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Friday, September 10, 2021
Facebook Live Video from 2021/09/10 - Human Options - Living a Violence Free Life

Facebook Live Video from 2021/09/10 - Human Options - Living a Violence Free Life


2021/09/10 - Human Options - Living a Violence Free Life

[NEW EPISODE] Human Options - Living a Violence Free Life

Human Options ignites social change by educating Orange County to recognize relationship violence as an issue that threatens everyone, advocating for those affected by abuse, extending a safe place for victims, and empowering survivors on their journey of healing.

As Chief Executive Officer, Maricela Rios-Faust provides vital leadership, support and vision to the continued growth and success of Human Options. Since 2006, she has capitalized on her 30 year experience working with vulnerable populations and been a key driver in Human Options becoming the most comprehensive domestic violence service providers in Orange County. Her commitment comes from a desire to raise her daughter in a world where relationship violence is not tolerated.

Tune in for this sensible conversation at or watch the Facebook Livestream by Clicking Here.

Show Notes

Segment 1

The segment begins with a question about what drew Maricela into the non-profit world. Maricela remarks on the community involvement of her parents which inspired her to participate in civic engagement. During her college experience, she had different opportunities to get involved in community efforts such as the prevention of gang activity and relationship violence prevention efforts.

Segment 2

The second second segment begins by exploring Maricela’s journey into the non-profit world. She began by working with a gang prevention program in Huntington Beach. There, she formed meaningful connections with the women whom she worked with; one of these women shared with her a story about the domestic violence her family members experienced at the hands of her father. The woman was ultimately unable to leave her situation as her mother and brothers would be left vulnerable and unprotected. This situation inspired Maricela to get involved and to help children who were stuck in these situations. Maricela then discusses her work with different organizations who impacted families and children around issues of relationship violence.

Segment 3

The third segment begins with a discussion of what unrestricted support means in the context of non-profit work. This allows non-profit organizations to become more flexible in the delivery of their services. This also enables nonprofits to develop programs and services that meet the specific needs of a community. The segment then moves into a discussion which outlines the services provided by Human Options. The organization started by offering a 24-hour hotline and an emergency safe haven. However, over time, the services provided by her non-profit began to expand and evolve according to the needs of domestic violence survivors. Maricela then discusses the importance of changing the narrative around domestic abuse and relationship violence.

Segment 4

The segment begins with a discussion about how Human Options handles domestic survivors who have animals and pets: Human Options partners with animal shelters to accommodate pets. Human Options cannot accommodate animals in emergency safe havens, however, pets may be accommodated in the “in-between” safe houses which relationship violence survivors may be placed in.

Maricela then discusses how her organization partners with police forces to enhance support for victims and survivors of domestic abuse. 

The episode concludes with Maricela sharing options for getting involved with her organization and upcoming events.


00:05:17.520 --> 00:05:19.170 Tommy DiMisa: On Friday morning.

00:05:19.320 --> 00:05:24.960 Tommy DiMisa: And I am or at least was when this was originally recorded and we're doing it live right now but wherever you're listening to wherever you're finding.

00:05:25.350 --> 00:05:34.950 Tommy DiMisa: philanthropy and focus i'm excited that you found us and excited that you found me we have fun on my show we laugh a bit, but we talk about serious topics what is philanthropy and focus Tommy D.

00:05:35.280 --> 00:05:44.910 Tommy DiMisa: Yes, i'm talking to myself okay well, let me tell you Tommy do i'll help you out with that whether being focused gang is my answer to this challenge, or my answer this what I would consider opportunity.

00:05:45.810 --> 00:05:52.920 Tommy DiMisa: nonprofits they change our world each and every minute of every hour of every day month year, the whole thing right, we know that I say it every single week.

00:05:53.400 --> 00:05:59.700 Tommy DiMisa: My challenge, though, that i've seen as as an opportunity as a challenge something to deal with is these organizations are.

00:06:00.000 --> 00:06:12.540 Tommy DiMisa: Occasionally in our times i'd say overlooked, we know as being part of the second we know often underfunded, and then unrecognized for the work that they're doing so look I think a couple weeks ago I had my.

00:06:12.960 --> 00:06:17.250 Tommy DiMisa: Well, I don't think I know a couple weeks ago I have my friend cancer ED on the show, but I think that.

00:06:18.780 --> 00:06:27.360 Tommy DiMisa: Much of what i've come up with with this show is program comes from my relationship with my buddy cancer any founder the long island match the words and the New York City magic words.

00:06:27.720 --> 00:06:39.510 Tommy DiMisa: Because that word series shines a light on the sector and I guess a look everything comes from something else, and we continue to iterate and I think, been watching Ken and what he does in the sector has.

00:06:40.020 --> 00:06:44.400 Tommy DiMisa: inserted inspired me to do this, show and i'm pretty sure I told him that, a few weeks ago, he was on the show.

00:06:44.790 --> 00:06:57.630 Tommy DiMisa: So look i'm trying to shine a light continuously on the nonprofit sector some topics are are pretty serious and are pretty challenging social issues and one of those topics is something we're going to discuss today.

00:06:58.500 --> 00:07:09.600 Tommy DiMisa: So look, I want you if you're listening to focus pH oC us to focus on how you can help out how you can be part of the solution.

00:07:09.900 --> 00:07:17.520 Tommy DiMisa: how you can make an impact, I talked about philanthropy I talked about doing service, I talked about 60 days of service, maybe we'll talk about that today.

00:07:18.330 --> 00:07:23.190 Tommy DiMisa: You know we're hitting the 12 and 13 coming up this week so some way to go on that, but I am.

00:07:24.000 --> 00:07:29.400 Tommy DiMisa: i'm bringing one of my boys, one of my son's on a day service this week so that's exciting tell you about that coming up soon, but.

00:07:29.700 --> 00:07:39.630 Tommy DiMisa: How can you do service, how can you make an impact, how can you get involved in organizations nonprofits need help they need volunteers and donors any board members will probably talk about some of that with them.

00:07:39.930 --> 00:07:51.570 Tommy DiMisa: With mozilla and talk about what human options may have a need for so look every Friday morning 10am it's live and then it here on talk radio dot nyc talking alternative broadcasting on Facebook.

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00:07:59.310 --> 00:08:09.420 Tommy DiMisa: I grew up in the 80s and 90s, and we use the right fat pH at on our notebooks and stuff like that and plus I like alliteration so philanthropy in focus is the name of the show.

00:08:09.660 --> 00:08:18.120 Tommy DiMisa: If you ever want to find out what i'm doing Tommy D dot nyc on instagram Tommy dot nyc on tick tock yes Marisa i'm on tick tock tick tock.

00:08:18.450 --> 00:08:19.110 Maricela Rios-Faust: tick tock.

00:08:19.410 --> 00:08:20.370 Tommy DiMisa: tick tock and baby.

00:08:21.150 --> 00:08:27.840 Tommy DiMisa: My kids one of my son's sort of follow me last night on tick tock, and so I don't even know you were allowed to have a tick tock yet so him meeting I was hitting.

00:08:28.350 --> 00:08:33.630 Tommy DiMisa: them so so listen that's how you guys can follow what i'm doing, and obviously state stay tuned in with the Program.

00:08:33.990 --> 00:08:41.970 Tommy DiMisa: Every week I bring on another thought leader another executive director CEO the top of the pyramid in a nonprofit organization to tell their story.

00:08:42.360 --> 00:08:50.670 Tommy DiMisa: I know they you know, most of them and i'm sure Marcel is the same it's going to say it's not about me it's about my team it's about my volunteers it's about the work we do on the ground.

00:08:51.030 --> 00:09:02.400 Tommy DiMisa: But since I can't have the whole team on the show, I asked for is for the leader to come on the show and tell their story so first of all, before I jump into bio and all that kind of stuff because i've been blabbing on for four minutes already.

00:09:02.820 --> 00:09:08.820 Tommy DiMisa: I would like to say good morning to my guest Mary seller real spouse CEO of human options Good morning, how are you.

00:09:09.240 --> 00:09:10.740 Maricela Rios-Faust: Good morning and good how about you.

00:09:10.950 --> 00:09:15.300 Tommy DiMisa: i'm doing great i'm doing great I mean it's 1004 on the east coast, I know it's a little early where you are.

00:09:15.660 --> 00:09:18.060 Maricela Rios-Faust: Just a tiny bit thanks for having me i'm sorry.

00:09:18.420 --> 00:09:29.940 Tommy DiMisa: you're very welcome thanks for making the time and thanks for you know getting a cup of Joe real quick, let me see that mug again so everybody can see shout out looking at human options I gotta pick up one of those logs I gotta go to your website by one of those later on.

00:09:31.200 --> 00:09:34.920 Tommy DiMisa: don't send me when I want it well, you send me one but i'm making a donation for the market right we're working.

00:09:35.970 --> 00:09:36.540 Tommy DiMisa: out the detail.

00:09:37.230 --> 00:09:40.380 Tommy DiMisa: No freebies for the guy yeah alright so um.

00:09:41.340 --> 00:09:52.560 Tommy DiMisa: let's let's start just let's go right into this, I mean i'm going to read your background, but what I always like to start with, is what drew somebody to service work was there something in their life was it always a calling.

00:09:52.800 --> 00:09:56.820 Tommy DiMisa: Was there a catalyst, with something sometimes no sometimes people are just drawn to.

00:09:57.270 --> 00:10:05.430 Tommy DiMisa: Being a servant being servant leaders and doing this type of work, I want to ask you that, but I do want to give some some background to.

00:10:05.880 --> 00:10:17.490 Tommy DiMisa: To our friends who are listening so I will read from some prepared notes, which is not always my style but we're going to do it so since 2006 Mary seller real spouse.

00:10:17.760 --> 00:10:26.280 Tommy DiMisa: has provided leadership support and vision to human options she capitalized on her 30 years of experience working with vulnerable populations.

00:10:26.490 --> 00:10:34.590 Tommy DiMisa: And that has been a key driver in human options becoming a comprehensive domestic violence services provider in orange county.

00:10:35.040 --> 00:10:41.460 Tommy DiMisa: PR commitment comes from her desire raised her daughter, in a world where relationship falling violence is not tolerated.

00:10:42.030 --> 00:10:49.320 Tommy DiMisa: recognized as a leader in the field and the nonprofit sector marcella serves on the board of directors of family violence pilot project.

00:10:49.680 --> 00:10:56.850 Tommy DiMisa: One own see an orange county's continuum of care Governing Board she also co chairs orange county's domestic violence.

00:10:57.390 --> 00:11:02.700 Tommy DiMisa: Death review team and serves on orange county's women's health project Advisory Board.

00:11:03.000 --> 00:11:12.660 Tommy DiMisa: And is a member of one oh seeds for diversity Task Force she's also a member of the California partnership to end, domestic violence and it serves as treasure treasure and President.

00:11:12.990 --> 00:11:20.100 Tommy DiMisa: Of the Board of Directors of that organization from 2011 to 17 and 2014 was named one of Orange county's most influential.

00:11:20.430 --> 00:11:26.910 Tommy DiMisa: People for her leadership on increasing awareness of health impacts of domestic violence, listen.

00:11:27.180 --> 00:11:37.830 Tommy DiMisa: Thank you for being here i'm blessed to have you on the show i'm appreciative of the work you've done i'm excited that we're going to dive into this and before you even start here's what i'm going to read off of this is from the.

00:11:38.730 --> 00:11:48.480 Tommy DiMisa: centers for domestic violence, it says national statistics and I think it's important to kind of frame where we're going today it's okay with you when you can correct me as we go through this any of these numbers are wrong.

00:11:48.900 --> 00:11:52.890 Tommy DiMisa: But on average 20 people per minute or physically abused by an intimate partner.

00:11:53.370 --> 00:12:04.470 Tommy DiMisa: During one year that equates to 10 million women and men guys, this is not just a female situation, women and men 10 million women and men, one in four women and one in nine men.

00:12:04.800 --> 00:12:14.670 Tommy DiMisa: will experience severe intimate partner physical violence intimate partner contact sexual violence and intimate partner, stalking with impacts.

00:12:14.970 --> 00:12:30.750 Tommy DiMisa: Injury fearfulness post traumatic stress disorder and on and on and I don't say and on and on, as far as me I say and on and on, because that is how impactful this is we do talk serious topics here, and I think today is one of those days we're going to do that so Mary so.

00:12:31.770 --> 00:12:44.160 Tommy DiMisa: let's talk to me about your background, I wanted to set the stage for let's start with you, how do you end up with all these accolades, and all this involvement, how do you start this or why What was it that drew drew you to this this part of the world.

00:12:44.910 --> 00:12:53.070 Maricela Rios-Faust: yeah it's interesting that, if I have to kind of think back in terms of what drove me to just service in general is what you my parents.

00:12:53.520 --> 00:13:03.390 Maricela Rios-Faust: Both my mom and my dad were like incredibly civic minded, I think, no matter it didn't matter what it can be something super small or something big.

00:13:03.840 --> 00:13:10.560 Maricela Rios-Faust: And just watching them in the neighborhood of somebody needed help, they were there to give help if you know, whatever they had they were willing to give.

00:13:11.040 --> 00:13:21.630 Maricela Rios-Faust: And I think that really made it really something that, for me, was a value is to give back and to be part of a community that contributed to overall well being of everybody else.

00:13:23.010 --> 00:13:39.420 Maricela Rios-Faust: And it was interesting about everybody is probably very few I realized now looking back on a few Latina women are Latina girls his dad really pushed her to go to college, I mean it was an expectation, it was not something that was it was an optional, I guess, he.

00:13:39.570 --> 00:13:40.560 Tommy DiMisa: was not an option.

00:13:41.700 --> 00:13:48.630 Maricela Rios-Faust: Which is you know at the time I didn't even realize what a big deal that was until I got to college, and so I actually.

00:13:49.410 --> 00:14:00.120 Maricela Rios-Faust: had a conversation with a young girl who was very similar me Latina both kinds immigrated and she said, well, what did you do to talk to your parents into letting you come to college and I said.

00:14:00.420 --> 00:14:10.890 Maricela Rios-Faust: wow really know it was a choice, and so I think that really for me opened up my eyes, as to how unique my parents, for when it came to service and getting involved.

00:14:12.480 --> 00:14:12.780 In.

00:14:14.280 --> 00:14:22.980 Maricela Rios-Faust: It and it wasn't it was in college that I actually found the opportunity to give back in ways that have been the most meaningful for me from.

00:14:23.430 --> 00:14:35.730 Maricela Rios-Faust: Being a part of a gang prevention program and early on in my career to learning about individuals who were both substance using or at risk for intimate partner violence.

00:14:36.270 --> 00:14:44.400 Maricela Rios-Faust: And then eventually meeting, the founder of human options and really falling in love with the mission and falling in love with the ability to make an impact.

00:14:45.300 --> 00:14:57.090 Tommy DiMisa: that's that's incredible and I I think there's always you know these stories that draw people to service, you know I sometimes I I i'm almost anxious when I asked the question, because what if it, what if there is no still be there.

00:14:57.750 --> 00:15:12.930 Tommy DiMisa: But there always seems to be something there and and you know I try not to make a big deal about what I do personally, but I will say and i've told this story on the show before, but I am doing some stuff out there and I try to make an impact in the Community.

00:15:14.040 --> 00:15:20.310 Tommy DiMisa: Whether it be you know when I can write a check, but I think there's more, and when we can get our hands dirty and roll up our sleeves and do stuff.

00:15:20.790 --> 00:15:25.800 Tommy DiMisa: And I may have told this story in the show, and if I did, I apologize if you guys have heard it, but I think i'm going to just tell it again so.

00:15:26.520 --> 00:15:45.000 Tommy DiMisa: So my one of my sons, we got an email that he had done some really great stuff for student in his class just looking out for another person i'm not a heavy lift but not something that not ordinary either you know it was just he he made sure to engage with this this young person and.

00:15:46.230 --> 00:15:53.430 Tommy DiMisa: he's only 10 like my guy so you made sure to engage with them and help them out and and bring them into the.

00:15:53.940 --> 00:16:04.980 Tommy DiMisa: encounter into the clinic little bit you know and just look out for them, and there was two different incidents like this and, and I said to him and I get I get emotional and say this, I said to him, you know.

00:16:06.090 --> 00:16:14.700 Tommy DiMisa: Thank you for doing this, I love you what why I want to know why, like you know i'm curious and I wasn't pressing good but i'm saying it to you guys something into new markets are like why what was.

00:16:15.090 --> 00:16:18.720 Tommy DiMisa: He was with that I watch you doing this, I watch you helping people out.

00:16:19.560 --> 00:16:28.620 Tommy DiMisa: And I realized like that's what we're supposed to be doing and i'm like this is it man that's the whole thing like that's it forget the money forget it all it's about that and that's yes i'm doing that in my own House.

00:16:29.010 --> 00:16:35.190 Tommy DiMisa: But running around doing 60 days of service with a T shirt with a caricature of my face on the T shirt.

00:16:35.610 --> 00:16:44.250 Tommy DiMisa: As silly as it all sounds if that inspires adult human beings to do something, then it's the right move, you know, and if I got 50 years left awesome.

00:16:44.460 --> 00:16:49.650 Tommy DiMisa: Let me inspire people for 50 years to do this because I think we change the world, and I think that's what goes to people.

00:16:50.010 --> 00:16:57.720 Tommy DiMisa: like you and me in the millions and millions of people that either serve on boards or our volunteers are getting involved with organizations or.

00:16:58.380 --> 00:17:05.040 Tommy DiMisa: are employed by this by this sector, I mean it, you know I read the numbers on a recent thing I do the same nonprofit nugget.

00:17:05.460 --> 00:17:13.860 Tommy DiMisa: And the numbers are staggering the amount of people that work in the nonprofit sector it's crazy, I think I think I if I maybe i'll get the statistics that break but.

00:17:14.160 --> 00:17:17.790 Tommy DiMisa: But things like 1.4 million nonprofits in the country.

00:17:18.030 --> 00:17:33.630 Tommy DiMisa: And even if you're just stats in New York City is 600,000 people in New York City work for a nonprofit organization is $33.6 billion and people every year, so this is an important part of our sector of our in our of our society for sure so.

00:17:34.500 --> 00:17:40.380 Tommy DiMisa: So we're gonna actually we're going to split a second here and go to break and I told you, it goes fast right, we were gonna.

00:17:42.690 --> 00:17:45.180 Tommy DiMisa: We haven't even scratched the surface and we're on our way to a break.

00:17:45.510 --> 00:17:53.550 Tommy DiMisa: But like when we come back I so we talked about what drew you to service i'd love you to walk us through your and maybe i'll mention some of the spots he stopped before.

00:17:53.790 --> 00:18:03.300 Tommy DiMisa: Your role at human options um when we come back i'd love to just kind of hear a little bit almost like a resume like you know coming out of college or and involved with the gang prevention.

00:18:03.690 --> 00:18:12.510 Tommy DiMisa: And you've learned about domestic violence, and you know let's take me from from that too, when you meet the when you meet human options and move into that role that sound good.

00:18:12.840 --> 00:18:13.650 Maricela Rios-Faust: yeah that sounds great.

00:18:13.860 --> 00:18:22.890 Tommy DiMisa: Alright, so we're going to be back in 90 seconds guys very seller real spouses gear with your body nonprofit sector character i'm in the attic philanthropy folks every Friday morning but we'll be right back.

00:19:44.760 --> 00:19:45.480 Tommy DiMisa: awareness.

00:20:34.110 --> 00:20:38.910 Tommy DiMisa: love it I love all my guests first guests, to hear the lyrics it's like a teaser i'm like listen to this in the chat.

00:20:39.840 --> 00:20:49.500 Tommy DiMisa: come through the static join me any addict every Friday morning 10am that's what i'm here and now, every Wednesday at two o'clock I am here on a different show for professionals and animal lovers show.

00:20:49.830 --> 00:20:53.400 Tommy DiMisa: shout out to my co host or just checked in on Facebook Valerie have for on.

00:20:53.700 --> 00:21:02.940 Tommy DiMisa: That show it's all about organizations who advocate, on behalf of animals and professionals, people who advocate and are animal lovers and Valerie actually asked me a question.

00:21:03.210 --> 00:21:10.050 Tommy DiMisa: For us, myself for you and I, which we will get to later on, but thanks Valerie for watching the show thanks for checking in.

00:21:10.740 --> 00:21:16.650 Tommy DiMisa: we'll talk more about that, because it is a valid question, but I want to get into what we have set up right here so here's we're going to do.

00:21:17.250 --> 00:21:24.270 Tommy DiMisa: Right, so a real fast is the CEO of human options, but before that she was the assistant program director at an organization called.

00:21:24.450 --> 00:21:32.700 Tommy DiMisa: community service programs, and later an organization, she was the director of family and community services at orange children and parents together.

00:21:32.970 --> 00:21:42.120 Tommy DiMisa: Later on, Director of Orange county bar foundation, she was the CEO chief operations officer at human options here prior to becoming the chief executive.

00:21:42.450 --> 00:21:48.570 Tommy DiMisa: officer take us down that path, so you college you get exposed to you know you learn about gang violence and gang prevention.

00:21:48.870 --> 00:21:59.100 Tommy DiMisa: talk to us a little bit about that, because that evolution, I think, is great, not only for us to know as listeners, but also for young executives inside of organizations who are starting out or who I.

00:21:59.400 --> 00:22:05.640 Tommy DiMisa: foresee that ED or that sea level as an ultimate destination, but how they get there, so tell us that story, please.

00:22:05.760 --> 00:22:14.100 Maricela Rios-Faust: yeah I it's interesting when you read my bio and reflect on the 30 years of doing this, I realized wow That was a long time ago, when I started and.

00:22:16.410 --> 00:22:20.010 Maricela Rios-Faust: mentally I don't think i'm quite that long in the field.

00:22:20.790 --> 00:22:24.030 Maricela Rios-Faust: You know I it was interesting I always knew, as I said.

00:22:24.300 --> 00:22:37.770 Maricela Rios-Faust: i'm living with my parents and learning from them that I wanted to help out rescue it was something that was really important to me, it was something that I saw an opportunity to give back and to give in ways that I had, I felt personally had received.

00:22:38.490 --> 00:22:41.760 Maricela Rios-Faust: So I started working out again prevention program and I need to beach.

00:22:42.270 --> 00:22:58.170 Maricela Rios-Faust: With CSP and I just met such incredible people among them a couple of women who just for just a big thinkers they thought really beyond individual scope come to how do we do what we're doing with individuals but really broaden that to community.

00:22:58.740 --> 00:23:14.130 Maricela Rios-Faust: And I was so moved by the ability to do that, that it got me thinking beyond right just the individual that was in front of me and, as I was working I got to meet some really unique teens and really unique you adolescents who taught me a lot about what I didn't know.

00:23:15.630 --> 00:23:27.240 Maricela Rios-Faust: And one of the girls that I met was just you know we all know, the one girl or the one young boy who lights up a room and they walk in they've got like this brilliant smile, and they just sort of really.

00:23:27.960 --> 00:23:39.750 Maricela Rios-Faust: embrace you and suck you into their world because they're so happy and I remember i've known this girl for six months you'd come to my office at least once a week, not to do any work, but just to check in and say hi.

00:23:40.440 --> 00:23:48.720 Maricela Rios-Faust: And when she came in and that smile was gotten I mean the light in her eyes wasn't that and I remember thinking gosh like what what's going on and I.

00:23:49.140 --> 00:23:58.080 Maricela Rios-Faust: talked to her, and it was then that she shared this incredible secret with me, which was every night her dad would come home and be her mom.

00:23:58.770 --> 00:24:07.470 Maricela Rios-Faust: And I remember thinking like oh my gosh like how how did I not know that this is happening, how do you walk around such a amazing smile.

00:24:08.070 --> 00:24:14.370 Maricela Rios-Faust: And she continued to tell me that you know most days and it wasn't really bad, but the night before i've gotten really bad.

00:24:15.360 --> 00:24:25.260 Maricela Rios-Faust: And what she did was she intervened and in the intervention her dad really took out his ingram and he beat her so bad that her entire back was bruised.

00:24:26.220 --> 00:24:36.300 Maricela Rios-Faust: And I remember just being in complete shock and the reason I was even more shocked than the story, she was sharing is because this has not been the first time, and many have actually recorded it.

00:24:36.780 --> 00:24:44.010 Maricela Rios-Faust: or school had reported it other providers have reported the abuse and she said to me, I know what you're going to do next.

00:24:44.490 --> 00:24:55.080 Maricela Rios-Faust: they're going to call social services they're going to remove me from the home life they had before my brothers are going to be protected, my mom's gonna be unprotected and i'm just gonna run away and come back home anyone.

00:24:56.130 --> 00:25:05.880 Maricela Rios-Faust: I said, but I know that's what you need to do, and I remember at the moment Okay, I have all these rules, all these things, I have to do and I thought, like it has to be something more.

00:25:06.630 --> 00:25:20.910 Maricela Rios-Faust: And so I did what I could to try and support her through the journey and to continue to stay connected with her it's something I really at that point felt like there's gotta be something more that we could be doing for young kids and families that are in this type of situation.

00:25:22.680 --> 00:25:31.860 Maricela Rios-Faust: So I started to get more involved in different Community events and different Community opportunities and I realized I can't do it by myself as a as a as an individual.

00:25:32.850 --> 00:25:47.010 Maricela Rios-Faust: I can't really do all this work by myself with great organization, fortunately, our organization was based off the county at the time, and continues to be and what I found was Okay, I met somebody that was working for a head start Program.

00:25:48.150 --> 00:25:51.630 Maricela Rios-Faust: And I was talking about some of the work that we're doing, and they were showing.

00:25:52.110 --> 00:26:04.230 Maricela Rios-Faust: That they wanted to work with families and they wanted to do some family work and talk about lance and talk about substance abuse and I thought oh wow gosh like between your organization and my organization, we can really make a difference.

00:26:04.710 --> 00:26:20.760 Maricela Rios-Faust: And so I started to share some of my background with them, and the next day I got a call from their executive director and she said, we know we're starting this national demonstration project for orange children, parents together and it's working on working with families that are.

00:26:22.170 --> 00:26:28.200 Maricela Rios-Faust: Early childhood prevention of substance, use and violence said, would you consider coming to work for us.

00:26:28.890 --> 00:26:34.410 Maricela Rios-Faust: And I thought well actually that's no i'm kind of happy where i'm at I don't I don't really i'm not really looking to move.

00:26:34.950 --> 00:26:43.470 Maricela Rios-Faust: And we began a conversation, where she really helped me see that this was an opportunity to impact kids really at an early age is to really work with.

00:26:44.160 --> 00:26:49.710 Maricela Rios-Faust: kids early on and I thought okay well i'll try this, and so I started this project, it was.

00:26:50.460 --> 00:26:58.380 Maricela Rios-Faust: I started the project at entrepreneur parents together and there wasn't such a unique opportunity to work with families in a way hadn't been able to before.

00:26:59.370 --> 00:27:07.200 Maricela Rios-Faust: I got to work with headstart families got to see prevention efforts got to work with the teachers at that school help them identify different things.

00:27:07.680 --> 00:27:16.200 Maricela Rios-Faust: And just kept learning I had opportunities to go to New York, I was actually one of my first trips to New York was when I was working at orange to them together.

00:27:16.710 --> 00:27:26.190 Maricela Rios-Faust: And it was so amazing just to be there and to see such impact we work with Columbia University on some technical assistance and I was just learning so much about.

00:27:26.700 --> 00:27:33.750 Maricela Rios-Faust: Again, I can impact one individual at a time, I could work with a family, at a time, but there was also some room to do some Community work.

00:27:34.740 --> 00:27:44.460 Maricela Rios-Faust: And so I worked there for a while about four years there did I did as much as I could to really impact that community and to build programs that were sustainable.

00:27:45.300 --> 00:27:52.320 Maricela Rios-Faust: And I got a call from the orange county bar association or above i'm sorry bar foundation, and they are.

00:27:53.010 --> 00:28:02.730 Maricela Rios-Faust: again at risk kids and they had a director position that was open, and it was doing another project that was again a national pilot project on early childhood substance abuse prevention.

00:28:03.390 --> 00:28:17.310 Maricela Rios-Faust: And I was just so it was something where, at that point in time, I sounded a lot, it was going back to at risk kids again at a high at a different level being able to do diversion services and I was excited about the opportunity.

00:28:18.420 --> 00:28:22.770 Maricela Rios-Faust: And it is probably the only position that i've been at the shortest amount of time.

00:28:24.000 --> 00:28:36.660 Maricela Rios-Faust: And I remember being, then I was so excited I was, I was excited about what we were working on and I got a call from a friend of mine who worked at who was on the board of directors or human options and she said, you know what I want to invite you to lunch.

00:28:37.200 --> 00:28:43.020 Maricela Rios-Faust: And so I said Okay, so I went to lunch and sat next to the founding executive director few options.

00:28:44.190 --> 00:28:46.380 Maricela Rios-Faust: And if you've ever met her, she is a.

00:28:47.550 --> 00:28:58.530 Maricela Rios-Faust: tiny, tiny woman with just amazing impact and just have amazing energy that gets excited about just about anything she can change she just has the ability to gauge you really deeply.

00:28:59.040 --> 00:29:10.710 Maricela Rios-Faust: And I remember being so impressed by what she said, and a lot of it had to do with you know the the philosophy that human options always has had is to really meet people where they're at and to address the needs that they're showing.

00:29:11.880 --> 00:29:28.770 Maricela Rios-Faust: And the way that they've been able to do that has been really through unrestricted support and it's been basically trusting the organization to know what survivors need and to be able to do that and I thought gosh I wanna I want to be there, so when the opportunity came up.

00:29:29.790 --> 00:29:43.230 Maricela Rios-Faust: And to to come into human options as a director, I was a little torn because i'd only been at the Bar Association for less than a year, I remember talking to my my boss at the time, and I said and I am.

00:29:43.680 --> 00:29:54.990 Maricela Rios-Faust: I really love working here, I feel like i'm cheating on me i've got this great opportunity, and she was incredibly supportive because she saw the opportunity to make impact and she really saw the fit.

00:29:55.920 --> 00:30:01.020 Tommy DiMisa: I just so here's The thing is that so so much i'm gonna feed you notes here so we'll never get to all of it.

00:30:02.220 --> 00:30:14.790 Tommy DiMisa: what's interesting to me just as a commentary on the nonprofit sector is that whole you go to your your your boss that he reported to at the bar and you said.

00:30:15.810 --> 00:30:20.760 Tommy DiMisa: And she was supportive and she said, I see it, I get it and and.

00:30:21.570 --> 00:30:30.720 Tommy DiMisa: Sometimes in at least in my experience in corporate America we don't see the same thing and i'm not making a current commentary on anything, I think, culturally, a lot of.

00:30:31.110 --> 00:30:38.490 Tommy DiMisa: Businesses organizations get it, but I just in my own experience and growing up as a sales guy I would see people go, why would you want to leave them don't do that, why would you want it.

00:30:38.730 --> 00:30:43.950 Tommy DiMisa: You know, it was kind of discouraged, instead of encouraged and I feel that i'm thinking i'm not you know.

00:30:44.370 --> 00:30:52.350 Tommy DiMisa: i'm painting with a big broad brush here, but it because i'm sure it's not perfect everywhere we go in nonprofit, but I just feel like our sector, and I call it ourselves, because I.

00:30:52.800 --> 00:30:58.770 Tommy DiMisa: feel like i'm a big part of the secular myself with everybody is like more supportive like.

00:30:59.400 --> 00:31:01.440 Tommy DiMisa: We get it, because it's for the greater good.

00:31:01.770 --> 00:31:12.780 Tommy DiMisa: Because it wasn't like you know, because it was not what my will Marcel if you go there there's more impact Maybe you can affect more people that's good for what we were all doing so go do it and i'm get i'm gathering.

00:31:13.380 --> 00:31:18.030 Tommy DiMisa: That you probably don't lose connection with these other organizations, once you get that.

00:31:18.450 --> 00:31:22.140 Tommy DiMisa: Because you know in reading kind of what you're involved with, and this.

00:31:22.440 --> 00:31:37.740 Tommy DiMisa: Advisory Board and this Community committee and then pop up box that these probably are relationships that are still intertwined in in your work, to this day there's something, what I want to understand, two things that I want to underscore one was in a form of role you mentioned.

00:31:39.120 --> 00:31:51.780 Tommy DiMisa: diversion service, I want to know what you mean by that I think I might know, but I wonder, and then, when we get back over here to human options, what is this what does it mean by unrestricted support what so let's go to divergent first.

00:31:51.840 --> 00:31:58.950 Maricela Rios-Faust: yeah so diversion was first time offender so young boys primarily some young girls, but I young boys who were in the system.

00:31:59.460 --> 00:32:13.620 Maricela Rios-Faust: Maybe they petty theft or they got into trouble with law enforcement and this was an opportunity to rather than be incarcerated or to go through the legal system to do what they call a diversion program which was either counseling or.

00:32:14.250 --> 00:32:24.270 Maricela Rios-Faust: Maybe it was community service so that was a real opportunity to help them learn or help young boys and young girls were getting into trouble early on that there were alternatives to what they were doing.

00:32:25.800 --> 00:32:34.620 Tommy DiMisa: So you know, on that one, I just want to make a shout out to buddy mine angel Rodriguez lower East side of New York City in the 70s, I don't know if you've ever heard an angel but i'm going to connect you guys.

00:32:35.280 --> 00:32:45.420 Tommy DiMisa: Although you're on different parts of the country angel I met angel because he is a finalist in the New York City imagine awards from leadership excellence and angel was.

00:32:46.560 --> 00:32:54.660 Tommy DiMisa: From founded an organization called avenues for justice coming out of you know just was a war zone in the lower East side of New York City in the 70s.

00:32:55.080 --> 00:33:05.820 Tommy DiMisa: and has, I actually did a day service with them, three weeks ago and I was amazed I got to go to the courtroom and it's alternatives to incarceration type type stuff really look let's let's just put it out there.

00:33:07.560 --> 00:33:11.520 Tommy DiMisa: Certain communities, the black and brown community and more effective than than other communities.

00:33:11.610 --> 00:33:19.920 Tommy DiMisa: When it comes to getting in the system, getting jammed up for things and then not only that they these young people, maybe didn't do something wrong, the problem is.

00:33:20.190 --> 00:33:29.820 Tommy DiMisa: That they're surrounded with that's what we do, we do things wrong and they grow up in environments where you know they don't have an opportunity to see things other ways that's my commentary if.

00:33:30.330 --> 00:33:35.700 Tommy DiMisa: Look, if you don't agree with it, I don't know what to tell you it's just it's just truth everybody, this is just how it is.

00:33:36.360 --> 00:33:41.520 Tommy DiMisa: But you know it's organizations like that will turn into the incarceration that really making it new.

00:33:42.030 --> 00:33:48.300 Tommy DiMisa: Communities so i'm thrilled to hear about that we are going to take another break we come back let's talk about let's talk human options now let's talk.

00:33:48.900 --> 00:33:55.140 Tommy DiMisa: we'll start with that and restricting support thing we are going to give you a question that came from my buddy Valerie and it's about.

00:33:55.980 --> 00:34:03.480 Tommy DiMisa: Because Valerie so focused on animal advocacy that's your gig that's her bag and that's our show pals professionals, an animal lover show big theme there.

00:34:04.320 --> 00:34:15.870 Tommy DiMisa: In a domestic violence situation, sometimes often there are animals so we'd love to know if you know what what you've seen in the in the in the sphere and what's available for that we can talk about that when we come back.

00:34:16.350 --> 00:34:23.280 Tommy DiMisa: i'm, so now we set you up so now you guys will have to come back and see us we'll be back in 90 seconds, it is money seller and tardy in the attic we'll be right back.

00:36:55.980 --> 00:37:02.460 Tommy DiMisa: Sometimes I give you more time, I guess, I see now we have to sing the lyrics of my theme song when we come back in mopey like that.

00:37:03.540 --> 00:37:06.690 Tommy DiMisa: And then I started singing and everybody's like no please stop so.

00:37:07.800 --> 00:37:14.130 Tommy DiMisa: Alright, so, starting with a crisis hotline for pioneering women conceived human options in 1981.

00:37:14.430 --> 00:37:20.370 Tommy DiMisa: Because they believe that the women and children and orange county deserve to live violence free lives.

00:37:20.580 --> 00:37:27.630 Tommy DiMisa: Their desire evolved into groundbreaking perspective relationship violence threatens everyone in orange county not just that individual who is hurt.

00:37:27.990 --> 00:37:37.620 Tommy DiMisa: But it affects the rest of us it affects the rest of our society, nearly four decades later we continue to ignite social change by leading collective countrywide responses.

00:37:37.920 --> 00:37:46.800 Tommy DiMisa: Excuse me countywide responses in service to those affected by abuse, ultimately, we are empowering every person and family in orange county to experience lives.

00:37:47.370 --> 00:37:55.290 Tommy DiMisa: free from fear right so tell me about this organization tell me about unrestricted support let's let's jump right into human options, please.

00:37:56.100 --> 00:38:04.380 Maricela Rios-Faust: Sir so i'll start with the unrestricted to perks I think that's been such a core part of why we are able to be as impactful and.

00:38:04.830 --> 00:38:14.370 Maricela Rios-Faust: and serve individuals in a way that's most needed, so as as you, as you know, when we were founded, we were really founded on this notion of understanding.

00:38:14.850 --> 00:38:24.450 Maricela Rios-Faust: what was happening, and so our founder back in the 80s actually was doing a survey and she had noticed as part of the public health department that there was an.

00:38:24.720 --> 00:38:30.420 Maricela Rios-Faust: Incredible anxiety and depression in women and they wanted to understand line, and so they started to ask.

00:38:30.780 --> 00:38:41.940 Maricela Rios-Faust: And many and what they found was many of them were afraid in their own home and that's when they really started to understand how big an issue of domestic violence and relationship violence was in orange county.

00:38:43.740 --> 00:38:46.620 Maricela Rios-Faust: what's what they were able to do and just really kind of.

00:38:47.310 --> 00:38:52.440 Maricela Rios-Faust: Gathering that information and trying to understand from the individuals that were impacted.

00:38:52.740 --> 00:39:07.830 Maricela Rios-Faust: is really get other individuals other philanthropists engaged in our work in a way that was so meaningful, I mean it was basically here's what we know is happening there are all of these different ways that we could be working with somebody would you come along and support us.

00:39:08.940 --> 00:39:20.520 Maricela Rios-Faust: And the unrestricted support is really essentially it's really an investment in the impact and not necessarily in how we get there right, so what what and i'll say more it's basically.

00:39:21.360 --> 00:39:28.620 Maricela Rios-Faust: supporting us to do the work that we're doing without putting restrictions on why I want you to do it in this way, so.

00:39:29.280 --> 00:39:39.000 Tommy DiMisa: He calls it, the I want to hear you tell me that, because if it was if it was strictly driven programmatically and he said, you have to do these things yeah and it's very, very similar.

00:39:39.870 --> 00:39:44.550 Tommy DiMisa: angel Rodriguez from avenues for justice because something they've been very proud of is.

00:39:45.390 --> 00:39:54.570 Tommy DiMisa: Their ability to be flexible, where where if they had government dollars, they might be only work with able to work with the child, a young person for six months, at a time.

00:39:54.930 --> 00:39:59.640 Tommy DiMisa: But that's not even enough time to really get a relationship going with you know if you take the.

00:39:59.970 --> 00:40:10.830 Tommy DiMisa: Maybe the fears and distrust that that these young people might have it takes time to build a relationship right so so you know it's something angel is talking to me about is that same situation where.

00:40:11.340 --> 00:40:21.270 Tommy DiMisa: They are big they could have made different decisions, but they made the decision to be able to be as flexible as we can, based on where their money comes from so talk to me and so.

00:40:21.480 --> 00:40:21.960 Tommy DiMisa: So yeah.

00:40:22.110 --> 00:40:25.980 Tommy DiMisa: Investment in the impact versus this specific thing is that.

00:40:26.640 --> 00:40:35.130 Maricela Rios-Faust: it's along the lines of what you're saying when you when we have unrestricted support but it's essentially says, we have the opportunity to explore what works right because they.

00:40:35.670 --> 00:40:44.070 Maricela Rios-Faust: Are we have you know our our funding is about 50% government and 50% philanthropic in it and it ranges depending on the year.

00:40:44.640 --> 00:40:56.010 Maricela Rios-Faust: What government funding does is it allows us to establish good infrastructure and support as a startup and to try some things out what the unrestricted support is, is it really allows us to.

00:40:56.610 --> 00:41:10.830 Maricela Rios-Faust: Have it and to adjust when we need, so the pandemic is a great example on having unrestricted support allowed us to really put resources in areas where we knew we had the highest need based on what was happening at that point in time.

00:41:11.670 --> 00:41:13.200 Tommy DiMisa: When you say areas you mean.

00:41:13.680 --> 00:41:16.980 Tommy DiMisa: geographic areas you mean areas of need, what do you mean.

00:41:17.370 --> 00:41:33.270 Maricela Rios-Faust: So I mean the way that we delivered the service so, for example, if we were contracted as a government, you know government contract that we are contracted to do home visits and home visits are no longer safe, then we have to adjust and go through a whole process to get that approved.

00:41:34.590 --> 00:41:44.850 Maricela Rios-Faust: Whereas if we are saying Okay, this is a changing me right home visits it's not going to work, we need to now invest resources and getting people.

00:41:45.240 --> 00:41:57.750 Maricela Rios-Faust: On on some kind of social media APP or we need to make sure that the clients were working with have access to computers over that are that our staff have more access to being mobile and doing more virtual meetings but.

00:41:58.350 --> 00:41:59.520 Tommy DiMisa: It wasn't necessary before.

00:42:00.000 --> 00:42:07.410 Tommy DiMisa: He wasn't necessary for everybody, have an iPad or some kind of tablet or whatever to communicate right I go in the field that's what I do i'll call in when you need it, but.

00:42:07.650 --> 00:42:13.980 Tommy DiMisa: You know i'm on i'm on the road, but that's when that's taken away from us as a passion yeah you have to, as you say pivot yeah.

00:42:14.250 --> 00:42:24.930 Maricela Rios-Faust: And it's and Tommy you talked about it a little bit earlier if there's there's there's some similarities between the for profit and nonprofit sector and then there's distinct differences, the nonprofit sector.

00:42:25.170 --> 00:42:36.090 Maricela Rios-Faust: doesn't tend to get resources for research and development, like the for profit sector, so when we have unrestricted support that's an opportunity to try things out.

00:42:36.330 --> 00:42:44.430 Maricela Rios-Faust: Just to see if they weren't and to really again we're hearing this as a need we'd like to be able to see if if we can respond to that need.

00:42:44.760 --> 00:42:56.940 Maricela Rios-Faust: And then, developing a program or a service or something that can help meet that need and then coming back and saying Look, we tried it out, now we know it's impactful and now, if you go and pitch it to other people.

00:42:58.140 --> 00:43:03.330 Tommy DiMisa: yeah that's that's really awesome and what a great way, thank you for because I like to see things.

00:43:03.390 --> 00:43:12.240 Tommy DiMisa: So that you drink explaining it like look at R amp D versus we don't get r&d dollars, so we can use this unrestricted dollars to you know test out test things out okay.

00:43:12.930 --> 00:43:24.840 Tommy DiMisa: Great so so talk to me programmatically what the organization really looks like you know what somebody has a you get a phone call you get a recommendation get some kind of some.

00:43:26.220 --> 00:43:29.910 Tommy DiMisa: Announcement for not announcement, when you become aware of the need somewhere.

00:43:30.210 --> 00:43:30.840 Tommy DiMisa: What is not.

00:43:30.870 --> 00:43:36.900 Tommy DiMisa: What happens now for that individual how to how that, how can they achieve receive help from yeah.

00:43:38.040 --> 00:43:49.050 Maricela Rios-Faust: So, so a couple of things right, we we started off as a emergency shelter with a 24 hour hotline and women, children, men could call it in into that 24 hour hotline.

00:43:49.350 --> 00:43:57.090 Maricela Rios-Faust: and get access and at that time, like 40 years ago the immediate need was to be able to flee in abusive relationships so emergency shelter was the key.

00:43:57.630 --> 00:44:08.910 Maricela Rios-Faust: Over time, what we've found is sometimes there's a need to get support, but maybe the situation isn't one where you need to flee you found some other way to be safe and you need some type of.

00:44:09.420 --> 00:44:17.280 Maricela Rios-Faust: Maybe you need counseling services what we're finding right now is really a high need is legal advocacy services to met to navigate.

00:44:17.880 --> 00:44:21.120 Maricela Rios-Faust: or Australia, in order to navigate visitation with your children.

00:44:21.900 --> 00:44:32.010 Maricela Rios-Faust: And so, our our 24 hour hotline has really expanded to meet a more robust need where they're able to connect to different services, not just our emergency shelter.

00:44:32.370 --> 00:44:43.200 Maricela Rios-Faust: Our emergency shelter has evolved over the last 40 years to not not be a not just have safe haven, and that one location, but our goal is to really extend the safe place.

00:44:43.620 --> 00:44:53.820 Maricela Rios-Faust: And to create a safe haven in a variety of locations, one could be if there's somebody who is living in their own home is maybe the abuser.

00:44:54.300 --> 00:44:59.400 Maricela Rios-Faust: needs to leave or has accepted the home, and the only thing that can keep that individual in our home.

00:44:59.700 --> 00:45:08.370 Maricela Rios-Faust: is to provide some support so that until they can become like get used to paying rent on their own, or adjust to some a couple of new expenses.

00:45:08.670 --> 00:45:18.840 Maricela Rios-Faust: We would come in and support them so that they can stay in their own home, so are our what I would call our residential or housing options have expanded beyond the emergency shelter.

00:45:19.530 --> 00:45:29.310 Maricela Rios-Faust: From the immediate emergency if you need it so absolutely we have we have a place to come and save and be saved if that's the need that you have.

00:45:29.850 --> 00:45:37.140 Maricela Rios-Faust: To more permanent housing, where, if you are able to get back on your feet and just need some support for like six months or.

00:45:37.470 --> 00:45:43.080 Maricela Rios-Faust: As to help get you back on your feet with some additional financial support, help find an apartment or a home.

00:45:43.830 --> 00:45:52.920 Maricela Rios-Faust: That you can be in to make sure that you restabilize and we provide supportive services and Tommy I feel like I i'd really like to share the hotline number, because I know what i'm.

00:45:54.480 --> 00:45:55.560 Tommy DiMisa: ready yes.

00:45:55.770 --> 00:46:08.730 Maricela Rios-Faust: Yes, Sir high number for anybody that needs it, because we know that this impacts so many individuals is 877-854-3594 again that's 877-854-3594.

00:46:09.030 --> 00:46:15.960 Tommy DiMisa: So that's if you are experiencing any any domestic violence situation or, if you have a family member or friend right, you can.

00:46:17.250 --> 00:46:18.990 Tommy DiMisa: call in on someone else's behalf.

00:46:19.290 --> 00:46:27.330 Maricela Rios-Faust: Absolutely, and I think you you, you asked right like how people come to us oftentimes it's through somebody that's making that connection.

00:46:27.690 --> 00:46:36.150 Maricela Rios-Faust: yeah I found really you never know right any of us have at some point in our lives interacted with somebody who is been in an abusive relationship.

00:46:36.450 --> 00:46:43.500 Maricela Rios-Faust: And if either miss the signs or that individual no longer felt safe sharing I i've met individuals, I actually.

00:46:43.920 --> 00:46:52.680 Maricela Rios-Faust: had a meeting and they save one in three one in three individuals know someone who has been in an abusive relationship, and so I was actually had.

00:46:53.280 --> 00:47:02.220 Maricela Rios-Faust: been asked to go present to a group of men, there were nine men in the room, and I remember thinking like okay what am I going to do is totally intimidated right here's all these men that.

00:47:02.550 --> 00:47:11.370 Maricela Rios-Faust: generally give to philanthropy and one of them says what you mean to tell me one person like at least you know, three men in this room know someone and sure enough.

00:47:11.970 --> 00:47:18.480 Maricela Rios-Faust: two men raise their hand and one of them said, my daughter's been a piece of relationship for the last 10 years and these men are.

00:47:18.810 --> 00:47:25.740 Maricela Rios-Faust: Just so incredibly shocked because it's not okay to talk about it but it's not something that people typically talk about.

00:47:26.160 --> 00:47:33.510 Maricela Rios-Faust: And so, as an organization our prevention and education efforts really our aim to make it okay to talk about.

00:47:34.260 --> 00:47:35.760 Maricela Rios-Faust: And to make it something that.

00:47:36.180 --> 00:47:47.010 Maricela Rios-Faust: You know, once you start talking about it survivors and victims they they feel more comfortable sharing their story right they know somebody cares about me and each time we talked about it and talk about it in a way that.

00:47:47.310 --> 00:47:58.620 Maricela Rios-Faust: Really says, this is not Okay, you should not be abused that then reinforce it counteracts the message they're getting at home by the abuser which is nobody cares.

00:47:59.040 --> 00:48:06.570 Maricela Rios-Faust: This is expected and it's completely okay and it's your fault right so anything that we could do as a society to change that narrative for them.

00:48:06.600 --> 00:48:15.480 Tommy DiMisa: is incredibly important, you know, thank you for that and we'll share the hotline number again at the end show shortly, but the other thing I want to say is.

00:48:16.140 --> 00:48:25.920 Tommy DiMisa: I think it's related is the challenge of mental health in this country or the challenge of how we have any stigma around mental health and the conversation around mental health and i'm sure.

00:48:26.370 --> 00:48:35.550 Tommy DiMisa: Mental health is very interwoven in this in the domestic violence world, but I think look to that point I think linkedin.

00:48:36.330 --> 00:48:46.080 Tommy DiMisa: I don't know man, the last two years, we were shining a light on this mental health conversation and then i'm sure it goes to a lot of celebrities that have stepped into this and.

00:48:46.650 --> 00:48:58.110 Tommy DiMisa: But, but you know it's the same conversation I would think the more that this can be for lack of a better way saying and dinner table conversation, the more the awareness will be there and people will be able to come out and have these conversations.

00:48:58.110 --> 00:48:59.220 Tommy DiMisa: Right yes.

00:48:59.310 --> 00:49:06.990 Tommy DiMisa: Absolutely so we're gonna take a quick break we'll be back in a minute, when we come back, I want you to address this because I got it you got to get an answer on what's happened with the dogs and cats, I want to get.

00:49:07.320 --> 00:49:08.250 Tommy DiMisa: Right and then.

00:49:08.610 --> 00:49:20.610 Tommy DiMisa: The partnership with the Santa Ana police department, which is something that you shared with me months ago and we mentioned again this morning I want to hear that how that works so we'll be back, and we will bring the show to a crescendo and we'll get to.

00:49:20.820 --> 00:49:31.080 Tommy DiMisa: What Mary cell and human options names who they want to meet with we will do all that went from back 90 seconds flat being focused here in the attic marcella real spouse human options and you boil Tommy be right back.

00:50:01.530 --> 00:50:04.170 About metaphors and how it impacts on your life.

00:51:29.400 --> 00:51:33.690 Tommy DiMisa: After this data join me and nonprofit sector, the addict the whole thing all right listen i'm here.

00:51:34.320 --> 00:51:45.030 Tommy DiMisa: And i'm here to amplify the message for nonprofit organization so i'm just the mouthpiece though right I bring on the specialist to tell us the story so let's go back varicella what happens quickly.

00:51:45.150 --> 00:51:48.660 Tommy DiMisa: In your experience when there is an animal a dog or cat a pirate.

00:51:49.740 --> 00:51:50.850 Tommy DiMisa: A salamander.

00:51:51.270 --> 00:51:53.880 Tommy DiMisa: involved in the in this situation.

00:51:55.560 --> 00:51:59.310 Tommy DiMisa: Like what resources do you have as an organization to plug into other organizations.

00:51:59.340 --> 00:52:06.990 Maricela Rios-Faust: yeah so human options itself we actually partner with another organization I wish I had good name for you and I can send it to you later, but.

00:52:07.740 --> 00:52:10.710 Maricela Rios-Faust: That actually will will shelter animals.

00:52:11.370 --> 00:52:21.540 Maricela Rios-Faust: when somebody has an animal that needs to be sheltered, whether at our emergency shelter other shelters throughout the state of California, sometimes, some of them will actually have the ability to bring in pets.

00:52:21.960 --> 00:52:28.020 Maricela Rios-Faust: We unfortunately do not, though, we can have them in our transitional housing setting just not our emergency setting.

00:52:28.170 --> 00:52:32.820 Tommy DiMisa: got it got it Okay, but again that's to go back to my early and notes collaboration with.

00:52:33.390 --> 00:52:39.120 Tommy DiMisa: You know these other organizations early childhood prevention, prevention, the alcohol substance abuse, I wrote that down because I wanted to.

00:52:39.420 --> 00:52:49.350 Tommy DiMisa: point out collaboration that's my favorite part about when when I see nonprofits getting together work together so so shout out to organizations that are supporting the animals, I would love that introduction because.

00:52:49.830 --> 00:52:58.740 Tommy DiMisa: I would love to support them and have them come on professionals and animal lovers show, so what let's get into this piece here with it with the PD place apart because this to me was.

00:52:59.130 --> 00:53:08.760 Tommy DiMisa: When we first met months ago, and we did a zoom call like this, although no one was washing dishes but you can't do it, I put it up again earlier this week and in early this morning, we spoke, you know.

00:53:09.540 --> 00:53:18.480 Tommy DiMisa: I think what how thoughtful of a program to happen again, maybe it goes out all around the country, but I think it always starts with somebody having this initiative.

00:53:18.840 --> 00:53:33.120 Tommy DiMisa: How thoughtful for a program like yours, for an organization like yours to partner up with law enforcement and I want i'll be quiet, so I want you to tell the story about sort of how that has happened and and what it does what what the impact of that relationship is.

00:53:33.540 --> 00:53:40.260 Maricela Rios-Faust: yeah so you know we as an organization as i've shared we've always really believed in partnerships and partnering in ways that.

00:53:40.620 --> 00:53:46.920 Maricela Rios-Faust: Are you are meaningful right so there's things that we can do and there's things we know our partners do way better than we do.

00:53:47.520 --> 00:53:59.580 Maricela Rios-Faust: So part of what we would do as an organization is we'd go into police briefings to share resources and we've talked a lot about here's the sign says what happens when you go on a call here's a resource that you can have.

00:54:00.000 --> 00:54:05.610 Maricela Rios-Faust: and found that for the most part we're getting some traction on that you know officers would do referrals.

00:54:05.820 --> 00:54:13.140 Maricela Rios-Faust: They would actually connect but also found that, like many other professionals and many individuals but there's a barrier there's only so much you could do because.

00:54:13.680 --> 00:54:26.430 Maricela Rios-Faust: They need to know someone on the other end so if they're out on a call and they're encouraging someone to use a hotline number or if they're during the particular resources they need to actually have someone to talk to, so we.

00:54:27.660 --> 00:54:36.240 Maricela Rios-Faust: Are in the city of Santa Ana and we have got a pretty large presence for in two locations there and really wanted to go deeper into that Community and say we want to make an impact here.

00:54:36.480 --> 00:54:41.430 Maricela Rios-Faust: The City of Santa Ana at the time had a five year plan that focused on.

00:54:41.910 --> 00:54:48.660 Maricela Rios-Faust: Domestic violence and child abuse, they were their top priorities, something that they really wanted to address as a city which I think is a unique opportunity.

00:54:49.470 --> 00:55:02.430 Maricela Rios-Faust: So we started a conversation with the chief of police at the time and talk to him about you know we really want to do something more there's an opportunity to apply for victims or bala runs against women act grant.

00:55:02.970 --> 00:55:04.680 Maricela Rios-Faust: Would you consider applying with us and.

00:55:05.520 --> 00:55:16.950 Maricela Rios-Faust: We got 100% by him from the chief of police the city of Santa Ana because it fits their priorities and us and said, we want to, we want to basically do something, where we will send an advocate on a ride, along with you.

00:55:17.880 --> 00:55:28.440 Maricela Rios-Faust: And you have a dedicated police car unit that response to these calls and let's really let's, how do we support the survivor on these calls in a way that's meaningful.

00:55:29.070 --> 00:55:36.090 Maricela Rios-Faust: It was a great opportunity, a to be there and to do what we call kind of micro learning systems to say okay well.

00:55:36.480 --> 00:55:41.070 Maricela Rios-Faust: We know that there's some there's a primary area of work that you're needing to do you need to respond to the crime.

00:55:41.580 --> 00:55:49.830 Maricela Rios-Faust: Our work is to support the victim, and so, how can we do that so really kind of supporting the victim and the survivor and saying here are resources that are available to you.

00:55:50.970 --> 00:56:00.900 Maricela Rios-Faust: And I think just really what we noticed right away Tommy was just be knowing that they had somewhere to send someone began to increase the number of calls where.

00:56:01.080 --> 00:56:09.090 Maricela Rios-Faust: They were actually handing out our business cards and our advocate business cards way before we had the advocate in the car and so they it was there was a level.

00:56:09.270 --> 00:56:15.660 Tommy DiMisa: Even even in the beginning, just not just the relationship to get together the break bread split a bagel whatever it was that.

00:56:15.990 --> 00:56:24.090 Tommy DiMisa: That camaraderie and I have somebody, on the other side, so i'm not if i'm an officer on the street and i'm not just saying hey here's this 800 number call them off.

00:56:24.450 --> 00:56:31.200 Tommy DiMisa: I see you can you can help them visualize when you call here's what's going to happen, I know these people, we have a relationship right.

00:56:31.500 --> 00:56:34.590 Maricela Rios-Faust: yeah when it's and it's also this opportunity right because I.

00:56:34.830 --> 00:56:42.780 Maricela Rios-Faust: Again, we all have very distinct jobs right there's there's different roles that we all play, and so we, yes, as as advocates, we can play a role.

00:56:42.960 --> 00:56:52.320 Maricela Rios-Faust: That maybe law enforcement officers cannot, and we have easy access not easy access, but we have quicker access to resources and so what we actually had to also learn, but sometimes.

00:56:52.740 --> 00:57:02.610 Maricela Rios-Faust: In our own process that we have in screening individuals, and you know whether we have enough beds and all of those different things that creates a barrier for many of our partners and so.

00:57:02.880 --> 00:57:11.280 Maricela Rios-Faust: being open to hearing that feedback and hearing like Oh well, and I call this is what happens in being able to say this is how we're going to adjust or even hearing.

00:57:11.580 --> 00:57:23.670 Maricela Rios-Faust: From our the those that were serving and saying why I called and the police report isn't ready or I need I need that in order to get a restraining order is again it's dialogue it's really entering into space.

00:57:23.790 --> 00:57:24.270 Tommy DiMisa: But it's not.

00:57:25.770 --> 00:57:33.030 Tommy DiMisa: it's not a partnership really mean right it's a communication it's it's taking down the fairies and saying look there's going to be bumps in the road.

00:57:33.360 --> 00:57:42.690 Tommy DiMisa: Sure, like one of us is both of us we're all gonna screw this up, at times, but how do we, how do we it's a marriage it's a business partnership it's any sort of partnership or alliance like that yeah.

00:57:44.100 --> 00:57:48.990 Maricela Rios-Faust: People yeah I mean it to your your to your point right, I mean people act when they feel like they have.

00:57:49.320 --> 00:58:00.810 Maricela Rios-Faust: They have a resource in somewhere to connect someone I mean we we actually and in this partnership, probably one of the most heartwarming stories that came out of it was we had an officer who he wasn't even on duty.

00:58:01.350 --> 00:58:05.610 Maricela Rios-Faust: Right, he wasn't even on duty when he actually when he came across a survivor.

00:58:06.720 --> 00:58:15.690 Maricela Rios-Faust: Somehow they got into a conversation, he was in a position to help and connected her this was off duty right, but it was it was the skills and the knowledge that he learned, not just that but.

00:58:16.080 --> 00:58:23.460 Maricela Rios-Faust: feeling like I trust these individuals, and I know I can connect you and that made a big difference for.

00:58:25.050 --> 00:58:35.520 Tommy DiMisa: Protecting Sir right, you know listen, the law enforcement, we we know there are the majority of law enforcement professionals are just that professionals who care about our communities.

00:58:36.060 --> 00:58:42.840 Tommy DiMisa: You know it's tragic what happens at times, but that is not one person, those are bad apples or red apples and every organization.

00:58:43.380 --> 00:58:53.250 Tommy DiMisa: But look somebody on on and off day that is still you know serving looking around and seeing an opportunity and making that connection and making that referral give us the hotline again real quick myself.

00:58:53.310 --> 00:59:02.130 Maricela Rios-Faust: In case now it's 877854359 487-735-4854.

00:59:02.250 --> 00:59:03.600 Tommy DiMisa: If you do it again i'm going to be quiet.

00:59:04.740 --> 00:59:09.210 Maricela Rios-Faust: 887-785-4359 for.

00:59:09.600 --> 00:59:17.460 Tommy DiMisa: The 594 perfect, thank you for doing that again right so here's what I want to know, we were in the lightning round part of the show what.

00:59:17.760 --> 00:59:25.530 Tommy DiMisa: Are there any specific relationship connections, I do have a Community out in the west coast, I do know some people out there, and I mean obviously know people all around.

00:59:25.890 --> 00:59:32.490 Tommy DiMisa: Are there certain things you're looking for the organization relationship board members anything that you want to put out there that you're comfortable sharing.

00:59:32.850 --> 00:59:39.780 Maricela Rios-Faust: yeah, so we are absolutely always looking to get connected with individuals who would like to join a board of directors.

00:59:40.170 --> 00:59:45.630 Maricela Rios-Faust: And just sort of began to introduce our organization and see where your passions lie.

00:59:46.230 --> 00:59:58.230 Maricela Rios-Faust: Currently, we need people with a specialty in marketing and communication or technology, those are areas in which the nonprofit sector doesn't tend to be the strongest but we'd love some support and getting our message out.

00:59:58.800 --> 01:00:09.690 Maricela Rios-Faust: And also, you know going to our website at www dot human and we have a lot of different ways to get involved here in orange county whether it is through a sisterhood.

01:00:09.990 --> 01:00:16.080 Maricela Rios-Faust: program, which is a group of women who meets four times a year to do drives for our organization.

01:00:16.890 --> 01:00:29.670 Maricela Rios-Faust: or it's just during a drive on your own on holiday party or holiday events are coming up where you can adopt a family or if you'd like to just learn more and get involved in the organization, we definitely love to have a conversation.

01:00:30.030 --> 01:00:36.840 Tommy DiMisa: Human officers out or one last thing is, you mentioned i'm looking at the website, now the it will fall watching Thursday October 14.

01:00:37.380 --> 01:00:44.340 Tommy DiMisa: Marianne Irvine spectrum that doesn't not relative to means I don't know where that is but us closer certainly know where that is.

01:00:44.880 --> 01:00:49.350 Tommy DiMisa: So and you'll have mutual Louise snyder will be at that event right journalists.

01:00:50.040 --> 01:01:03.990 Tommy DiMisa: Domestic violence advocate for book her is called no visible bruises so i'm at to find that out, you can just go to give them an slash forward slash fall event 2021 or it's actually just on your homepage right now.

01:01:04.680 --> 01:01:13.890 Maricela Rios-Faust: So yeah absolutely left we left for anyone who's interested to join it's a great way to learn about the issue and the organization and find ways that you can get involved.

01:01:14.130 --> 01:01:16.320 Tommy DiMisa: very solid, thank you for me, my friend, thank you for.

01:01:17.820 --> 01:01:21.270 Tommy DiMisa: Thanks for being my friend nice your phone on the show thanks for being an incredible leader.

01:01:21.540 --> 01:01:30.660 Tommy DiMisa: In advocacy and an incredible leader in nonprofit which is my favorite part of the world, so I appreciate you being here, I look forward we're chatting you're saying we got to connect you with this one way to.

01:01:30.870 --> 01:01:35.670 Tommy DiMisa: play more of this conversation offline but thanks for being here, I will bring the show to close.

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