This week on Voices of Courage, Ken D. Foster is joined by transformational leader, celebrity coach, and two-time New York Times best-selling author, Christy Whitman, and transformational relationship mentor and author, Dr. Gary Salyer, to discuss the courage to fulfill your desires.
Host Ken D. Foster opens this episode by discussing the feeling of “desire” and what may be stopping us from generating the life that we really want. He addresses “subconscious idea habits” and how that had affected his upbringing in his family life. Not being able to manifest your desires means that you have something blocking you. Since we are all constantly evolving, one must set their intention to change what is stopping them from achieving their desire. Ken also discusses the concept of “feeling affirmations”, in which one chooses to take action with something that will help them achieve their desire.
The second segment opens with the first guest, author and life coach Christy Whitman. Christy begins by offering advice on how someone can be the best version of themselves, speaking about how, even every time she had accomplished something new, she never felt that she could be fulfilled, sending her on a spiritual journey. Christy discusses how having a desire comes from a higher place, the “divine self”. Therefore, that life force gives us the desire and the only thing holding us back is ourselves. She speaks about those who think that desire is the “root of all evil”, which she agrees that while it may make us suffer, the process that we take to attain the desire will change us.
The third segment opens with Christy explaining that hard work is not the key to manifesting something. It is not about working hard, it is about working in the fullest and working in the fullest presence that we can use. Christy explains how people she knows fully manifest something, which is knowing that if they desire, they cannot let fear stop them, subsequently transforming that fear into a different feeling. She speaks on her book, “The Desire Factor”, which gives the reader advice on how to enjoy the process of creating desires. The book gives tips, for example, if one is taking action before they align themselves, their desire will not fully manifest. The next guest is introduced, relationship mentor Dr. Gary Salyer. He speaks about how seeing his family’s relationships inspired him to obtain a marriage and family, hoping to never get divorced again. After graduating, he became married and divorce twice, which inspired him to make it his manifest destiny on identifying what causes couples’ relationship to falter, and how he is able to help. Additionally, Dr. Salyer speaks on how the dating landscape will change after the COVID-19 pandemic. After this pandemic, he predicts that there will be less emphasis on meeting more people, and more the quality of their connection with a potential partner, and the quality of their relationship with themselves. Making sure that we restore our feelings within ourselves, proving that one can feel and show love, will restore our desires.
The fourth and final segment opens with Dr. Salyer speaking about his book, and the four feelings people will have to have when beginning a relationship. Humans are born worthy, and have been taught to feel unworthy. Dr. Salyer emphasizes that we are worthy enough to reach out for our desires and needs, although we may feel unwelcome and undesired. When someone keeps themselves from achieving something, it is because it was taught to them. In order to achieve something with a partner, one must be able to give and receive feedback. Dr. Salyer speaks about how while telling people to “love themselves” may be the biggest piece of advice for relationships, which would be reaching out for feedback, knowing that we were born worthy of love. Christy returns to give her message to the world, stressing the importance of mastering our own energy and reality. Dr. Salyer gives his message, reminding listeners that they were born to feel worthy and empowered.