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Join Sam and Ann as they discuss how we can unlock our best life in any situation.
This week, on The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam welcomes International Life, Leadership & Relationship Coach, Speaker, Educator, and Co-Author, Ann Papayoti.
Ann is the founder of SkyView Coaching. In her new book, The Gift of Shift: Discover the Key Within to Unlock Your Best Life, Ann uses many of these experiences to show how one can open that gift lovingly. Instead of freezing up, becoming resistant or giving in to depression, resignation or other unhealthy emotions, one can choose a better, more life-affirming, adaptable approach that can lead to new possibilities and a better pathway forward.
She is dedicated to waking people up to living their best life by helping them untangle from their past, align with their values and connect to their higher purpose. Ann captivates, educates and inspires audiences by sharing her personal experiences of loss, transition and triumph. She connects with clients in-person and online through one-on-one and group coaching, speaking engagements, various teaching platforms, blogs and magazine articles.
Ann has attained the International Coach Federation Accredited Professional Certified Coach level, is a Certified Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistics Programming, and is a member of the Association of Integrative Psychology.
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Sam reads a section from his book Everyday Awakening entitled Not Giving The Answer Allows People To Grow And Trust Themselves. Sam tells us what inspired him to write this section and how he had to learn to take his advice. He explains how a mentor or teacher benefits from not telling people what to do. Providing the answer only creates dependency. Guiding someone and teaching someone how to trust themselves allows people to make their own decisions confidently. Sam welcomes his guest, owner of Skyview Coaching and author of The Gift of Shift, Ann Papayoti. Ann tells Sam what brought her to Coaching and how she got started.
Ann has been coaching professionally since 2015. Since the pandemic, we’ve all dealt with some loss. Sam asks Ann how she copes with a loss. She says she learned how to be more resilient after each setback. She would take responsibility for how she wanted to experience her life and gain control over the situation. Ann adds darkness is inevitable, but choosing to look at the positive brings a better outcome. Sam and Ann discuss the power of choice and how it is in all of us. Sam mentions a study he’s read about where the neural pathways close down when the brain is under stress, making it hard to see different choices and options right before you. It’s not about changing the circumstances but instead changing your perspective on the matter so you can experience it differently.
Ann tells Sam where she got the title of her book, The Gift To Shift. She explains that it’s the gift of the mindset shift which means changing your perspective. Ann shares personal stories in her book that gives the readers an inside look at how she coped with loss and grief. She discusses what to expect from the chapters and how there are some uplifting stories that she shares too. Ann shares some of her challenges with her clients getting them to make a mindset shift. Her message that she wants people to know is that there is always something good to come. We have to look up to see it. Sam and Ann discuss how people create an identity around pain and loss. They also explain how time is valuable in any healing process.
Ann talks about a chapter from her book entitled The Gift of Jomo. Jomo is an acronym for the joy of missing out. Since the pandemic, Ann has found that it's been more about a sense of being rather than doing. Some people have shifted and are reinventing themselves. Others have retreated into themselves. If you want to learn more about Ann Papayoti, you can fund her on social media or on her website, Skyview coaching.
00:00:24.550 --> 00:00:52.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Good afternoon. Good morning! Good evening. Wherever you're tuning in from around the globe. Welcome to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity. I am very, very pleased that you are all here with me today. We've got a wonderful show in store for you, with an amazing guest, really looking forward to having her come on. But first, of course, we have our little section from my book.
00:00:52.670 --> 00:00:53.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Uh
00:00:55.420 --> 00:01:02.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: everyday Awakening. You are more powerful than you know, and this section today is entitled,
00:01:02.910 --> 00:01:09.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Not giving the answer allows people to grow and trust themselves.
00:01:09.940 --> 00:01:22.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How do we empower others? How do we, as coaches, teachers, guides, parents, bosses, and managers help those we interact with find their way.
00:01:23.060 --> 00:01:28.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Do we give them all the answers? Do we tell them all that we have learned,
00:01:29.250 --> 00:01:34.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or do we guide them to find the answers within themselves
00:01:34.850 --> 00:01:40.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: handing someone The solution to a problem they are facing may feel good to us.
00:01:40.900 --> 00:01:51.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet if the people we are trying to help do not learn to find answers on their own, we have disempowered rather than empowered them.
00:01:51.500 --> 00:02:04.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Being a real guide, a true mentor means learning to ask the questions that allow them to realize what the correct path is for themselves.
00:02:04.460 --> 00:02:18.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We may think we know the answer. We may think we have the solution they need. Yet if all we do is share our opinions with them. They aren't discovering how to access their own inner wisdom.
00:02:18.840 --> 00:02:34.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We are not teaching them that they have the power to resolve their issues on their own. We are not giving them the gift of our presence, and allowing them to use their creativity and trust themselves more.
00:02:35.070 --> 00:02:43.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It does not matter whether the person we are working with is our partner, our lover, our child our employee or our co-worker.
00:02:43.960 --> 00:02:49.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It does not matter how important or unimportant the situation may be.
00:02:49.560 --> 00:03:00.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We are only either encouraging the people around us to forge their own path through their efforts, or we are taking that opportunity away from them.
00:03:00.990 --> 00:03:07.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we create dependency upon us in others, we create followers.
00:03:07.730 --> 00:03:16.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we create the atmosphere for independent thinking, we allow people to grow into leaders.
00:03:16.690 --> 00:03:19.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Which do you want to create
00:03:19.490 --> 00:03:22.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: followers or fellow leaders?
00:03:23.360 --> 00:03:26.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So this section of my book. I wrote a while ago,
00:03:26.840 --> 00:03:36.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it it kind of came about during the period when I was learning to become a a facilitator myself,
00:03:36.600 --> 00:03:53.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and having been a coach and a healer before, I was really kind of used to like giving people advice and telling them how I see things and what to do, and it was really a huge mind shift for me, a huge mindset shift
00:03:53.380 --> 00:03:57.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for me to work with people and not tell them what to do,
00:03:57.830 --> 00:04:00.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and instead of
00:04:00.640 --> 00:04:09.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: even though I might see it very clearly, what they should do next, and how should they approach things, and how should they treat things, even though I could see it so clearly.
00:04:10.810 --> 00:04:14.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I realized that if I just tell it to them
00:04:15.180 --> 00:04:20.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: all it does is create dependency on me. They're just going to keep coming back to me.
00:04:21.750 --> 00:04:27.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Say, Oh, Sam, what do I do now with this situation, or Sam? Oh, what do I do Now, Well, what happens next, or how do I do this?
00:04:29.240 --> 00:04:30.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so
00:04:30.940 --> 00:04:33.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it really this idea of
00:04:34.100 --> 00:04:37.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not telling people what to do,
00:04:38.240 --> 00:04:43.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but allowing them to find their own path really started to resonate with me
00:04:44.040 --> 00:04:49.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because the purpose of doing this deep in or work is not to create dependency.
00:04:50.140 --> 00:05:00.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean, there's so many things in society in general that disempower us, that make us feel not enough, and not worthy, and not good enough;
00:05:01.470 --> 00:05:04.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that really, as as guides, as as
00:05:04.890 --> 00:05:06.659 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: as teachers.
00:05:07.170 --> 00:05:09.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I feel like our biggest
00:05:10.280 --> 00:05:20.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: responsibility is to empower people is to help people to see their own beauty, their own
00:05:21.290 --> 00:05:22.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Uh um,
00:05:23.010 --> 00:05:35.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: their own inner wisdom, their own power, their own sense of self, and to give them agency over the situations they might be in.
00:05:36.180 --> 00:05:41.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Of course we all need support now and then.
00:05:41.190 --> 00:05:44.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But there's a big difference between support
00:05:45.460 --> 00:05:47.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and telling someone what to do,
00:05:48.920 --> 00:06:02.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, as a facilitator, one of the techniques that's been reinforced over and over again to me is to share stories about my own life, and not to tell people what to do.
00:06:02.870 --> 00:06:11.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So If I see someone in a particular situation, and it's a situation i'm familiar with, because I personally have been through that
00:06:11.610 --> 00:06:23.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I might tell them what I did in that situation. But it was what I did for me, and maybe they can take something from that and learn to do something with that themselves.
00:06:24.840 --> 00:06:28.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But it's a very fine balance to walk,
00:06:30.030 --> 00:06:32.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of sharing versus telling,
00:06:32.780 --> 00:06:35.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of empowering versus disempowering.
00:06:37.080 --> 00:06:44.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And And so I I wrote this section because I realized, like this applies to so many situations,
00:06:44.690 --> 00:07:03.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, not just as a as a guide or a mentor, or a coach, but even as a parent as a co-worker, as a manager, as a boss. It it's true, in almost any situation where we're interacting with other people, even just as a friend.
00:07:03.580 --> 00:07:20.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And believe me, I've had many situations where friends have come to me, and they're having a challenging situation with a relationship, and and they always come to me for advice, and there's like I don't know why you're coming to me, but they come to me for advice, and it's like
00:07:20.890 --> 00:07:32.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I used to. I believe me i'm the pack pot calling the kettle black. I used to tell people what to do all the time, because it was so clear to me, but after a while I realized they weren't listening to me
00:07:32.910 --> 00:07:40.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because I was telling them what to do. They weren't finding it for themselves. So it didn't really have the same
00:07:41.240 --> 00:07:44.129 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: uh uh importance.
00:07:44.610 --> 00:07:50.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There, there's an old expression that goes. If I say something,
00:07:50.570 --> 00:07:55.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it means little. But if you say something, it means everything,
00:07:55.870 --> 00:08:01.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and so it's the idea that we all have to really discover for ourselves
00:08:02.250 --> 00:08:09.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what is the right choice? What is the right path, what is the proper way for us to move forward,
00:08:09.870 --> 00:08:15.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it may be different than how anybody else moves forward.
00:08:16.600 --> 00:08:26.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So if you're listening to this episode, and you're the kind of person who works with other people, and you're used to giving advice.
00:08:27.390 --> 00:08:33.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I just implore you to to think about it, to maybe take a step back,
00:08:33.760 --> 00:08:38.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and instead of giving advice, ask questions,
00:08:38.240 --> 00:08:40.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: share stories
00:08:40.480 --> 00:08:46.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and see if the people you work with see what they find out for themselves,
00:08:46.430 --> 00:08:50.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and see how that feels differently for you,
00:08:51.090 --> 00:08:53.430 and how that feels differently for them.
00:08:54.660 --> 00:08:58.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So that's my little section from my book.
00:08:58.270 --> 00:09:28.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Um. This section is called not giving. The answer allows people to grow and trust themselves, and that, of course, is from my book, Everyday Awakening, which you can find at Www. Dot Everyday Awakening book, dot Com. And that just takes you to the listing on Amazon. But if you're like me, and you like going to small independent bookstores, please just tell them, Hey, I'd like to get this book every day awakening by Sam Leibowitz, and they can find it. We're in all the major distributor book distributors. So
00:09:28.200 --> 00:09:39.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: um, even your small independent bookstore can get it all right. So now it is my extreme pleasure to welcome to the show and papyod
00:09:39.690 --> 00:10:07.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: um, and is an international life, leadership and relationship. Coach, a speaker, educator, and author. She is the founder of Sky View, coaching, and in her new book the Gift of the shift which we'll be discussing, discover the key within to unlock your best life, and uses many experiences to show how one can open that gift lovingly, instead of freezing up,
00:10:07.430 --> 00:10:21.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: becoming resistant or giving into depression, resignation, or other unhealthy emotions. One can choose a better, more life, affirming adaptable approach that can lead to new possibilities and a better path forward.
00:10:21.550 --> 00:10:51.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: She's dedicated to waking people up to living their best life by helping them untangle from their past, align with their values, and connect with their higher purpose, and captivates educates, and inspire audiences by sharing her personal experiences of loss, transition, and triumph. She connects with clients in person and online through one in group coaching, speaking engagements, teaching platforms, blogs, and magazine articles. Welcome to the conscious consultant Hour, and
00:10:51.780 --> 00:10:58.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: thank you, Sam. I'm so delighted to be here with you today. Uh, it's a pleasure to have you on the show.
00:10:58.930 --> 00:11:11.929 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So um! Just to give our audience a little background. So how did you come to be a coach, I mean, was it? Were you like Lucy, when you were a little kid? Hey? Five cents for advice? Or was this something that developed later in life.
00:11:12.050 --> 00:11:25.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Well, there's a lot here for us to talk about, but I have to start with what you were sharing, because I know from listening to some of your previous episodes that you don't plan what part of your book you're going to share, based on.
00:11:25.370 --> 00:11:43.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And there's something so synchronous about that and about our backgrounds. I was a corporate facilitator in training and development. Oh, and Delta airlines! And so I, too, had that background of of teaching and and telling and
00:11:43.650 --> 00:11:50.540 giving information for people to then go implement. So I, too, had to really learn
00:11:50.560 --> 00:12:06.680 Ann Papayoti: how to coach and take that art of allowing people to discover. However, when I look back I realized I was always becoming um always becoming so when you ask, was I, Lucy? With the five percent
00:12:06.690 --> 00:12:30.959 Ann Papayoti: I was was the go-to girl for friends, looking for advice, and I I say that I could have had my own dear any column decades ago. And by the way I now do have my own tearing, and I try really hard, as people send in their questions for advice, to turn it back to them with questions
00:12:30.970 --> 00:12:43.169 because I have learned the power of asking questions. But it was the go-to girl. But what I realized, and someone put as a description in my High School annual, and such a good listener
00:12:43.300 --> 00:13:01.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: back to that. So I recognize I always had that skill set before I became a trained facilitator, trained to teach and to disseminate information. So listening was always innate, and I never realized how
00:13:01.910 --> 00:13:18.189 important that skill would become, not only, you know, to my life's work, but but literally to changing my own life, listening to to myself and to my heart. And that's what I try to help people to do now. But
00:13:18.200 --> 00:13:26.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what I what I did, and how I became a coach is After I went through some of my own losses
00:13:26.470 --> 00:13:30.340 and went through a support group, literally for
00:13:30.430 --> 00:13:39.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a divorce. It was in that group that I was asked then to take over and lead it. I think, because of my
00:13:39.910 --> 00:13:53.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: From that group people were started asking for one on one time with me, and I didn't feel qualified to do that or to guide them in that way, though I was meeting them for coffee and lunch, and
00:13:53.440 --> 00:14:07.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: next thing I know they're at my house and my cats in their laptop. Okay, I've got to do something with this, but I didn't until one day life sort of opened that path for me, and I left the seventeen year aviation career
00:14:07.870 --> 00:14:24.469 to um follow my new husband's career which moved us and relocated us, and I found myself starting over, and I had an opportunity to do something, and with that opportunity I answered that call and began serving in my community again.
00:14:24.550 --> 00:14:29.229 Separation, divorce begin offering personal development courses.
00:14:30.080 --> 00:14:43.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But I found people asking for one and one time again, and I said, Okay, what cat? How can I do this? Better than going for her coffee and lunch? And I proceeded, continuing my education through coaching certifications, and
00:14:44.430 --> 00:15:01.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and i'll throw this in. There not only was listening in night, but in college. I major journalism um all about the power of asking the question to help people rebuild their stories. So I realized that was my path of truly becoming a coach, and
00:15:01.930 --> 00:15:07.379 following the doors and the knocks and the calling to actually become one
00:15:07.400 --> 00:15:31.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: beautiful beautiful. So I love that because it's like the the innate skills were always there, but but it sort of wasn't until you made your way through your own challenges, and life presented you with an opportunity, and you said yes to that opportunity that you really sort of jumped into it with with both feet. So that's that's beautiful and
00:15:31.050 --> 00:15:43.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: all right. Let let's. We got a first break to take um. So when we come back, let's talk a little bit about, sort of your journey as a coach. Why, you ended up writing this book the gift of the shift,
00:15:43.490 --> 00:16:12.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the gift of shift and and sort of what's happened since the book came out. Okay, so wonderful. So everyone please stay tuned You're listening to the conscious consult now awakening humanity. We do this every Thursday. Twelve noon to one Pm. Eastern right here and talk radio that Nyc. And ten Am. To eleven Am. Pacific time on Wednesdays on Kmt uh out of Palm Springs, California. So grateful to be part of the Kmet family, and we will be right back
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00:18:03.210 --> 00:18:04.300 You,
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00:18:31.590 --> 00:18:42.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and welcome back to the conscious, consulting our awakening humanity. We're speaking this hour with Ann, Papa Yodi, author of the book, the Gift of Shift.
00:18:42.420 --> 00:18:51.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So How long ago did you start coaching? I I mean, you know you officially getting your your coaching certification and start working with people in a more official manner
00:18:51.850 --> 00:18:58.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: officially two thousand and fifteen, and and it's just been a right ever since. Just
00:18:58.540 --> 00:19:12.840 more certifications, more education, and I believe in the value of that. And I continue learning, but I I find that it's really not the certifications and the and my own education that gravitate people to me.
00:19:12.940 --> 00:19:23.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm the one that needed that for myself to feel worthy. I mean their coach. It's my personal experiences that people tend to um
00:19:23.240 --> 00:19:38.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: come to me because I think they find me relevant, and and believe I can relate to what they're going through.
00:19:38.150 --> 00:19:53.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Over the the summertime. I was out in the west coast for three months, and the last few weeks we were in Vancouver and I put together a little ceremony in Vancouver, and everyone who attended They were all dealing with some kind of loss,
00:19:53.070 --> 00:20:16.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I feel like over the last two and a half years. We've all experienced different kinds of loss, and not just necessarily loss of a loved one to Covid it could be all kinds. I know many people who've lost people to everything, from heart attacks to cancer, to suicide, to loss of a career, loss of an industry almost.
00:20:16.770 --> 00:20:17.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Um!
00:20:17.830 --> 00:20:28.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What? How did you deal with your own loss? And how does that help you to to coach others who are going through some big loss in their life.
00:20:28.940 --> 00:20:43.729 Yes, and we all first of all agree with you. We've all had to deal with some kind of loss. We've all kind of been in the same storm, at least, maybe not in the same boat, as they say, but in the same storm. Whether it was. It was death.
00:20:43.760 --> 00:20:48.270 Divorce. There's been a lot of relationship. Loss.
00:20:48.410 --> 00:20:53.250 Relocation is a type of a loss when you move in giving up,
00:20:53.260 --> 00:21:22.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, community. And absolutely actually, I I can really relate to that, because so many of my friends here in New York City moved out of New York City during the pandemic that this year, like early in the year, my birthdays in February I was trying to get together a little birthday party, and and I was like there weren't that many people to invite, and like. I've had birthday parties where I invited fifty people, and the apartment was just totally crammed with people,
00:21:22.630 --> 00:21:49.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but I was like down to like I don't know. Five, six, seven people I was like, Where is everybody? And I realized, like people have moved all over the place. They moved to Florida. They've moved up State. They've moved to Europe. They've moved across the country across the globe like a lot of people took this opportunity, because of, I think, the more virtualness of of the world to just relocate to some place they've always wanted to live
00:21:49.050 --> 00:21:57.329 absolutely absolutely. And then we've seen, I think even a diagnosis is a loss a loss of your health.
00:21:57.350 --> 00:22:08.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Um, right? So there's all kinds of losses, and I've experienced all of those I just named plus plus more. And with each one
00:22:08.980 --> 00:22:10.070 I've
00:22:10.530 --> 00:22:22.410 I've learned, you know, and I've grown, and with each one I think the I I became more resilient, and so my comeback time was shorter after each one,
00:22:22.580 --> 00:22:30.590 but because of that, what I what I learned was I I would get pulled into the depths of being victimized by it,
00:22:30.700 --> 00:22:33.019 being in conflict with it.
00:22:33.090 --> 00:22:40.239 But ultimately I would learn to take responsibility for how I wanted to experience my life.
00:22:40.570 --> 00:22:43.150 And at the end of the day
00:22:43.830 --> 00:22:47.090 what was happening was happening,
00:22:47.120 --> 00:23:03.309 and I could choose to be victimized by it, or I could choose to look for something good, and the whole premise of positive psychology is not to deny that the negative in life exists, that the dark side exists, but it's to choose
00:23:03.320 --> 00:23:12.730 to focus on the positive on the light that that too, exists. And where are you going to fix your gaze, if you will? It's like the thorny, stemmed rose.
00:23:13.050 --> 00:23:28.530 There's the thorny stem, but there's also the beautiful blossom at the top, and which one will you choose to focus on. And I choose to focus on the beautiful blossom at the top, and that's what I learned to do for myself was to
00:23:28.540 --> 00:23:45.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in state the power of my choice, and that's what I find when we give away. So my! It is the power of choice, and we or we lose it in this in the the negativity in the
00:23:45.470 --> 00:23:53.440 in being swept away in the darkness of the loss. And when we're in the darkness we don't see the option.
00:23:53.550 --> 00:24:03.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't see the option, and that's why sometimes we need a guide. We need someone just to shine the flashlight down in the darkness and say, there is a way out.
00:24:04.030 --> 00:24:06.360 There are a few options
00:24:07.100 --> 00:24:21.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: right right? Because, and they've even done studies. I know that the brain, when it's under stress, like the neural pathways close down, and then it's hard to see, like the different choices and the different options,
00:24:21.060 --> 00:24:37.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we often think there's either no choice or there's only one choice between two different things. But the truth is, there is usually an infinite number of choices. There are all kinds of different choices. It just depends on our perspective, and what we're willing to.
00:24:37.800 --> 00:24:45.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Um, you know which direction we're willing to go, and and every choice has consequences is not to say they're not consequences to the choices.
00:24:45.580 --> 00:25:02.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But oftentimes we we are just limit ourselves so much, because when we're under stress, we're in the middle of the strong emotional situation that they say. When when the emotions are high, the intellect drops, or when the emotions are low, the intellect goes up, so it's
00:25:02.150 --> 00:25:14.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's working with someone. When we're highly emotional, and when we're very charged to sort of help us to calm down a little bit, so that then we can
00:25:14.080 --> 00:25:31.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: bring up and realize like. Oh, but there are choices. There are different ways of viewing things. There are different perspectives that we can use exactly, and that's exactly what the gift of shift is about um. Tracy and I took twelve common things in life.
00:25:31.990 --> 00:25:37.950 She wrote about six. I wrote about six, and we use the power of personal story
00:25:37.990 --> 00:25:44.299 Illustrate. This goes back to exactly what you were talking about, sharing, not telling,
00:25:44.470 --> 00:25:49.639 sharing our personal experiences of how we went from sort of negative,
00:25:49.970 --> 00:25:55.389 disempowered ways of thinking about what we were experiencing,
00:25:55.530 --> 00:25:59.719 shifting our our perspective,
00:26:01.440 --> 00:26:12.019 not changing what was not changing the circumstances, but changing our perspective so we could experience it differently and empowering ourselves. And
00:26:12.060 --> 00:26:29.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're showing how we did it through something. And then we ask it, It's a guy to journal. So behind each short um is a guided journal for the reader, so that they can now. So we're asking those questions to allow the reader to say,
00:26:29.070 --> 00:26:40.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Hey, through this theme in life. Your story wouldn't be the same as ours, but we've all experienced the theme of of trying to decide. What do we believe? Was this a coincidence or a synchronous
00:26:41.060 --> 00:26:42.850 was
00:26:42.930 --> 00:26:52.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what we've all been through betrayal on some level in life We've all had to to choose to forgive or not. We've all had to
00:26:52.880 --> 00:26:55.280 to to to hope
00:26:55.540 --> 00:27:04.969 or or get swept out away in hopelessness. We've all we've all been caught up in fear.
00:27:05.730 --> 00:27:24.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah, absolutely absolutely. The themes are all in the book. So how has this theme? Um affected your life and the the goal of the questions? And then a guided journal is for the reader to to either be reminded of the time that they went through this thing;
00:27:24.800 --> 00:27:43.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and even though they may be well beyond this particular story in their life. What was it about them that got them through it? So they can be reminded of that now to help them through some new challenge.
00:27:43.840 --> 00:27:54.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If not, maybe they'll recognize where they're still stuck in that story. Then we came down these lined pages to rewrite their story in a more powerful way.
00:27:54.700 --> 00:28:10.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Uh. So you're giving him an opportunity to really reframe what they've been through in a way that will serve them better than than the original story. I i'm i'm curious, and just a minute or two before we go to break.
00:28:11.400 --> 00:28:24.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What was there something that really got you and your your co-author to really say, Oh, let's write a book about this, or or was it just something that you know you already had a bunch of material, and it's like, Well, let's just put it together.
00:28:25.350 --> 00:28:43.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We had um. We were both living in Canada before I'm. Relocated to Texas. We met at a training event in Miami, Florida, because that's what Canadians do. They go to Florida. Yeah. What? Where in Canada, where you? I was in Montreal? And she was in New Brunswick,
00:28:43.910 --> 00:28:58.890 and we but we met there, and we just gravitated to one another and knew we wanted to work together, and we had been doing, collaborating, creating, content and doing workshops. She would travel to Quebec. I would travel to New Brunswick, and we would sell out these workshops,
00:28:58.900 --> 00:29:05.950 but the content wasn't around our personal stories. But when I relocated we knew we wanted to still try to collaborate,
00:29:05.960 --> 00:29:32.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I've been pushing her to write a book We should write a book together. I'd want to write a book since I was seventeen, But, Sam, I thought it'd be a novel. My life took me down a different path, maybe one day. Yeah, but but she's what and writer didn't want to write. She's more of a vlogger, you know the video and mean different kinds of life experiences. But she came back to me. She goes. Let's do it. Let's write a book, and we are talking that, you know.
00:29:32.130 --> 00:29:37.249 Are we going to take this workshop and chop it up. We already had one titled the Gift of Shift.
00:29:37.610 --> 00:29:42.309 I'm like No, you know what this power of the personal story
00:29:42.500 --> 00:30:02.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we just took. Somehow. It just came to us, and we literally had to download from the universe. Let's do it. Let's do it this way. Some power people, if we can't be with them One on one. We started it before the pandemic January twenty, twenty. We started writing Um! It published during the pandemic, and it
00:30:02.230 --> 00:30:04.610 ended up, being a very, very
00:30:04.880 --> 00:30:08.999 empowering, appropriate tool for people stuck at home.
00:30:09.310 --> 00:30:21.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Great, wonderful, wonderful, wonderful! All right. It's. It's time. First take another little break when we come back? I I want to know. Where did the title come from? The gift of shift?
00:30:21.130 --> 00:30:31.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And um, you know what challenges have you had along the way that really contributed to your perspectives of what you've put into the book. Okay,
00:30:32.760 --> 00:30:43.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Awesome. So everyone, please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consult now awakening humanity, and we'll be right back within Papa Yodi in just a moment.
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00:32:46.460 --> 00:33:13.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and welcome back to the conscious, consulting our awakening humanity. I see. Uh, loyal listener, Paddy, on the live stream uh tuning into today's show. Thank you so much, Patty. I always appreciate your uh support and and your sharing of the video. Um. And for those of you who who aren't uh subscribed to our Youtube Channel, please go to Youtube, dot, com, slash, c. The letter c. Slash, talking alternative,
00:33:13.800 --> 00:33:27.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and uh subscribe to our Youtube Channel. So when our live streams come up you you get notified, and you have an opportunity to see the video as well as listen to the audio. Um so. And where did the title? The Gift of shift come from
00:33:28.360 --> 00:33:41.669 that came from Ah, just a phone conversation and tracing I were having one day, and I just love alliteration and rhyme mean. And it was just. It just was an organic, authentic kind of just when it came up when we were planning
00:33:41.680 --> 00:33:59.260 Ah! To collaborate on a workshop. As I said, it became the title of that, but it's the gift of the mindset shift again, just shifting perspective, nothing else, and that is choice. But it only happens when we're ready to feel differently,
00:33:59.270 --> 00:34:15.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Can't change the experience I I share in the book. One of the chapters, the the gift of Charlie Brown is about to me. You brought up Lucy, the psychiatrist. I have what I chapter titled The Gift of Charlie Brown, but that is actually
00:34:15.380 --> 00:34:26.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: about the loss of my first born son who passed away in infancy. And I say, I've experienced death and grief I have, and it's that's just one
00:34:26.440 --> 00:34:42.629 one story I that and we all have stories in our lives, right? We have stories of loss, and this is one story of loss, and we don't share every detail in these short stories that we share enough for the reader to
00:34:42.889 --> 00:34:43.939 see
00:34:44.179 --> 00:35:03.840 how we experienced in this case the theme of grief, how I moved through that grief and moved out to a different perspective, to be able to experience and turn my my pain into some kind of purpose, so that, rather than than be stuck in darkness.
00:35:03.850 --> 00:35:12.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Following this, which I could have been, and I speak about the fact that I wanted to die,
00:35:12.820 --> 00:35:14.399 but it took
00:35:14.740 --> 00:35:21.390 my ability to be able to look up, for in the depths of my pain and my grief to see
00:35:21.440 --> 00:35:25.009 the opportunity to feel differently, and then choosing that
00:35:25.110 --> 00:35:39.469 there's there's the the gift, the booency, and that's where I'm talking about holding on to hope to stay afloat after another child of mine had a diagnosis
00:35:39.550 --> 00:35:56.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that was gonna of of a childhood illness that we had to see him through. He's. Oh, thank you! Oh, you know all of those beautiful things i'm very grateful, for. There are chapters of of of things that are very uplifting, too. So I don't want you to think it's all you know
00:35:56.640 --> 00:36:11.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what are heavy, but we do practice that in the introduction. So people are prepared,
00:36:12.150 --> 00:36:17.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that's what some people say. I want what you have, because
00:36:17.350 --> 00:36:34.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I I I feel like everything is against me, right. No, it's for you. There is the gift, and that's what we're talking about. There's a gift in each thing that when you can lovingly open it open it. You'll find it, and you'll find meaning and purpose, and you will.
00:36:34.780 --> 00:36:40.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's love from everything, and to me love is the great Healer,
00:36:40.500 --> 00:36:44.190 the all healer and light is the only
00:36:44.930 --> 00:36:47.670 antagonist to the darkness, so
00:36:47.700 --> 00:36:56.590 the more light I can see, and the more love I can create from anything that Ah, that is seemingly and
00:36:56.800 --> 00:37:01.679 truly awful in the moment. There's always something
00:37:01.980 --> 00:37:21.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: good to come, and that's the quote I put in the get to Charlie Brown, and it's a quote from him. He himself and I do believe Charl Short wrote for adults, and not Yes, yes, absolutely. But there's always something good to come. But we have to look up to see it. And yeah, well, to look up from the depths of our darkest moments,
00:37:21.840 --> 00:37:24.239 and there is light that we have to follow
00:37:25.390 --> 00:37:37.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there. There is a great line Um i'm. I'm. Watching this the series on Amazon of the Rings of Power, because I love Tolkien and the Lord of the rings, and and someone says to to
00:37:38.120 --> 00:37:40.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: another character:
00:37:40.260 --> 00:37:41.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Hope,
00:37:42.480 --> 00:37:46.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: however meager, is never mere,
00:37:46.600 --> 00:37:57.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, because you made some comment about like, Oh, it! You're basing this on me, or hope it's like it Doesn't matter how meager it is, it hope is never mere. It's never little
00:37:57.780 --> 00:38:06.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: um. I I i'm curious uh when with all the people that you've worked with, and you've helped and supported
00:38:06.610 --> 00:38:21.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what is sort of the biggest challenge around making that mindset shift around being able to sort of flip, being able to see the challenges that they're going through from something that's tearing them down to something that's building them up.
00:38:22.560 --> 00:38:32.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's a couple that one is, is Sometimes it's just everybody's journey is different, and there's time learning to cooperate with time
00:38:32.080 --> 00:38:33.560 for their healing.
00:38:33.670 --> 00:38:50.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But I think the biggest challenge. There's a resistance to let go. There's a reason to let go of something that's become a bit of an identity. Um! Someone I was actually working with yesterday. She's afraid to let go
00:38:50.380 --> 00:38:53.010 of feeling responsible.
00:38:53.970 --> 00:38:55.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Hmm.
00:38:56.460 --> 00:39:09.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Her partners for not helping her partner more doing more. Her partner ultimately passed away. But she there's a feeling of responsibility that she didn't do more. She's scared to let go because she's scared to lose connection to him.
00:39:10.050 --> 00:39:28.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Hmm. Oh, there's there, and that's a common theme, whether it's death or it's divorce or even if it's something very uncomfortable. It's like it's a scratchy will blanket, but it's my scratchy, but I know when it gives me a rash, but it's
00:39:28.410 --> 00:39:32.779 better than what I don't know, even though you're telling me there's this
00:39:32.850 --> 00:39:35.130 one hundred percent cotton,
00:39:35.220 --> 00:39:43.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, cash from your combo blanket every year. I'm willing to give this one away, Linus. There's something more beautiful waiting for me.
00:39:44.390 --> 00:39:52.349 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So their identity gets wrapped up in their loss, and they're scared to to let go of it.
00:39:52.480 --> 00:40:02.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And um! So they just keep going through life with it, dragging it away and carrying the right burden of it. And um, they're scared to
00:40:02.860 --> 00:40:32.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: yeah, and and and that that fear of the loss of connection. I can really see that in many people I know, like I have a very close friend whose son oded a year ago he just graduated from college. He had all these great prospects. Everything was looking good, and he he got some bad stuff, and in the middle of the night, while he was home. He! He! He transitioned, and it's been a very, very challenging. She was very, very connected
00:40:32.820 --> 00:40:36.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to him when he was alive, and I could see how
00:40:36.850 --> 00:40:56.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: she's holding on to the pain. I mean she's doing much better. Don't get me wrong. Um! But she still holding on to that identity and holding on to that pain, because I could see underneath it. There's a real fear of If she lets go of it. She'll lose that connection to him. So I can definitely say that
00:40:57.140 --> 00:40:58.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: um,
00:40:59.490 --> 00:41:10.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when it's something, maybe not as as as personal as loss of a loved one, but maybe even something a little more practical, like loss of a job.
00:41:10.940 --> 00:41:14.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How is that different? How do people respond differently to that?
00:41:15.550 --> 00:41:21.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They actually respond the same? It's. Everything goes through grief, and
00:41:22.370 --> 00:41:28.879 and That's one thing. I also see. Your people will minimize their pain and try to
00:41:29.020 --> 00:41:38.530 jump over and avoid grief, and that prolongs delays, actually their healing process. So all loss requires grief.
00:41:38.540 --> 00:41:49.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm just going to say that that's what I found. If you don't grieve the loss whether it's the dream, the what should have been the unfairness, Whatever the feeling is, you have to grieve
00:41:49.640 --> 00:41:58.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the loss, whatever perceived loss you can truly accept with full the full beauty
00:41:58.540 --> 00:42:14.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of what can be, and what is coming for you, and the next thing. Otherwise you go from the job loss. Yes, maybe there's a new job, but you're not receiving it in an openness and a fullness with a gratitude that is,
00:42:14.640 --> 00:42:28.019 this was meant to be right. So it there. There is a a grief cycle, and the grief cycle is not linear. And I do speak about this, and it it's not linear it's not, you know. Step, one step, two, check it off it's,
00:42:28.070 --> 00:42:41.729 you know. You may go from sadness to ah, back to denial and shock, and then you may go into anger, and you may feel at peace and acceptance, and then you're thrown right back into to to
00:42:41.740 --> 00:42:48.430 to sadness or into the anger, and then bargaining for a while of the watershed of this before
00:42:48.580 --> 00:42:56.259 finally arriving at you. Believe peace and acceptance. And I say it's like the the rent cycle in the washing machine. You know it's
00:42:56.440 --> 00:43:07.370 speeds up, slows down, finally seems to stop, and somebody opens the door at the washing machine. And then you're stuck like a sock in the gasket, and they close it, and they started all over again.
00:43:07.380 --> 00:43:19.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So that's what I mean. Everybody's time periods different. Don't beat yourself up, don't hold yourself to a certain time, but cooperate with time, because time does assist in your healing,
00:43:20.140 --> 00:43:22.759 it will give you a
00:43:22.950 --> 00:43:29.790 distance which gives you a new perspective. It's just like if you go onto a hilltop and look down.
00:43:30.030 --> 00:43:45.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You see where you've been, but if you stay in it you can't see anything but those woods that you are in. So giving yourself time, Giving yourself some distance will help create a new perspective. But if you stay in it,
00:43:45.320 --> 00:44:04.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I tell people going through divorce. If you keep going to the places that you went. If you keep hanging out with the the same crowd, and there's obviously you the plus one's missing. If you keep listening to the same. You're keeping the wounds open, so you have to cooperate with time in the actions you choose
00:44:04.480 --> 00:44:10.199 um the things you expose yourself to, so that you can't allow that.
00:44:10.740 --> 00:44:33.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah, you know, being present to the feelings and to the grief and to the loss is so so important, and being brought up Jewish. You know we we have this tradition of um uh sitting shiver, which, basically when there's a loss of immediate family member, you're not supposed to go out. You cover the marriage. You're not supposed to listen to music. There are all these
00:44:33.280 --> 00:44:35.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: rules around, and they never really
00:44:35.190 --> 00:44:45.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: got it, you know as a kid, but as I've gotten older now, I understand that it's like Oh, it's giving space and the opportunity to truly grieve
00:44:45.910 --> 00:45:03.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and to allow it, but it it's interesting because it is a very finite time. It's like seven days, and then, after those seven days, That's it, You you! You you pull the the the curtains off the the window, and it's like, Okay, you've grieved. Now move on with life,
00:45:03.360 --> 00:45:22.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: now again that time period for different people can, and depending on the type of loss can be different. But I mean, how often do we have a loss? Do we just give ourselves seven days to sit with it, not be distracted, not allow other things to sort of take us out of that uncomfortable feeling,
00:45:22.750 --> 00:45:38.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because we need to kind of feel that uncomfortable feeling in order to pass through it, is what you're saying
00:45:38.970 --> 00:45:46.799 your it represented maybe everything you prepared for in life. It represented how you supported your family. It represented
00:45:46.850 --> 00:46:01.570 that you don't make. Now you people start perceiving themselves as a failure or this. They make it about them rather than you know. So there's a lot to process here, and then a lot to move through. So it's. When you ask, Is it the same? It is the same, because,
00:46:01.580 --> 00:46:20.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like my client, yesterday's making it about her, she didn't do enough, lost the job job. I didn't do enough. I didn't perform well enough. It was so people internalize it and make it about them. So there's still that same process to move through, though the the losses are different, and at the end of the day. It's about
00:46:20.870 --> 00:46:24.339 self-compassion, self-orgiveness.
00:46:24.760 --> 00:46:33.349 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's the letting go at the end and then being able to to move forward. But what I love about um
00:46:33.470 --> 00:46:43.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: rituals like Shitta is that it's representative. It doesn't mean it is seven days, but it's representative of allowing that time period,
00:46:44.020 --> 00:46:47.880 and then the fact that you are
00:46:48.650 --> 00:47:07.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: allowed to give yourself permission. But so I love the fact that the ritual representation, I think half time periods around it some cultures have a forty-five days Right? Right? Right. There are different cultures, have different rituals and
00:47:07.670 --> 00:47:19.790 different things, but it's representative of giving yourself that space and time, and then removing the black, or removing the cloaks, and then moving forward,
00:47:19.910 --> 00:47:20.950 Mhm
00:47:21.500 --> 00:47:25.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not getting over, and I never use the word getting over
00:47:25.840 --> 00:47:43.349 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and moving beyond. And that means you're not letting go. You're not losing connection. It means Now let's adopt, anyway. Let's focus on those good memories. Let's let's share with them. Let's talk about them. I love to talk about angel verssaries of people who passed.
00:47:43.360 --> 00:47:55.609 Let's celebrate them. Um beyond that grief. And yes, triggers, you know there will always be triggers, but and allow that emotion as well
00:47:55.620 --> 00:48:06.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: through it. And and neuro psychologists have taught us that we literally experience a wave of emotion for about ninety seconds, so let it wash over you.
00:48:07.450 --> 00:48:36.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What, rather than hold on to it. Allow the wash right. Allow the watch ever allow the cry. But what happens to the people get stuck. Grab hold. Yeah. So let's hold it there for the moment, because we're We're a little bit late. Let's take our last little tiny break for the show when we come back. I'd like to talk just a little bit before you. You. We talk about what's next for you and what's coming up uh just the cultural context that we live in and and sort of
00:48:37.550 --> 00:48:43.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the perspective of what we're going through versus what's going on in society in general around us,
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00:51:17.850 --> 00:51:33.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So, and when we're going through some challenge, it's not necessarily an isolated incident right? There is context to the greater sort of surrounding uh experience of people around us,
00:51:33.660 --> 00:51:39.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that can affect how we go through it. What we feel in the moment can't it
00:51:39.980 --> 00:51:43.119 absolutely. And you know you were talking
00:51:43.310 --> 00:51:53.200 earlier just about all the your party, and that people realizing people were moving and and everything with the pandemic. And I I feel like there's been
00:51:53.290 --> 00:52:10.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like a huge awakening, if you will, and uh, a shifting consciousness in general, and uh, one of the chapters of the gift of shift that I wrote is the gift of Joe Mo. And if your audience, isn't familiar with that acronym, it's the joy of missing out,
00:52:10.260 --> 00:52:28.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: which is the antithesis to Fomo, the fear of missing out. And that's really what I found. A lot of people were kind of doing that dance when we all were affected at the same time around the globe with what was going on. So
00:52:28.430 --> 00:52:33.389 the the the fomo, the fear of missing out we saw with
00:52:33.460 --> 00:52:35.380 you know I have to stay home,
00:52:35.430 --> 00:52:45.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and the Jumbo was. I get to stay home, and then some people would would do that that dance back and forth in the same day in the same hour. And then,
00:52:45.920 --> 00:53:01.260 you know, then this, this this shit started, happening to choose one over the other right, and some companies were reinventing themselves, while others had to shut their doors, and people started looking for more meaning and purpose
00:53:01.430 --> 00:53:02.549 in life.
00:53:02.580 --> 00:53:07.319 As you said, some some relocated.
00:53:07.660 --> 00:53:19.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Ah! Some looked for bigger spaces, more land, some some look to move closer to family people. I I found it became more of a way of
00:53:19.750 --> 00:53:23.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: being versus doing. Yes, yes,
00:53:23.980 --> 00:53:27.030 experienced that the more awakening and
00:53:27.580 --> 00:53:33.949 and I feel like everything has just been showing opportunities
00:53:34.040 --> 00:53:36.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for us to awaken
00:53:37.200 --> 00:53:54.730 whether we choose to or not. Others stuck in fear whether it was about the mandate to wear a mask or this or that there was always resistance. Resistance is fear. So we see it, we see it on the knees, we see it play out in attitudes, and then we see the other.
00:53:54.740 --> 00:54:13.739 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know people were learning these skills, learning how to garden, learning how to so learning. You know they were taking the opportunity of this time of being at home, people reinventing how they being becoming a virtual world in this way. So
00:54:13.750 --> 00:54:28.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: everything's effect affected and continued and connected, and it's how we again choose to see it, and which, where do we want to be? Which where do we want to put our mindset? Because our mindset is going to affect
00:54:29.250 --> 00:54:33.960 and pull people down or lift people up.
00:54:34.000 --> 00:54:53.239 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah, you know, It's quite interesting to watch at the beginning of the pandemic for myself, because my wife and I, We've done so much work and processing fear and things like that. And and and now that you send that that resistance is fear, I we were able to adapt and shift and change
00:54:53.450 --> 00:55:05.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because we didn't have much resistance, and I believe we didn't have much resistance, because we had processed a lot of fear in our lives from the inner work that we do, so that
00:55:05.500 --> 00:55:31.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I was much more able to be adaptable compared to some people that I know, because there are many people I know who are speaker trainers who their whole business was built on doing in-person live events, and suddenly they weren't able to do it anymore. And and there was some resistance to taking that and and flipping it and going virtual with it. And it took them, you know, six months a year, sometimes two years, to kind of make that shift.
00:55:31.990 --> 00:55:58.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and and these are people who are very conscious people and people who who who work with people to help people through things, yet still they had their own resistance. They had their own fear. So I think it's important to kind of keep in mind sort of the greater context that we're working within, and that sometimes we we feel things a little bit more than maybe the situation warrants because it's not all ours.
00:55:58.060 --> 00:56:15.019 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It could be our families. It could be our communities, it could be our town, our state, and and and being conscious and aware and present to the the more global context, I feel is really important. If we're going to learn to thrive in this world that we're in now.
00:56:15.030 --> 00:56:28.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Um, Unfortunately, I could. I I and I could speak with you for hours about this. Unfortunately, we're running out of time. If people want to learn more about you, you know, learn more about your work. Where can they go? Where can they find you?
00:56:29.070 --> 00:56:41.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I am on social media, and I have my website. Is Sky View Coaching dot com so sky view. It's all about looking up right. We're getting that um That's it. Skyview Coaching dot Com Facebook Sky View coaching
00:56:41.620 --> 00:56:59.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: um and papy Ode and the smelling will be in the show notes, I'm sure for Gram and and Twitter and all of those places, and the book, the gift of shift is available from Amazon, and you can go to your local bookseller, and they can order it for you as well if you'd like to support
00:56:59.660 --> 00:57:07.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: your on a smaller change, and you have a little free gift for our audience. Don't you? I do. I have a small mini course on soul. Cpr.
00:57:07.690 --> 00:57:20.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I think it's uh at my website slash free. I think it type and sole hyphen. Cpr. Is that right?
00:57:20.390 --> 00:57:37.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Here you go? That'll be in the show notes as well. It'll be in the show notes, and also what's next is I ha! I'm doing a larger course on sole Cpr. And that will be starting in January doing a beta group right now, and it's where you'll have account of building support, but also a video led self pace,
00:57:37.560 --> 00:57:40.400 of course. And so I look forward to offering that to people
00:57:40.410 --> 00:58:09.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: wonderful, and thank you so much for taking the time out of your schedule for coming on my show today. I really appreciate it. If If people want to learn more about her work again, that the website is Sky View v. I. Ew. Like a view out the window coaching dot com highly recommend you check it out in the name of her book again, is the gift of shift. Discover the key within, to unlike, unlock your best life. Thank you, Anne. You have a wonderful day now.
00:58:09.570 --> 00:58:34.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you, Sam. I appreciate it, and thank you, My loyal listeners for tuning in every week. I really appreciate you. If you've gotten something out of today's show, please share it with your friends, your family, your colleagues. Uh, let them know about the conscious consultant hour, as I mentioned earlier. Please check us out on the podcasting platforms on Youtube, and thank you for tuning in, and we will be speaking with you next week.