebowitz explores the deep spiritual significance of artistic expression, reminding listeners that the act of creation is inherently a celebration of life itself. He shares that all forms of art—whether born from pain, joy, or imagination—carry the imprint of the human spirit and serve as a sacred way to express our inner world outwardly, regardless of whether the result is universally appreciated. Through personal anecdotes and insights, Sam encourages spiritually conscious individuals to honor their unique creative impulses as a form of soul expression and connection with others.
In this emotionally rich segment of The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam Liebowitz shares a personal encounter with sadness that arose during a ceremony with his wife, triggered by the memory of a beloved mentor who had passed. He reflects on how deeply sadness can arise not only from personal loss but from a longing for wisdom, connection, or the presence of someone meaningful—and how society often encourages us to suppress this emotion. Rather than something to fear or avoid, Sam suggests sadness is a sacred invitation to slow down, listen, and reconnect with what truly matters in life, offering an opening for healing, reflection, and deeper self-awareness.
In this deep and moving continuation of The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam Liebowitz explores what we lose when we avoid sadness—our capacity for true joy, presence, and emotional resilience. He explains how suppressed sadness often underlies depression and numbs our ability to feel anything fully. Through personal reflection and cultural insight, including the Jewish practice of sitting shiva, Sam shares that by creating space for our sadness—without judgment—we not only lighten its weight but also open ourselves to healing, stillness, and living more consciously.
The third key is about non-expectations. Sam says when you set up expectations in a relationship, you set yourself up for heartbreak. This key connects to the second key because when you have a solid relationship with yourself, you don't seek out projects in relationships. Sam says to reflect on how others treat us and set us up for expectations we are not aligned with; when we think of how we feel in that moment, it can keep us from setting expectations for others. Relationships are not about conforming to one's every wish but coming together and accepting each other for who they are. If you have any questions for Sam or would like to get in touch with him, you can reach him at Sam@theconsciousconsultant.com
00:00:26.540 --> 00:00:42.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Good afternoon, my conscious co-creators. Good morning. Good evening. Wherever you're tuning in from welcome to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity. I am very, very pleased that you are all here with me today.
00:00:43.290 --> 00:00:55.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Today is one of those shows. It's just me. And you haven't done one of these shows in about 6 weeks or so, so it's about time to have one with just myself.
00:00:55.310 --> 00:01:06.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So let's get into it. Of course, even when it's just me and you. I do start off with my blog post from a couple of years ago. And this one.
00:01:06.260 --> 00:01:14.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: actually, I think it's kind of related to our topic today which we'll get to in a moment. So today's blog post is entitled.
00:01:14.810 --> 00:01:19.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The Creation of Art is a celebration of life itself.
00:01:20.780 --> 00:01:25.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There is a desire in people, a desire to express.
00:01:25.290 --> 00:01:29.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to bring forth our voice, our movement, our images.
00:01:30.350 --> 00:01:40.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We are natural born creators, constantly creating with our ideas, our feelings, and our energy.
00:01:40.840 --> 00:01:46.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: These creations are not just a form of amusement for us.
00:01:46.960 --> 00:01:51.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: nor are they a type of artistic indulgence.
00:01:52.110 --> 00:01:58.519 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we create art, it comes from a deep place inside of us.
00:01:59.810 --> 00:02:02.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: born of our torment, our joy.
00:02:03.040 --> 00:02:10.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and everything that has happened to us, whether we paint, dance, sign.
00:02:10.639 --> 00:02:14.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or build a skyscraper, it does not matter.
00:02:14.850 --> 00:02:29.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Every form of creation is an act of celebration, a celebration of life, of spirit, of love.
00:02:30.690 --> 00:02:34.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Some art is created from our pain.
00:02:34.640 --> 00:02:37.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Often it is created from our longing.
00:02:38.550 --> 00:02:41.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it can even be created from our despair.
00:02:43.200 --> 00:02:49.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: no matter what the source of our inspiration is, the result is the same.
00:02:50.570 --> 00:02:56.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: our soul is crying out to be heard, to be seen, to be felt.
00:02:58.180 --> 00:03:09.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and in that act of allowing our internal world to be expressed externally there is a profound statement.
00:03:09.950 --> 00:03:15.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: one that touched others sometimes around the globe.
00:03:16.300 --> 00:03:23.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: People who never knew us never heard of us never knew our name
00:03:23.740 --> 00:03:28.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: are suddenly captivated by what we have created.
00:03:30.050 --> 00:03:36.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for there is something in our creation that resonates with them on a deep level.
00:03:37.800 --> 00:03:48.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We all want to celebrate life, not always our own life, but life itself.
00:03:49.170 --> 00:03:57.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The spirit within us moves us to step out and share something magical with others.
00:03:59.010 --> 00:04:02.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Perhaps the way our spirit moves us
00:04:02.990 --> 00:04:09.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is to move our bodies, and we dance and perform great physical feats
00:04:09.880 --> 00:04:17.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for others. It is the simple act of using their voice to sing, to act on stage
00:04:18.000 --> 00:04:20.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or to simply give a speech.
00:04:21.430 --> 00:04:29.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Some of us use our hands and grab a medium that appeals to us and we paint, we draw.
00:04:30.020 --> 00:04:37.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we scoped or create something beautiful out of discarded trash.
00:04:38.700 --> 00:04:45.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Each of these art forms touches us in a different and often unique ways.
00:04:47.480 --> 00:04:52.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Some forms of art will never appeal to certain people.
00:04:52.880 --> 00:04:58.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: while others will flock to an opera, the ballet, or a concert, or a gallery.
00:04:59.970 --> 00:05:06.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There is something out there being created that appeals to someone.
00:05:06.990 --> 00:05:16.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Every artist finds their tribe one way or another, or rather their tribe finds them.
00:05:17.850 --> 00:05:20.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for when we are brave enough
00:05:20.520 --> 00:05:25.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to put our works of creation out there for all to see.
00:05:25.780 --> 00:05:31.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Surely the people for whom it is meant find it.
00:05:32.740 --> 00:05:36.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We do not have to like all art.
00:05:37.370 --> 00:05:42.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: yet all art finds someone to bike it.
00:05:42.870 --> 00:05:51.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: For the one thing all art has in common is that it is ultimately a celebration of life.
00:05:52.510 --> 00:06:02.749 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and sometimes what resonates with us is just the act of celebration, and the form is inconsequential.
00:06:04.090 --> 00:06:10.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So the next time you think about creating something new.
00:06:10.690 --> 00:06:18.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: just remember that you are celebrating something important by creating it.
00:06:20.000 --> 00:06:27.129 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Let's celebrate life in as many forms of expression that we can
00:06:28.460 --> 00:06:35.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: do. You have something burning inside of you waiting to be expressed.
00:06:38.290 --> 00:06:46.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Oof! That's a mouthful. So I wrote this a couple of years ago.
00:06:49.260 --> 00:06:51.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Think it was after
00:06:51.810 --> 00:06:58.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: my wife and I went to an art gallery. One of my wife's clients is an artist who does
00:06:59.110 --> 00:07:01.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: very unique expressions.
00:07:03.860 --> 00:07:06.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: My wife's been working with her for quite a while.
00:07:09.216 --> 00:07:11.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: As her therapist, and
00:07:12.590 --> 00:07:23.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it was just going around walking the galleries. Some things I liked other things my wife liked, and it was kind of interesting to see the contrast.
00:07:24.480 --> 00:07:34.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and I think, from from walking through this this exhibition of all these different artists. And it was a lot. It was a pretty big exhibition down in Soho.
00:07:37.630 --> 00:07:40.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It kind of came to me how much
00:07:41.500 --> 00:07:49.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like even the art I didn't like, for whatever reason, it was all a creation.
00:07:49.790 --> 00:07:54.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It was all a celebration of something within the artist.
00:07:56.930 --> 00:08:04.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it was interesting because, as you looked at the different pieces of art, even though some of them. You know I totally didn't like.
00:08:05.850 --> 00:08:13.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You could see by the colors, by the images, by the composition.
00:08:14.040 --> 00:08:16.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: by what the artist had put together.
00:08:17.820 --> 00:08:25.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that some artists were creating out of their pain, or out of loss, or out of grief or sadness.
00:08:26.740 --> 00:08:32.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: others were creating something very joyful and colorful and vibrant and energetic.
00:08:34.210 --> 00:08:36.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: others were creating out of love.
00:08:37.620 --> 00:08:41.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: others were creating out of the beauty of nature around them.
00:08:41.880 --> 00:08:49.239 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: others were creating out of pure imagination and just seeing
00:08:49.710 --> 00:08:55.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the contrast of all these different kinds of art.
00:08:55.850 --> 00:08:59.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and the variety and the breadth and the depth.
00:09:02.230 --> 00:09:11.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It really help to remind me how important art is.
00:09:13.640 --> 00:09:17.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and how we don't have to like all art.
00:09:18.220 --> 00:09:21.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't have to enjoy every form of creation.
00:09:22.220 --> 00:09:28.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: My wife loves opera and ballet me, I can, you know.
00:09:29.030 --> 00:09:30.689 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Take it or leave it.
00:09:30.820 --> 00:09:33.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There are certain operas I kind of like.
00:09:35.660 --> 00:09:45.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but I'm much more a rock and roller, you know. I'd rather go see an old rock band from the seventies or eighties and or sixties, than than go to an opera.
00:09:46.780 --> 00:09:54.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: My wife is such a good sport, and she's open to everything, so she can. She can enjoy rock and roll as much as she enjoys opera.
00:09:56.490 --> 00:10:02.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but every form of art does not have to appeal to every person.
00:10:04.540 --> 00:10:13.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's okay to have our own unique tastes, our own unique likes and dislikes.
00:10:18.560 --> 00:10:25.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so this blog post was kind of born out of that understanding.
00:10:27.200 --> 00:10:35.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But sometimes art is created for the pure sake of art, other times it's an expression.
00:10:35.940 --> 00:10:48.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And sometimes you can see it's like the artist is working out some unconscious thoughts, challenges emotions, and
00:10:48.490 --> 00:10:53.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how their therapy is their artwork, and they're working out.
00:10:54.740 --> 00:10:58.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe some struggles or some challenges that they have internally
00:11:00.860 --> 00:11:04.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that they don't have maybe another way of expressing it.
00:11:05.200 --> 00:11:08.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And again, I'm talking about visual art, but the same is true, for
00:11:08.810 --> 00:11:17.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for books and and music and dance, and just all kinds of expression, all kinds of art.
00:11:19.930 --> 00:11:26.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean me myself. I'm probably more of a writer, although I did take art classes in college, and I did create a bunch of
00:11:27.250 --> 00:11:30.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: things, you know, back when I was young.
00:11:31.040 --> 00:11:39.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I've always said to myself, you know, one day, quote unquote one day when I have time, and I'm not so
00:11:40.420 --> 00:11:46.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: busy doing so many different things that I'll I'll get back to creating art again because I really enjoyed it.
00:11:50.840 --> 00:11:52.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But it's okay.
00:11:53.860 --> 00:11:59.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's okay that not every piece of artwork appeals to every person.
00:12:01.400 --> 00:12:10.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I my wife knew knew this guy in in Beijing and China, who was an artist.
00:12:11.220 --> 00:12:15.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and what he used to do is, he'd find, like
00:12:15.900 --> 00:12:21.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: different pieces of metal and different pieces of plastic and different things in the garbage.
00:12:21.940 --> 00:12:25.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and he glue it together and put it together, and create
00:12:26.630 --> 00:12:36.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: little animals, or or people, or scenes, or different things, inanimate objects. Out of all these little pieces of garbage.
00:12:37.610 --> 00:12:41.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and his stuff was beautiful, and it was brilliant.
00:12:42.160 --> 00:12:55.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's like as you look at it, and you look at the little components. And you're like, Oh, that's a screw. And that's this, and that's that. And how did he put that all together to create this thing that looks like a bicycle like how did he even think of it?
00:12:59.070 --> 00:13:02.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I really loved how creative
00:13:02.480 --> 00:13:13.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: he was, literally with garbage, and that to me is like the beauty of an artistic mind and the beauty of art itself.
00:13:15.040 --> 00:13:29.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that with art we can take something that was garbage, something that was discarded and thrown out and put it together in a way that creates something new and different and whole and
00:13:30.480 --> 00:13:39.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and just the imaginative process of how they put it all together makes it such a fascinating
00:13:40.090 --> 00:13:41.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: thing to behold.
00:13:45.160 --> 00:13:50.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So I wonder what's your artwork?
00:13:52.470 --> 00:13:58.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What are you put together out of nothing and create something new.
00:14:00.190 --> 00:14:02.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And maybe it's not a work of art
00:14:03.180 --> 00:14:09.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: maybe it's bringing together a different group of people for a fascinating event.
00:14:10.710 --> 00:14:14.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe it's creating a new business solving problems.
00:14:14.910 --> 00:14:19.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe it's, you know, creating relationships with people.
00:14:20.550 --> 00:14:32.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe you're a teacher and and your art is, how do you teach your students and keep them engaged and interested, even when it's a subject that's boring to them.
00:14:34.940 --> 00:14:39.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's so many ways we get to express ourselves.
00:14:41.240 --> 00:14:50.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And sometimes I meet people, and they think they're not that creative. But then you listen to what they do and how they do it. And it sounds incredibly creative.
00:14:55.820 --> 00:14:56.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So
00:15:00.610 --> 00:15:05.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: who is an artist? We're all artists, every single one of us.
00:15:06.570 --> 00:15:12.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: from the poorest person in a village in the in a 3rd World country
00:15:15.300 --> 00:15:20.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to somebody living in the middle of New York City does not matter.
00:15:22.430 --> 00:15:24.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and when we can be open
00:15:26.450 --> 00:15:29.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we don't have to like every piece of art we see.
00:15:30.860 --> 00:15:34.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But to just appreciate the creative process.
00:15:37.090 --> 00:15:42.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't have to like every book that's written, and look.
00:15:42.340 --> 00:15:46.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not every book that written is well written. And that's okay.
00:15:48.480 --> 00:15:51.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We all have our own opinion. We all have our own tastes.
00:15:53.520 --> 00:15:54.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We all
00:15:55.050 --> 00:16:01.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: find different things, appeal to us, and sometimes different things appeal to us at different points in our life.
00:16:02.480 --> 00:16:13.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and maybe something we never appreciated as a child or a teenager or a young adult. When we get older, suddenly we have a newfound appreciation for it.
00:16:14.080 --> 00:16:16.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Our tastes don't stay the same.
00:16:19.530 --> 00:16:22.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But if we can just learn to appreciate
00:16:23.640 --> 00:16:27.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the creation of whatever that thing is.
00:16:27.400 --> 00:16:29.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: even if we don't like it.
00:16:31.960 --> 00:16:36.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe we can learn to just appreciate life a little bit more
00:16:38.340 --> 00:16:40.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: regardless of the source of creation.
00:16:41.510 --> 00:16:44.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But that's my blog post for this week.
00:16:45.120 --> 00:16:51.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Again, the title of it is The Creation of Art is a celebration of life itself.
00:16:52.980 --> 00:17:00.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and you can always find my blog posts at my personally branded website. theconsciousconsultant.com.
00:17:00.990 --> 00:17:08.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And of course you can always find it on the talk radio website@talkradio.nyc slash blog.
00:17:08.750 --> 00:17:19.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And if you like, my blog posts that I've been reading each week. You might like my book. Everyday Awakening. Yes, an artistic expression. Just my thoughts, my ideas.
00:17:20.200 --> 00:17:28.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and you can always find the the link to every my book on Amazon at everydayawakeningbook.com.
00:17:28.319 --> 00:17:35.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I do have several other books as well, at least chapters and other anthologies which you can find in the show notes.
00:17:36.310 --> 00:17:39.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So we're going to take a quick break, and when we come back
00:17:40.110 --> 00:17:43.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we'll get into our topic for this week.
00:17:43.460 --> 00:17:46.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: which is the hidden power of sadness.
00:17:47.320 --> 00:17:55.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yes, sadness, and I'll get into why I want to talk about sadness, and how
00:17:55.810 --> 00:18:18.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: perhaps a different way we can approach sadness where it can truly serve us. So you're listening to the conscious, consultant hour awakening humanity. It's just me and you. This week we do this live every Thursday 12 noon to one Pm. Eastern time, right here on Talkradio, dot Nyc. And all over social media, and we'll be right back
00:18:19.010 --> 00:18:20.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in just a moment.
00:20:06.550 --> 00:20:11.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And welcome back to the conscious, consultant hour awakening humanity.
00:20:12.950 --> 00:20:17.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This week we're going to talk about the hidden power of sadness.
00:20:19.350 --> 00:20:22.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And why are we talking about this week? Well, because
00:20:22.790 --> 00:20:27.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I had a little bit of an incident this past weekend with sadness.
00:20:28.280 --> 00:20:33.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Not that anything particularly happened to me that was sad.
00:20:35.340 --> 00:20:45.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but I think my relationship to sadness shifted. I was doing the ceremonial work that I do with my wife, you know just the 2 of us.
00:20:46.370 --> 00:20:53.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it was quite interesting what happened, you know, during the day, as as we were doing our practice.
00:20:55.210 --> 00:20:58.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because I kind of started off in a place of confusion.
00:20:59.530 --> 00:21:09.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: place of confusion, of like, not feeling like. I really knew what I wanted, not knowing why I do what I do. Not. Just all this, this stuff and the confusion?
00:21:10.760 --> 00:21:13.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's kind of secondary to it.
00:21:15.900 --> 00:21:23.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But then, for some reason, this gentleman, who I knew, who passed away
00:21:24.380 --> 00:21:27.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: 6 years, now came to mind.
00:21:28.330 --> 00:21:31.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and he was a very unique individual.
00:21:32.510 --> 00:21:36.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: An Israeli who had immigrated to the States many years ago.
00:21:36.860 --> 00:21:42.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: was a little bit older than me not a lot older, maybe 10 years older than me.
00:21:43.240 --> 00:21:44.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but who had a very
00:21:45.010 --> 00:21:52.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: fatherly energy about him, and he was sharp. He was smart. He could size somebody up in an instant.
00:21:53.570 --> 00:22:01.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and a very, you know, practical, you know, grew up on the Kibbutz in Israel, the
00:22:01.950 --> 00:22:06.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: real beautiful soul, not everyone's cup of tea, but I loved him, and and
00:22:07.150 --> 00:22:13.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and many people in the group that I knew him through many people there really loved him.
00:22:15.060 --> 00:22:19.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And there was this sadness because he was gone? He had passed.
00:22:20.340 --> 00:22:26.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I just was, you know, thinking about some of the things recently that I've had to deal with.
00:22:27.370 --> 00:22:33.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and how much I would have loved to have been able to go to him and ask his advice and get his opinion on things. And
00:22:35.190 --> 00:22:37.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I really started missing him.
00:22:39.570 --> 00:22:44.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And he really started feeling sad.
00:22:48.770 --> 00:22:51.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that sadness really lasted a while.
00:22:55.200 --> 00:23:02.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and there was a lot that kind of came from that. And and I'm gonna get into that through throughout the show.
00:23:04.610 --> 00:23:12.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But there were a number of kind of lessons from my experience with sadness that
00:23:13.340 --> 00:23:17.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I wanted to share with everyone, because, you know, sadness is a tricky thing.
00:23:17.900 --> 00:23:22.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and how people respond to sadness is really fascinating.
00:23:22.950 --> 00:23:32.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's really interesting that that my blog post this week happened to be talking about creating art because some of the greatest art has been created from sadness.
00:23:33.460 --> 00:23:37.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know some people they use their sadness and their pain
00:23:37.830 --> 00:23:41.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to help them to create something. And like that's how they process it.
00:23:44.080 --> 00:23:52.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But most people we find they actually suppress their sadness.
00:23:53.620 --> 00:23:56.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They, they try and avoid it.
00:23:58.170 --> 00:24:03.129 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that they hide it at all costs. They don't want to feel it, they don't want to touch it.
00:24:04.550 --> 00:24:09.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then what happens is, it builds up and builds up and builds up under the surface
00:24:10.520 --> 00:24:16.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: until it becomes something so huge that they're terrified of touching their sadness.
00:24:22.730 --> 00:24:28.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the thing that I've learned, and and I can't say that I always thought this way.
00:24:32.590 --> 00:24:34.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But sadness is not bad.
00:24:35.520 --> 00:24:41.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not good, it's just a feeling. It's just an emotion.
00:24:41.760 --> 00:24:47.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's just a response to something, typically loss.
00:24:50.880 --> 00:24:51.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: pain.
00:24:54.910 --> 00:24:58.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it can be a personal loss. It can be a loss for someone else.
00:24:59.150 --> 00:25:04.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can be a death of a loved one and the loss of their impact they're going to have on the world
00:25:05.990 --> 00:25:07.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like when we hear of a
00:25:07.830 --> 00:25:12.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a favorite musician or favorite actor who passes away.
00:25:13.470 --> 00:25:17.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and there's some sadness, because we'll never see any more great works from them.
00:25:22.770 --> 00:25:25.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But what I've come to realize is
00:25:26.630 --> 00:25:29.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there's a real purpose to sadness.
00:25:30.280 --> 00:25:32.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and I'll let you know what my
00:25:33.120 --> 00:25:38.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: take away from my experience with sadness. This past weekend, and what the purpose for me was.
00:25:45.920 --> 00:25:47.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it's not a flaw.
00:25:48.300 --> 00:25:57.659 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not a mistake, and it's not a something to avoid.
00:26:00.970 --> 00:26:12.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know. Sadness is is our body's way of getting us to pay attention to something, to stop.
00:26:13.470 --> 00:26:20.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to slow down to listen to that invitation.
00:26:21.940 --> 00:26:24.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, look, I'm I'm I'm not saying
00:26:24.840 --> 00:26:27.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we have to wallow in our sadness.
00:26:27.530 --> 00:26:30.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm not saying that we have to.
00:26:31.960 --> 00:26:40.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, just just marinate in it and sit there for for weeks and months and years
00:26:41.290 --> 00:26:43.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: now. Yes, there's some
00:26:43.310 --> 00:26:54.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: forms of sadness that are more difficult to get over than others, like the loss of a parent or the loss of a child. God forbid! Or loss of a sibling or of a best friend!
00:26:57.930 --> 00:27:02.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But what is the sadness actually doing? Why, why are we having it?
00:27:03.610 --> 00:27:05.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: One of the things.
00:27:06.130 --> 00:27:10.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This isn't my realization from this weekend, but one of the things in thinking about it
00:27:12.400 --> 00:27:18.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is, it's an invitation for us to stop and slow down and pay attention.
00:27:20.770 --> 00:27:25.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and to remind ourselves of what really matters in our life.
00:27:32.650 --> 00:27:38.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, sadness is, it's not about
00:27:38.820 --> 00:27:42.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: being in pain for no reason at all at all.
00:27:43.170 --> 00:27:47.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not the universe trying to torture us.
00:27:53.070 --> 00:28:01.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's an invitation from ourselves, from our own body, from our own nervous system.
00:28:01.550 --> 00:28:06.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The sadness is an invitation to pay attention to something.
00:28:10.320 --> 00:28:12.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and yeah, can be uncomfortable.
00:28:13.120 --> 00:28:15.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And yes, it can be difficult.
00:28:16.640 --> 00:28:19.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And yes, it can be inconvenient.
00:28:20.390 --> 00:28:30.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And yes, it can interfere with all kinds of other things in our life. It can interfere with our work, with our relationships, with quote, unquote stuff we have to do.
00:28:32.920 --> 00:28:36.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But if it's interfering, it's interfering for a reason.
00:28:36.630 --> 00:28:38.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If it's calling to us
00:28:39.350 --> 00:28:45.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to pay attention to it to it, it's calling us to pay attention for a reason.
00:28:50.140 --> 00:28:56.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that reason is something we probably don't often pay attention to.
00:29:02.270 --> 00:29:04.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so when we come back from break.
00:29:06.480 --> 00:29:08.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: let's talk a little bit about
00:29:09.830 --> 00:29:12.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what happens when we don't pay attention to the sadness?
00:29:15.130 --> 00:29:21.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What happens when we don't give ourselves time to grief and be sad?
00:29:23.450 --> 00:29:25.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What is it that we're missing.
00:29:27.330 --> 00:29:34.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because maybe, if we understand what we miss by not being sad, that can help us
00:29:34.390 --> 00:29:37.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to have a better relationship with sadness.
00:29:39.250 --> 00:29:45.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So you are listening to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity.
00:29:45.650 --> 00:29:53.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Our topic this hour is the hidden power of sadness, and we'll be right back after these messages.
00:31:28.130 --> 00:31:41.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And welcome back to the conscious, consultant hour awakening humanity. So we're talking this hour about a not a very happy subject. In fact, it's the exact opposite. It's the hidden power of sadness.
00:31:43.750 --> 00:31:48.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And one of the things that's important to remember is
00:31:49.360 --> 00:31:52.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what it costs us when we avoid sadness.
00:31:54.490 --> 00:32:01.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we numb ourselves to it, when we, when we stuff it down, and we don't give it room to breathe.
00:32:03.330 --> 00:32:12.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: 1st thing it does is it makes it harder for us to feel joy. It makes it harder for us to feel anything.
00:32:14.160 --> 00:32:23.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and not only that, but when we don't pay attention to our sadness it actually controls us.
00:32:25.590 --> 00:32:33.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In fact, one of the things I've noticed when I work with people who often have experienced depression
00:32:35.640 --> 00:32:40.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is normally the depression is a suppression
00:32:40.240 --> 00:32:46.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of their feelings, and most often the feeling that's at the root of that suppression is sadness.
00:32:47.850 --> 00:32:54.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So when we don't allow ourselves to feel sad that can lead to depression
00:32:56.120 --> 00:33:01.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it. When we, when we don't feel sad, it numbs us to feeling anything.
00:33:06.840 --> 00:33:10.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And look, it's like we can't avoid it.
00:33:10.870 --> 00:33:17.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because as long as we're human beings. As long as we have life. As long as we're breathing.
00:33:17.480 --> 00:33:22.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there gonna be things that happen that make us feel sad.
00:33:23.890 --> 00:33:32.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, as I mentioned before, with my experience, this past weekend, this one gentleman, Shmooly, who died.
00:33:32.450 --> 00:33:35.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I had real feelings of sadness about him.
00:33:36.490 --> 00:33:40.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that then just connected me to the sadness in general.
00:33:40.920 --> 00:33:51.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I was crying, and I was feeling the pain of sadness. And after a while it wasn't even just about him. It was just the sadness in general.
00:33:54.840 --> 00:34:00.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and it brought me to places of of sadness, not not just for losing him, but
00:34:01.100 --> 00:34:08.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for other things that I've experienced in life that are now different now no longer around
00:34:09.080 --> 00:34:16.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: groups, communities that I was part of, that that are now no longer together and and
00:34:17.210 --> 00:34:20.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: no longer in my life in some ways.
00:34:25.889 --> 00:34:34.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and that was hard, but there was a a gift in it.
00:34:35.590 --> 00:34:38.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and I'll get to that gift in a minute.
00:34:43.580 --> 00:34:47.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But really it's 1 of the things.
00:34:48.190 --> 00:34:52.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not just from this weekend, but just in general, and doing my work that I've learned is that
00:34:53.120 --> 00:34:59.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: sadness is part of living life, and if we stop
00:34:59.830 --> 00:35:07.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: thinking about sadness is something to get rid of, something to fix, something, something to avoid.
00:35:08.220 --> 00:35:11.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but instead learn to honor it.
00:35:12.370 --> 00:35:14.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: learn to be present to it.
00:35:14.670 --> 00:35:18.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: learn to give it some room and some space to breathe.
00:35:21.060 --> 00:35:27.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe it's doesn't have to control us in an unconscious way.
00:35:29.000 --> 00:35:41.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and maybe we can just live a little bit more learning how to live with sadness.
00:35:47.360 --> 00:35:52.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's it's so interesting with the people I work with so often.
00:35:53.600 --> 00:36:07.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's this judgment around these difficult emotions to feel sadness, pain, anguish, hatred, anger.
00:36:10.460 --> 00:36:15.749 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but really they're all just energies that our body is feeling.
00:36:17.340 --> 00:36:25.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and when we stop judging them as good or bad, or supposed to have or not supposed to have or want to have, or don't want to have
00:36:28.050 --> 00:36:32.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and just be present to like. That's what is in the moment.
00:36:35.560 --> 00:36:46.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The more we allow ourselves to have those feelings, to have those, those even painful moments.
00:36:49.890 --> 00:36:55.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the less control they have over us, the less grip they have over
00:36:55.580 --> 00:37:02.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: all different parts of our being. The way we show up the decisions we make the choices we make
00:37:06.010 --> 00:37:13.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we give these emotions time and space. And I've worked with people over and over again.
00:37:14.260 --> 00:37:19.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the one thing I can tell you with certainty is, when we give a little more space
00:37:20.670 --> 00:37:26.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to these unpleasant feelings they actually start to dissipate.
00:37:28.680 --> 00:37:37.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I usually use as a as an analogy. It's like having water in a cup.
00:37:38.330 --> 00:37:43.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and when the cup is filled with water there's no room, it's all filled up.
00:37:44.900 --> 00:38:01.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But if I give it more space. If I pour it now into a bathtub, it's got more room, and so it's spread out so it doesn't fill up as much space, or if I take the water, I take it out of the bathtub, and I just let it roll on the floor. Now it gets even thinner, and it's spread out further.
00:38:03.660 --> 00:38:09.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So the more room we give to our sadness.
00:38:10.830 --> 00:38:18.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the less heavy it feels, the less dense it is, the less difficult it is Toner.
00:38:20.630 --> 00:38:27.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and look whether we pay attention to the sadness or not, it's there. This was one of my lessons from this past weekend is
00:38:28.410 --> 00:38:34.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: just because I don't allow myself to feel the sadness does not mean it's not there, it is there.
00:38:37.680 --> 00:38:45.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the interesting thing is by not allowing myself to feel my own sadness.
00:38:45.580 --> 00:38:47.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm less able to be present
00:38:48.060 --> 00:38:53.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in the moment with myself, with others, with anything I'm doing.
00:38:54.500 --> 00:38:58.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But after I allowed myself to open up and really feel the sadness.
00:39:00.240 --> 00:39:02.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Afterwards came stillness.
00:39:03.220 --> 00:39:12.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Afterwards I was able to be more present and be more still, and and really just be without distractions.
00:39:13.450 --> 00:39:23.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because underneath, if we're feeling the sadness or any kind of challenging emotion, then we don't want to be present. We keep finding things to distract ourselves all the time.
00:39:25.590 --> 00:39:27.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but that doesn't serve us.
00:39:27.740 --> 00:39:29.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Not in the least.
00:39:36.580 --> 00:39:41.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So yeah, sadness is not something to get rid of. It's not something to fix.
00:39:43.690 --> 00:39:47.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm not saying we should feel sad all the time.
00:39:49.070 --> 00:39:52.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We should just feel sad when we feel sad.
00:39:55.210 --> 00:40:02.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I just remember one teacher I had many years ago, she used to say, there's no emotion
00:40:02.800 --> 00:40:07.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so strong, so difficult.
00:40:07.830 --> 00:40:13.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that if we're truly present to it for 7 days straight that we can't get through
00:40:14.770 --> 00:40:25.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: now. When she said, present to it she was talking about, turn off the phones, unplug the TV, close the curtains, and just sit with it for 7 days.
00:40:28.050 --> 00:40:40.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and truly truly be present. And she was talking about even the worst, most horrible emotions, like the loss of a child, loss of of the love of your life the loss of whatever.
00:40:42.220 --> 00:40:48.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it was really interesting. Hearing her say that and really reflecting upon it years later.
00:40:49.400 --> 00:40:55.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I realized that's actually what the Jewish tradition of sitting Shiva is all about.
00:40:56.790 --> 00:41:04.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it gave me a new depth and a new appreciation for that ritual and for those of you who are not Jewish, or don't know what that means
00:41:04.790 --> 00:41:08.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in the Jewish tradition. When we lose an immediate family member.
00:41:09.780 --> 00:41:18.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're supposed to cover the mirrors, not play music not sit on anything soft or comfortable for one week
00:41:18.600 --> 00:41:20.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for 7 days, basically.
00:41:20.990 --> 00:41:28.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the idea is to sit and be present to our sadness and our grief over the loss.
00:41:31.300 --> 00:41:33.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But then, at the end of the 7 days.
00:41:33.920 --> 00:41:43.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you open the curtains, you take the the fabric off the mirrors. You you can sit on whatever you want. You can listen to music music again. It's like
00:41:44.240 --> 00:41:46.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: 7 days. You're present to it.
00:41:46.510 --> 00:41:49.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You're done with it. It's time to move on with life
00:41:49.880 --> 00:42:02.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not to mean you're not going to miss the person that you lost. You mean we still like light a candle every year on their anniversary of their death. There's still that hole in our life.
00:42:04.990 --> 00:42:11.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but it's this ritual to give us boundaries around our grief and our sadness
00:42:11.960 --> 00:42:15.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to just be present to it for 7 days.
00:42:15.740 --> 00:42:17.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and then you can let it go
00:42:24.950 --> 00:42:25.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so
00:42:30.570 --> 00:42:38.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that are opportunities. There are rituals in our lives, whatever your background is.
00:42:38.710 --> 00:42:41.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm sure there's some kind of ritual
00:42:41.930 --> 00:42:47.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: around loss around grief around sadness, and if there's not create your own.
00:42:49.690 --> 00:42:56.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: do a little research. Ask Chatgpt for a ritual to help you process your sadness or your grief.
00:42:56.970 --> 00:43:00.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You'd be surprised how creative it can be these days.
00:43:04.910 --> 00:43:11.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But the key is if we're judging the sadness as being bad or wrong. It's going to be hard to be present to it.
00:43:11.720 --> 00:43:17.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's going to be more difficult. There's going to be more resistance to it.
00:43:18.600 --> 00:43:22.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So to me the 1st fundamental step is stop judging it
00:43:23.540 --> 00:43:30.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not just stop judging sadness and grief, but like stop judging all emotions like don't even make joy
00:43:30.220 --> 00:43:34.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like a good emotion. It's just also an emotion as well.
00:43:35.630 --> 00:43:44.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean. Yes, we all enjoy that word again. We all enjoy the good feeling emotions much more than the not so good feeling emotions.
00:43:45.430 --> 00:43:47.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But they're all
00:43:48.790 --> 00:43:56.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: something. They're all just energies. They're all just something to serve us, to show us where we are.
00:44:02.475 --> 00:44:03.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So
00:44:03.500 --> 00:44:09.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: yeah, if we stop judging the bad, the quote unquote bad emotions, and stop judging the quote unquote good emotions.
00:44:10.560 --> 00:44:15.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And just say, you know what this is, just how I'm feeling right now in this moment.
00:44:16.530 --> 00:44:19.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Don't make it right or wrong. Just this is how I feel
00:44:21.350 --> 00:44:26.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like, maybe we can be a little more present to it, a little more aware of it.
00:44:27.760 --> 00:44:31.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe. Then we can live life a little more fully.
00:44:33.100 --> 00:44:39.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But I didn't tell you my ultimate lesson from the sadness I felt this weekend.
00:44:41.270 --> 00:44:46.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and you know what I think. I'll tell you that right after this break. So
00:44:46.320 --> 00:44:48.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: this is our last break of the show. When we come back
00:44:50.360 --> 00:44:54.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're going to talk about for me. What was the hidden power of sadness?
00:44:57.150 --> 00:45:00.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And yeah, we'll wrap it all up together
00:45:00.980 --> 00:45:08.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and finish off the show. So please come back after these messages. You're listening to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity.
00:45:09.460 --> 00:45:12.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we'll be right back in just a moment.
00:46:53.020 --> 00:47:02.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All right. So we've been talking about the hidden power of sadness. But what is the I mean? We've been talking about sadness, but what's really the power of sadness? What's the gift
00:47:02.980 --> 00:47:05.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: behind sadness? Well.
00:47:07.180 --> 00:47:13.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for one thing, when we allow ourselves to feel sadness, then we can feel more joy and more happiness.
00:47:17.210 --> 00:47:26.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and when we allow ourselves to feel sadness, we actually have more space to feel and be present to other people and other things.
00:47:30.040 --> 00:47:39.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it creates a deeper trust in ourselves, because now we're not trying to shut away and put away the emotions that don't feel so good.
00:47:41.070 --> 00:47:51.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But for me, what I realized this past weekend, as I thought about missing my friend and all these
00:47:52.130 --> 00:47:57.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: other events, opportunities, experiences that I had was, I realized
00:47:59.520 --> 00:48:04.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: they were so precious to me at the time.
00:48:05.840 --> 00:48:09.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I don't think I was really honoring them in the moment.
00:48:10.930 --> 00:48:15.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: being with certain people, having certain experiences.
00:48:16.120 --> 00:48:25.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Living life was such a precious gift, and having the opportunity to really experience and be with these people in these
00:48:26.340 --> 00:48:34.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: these experiences, that for me the hidden power of sadness
00:48:36.300 --> 00:48:40.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: was being able to honor life much more so
00:48:44.150 --> 00:48:48.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: was like seeing how these things were in my life. And now they're not.
00:48:49.020 --> 00:48:51.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I feel sad over it.
00:48:51.730 --> 00:48:58.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It actually helps me to honor what's in my life right here right now today
00:49:03.240 --> 00:49:07.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that I'm going to speak up more
00:49:08.060 --> 00:49:12.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with people and let them know how much I appreciate them.
00:49:12.410 --> 00:49:15.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how much I'm glad that they're in my life.
00:49:17.030 --> 00:49:20.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how much these interactions I love and enjoy
00:49:26.450 --> 00:49:37.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because the sadness was a precious gift, because it showed me the preciousness of life and our experiences.
00:49:43.110 --> 00:49:50.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because being connected to my sadness opens me up.
00:49:52.250 --> 00:49:55.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To be able to love that much more.
00:49:58.650 --> 00:50:07.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to be able to be connected with myself, with others.
00:50:08.000 --> 00:50:12.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with what's happening in the moment, that much more.
00:50:15.870 --> 00:50:21.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and when I can do that with sadness, I can do that
00:50:22.490 --> 00:50:26.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with happiness, with joy, with elation.
00:50:27.860 --> 00:50:33.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with all the other emotions that feel so wonderful in the body.
00:50:38.330 --> 00:50:43.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it can give me more freedom, more freedom to feel.
00:50:46.970 --> 00:50:50.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because if I can allow myself to feel
00:50:51.250 --> 00:50:54.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: even the most painful of feelings.
00:50:55.920 --> 00:51:03.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then I can allow myself to feel the most joyful of feelings.
00:51:05.820 --> 00:51:11.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So there actually is great power behind sadness.
00:51:12.320 --> 00:51:16.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because when we connect to our sadness. More
00:51:16.680 --> 00:51:21.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we connect to ourselves more we connect to life, more.
00:51:25.590 --> 00:51:30.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we can be more present to more of what's going on.
00:51:30.590 --> 00:51:34.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We can notice the flowers in the park.
00:51:35.260 --> 00:51:38.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how the sunshine feels on our face.
00:51:39.350 --> 00:51:42.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how a warm breeze touches our skin!
00:51:46.350 --> 00:51:49.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We can notice so much more
00:51:50.690 --> 00:51:54.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what feels right and what doesn't feel right for us.
00:52:03.630 --> 00:52:09.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah, because, allowing ourselves to feel sad.
00:52:09.690 --> 00:52:16.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: allows us ourselves to feel period to just feel
00:52:20.800 --> 00:52:21.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so.
00:52:24.620 --> 00:52:29.999 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I hope all this talk of sadness
00:52:32.330 --> 00:52:45.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: helps to maybe shift your own relationship to sadness helps you to find maybe a new way
00:52:47.240 --> 00:52:50.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of treating the sadness in your own life.
00:52:52.980 --> 00:52:55.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm sharing my own personal experiences.
00:52:56.370 --> 00:53:01.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm sharing what's came to me
00:53:02.810 --> 00:53:06.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and what I learned from my own experience this past weekend.
00:53:10.360 --> 00:53:15.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and how the sadness helps me to appreciate life that much more.
00:53:17.920 --> 00:53:22.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I'm hoping, maybe by me sharing
00:53:22.210 --> 00:53:26.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what I went through this past weekend and what I experienced.
00:53:27.090 --> 00:53:33.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that maybe my words can help you to shift your own relationship to sadness.
00:53:35.640 --> 00:53:40.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And if I did that in even just a little way, a small way.
00:53:42.090 --> 00:53:47.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I think that can be huge for you, so let me know.
00:53:48.220 --> 00:53:57.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Sorry I haven't been paying attention to the live streams and to the the comments. But let me know.
00:53:57.730 --> 00:54:00.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How do you feel about sadness?
00:54:00.560 --> 00:54:05.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What did my little monologue this hour around sadness?
00:54:06.140 --> 00:54:08.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What did it touch upon in you
00:54:11.990 --> 00:54:16.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and in the future, when I do a show without a guest.
00:54:17.530 --> 00:54:21.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is this the kind of thing you would like me to touch upon in the future?
00:54:22.840 --> 00:54:24.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'd really love to know.
00:54:25.760 --> 00:54:29.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So thank you all for tuning in. I really appreciate it.
00:54:32.050 --> 00:54:35.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I hope you really did get something out of this show.
00:54:35.490 --> 00:54:36.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So
00:54:36.730 --> 00:54:47.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: just a little reminder. If you did miss any part of today's show, you can always catch the replay on any of the major podcasting platforms, whether you like
00:54:48.560 --> 00:55:01.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: apple, spotify Pandora Iheartradio, whatever you love to listen to podcasts on
00:55:05.583 --> 00:55:09.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we can be. You can find the conscious consultant hour.
00:55:12.490 --> 00:55:17.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And of course, you can always catch the replay on talkradio dot. Nyc,
00:55:18.960 --> 00:55:27.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, if you did miss any part of today's show, please check us out. We're also you can always catch the live stream video on Youtube and Facebook and Twitter and Linkedin.
00:55:28.430 --> 00:55:31.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And next week I will have a guest, I promise.
00:55:31.820 --> 00:55:43.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and don't forget. Oh, yes, we have a new show starting tonight at 6 Pm. Eastern time on Talkradio Dot, Nyc. We have 3 wonderful co-hosts, Bruce.
00:55:43.971 --> 00:55:57.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Nataj, and what's the 3rd person's name? I forget now, and Angie is coming to you with serving up success with a splash. So make sure you you catch that show.
00:55:57.960 --> 00:56:05.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All right, everybody. Take care. Thank you all for tuning in this week. We will talk to you all next week.
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