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Facebook Live Video from 2020/12/10 - The Behaviors of Impactful Leaders

 
Facebook Live Video from 2020/12/10 - The Behaviors of Impactful Leaders

 

2020/12/10 - The Behaviors of Impactful Leaders

[NEW EPISODE] The Behaviors of Impactful Leaders

Dr. John Demartini is a world-renowned specialist in human behavior, a researcher, author, and global educator. We'll be exploring the Behaviors of Impactful Leaders and what insights behavior can give us all.


His education curriculum ranges from corporate empowerment programs, financial empowerment strategies, self-development programs, relationship solutions, and social transformation programs. His teachings start at the core of the issue, addressing the human factor and range out to a multitude of powerful tools that have proven the test of time.


He has studied over 30,000 books across all the defined academic disciplines and has synthesized the wisdom of the ages which he shares on stage in over 100 countries. His presentations whether keynotes, seminars or workshops, leave clients with insights into their behavior and keys to their empowerment.


Tune in for this insightful conversation at TalkRadio.nyc or watch the Facebook Livestream by clicking here.


Segment 1

Graham welcomes today’s guest, Dr. John Demartini. Dr. Demartini is a world-renowned specialist in human behavior, a researcher, author, and global educator.  Graham begins the show asking John his path to how he got to where he is today.  From there John dives further into his work and how he created his teachings today.  In closing they talk about Paul Bragg and the impact that he has had on John and celebrities regarding healthcare in America and about John’s approach to being curious and learning every day.


Segment 2

In the opening of this segment Graham asks John how he uses his curiosity to also impact lives. John dives into being authentic and prioritizing on a daily basis in order to do things that inspire us and make a vast difference on the planet. Graham asks John how do we know what is valuable to us. John then discusses how everyone has the ability to be a leader by applying leadership to values that inspire them.


Segment 3

In the opening of this segment John talks about the scales of social structure and the evolution from the earlier days to today. He further discusses how social constructs have an effect on our ability to be successful and be authentic. In closing Graham asks John if he gets frustrated with someone who is one or two steps away from leadership but is afraid or freezes at this point. John enjoys trying his best to find the solution to their path to leadership.


Segment 4

In the last segment they open up discussing education and John’s experience in education throughout his life.  John tells us how he used his techniques to help teachers and students be more engaged in a school he was invited to work with. John then mentions other initiatives he has outside of education which includes healthcare, military, etc. In closing John mentions a common theme in assessing each situation is human values.


Transcript

00:00:31.650 --> 00:00:45.810 Graham Dobbin: Welcome to the mind behind leadership here live on talk radio dot NYC. My name is Graham Dobbin and every week we talk about leadership. We talk more so about the approach, how we are with it, rather than the theory.

00:00:46.290 --> 00:01:03.120 Graham Dobbin: How we are with others, how we keep them safe and flourish, especially nowadays, and it should go without saying that human behavior and they asked the facets of the key component on our ability to lead and influence ourselves and others.

00:01:04.140 --> 00:01:11.940 Graham Dobbin: You know what it feels like calling tonight's guest an expert in human behavior isn't really enough of a description. So, just listen to this.

00:01:12.540 --> 00:01:23.010 Graham Dobbin: And today's guest. I'm delighted to say is dr john Dee Martini, who is a world renowned specialist in human behavior, a researcher author and global educator

00:01:23.400 --> 00:01:27.450 Graham Dobbin: Has education curriculum ranges from corporate empowerment programs.

00:01:27.810 --> 00:01:38.010 Graham Dobbin: Financial Empowerment strategies self development relationships solutions and social transformation programs which we're going to want to know a little bit more about later.

00:01:38.340 --> 00:01:47.340 Graham Dobbin: Is teaching start of the quarter the issue addressing the human factor and the range out to multitude of powerful tools that have proven the test of time.

00:01:47.670 --> 00:02:07.980 Graham Dobbin: You're starting to get this, get this, I don't know how, but you're studying 30,000 books across all the defined academic disciplines and has synthesize to the wisdom of the ages, which he shares on stage in over 100 countries, Dr. Dee martini is an absolute pleasure to have you. Welcome.

00:02:08.520 --> 00:02:10.140 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Thank you, aspiring to be here.

00:02:11.190 --> 00:02:21.150 Graham Dobbin: What an intro. I'm always I'm always inspired when I hear, hear about what people have done. Tell me, how did this all begin. What's your background, what was the start of the journey for you.

00:02:21.750 --> 00:02:28.110 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Oh gosh, you know, in a real quick version of it. I had learning challenges as a child and speech challenges of child.

00:02:29.160 --> 00:02:46.380 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I went to a speech pathologist since I was one and a half, okay. I ended up having problems with reading. I was told in first grade. I would never be able to read right communicate nevermind thing there we go very far in life. I ended up dropping out of school. I was a street kid.

00:02:47.760 --> 00:02:52.950 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And I picked up surfing as it as it Texas boy.

00:02:54.450 --> 00:03:08.850 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: hitchhike to California. When I was 14 and left left school and it tried to California went to Mexico eventually made my way to white to live on the north shore to ride big waves nearly died at 17

00:03:10.020 --> 00:03:19.350 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And being unconscious for three and a half days and in the recovery of that was led to a little talk on the north shore, the white man day

00:03:19.860 --> 00:03:25.380 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Bye by a gentleman named Paul Bragg it inspired me one night in an hour.

00:03:26.220 --> 00:03:34.740 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: To believe that I could someday be intelligent overcome my learning problems and started me on a journey to want to understand how to do that.

00:03:35.430 --> 00:03:52.950 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: How to overcome those challenges which led me to dedicating last 48 plus years of my life to teaching researching teaching and learning and helping people do something extraordinary with their life. So that's, in a nutshell, that's the reverse.

00:03:53.730 --> 00:03:56.130 Graham Dobbin: That that's that's that's a nutshell.

00:03:57.630 --> 00:04:04.500 Graham Dobbin: What, what was the okay from a young age. Let's just go back to that. Then what was the draw of the waves. What was, what was the thing for a Texas boy.

00:04:05.790 --> 00:04:06.330 Graham Dobbin: What was that

00:04:06.780 --> 00:04:09.870 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I went to Galveston, Texas, which you said you visited

00:04:09.870 --> 00:04:10.560 Graham Dobbin: So literally,

00:04:11.010 --> 00:04:21.150 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: When I was about nine and had a big clunker surfboard and got up on the very first wave somehow stood on that thing course. It was a boat and

00:04:22.710 --> 00:04:28.200 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Had a natural balancing capacity and fell in love with the idea of surfing at the time.

00:04:29.340 --> 00:04:38.910 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: But you didn't have surf in Texas and listen for hurricanes and storms and so California was to kind of the surf capital and Hawaii has these sort of capital. So I

00:04:39.630 --> 00:04:48.270 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: made my way there. So I could go surfing. So I went I wonder I big waves and I got to run. Be which got to be in some movies and some magazines and so I got

00:04:48.930 --> 00:04:49.950 Graham Dobbin: Sort of just feeling that

00:04:51.000 --> 00:04:51.210 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: You

00:04:51.420 --> 00:04:53.520 Graham Dobbin: You got to be in some movies and magazines.

00:04:53.730 --> 00:04:55.170 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Yeah. We're surfing back then.

00:04:56.370 --> 00:04:56.880 Graham Dobbin: Wow.

00:04:57.210 --> 00:05:04.410 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I was I was, I can't say I was the greatest surfer, but I was up there in the top maybe hundred or so.

00:05:05.040 --> 00:05:09.540 Graham Dobbin: So you so you were destined to begin the front of the camera in front of people. It sounds like

00:05:10.890 --> 00:05:12.300 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: wasn't intentional.

00:05:12.390 --> 00:05:26.790 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Know I'm going to now be in front of camera. I just, I just wanted to serve and just so happened that they would take pictures. Sometimes, and you know, and I got into indirectly by being in the right place the right time to be in some movies and did get into books on surfing.

00:05:27.600 --> 00:05:37.440 Graham Dobbin: Well, so tell us more about your work, then so that that's kind of what took you to that point what happened and how did you, how did you create what you've done.

00:05:39.600 --> 00:05:46.710 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I went on a relentless pursuit of learning. Once I found out I could read. I didn't read as a team.

00:05:47.910 --> 00:05:52.140 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: So when I really, really found out I could with the help of my mom.

00:05:54.750 --> 00:06:01.350 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: With a dictionary memorizing 30 words a day into my vocabulary was strong enough to go back to school and finish school

00:06:02.460 --> 00:06:03.390 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Because I dropped out.

00:06:06.210 --> 00:06:10.860 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I just never stopped. I became voracious and

00:06:12.060 --> 00:06:23.970 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: In my reading and started reading and learning what worked, what didn't work. I wonder, understand what maximize human awareness and potential. I want to understand what is the key to evolving.

00:06:24.600 --> 00:06:36.060 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: conscious awareness and conscious accomplishments and I've just been studying everything I can in every field that can do for the sake of maximizing human

00:06:37.140 --> 00:06:43.680 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: The experience of being human. And that has led me to every imaginable field from I just finished to

00:06:44.370 --> 00:06:54.720 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Publishing or printing a book on solar physics and nuclear physics from there to geology to mathematics to I mean I'm, I'm kind of going on. I guess you could call it polymath today but

00:06:55.380 --> 00:07:03.060 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I just, they all relate to human behavior. I basically broke it down into the smallest detail.

00:07:03.720 --> 00:07:11.460 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: If you take a nutrition and you find out that you have a vitamin, and it has a co factor and has a mineral and I asked, Where does that mineral come from.

00:07:11.940 --> 00:07:19.680 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Well, that takes you into cosmology, it takes you into solar physics, it takes you into geology, it takes you. So I wanted to know it to the nth degree, how

00:07:20.310 --> 00:07:39.930 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: how that relates to the human being. And how does philosophy and theology and even mythology relate to some of the cornerstones of our thinking. So anything that might relate to human behavior. I have, I have just devoured it and people go, you're, you're weird

00:07:41.790 --> 00:07:45.120 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I don't care i just i you know that

00:07:46.470 --> 00:07:53.460 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: There was a visionary Sweden Bork, who they said is the man who had to know that was his nickname, a man who had to know

00:07:54.150 --> 00:08:01.050 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And the same thing with Sir Isaac Newton, he, he wanted to. He wanted to know the divine master plan and

00:08:01.980 --> 00:08:07.350 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: You know, Einstein said, I just want to know how God thinks, basically. Well, I kind of in that way. I'm

00:08:07.980 --> 00:08:16.140 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I'm curious about every field. And I want to see how it relates because I what I set out when I was 1718 when I met Paul Bragg that night.

00:08:16.800 --> 00:08:26.790 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: That I wanted to study what he called the universal laws. The most universal principles that are the foundation that I could build a foundation of knowledge on

00:08:27.450 --> 00:08:32.880 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And so I every discipline. I figured if I study and make a list of all the disciplines and stay the disciplines.

00:08:33.390 --> 00:08:45.390 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And all the fields, I would find the most universal principle that applies and as many as possible to build a foundation on. So that was the intention. So I made a goal to read 100 books on every known field, just so I could at least have

00:08:45.900 --> 00:08:54.390 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: A grasp of the field foundation and I was very fascinated by studying the originators of the field. So when you study

00:08:55.080 --> 00:09:00.570 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Magnetism you study Gilbert, for instance, but whatever the field is you want to go back to the original

00:09:00.960 --> 00:09:15.840 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: If you want to go back to next Amanda when it comes to the first cosmological constructs. So I wanted to go back to the people that actually were the unbridled visionaries that were willing to step out of the paradigm and traditionally convention challenge the existing

00:09:17.430 --> 00:09:25.110 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: You might say beliefs of the time and come up with something original I want to study them because I had a dream to create original ideas that serve humanity.

00:09:25.590 --> 00:09:32.580 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: That's been my affirmation in my head. Since I was very young. And when I started it, I create original ideas that serve humanity that's been

00:09:33.030 --> 00:09:39.690 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And I wanted to study and stand on the shoulders of those people that had original ideas and I'm just, I'm thirsty today.

00:09:40.110 --> 00:09:57.630 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I spent the entire day doing podcasts and research and writing on a book now. And on dissolve and grief right now in the neurophysiology of it. So anything allows up human being to maximize your experience on this planet, and soon beyond this planet. I'm interested in, I

00:09:58.110 --> 00:10:14.640 Graham Dobbin: Use the word curiosity and that comes up a lot now probably more know then then then it has done for a long time that people are realizing and leadership in and all kind of personal development curiosities kind of the opening part. That's the start but this is beyond curiosity.

00:10:15.990 --> 00:10:16.590 Graham Dobbin: Isn't it

00:10:17.310 --> 00:10:20.850 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Well, it's just a, it's a neurotic curiosity.

00:10:23.880 --> 00:10:28.920 Graham Dobbin: Has good work. I mean, can we can you tell me a little bit more about pole pole. Right.

00:10:29.040 --> 00:10:49.710 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Right. Paul Bragg was a young boy who had a health problem, and he had tuberculosis, and he figured out a way by meeting some individuals that approaching it from a natural perspective and overcame it and went on to inspire millions of people around the world.

00:10:50.730 --> 00:10:54.600 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: With his ideas on natural health. I mean, we have

00:10:55.680 --> 00:11:02.850 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Your, your in from Scotland, but you might know if a guy named jack Elaine possibly and Jacqueline was inspired by him.

00:11:04.050 --> 00:11:07.620 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Donald Trump, believe it or not, was impacted by Steve Jobs was impacted by

00:11:08.910 --> 00:11:20.460 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: A Kellogg's of the Kellogg's cornflakes and Kellogg know Kellogg families were impacted me he impacted. I think we we narrowed down 139 celebrities in their lives to

00:11:21.030 --> 00:11:33.690 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Go on a on a mission of making sure that the health care of America was upgraded and he also helped open initiated 100 I mean 1000 health food stores across America.

00:11:34.260 --> 00:11:49.260 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And I mean he just did a lot of things and trying to upgrade the standards of well being wellness and fitness and health in America. And so he was there that that night and I happen to go and listen to him and he was absolutely inspiring and he inspired me.

00:11:50.280 --> 00:11:54.150 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And I still know his daughter today me they're still friends. She's in her 90s day

00:11:55.320 --> 00:11:56.280 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Wow.

00:11:57.420 --> 00:11:58.980 Graham Dobbin: Um, I

00:12:00.480 --> 00:12:17.040 Graham Dobbin: Think when you see things like you know you met Paul you nearly died at 17 I just wonder how much that that that just that defines almost everything else that happens is that still the case. Do you think that's kind of that. That's that was the catalyst. Those are the moments.

00:12:17.100 --> 00:12:21.840 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: That was a turning point, although when I was 16 I had a dream to ride.

00:12:23.310 --> 00:12:39.900 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: At age 65 North Shore on big day. And so last year on my 65th birthday. I'm 66 now and the 65th birthday. I went out to North Shore and surf pipeline in London can and it was a blast. So now I've got it, I've got it as a goal for 100 now to go surfing or short

00:12:40.950 --> 00:12:41.460 Graham Dobbin: I won't do.

00:12:41.580 --> 00:12:44.850 Graham Dobbin: Something, it was actually a question I was going to ask, do you still do it.

00:12:44.940 --> 00:12:53.040 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I don't do it often. But I did because I made a commitment when I was 16 to do it at age 65 side I got in shape, ready for it I prepared.

00:12:53.550 --> 00:13:02.910 Graham Dobbin: I'm curious, you say, I wonder if when you've got this curiosity. I'm curious. Now we're going to, I'm going to end up using this word, the whole interview to realize that

00:13:04.620 --> 00:13:09.090 Graham Dobbin: I'm curious, that when you've got that curiosity or you've got enough information.

00:13:10.830 --> 00:13:13.890 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Well, I think, like in the flow Marian diagram.

00:13:15.570 --> 00:13:27.270 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: When Giordano Bruno is lifting of the veil and stepping outside the confines of the known world and looking out at the potential infinitude of the universe.

00:13:27.780 --> 00:13:35.220 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I think that whatever we know there's always a vaster unknown beyond it. And I think that i i don't have

00:13:35.760 --> 00:13:49.560 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: anxiety about that. I love the idea of discovering what I don't know. So I can continue to expand it. So I, I am is thirsty and love learning today as I was when I started at 17 and so I'm I don't go a day without learning

00:13:50.460 --> 00:13:51.360 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: It comes to me.

00:13:51.720 --> 00:13:59.190 Graham Dobbin: And I'm wondering if there's if there's a point maybe in your books where you turn around and go okay, now I've got enough information to be able to pass that on

00:14:00.450 --> 00:14:00.720 Graham Dobbin: And

00:14:01.260 --> 00:14:12.360 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I reached a point. Initially when people started to see that I was kind of relentless in my studies and I didn't do a lot of socializing at the time.

00:14:13.170 --> 00:14:22.320 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And my social life became teaching. That's how I reach millions of people over the years. So I started teaching when I was 18

00:14:22.680 --> 00:14:29.880 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: When the second I learned how to read. I started passing on because I learned I asked myself what worked, what didn't work each day in my learning

00:14:30.390 --> 00:14:34.860 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And I learned that if I shared it with somebody, I learned it faster and more efficiently and I retained it more

00:14:35.400 --> 00:14:45.150 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: So, and then I found out that the sooner I passed it on the more retention. So I tried to extract out space and time between input and output of information.

00:14:45.810 --> 00:14:54.690 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And I ended up teaching after within a short period of time. I started you know devouring information and every night teaching what I learned that day.

00:14:55.470 --> 00:15:01.320 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And people used to come in and and they didn't care what it was. They just come and listen and I sometimes have

00:15:02.040 --> 00:15:18.150 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: You know 100 250 people under the trees at the university isn't up to 400 sometimes just asking questions, which would push me to want to go and learn and prepare for the next day. So I've been. I've been on that journey of teaching since 18

00:15:19.980 --> 00:15:29.850 Graham Dobbin: I'm dr john Dee Martini. What about to take a break after the break, kind of want to get into what's the practical application, how do you use this. How do you touch people knowing how does it. How does that affect your life.

00:15:30.090 --> 00:15:37.920 Graham Dobbin: You're listening to the main behind leadership. We're absolutely delighted we have dr john Dee martini with us this evening. We'll be right back after these messages.

00:18:08.940 --> 00:18:14.370 Graham Dobbin: Welcome back, you're listening to the mind behind leadership we have dr john Dee martini with us.

00:18:16.920 --> 00:18:21.210 Graham Dobbin: Till house a practical application and we we've we've spoken about.

00:18:23.100 --> 00:18:34.980 Graham Dobbin: Your desire to learn more and more and more that this, this is incredible curiosity that you've got how you can bring that back in to be able to touch people's everyday lives.

00:18:35.940 --> 00:18:36.360 Question.

00:18:37.920 --> 00:18:41.490 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Every human being, regardless of gender, age or culture.

00:18:42.540 --> 00:18:44.070 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Lives, moment by moment.

00:18:45.330 --> 00:18:51.090 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: By a set of priorities, a set of values, things that are most at least important to their life.

00:18:53.520 --> 00:18:55.410 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Whatever is highest on that value.

00:18:56.730 --> 00:18:57.330 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: List.

00:18:58.410 --> 00:19:02.790 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: They are spontaneously inspired from within to fulfill its intrinsic

00:19:04.080 --> 00:19:09.960 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And as they go down the list of values lower, they require more extrinsic motivation to get them to act.

00:19:11.070 --> 00:19:14.220 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Punishment. If they don't do it rewarded, they do in order to get them to do those

00:19:15.720 --> 00:19:24.600 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: So anytime you fill your day with highest priority actions that are deeply meaningful and inspiring spontaneously to

00:19:26.070 --> 00:19:29.340 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: You have the highest probability of walking your talk.

00:19:30.690 --> 00:19:35.160 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: activating a potential and emerged as a leader.

00:19:37.050 --> 00:19:42.240 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: To expand your space and time horizons, because you're tend to walk your talk achieve and you want to go on to greater things

00:19:43.560 --> 00:19:53.460 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: You become more objective because of blood glucose and oxygen goes into your executive center which is involved in inspired visions strategic planning, executing plans and self governance.

00:19:54.780 --> 00:20:00.000 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And you tend to build incremental momentum. Momentum with

00:20:01.020 --> 00:20:13.680 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Incremental objective refinements instead of cataclysmic quick immediate gratifying major fixes and that is the key to a masterful path of leadership.

00:20:14.490 --> 00:20:24.690 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: That's the key to a master for life. If we don't fill our day with high priority actions that inspire us our day is spontaneously filled with things that don't

00:20:25.650 --> 00:20:37.260 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And so those are actually feedback mechanisms that create symptoms in all areas of our life to try to catalyze us to go back to priority to live an authentic life because

00:20:37.770 --> 00:20:46.020 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Our ontological state of being revolves around what we value most artistic illogical pursuit of knowledge goes around what we value most

00:20:46.470 --> 00:20:56.940 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: are totally logical feelings of purpose and meaning are in the direction of what we value most so accessing that into determining what's really, really, really, truly valuable.

00:20:57.480 --> 00:21:07.320 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Not the values that you have injected from conforming to our authorities and subordinating to traditional conventions and

00:21:07.710 --> 00:21:16.500 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: You know individually and collectively authorities, but to actually be an unbearable vision or standing on the shoulders of those individuals and being authentic to what is truly inspiring.

00:21:16.800 --> 00:21:19.650 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: That you feel is meaningful that you want to make a difference on the planet with

00:21:20.340 --> 00:21:31.080 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: That is finding that out and identifying that and pursuing that and prioritizing on a daily basis and and delegating lower priority things and figuring out a way to being remunerated doing what you love.

00:21:31.560 --> 00:21:40.440 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: So you have the tap dance to work syndrome as Buffett says, and giving yourself permission to continually to make a vast difference on the planet. That's what I'm interested in.

00:21:43.140 --> 00:21:50.550 Graham Dobbin: It's interesting. How do we know this. This may seem like a strange question. How do we know what's actually valuable to us.

00:21:51.090 --> 00:22:02.250 Graham Dobbin: Because I wonder if we get so much information and sometimes we're, we're talking about influences shows about leadership is about influence and we're influenced on a daily basis about what should be valuable to us.

00:22:03.300 --> 00:22:08.730 Graham Dobbin: How do you, how do you know, is there a way that is naturally that we can find out

00:22:08.940 --> 00:22:11.160 Graham Dobbin: What's. Yes. What's that center point.

00:22:11.610 --> 00:22:20.310 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Yes, absolutely. There's a thing called he done it kind of notation and anytime we subordinate to somebody else and put them on a pedestal and fantasize about being in their life.

00:22:21.540 --> 00:22:32.100 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: It wanes because of the hedonic adaptation, so nobody can sustain injected values without eventually futility. So our life over time.

00:22:32.790 --> 00:22:41.160 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Demonstrates what's truly valuable. And so I, I, if I asked somebody. I've been dealing with values and human values for about 42 three years now.

00:22:41.820 --> 00:22:48.660 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: If you just ask somebody, their values are going to tell you, social idealism should ought to suppose, who's got to have to use most all the imperative injections.

00:22:49.920 --> 00:22:56.340 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Those mean nothing. I have no interest in those. What I'm interested in is, what are your life, what is your life demonstrating

00:22:56.790 --> 00:23:05.070 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: How do you feel your space, things that are really important to you. You keep proximal things that are not you put distal. You can see that in children. You can see that in adults.

00:23:06.510 --> 00:23:12.990 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: How do you spend your time you make time find time spend time for things are really valuable to you run out of time and avoid things that aren't

00:23:14.850 --> 00:23:25.710 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: What energizes you when you're doing something that's really high in your values, your energy goes up. And when you're not your energy goes down, and it's sustainable energy because it literally regulates see the glucose levels.

00:23:27.240 --> 00:23:34.260 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: The fourth one is, what do you spend your money on you make money, find money spend money on things are valuable to when you value it you spend money on it.

00:23:34.560 --> 00:23:48.060 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: That's why people that have a value on consumables that depreciate don't have financial independence, because they keep spending it on immediate gratification and when you really, really valuable wealth building you've I think as you go up in value because you want to grow your wealth.

00:23:49.200 --> 00:23:58.380 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Then I look at what are you, where are you most organized and ordered in your life, there's anything to tiny value tend to want to bring order to it's a natural byproduct of the way the brain structure.

00:23:59.550 --> 00:24:08.220 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: You also have incredible discipline. What do you spontaneously discipline to do that. Nobody has to remind you to do, you just focus on it, you're disciplined you reliable.

00:24:08.700 --> 00:24:17.880 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Where you were alive. I'm alive, but when it comes to teaching and research and not reliable when it comes to socializing and I haven't cooked since I was 24 I haven't driven a car and 32 years almost.

00:24:18.720 --> 00:24:27.090 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: So I don't do this. I've learned to delegate everything but my highest priorities. I don't do anything else. But those are all I do in a day. That's how you keep inspired and energized.

00:24:27.900 --> 00:24:37.380 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: The next one. Number seven is, what do you think about number eight is what do you visualize about number nine is what do you internally dialogue with yourself about

00:24:37.830 --> 00:24:40.800 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Most about how you would truly love your life to be

00:24:41.370 --> 00:24:48.960 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: That shows evidence of coming true. If there's no evidence. It's fantasy is not what you want to do. I'm not interested in negative self talk and they get a self.

00:24:49.260 --> 00:24:57.360 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Vision. I'm interested in what it is. If you are thinking about in actually bringing about there's a congruency and a and a momentum building

00:24:58.050 --> 00:25:09.840 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Movement. The next one is, what do you keep typically want to converse with other people about what do you want to talk to people when you're in conversation. Then what do you keep bringing the conversation to and if they talk about it, you'll get engaged and stay all night with

00:25:10.980 --> 00:25:17.790 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: The next one is what inspires you, brings tears to your eyes and chills in your spine. When you're pursuing it that you absolutely love doing it.

00:25:18.570 --> 00:25:24.450 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Because it's, there's a there's a engineers in phenomenal amount of enthusiastic energy coming out of you when you're actually presenting it

00:25:25.320 --> 00:25:32.640 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: The next one is, what is it you have. That's the most consistent persistent goals that you have not wavered on and you have actually showed momentum and achievement.

00:25:33.540 --> 00:25:39.150 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And the last one is, what is it you can't wait to get up and learn study read about or watch on YouTube videos.

00:25:39.570 --> 00:25:43.110 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And then what you do is you'll see a reiteration I've been doing it for many, many years, decades.

00:25:43.650 --> 00:25:51.180 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: If you go through there and answer that honestly not the fantasies, not the wishful thinking, not what it used to be what you hope it will be. But what is actually true.

00:25:51.480 --> 00:25:57.960 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: What is your life demonstrate watching objectively with a drone over you 24 hours a day. What exactly is true.

00:25:58.950 --> 00:26:04.680 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: You'll see that your there's a reiteration and there's a common thread term and it just smacks you in the face with what you're really up to

00:26:05.010 --> 00:26:12.210 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Not your fantasies and when you find that and prioritize your life according to it, you are you're destined to wake up some masterful leadership in you.

00:26:12.690 --> 00:26:23.340 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I've been proven this now for for decades. And I've seen people that think well well I you know there are natural leader know there's a leader and everyone waiting to come out but we keep pursuing

00:26:23.730 --> 00:26:36.180 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: subordinating pathways that aren't really true to us and then we end up banging our heads against the wall because anytime you're trying to pursue something, it's not really high in your values, you'll procrastinate hesitate frustrate you won't have discipline reliability and focus

00:26:37.350 --> 00:26:53.460 Graham Dobbin: Um, well, if they're to digest. To me, what would you kind of answered one of my questions was our leaders born or, you know, people naturally leaders, because of the value set that they have

00:26:55.050 --> 00:26:56.970 Graham Dobbin: Or, can everybody be a leader do you think

00:26:57.030 --> 00:27:09.240 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I I used I asked that question for many years and I'm certain that there's no question in my mind, everybody has the capacity to be leader, but it's in a leadership that is theirs. And the reason why they don't wake it up.

00:27:10.320 --> 00:27:25.110 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Because they're not honoring it because they're comparing themselves to others. The number one thing that's that blocks emergent leadership is the comparison of our lives to other people instead of comparing our own daily actions to our own highest priorities that we discover

00:27:27.450 --> 00:27:34.200 Graham Dobbin: Does that start us to lead us down to kind of like the self sabotage when we, when we get so far. And we're close to it or is it more

00:27:34.590 --> 00:27:45.420 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I've in all the years I've been working. I've not ever seen self sabotage. What I've seen is people pursuing something that's not really important to them, but they think it is.

00:27:45.840 --> 00:27:56.340 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And then they wonder why they can't stay focused not discipline and they label that self sabotage, but the self sabotage is a feedback mechanism to guide them back up to what is priority.

00:27:57.240 --> 00:27:58.920 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: There's nothing resembling the way

00:27:59.850 --> 00:28:06.210 Graham Dobbin: Sorry. Sorry for interrupting is I would like to donate and everything comes in about that ability to do it. And is that taking

00:28:06.360 --> 00:28:10.050 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Your, you're not going to have certainty pursuing things low in your values.

00:28:10.950 --> 00:28:11.970 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Okay, I'm going to happen.

00:28:12.510 --> 00:28:15.780 Graham Dobbin: Right. So whoever has the most certainly rules the game.

00:28:16.230 --> 00:28:27.030 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: So that's why congruency and integrity are terms for leadership because and and the ability to handle paradoxes, because only in our highest value, which airs on the call to tell us

00:28:27.480 --> 00:28:33.930 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Do we actually have the willingness to embrace pain and pleasure and the Pairs of opposites that are never inevitable.

00:28:34.560 --> 00:28:44.250 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: In our pursuit. If we can handle the Pairs of opposites and pursue challenges that inspire us. We're not gonna wake up earlier not going to have the innovation and original thinking

00:28:44.880 --> 00:28:50.610 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And so it's only in that tell us that highest value that we actually open up the doorway of honoring

00:28:51.210 --> 00:28:54.390 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: The Pairs of opposites synchronously, and be able to

00:28:54.660 --> 00:29:06.420 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Know how to not get infatuated with one and try to avoid the other, which is the amygdala and that desire Center, which stops us from waking our leader. That's the animal center. It's the pursuit of meaning and the pursuit of something that is deeply

00:29:07.050 --> 00:29:10.590 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Creative insiders that wakes up earlier know

00:29:11.310 --> 00:29:18.840 Graham Dobbin: We're just about to go to a break after the break, I do want to kind of have a look at. We mentioned and quick fixes immediate gratification.

00:29:19.140 --> 00:29:33.150 Graham Dobbin: And I think it's kind of accepted that nowadays it's more and more that that's that's that's where society is that's where people are driven to and that much younger age. I'm going to be curated it'd be good to have a chat about just its future leadership when

00:29:34.170 --> 00:29:36.420 Graham Dobbin: Do we have to motivate people in a different way and I

00:29:36.570 --> 00:29:40.800 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Just wrote an article for CNN yesterday and send it off into Turkey actually

00:29:41.310 --> 00:29:49.710 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And I'm certain that the principles of leadership are universal. Yeah. And they are there as Schopenhauer and as

00:29:50.700 --> 00:29:59.370 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: You know, hair, Clyde is said, you know, you can't step in the same river twice, and there's change at the same time the universal principles are unalterable

00:29:59.760 --> 00:30:05.220 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And so, leadership is to leadership. And people sometimes think it's going to have a new new little twist to it, but

00:30:05.850 --> 00:30:13.260 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: It's the same leadership, the human behaviors human behavior. But what they're doing and what they're leading in the technologies that are they're changing

00:30:13.830 --> 00:30:22.410 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: But that principles of leadership are solid today and they're still applicable and they were referred to, even by the stoic so Marcus really as an owner almost eight great philosopher

00:30:22.860 --> 00:30:26.910 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: has referred to these principles and we think we're going to come up with a better path, but it's

00:30:27.300 --> 00:30:36.150 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: It's it's willingness to be authentic to what's truly inspiring and meaningful to us and follow something that we're willing to embrace pain and pleasure in the pursuit of. That's the key to wake it up.

00:30:38.280 --> 00:30:48.300 Graham Dobbin: We're listening to the mind behind leadership here on talk radio dot NYC. We were dr john Dee martini this evening. My name is Graham Dobbin. We'll be right back after these

00:30:50.160 --> 00:30:52.320 listening to radio

00:33:40.710 --> 00:33:51.540 Graham Dobbin: Welcome back, you're listening to the mind behind leadership, where we're speaking with dr john Dee Martini. I'm Dr de martini it. One of the things we spoke with just before the break was

00:33:52.800 --> 00:33:59.130 Graham Dobbin: That, you know, this is what it's always been, it's always been, there's been written about for centuries.

00:33:59.760 --> 00:34:09.450 Graham Dobbin: If we've known it for this long. Why is it not always practice. Why does not everybody know why is it not common knowledge. And why is it not just something that we intrinsically do know.

00:34:11.610 --> 00:34:12.000 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Well,

00:34:13.530 --> 00:34:34.650 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: You know, and in the earliest era of anthropology, when we were nomadic and we started to go into families kinship clan ship Township and work our way socially into larger systems and eventually sedentary, you know, agriculture.

00:34:35.940 --> 00:34:45.720 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Abandonment isolation and injection or rejection from a community and banishment from that meant sometimes death.

00:34:46.890 --> 00:34:50.700 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: So the fear of not being part of a herd a group

00:34:51.750 --> 00:34:57.300 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And and using the mirror neurons and the chameleon effect to learn from other people, frightened people

00:34:58.500 --> 00:35:10.050 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: So, as Ernest Becker in his Denial of Death describes our fear in our mortal fear of, you know, dying. We clean to a herd as a survival mechanism.

00:35:10.650 --> 00:35:23.730 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And it's the few that are willing to walk the path of individual heroism as as Becker said instead of the collective tourism that are the ones that transform the world, the majority of people

00:35:25.290 --> 00:35:37.470 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Are the drones, in a sense, not because they have to be, but because they have not had the spark of their own life activated to start pursuing outside the box, you might say.

00:35:39.180 --> 00:35:43.830 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I find that I've been teaching a program for 32 years called the break to experience and

00:35:45.000 --> 00:36:00.690 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: People of all different scales of social structure our present some that are extremely powerful and already influential people that are celebrity positions. Otherwise, people are just starting out and just coming out of suicide states. I mean, I've seen all different times.

00:36:02.100 --> 00:36:08.250 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: People are not aware of their potential because they keep comparing themselves to others.

00:36:09.600 --> 00:36:20.460 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And as long as we as well. I would say that there's an old philosophical and almost religious construct that says at the level of the soul. The real essential self.

00:36:22.590 --> 00:36:26.880 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: The ground of our being, if you will, at that level. Nothing's missing in us.

00:36:27.420 --> 00:36:33.030 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: We have this incredible awareness that we don't have to get rid of any part of ourselves or seek any part of ourselves, we have this awareness.

00:36:33.600 --> 00:36:43.380 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: But the level of the existence of our senses things appear to be missing, we have this emptiness Gnostic wrote about it. And this emptiness is derived from the perception.

00:36:44.700 --> 00:36:54.870 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: That we're too proud or too humble to admit what we see in other people inside ourselves and the moment we compare ourselves to others and put people on pedestals or pits.

00:36:55.710 --> 00:37:03.600 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And act too humble or too proud to admit what we see in them inside us and have reflective awareness and disempowered perceptions

00:37:04.380 --> 00:37:14.670 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: We automatically succumb, in a sense, to brain offloading decisions on to the herd, for fear of, you know, stepping out of the box and being wrong.

00:37:15.450 --> 00:37:25.020 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And so we get trapped in that and our entire educational system is not designed to make up you know the real leaders and that's been in almost all social systems, you find this

00:37:25.560 --> 00:37:39.720 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: So it's, it's The Misfits as, as you know, Apple Steve Jobs mentioned it's The Misfits they're willing to step out and usually have a more challenging beginning that are the ones that step out and do it.

00:37:40.380 --> 00:37:47.730 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Is it possible for everybody to do it. Yes, because I've seen it manifest in my programs over and over again. So can it be trained. Yes.

00:37:48.000 --> 00:37:53.850 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Can they initiate it. Yes. Can they start to find out what's really meaningful them and start pursuing it and waking up. Yes.

00:37:54.450 --> 00:37:59.760 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: But the majority people are not educated on that knowledge there they so they don't even know it exists.

00:38:00.660 --> 00:38:05.460 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And so there they go through a quiet life of desperation set up a life of inspiration.

00:38:06.120 --> 00:38:16.050 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And they, they don't realize the power they have inside and the willingness to actually be different. We are we when I've been in prisons spoken in prisons.

00:38:16.860 --> 00:38:25.230 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: To thousands of maximum security prisoners and asked him, how many of you want to be make a difference in the world. Every hand goes up every hand.

00:38:26.220 --> 00:38:32.760 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I mean we're life sentences every hand wants to make a difference. It's innate within us to make a difference and we only make a difference.

00:38:33.120 --> 00:38:44.850 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: When we are actually willing to walk the path of authenticity to what we really value most because that's a unique set of values that nobody else has. It's a unique vantage point

00:38:45.540 --> 00:38:47.880 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And a unique hierarchy of values. So,

00:38:48.600 --> 00:39:00.120 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Willingness to go there were intuitively yearning to express that authentic state because that's where we make a difference. That's where we stand out and that's what we become as in ran says the Dunbar visionary.

00:39:00.750 --> 00:39:05.700 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: But the majority of people are frightened of what will people think they're frightened of it, they

00:39:06.540 --> 00:39:15.930 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: You know, I don't know enough, I might fail. I might not make money or lose money at it. I might get rejected by loved ones or my family or my get rejected by society or I might not

00:39:16.770 --> 00:39:24.450 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Be too attractive enough for physically fit enough where I might be breaking the morals and ethics or some spiritual tradition, which is a conforming system.

00:39:25.950 --> 00:39:32.040 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: The willingness to walk through that fear and that darkened doorway Revere larks and actually turn on the light is

00:39:32.520 --> 00:39:46.530 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Is the path of the individual that wakes up their leadership, the leader sitting in there dormant inside, everyone. I'm certain of that. And there are tools and skills and education that can wake it up and when it's done. I watch people emerge and it's really inspiring to watch

00:39:47.190 --> 00:40:01.830 Graham Dobbin: I can hear the passion that can hear it. I just almost like Who inspired you must be How frustrating is it or do you get frustrated when you see that in someone that you could just take that extra one or two steps and they don't take it.

00:40:02.610 --> 00:40:09.930 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Well, I can't say I get frustrated by it so much. I get sometimes frustrated when I'm in front of them and there

00:40:10.260 --> 00:40:16.620 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: They say they want to hear it. But then there's a part of them. We have to go digging in and find out what the fear is which one of the fears that is

00:40:17.070 --> 00:40:24.060 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Because everything is a strategy. People don't realize that their life strategy. It's just an unconscious strategy for most and it can become conscious

00:40:24.690 --> 00:40:27.210 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: They can have a conscious strategy or they can be unconscious

00:40:27.720 --> 00:40:36.510 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: But I know I'm inspired by it because every time I would come across an obstacle, I would find a solution, and I'm a solution or a guy, so I find a solution for their obstacles.

00:40:36.870 --> 00:40:42.330 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And I love prevent, you know, bringing that solution to them and having the light bulbs go on. That's what yeah

00:40:42.510 --> 00:40:50.670 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: You know when you're out there doing your, your radio show, you know, when you get caught up, you know, feedback from people, they call in, or they send him stuff they write in

00:40:51.210 --> 00:40:58.800 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And you know you've changed your life you know how inspiring that is you know how it that that's the most. That's what makes us all work. And that's the, that's the really everything

00:40:59.760 --> 00:41:14.490 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: The Making of the different so so you know I got thousands and thousands and thousands of feedbacks from people send letters and things like that that have the light bulbs going on. So I try my best to find the solution, every one of their obstacles. That's my job.

00:41:15.900 --> 00:41:24.540 Graham Dobbin: And you mean, you mentioned the breakthrough experience one of your one of your programs that you've got. So that's the essence of this people define that part of

00:41:24.810 --> 00:41:37.140 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: That's, that's one. I mean, I have about 80 courses that I teach. That's the kind of the first level of one I've done it 1115 times I'm about to do it in London. Next week, so that we 1216 times

00:41:37.980 --> 00:41:44.490 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I've done that one in 66 countries. So I'm I love doing that, but I am it's it's a mind blower.

00:41:44.790 --> 00:41:51.270 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: It's, it's literally what it is. It's the breakthrough experience. It's about helping people break through whatever they perceive in the way and turn it on the way.

00:41:51.720 --> 00:42:00.270 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: That's what the whole weekend is dedicated to doing. I don't know what it is. It may be relationship issues, maybe health issues and maybe financial issues business issues I've developed

00:42:00.690 --> 00:42:06.060 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Information and all those arenas to help people maximize all there's any area of our life, we don't empower

00:42:06.300 --> 00:42:15.510 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Other people overpowers and the reason they're doing that is to frustrate us enough to get us empowered and get us back on track of what's authentic. Everything is guiding us to our authenticity.

00:42:16.500 --> 00:42:27.930 Graham Dobbin: Yeah, because I mean one of, one of the things that you set with sadness said at the very beginning was the programs, look at you know the financial side looks at leadership weeks it

00:42:28.590 --> 00:42:39.480 Graham Dobbin: So you feel that there's a chord in there that can be can be dealt with. And it, and is it looking at everything then because I think it was leadership Financial Empowerment self development programs relationships which

00:42:40.110 --> 00:42:53.370 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I am I set out when I was 18 to wake up my genius and I defined it state every genius. I was able to get my hands on from throughout the ages. Find out what's the common threads to it.

00:42:53.970 --> 00:43:00.210 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And create a science around that and to wake up masterful you know brain capacities.

00:43:00.870 --> 00:43:11.070 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I also wanted to create a global business, which I've got, I wanted to create an financial independence which I have a global family which I have. I live on a ship called the world which it goes around the world. So I that's where I live.

00:43:12.300 --> 00:43:18.570 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I want to have social influence which I have, I want to have a vital body, which I think for 66 I got more energy than most people.

00:43:18.930 --> 00:43:24.510 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Lot less than that age, and I want to have an inspired to mission that makes a difference, regardless of

00:43:24.900 --> 00:43:33.300 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: You know, philosophical existential or spiritual belief systems. I want to be able to do it I people from almost every religious group in my, in my student base so

00:43:33.810 --> 00:43:44.310 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I am i know i'm certain a human being can structure their life and design their life and live by design and not by just duty and live by design and live

00:43:45.390 --> 00:43:56.100 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: From an inspired very directed state that I believe our executive center is designed to be turned on and we have the capacity to do it. And there's a science to it. And so I LOVE SHIN

00:43:56.700 --> 00:44:06.570 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And all areas. There's no reason why you can empower all of them. If you don't want to. That's fine. But any when you don't. Somebody is going to overpower you just to get you a little catalyzed to go out there and start empowering it

00:44:08.400 --> 00:44:21.270 Graham Dobbin: Are you listening to my bank leadership live here from talk radio dot NYC. We're having a phenomenal conversation with dr john Dee Martini. After the break we're going to have a little chat, just with some of the social initiatives we have the

00:44:22.080 --> 00:44:30.750 Graham Dobbin: Queries passion lies just one. Oh really. How about a little bit delve into where the impact that's been. We'll be right back after these

00:44:34.260 --> 00:44:35.100 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: talk radio

00:44:35.310 --> 00:44:35.760 And my

00:46:53.580 --> 00:47:06.390 Graham Dobbin: Welcome back to the main behind the leadership, we're with dr john Dee Martini. Please tell us, Dr. Martini, you speak about social initiatives and what are you involved in what, what's your passion.

00:47:07.440 --> 00:47:08.370 Graham Dobbin: What, what's the impact

00:47:10.170 --> 00:47:18.540 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Well that varies. Anything to do with human behavior is obviously is intriguing to me. And that has ranged many different things that I've contributed

00:47:20.220 --> 00:47:23.220 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: But as you probably would imagine education is big.

00:47:24.690 --> 00:47:29.220 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: So I've had the opportunity to do a lot with education with youth.

00:47:30.600 --> 00:47:49.950 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: In school systems educational systems, helping waking genius help them. I can share it. Maybe I should one please stuff in South Africa. We had an opportunity work with Raymond Martin, who is the head of the Board of Education there in the tang area and

00:47:51.210 --> 00:47:57.150 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: He allowed me to go to the Alexandria Township now went to number townships, but I went to the Alexander attention.

00:47:58.440 --> 00:48:09.450 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And there you know the the average income, there is around four to $600 a year, and sometimes they have eight or nine kids and they're living in a shack. So it's not high social economics.

00:48:10.440 --> 00:48:18.390 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And they had a school system there that wasn't doing so great and I could, I mean it's, it was actually heart affecting watching it.

00:48:19.500 --> 00:48:28.710 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And we went in there. We first spoke to principal and then we got with the teachers and then we got with the students. Then we got with the teachers and students. We had four four hour sessions.

00:48:30.210 --> 00:48:34.680 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And what I did is I took the teachers and identified what their highest values for

00:48:36.750 --> 00:48:49.560 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Then did conditioning and association linking in the brain between the classes that they were going to teach and their highest values. So they'd be more engaged because if you don't have engaged teachers kids don't want to be there.

00:48:51.030 --> 00:48:59.430 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Then we went into the students and we found out what their highest values are we then did the same thing and took all the classes that were taken and linked it

00:48:59.910 --> 00:49:03.990 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And this is a four hour session, we did for for our sessions over one year.

00:49:04.860 --> 00:49:07.230 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And we linked all the classes because a student

00:49:07.560 --> 00:49:16.140 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: loves learning. There's no such thing as a student anyone learn. They just want to learn what's important to them. And if they're in a class and they don't see what those classes are going to get what they want. They're not engaged.

00:49:16.890 --> 00:49:23.430 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And they going to be labeled Defiant Disorder, attention deficit, they'll put all these labels on them stick on medication and then

00:49:23.940 --> 00:49:31.740 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Screw with their heads. So what I'm what I went in there and then I linked all the classes showed him how to link their classes engage them in the classes.

00:49:32.460 --> 00:49:39.420 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Then we have one more session where we link the teachers values to the students values and we did all the cross linking for four hours.

00:49:40.380 --> 00:49:47.790 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Because otherwise there's this autocracy where the teacher talks down to the students and doesn't honor their unique expression of what they're geniuses.

00:49:48.630 --> 00:49:53.730 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Because if they're not able to go and pursue and see the relationship between any of the classes are taking

00:49:54.180 --> 00:49:58.710 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And they're not being honored for their own unique pathway, whatever it may be, even if it's temporary

00:49:59.460 --> 00:50:05.520 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: They're going to shut down and they're gonna withdraw and they're going to then they're going to go into their Midlands to their executive function, they're going to go off and

00:50:05.820 --> 00:50:15.150 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Do drugs and do get pregnant and, you know, all kinds of things. Yeah. So what we did is we went in there and before we started. They had a 27% pass rate.

00:50:17.070 --> 00:50:17.700 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And matric

00:50:19.290 --> 00:50:21.660 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: In one year, it went to 97

00:50:23.640 --> 00:50:30.780 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Because once they saw teachers that are now engaged. Once they saw students that could get what they want and being there.

00:50:31.170 --> 00:50:38.670 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Nobody goes to work for the sake of a company, they go to work to fulfill what they value most no student goes to school for the sake of school, they go there.

00:50:39.000 --> 00:50:45.030 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: For the sake of learning what's inspiring to them if they can't see how that any of this stuff is going to be inspired to them, they're shutting down

00:50:45.720 --> 00:50:56.010 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: So that's one of the initiatives anything to do with education and engaging children in learning and waking up their genius activating genius of potential means a lot to me.

00:50:57.030 --> 00:50:57.210 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: As

00:50:57.900 --> 00:51:09.690 Graham Dobbin: I can and I can relate to that a small project in Limpopo in in South Africa about 10 years ago and the matriculation rate was was exactly the same. It was it was under 30%

00:51:09.900 --> 00:51:11.370 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: It was, yeah. You can see it.

00:51:12.120 --> 00:51:22.980 Graham Dobbin: Yeah, the desire once something's ignited when people can see just you know that there is something else there is. It's amazing how to get how to get not not not from with thing.

00:51:23.280 --> 00:51:27.540 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Just to buy ice I spoke to 800 students at that school

00:51:28.890 --> 00:51:35.220 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And I received letters from those students. I gave them all. I get in contact, where they can reach me

00:51:36.270 --> 00:51:36.630 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And

00:51:37.800 --> 00:51:43.290 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Over the next three or four years, the trajectory of a lot of those children's lives change. You can make a difference.

00:51:44.370 --> 00:51:46.170 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: No doubt in my mind, you can

00:51:47.190 --> 00:51:51.240 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And such a simple thing of 16 hours worth of work made a difference. Absolutely.

00:51:51.630 --> 00:52:01.350 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And so that's one initial I got initiatives, also with mediation between Palestinian Israeli I've got initiatives in educating people in on leadership.

00:52:01.950 --> 00:52:09.810 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: For people in leadership training systems. We got energy initiatives going on on health care because I got methods dealing with

00:52:10.140 --> 00:52:27.180 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: The a's and I dealing with people to post traumatic stress grief processes debt processes depressions. We've got an issue. I'm in the process, writing books on each of those topics so anywhere where I might be able to make a contribution with my knowledge. I'm in it and that varies

00:52:27.660 --> 00:52:41.340 Graham Dobbin: When you, when you look at something like skills in South Africa, and then a conflict situation like is Julian Palestinians, it's still a common ground. Is there still a common core of what the conversation. You're having or is it something completely different.

00:52:42.210 --> 00:52:44.310 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Know there's a common core and it's human values.

00:52:45.870 --> 00:52:46.740 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Nobody

00:52:48.330 --> 00:52:51.660 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Well, I think every human being wants to be loved and appreciated who they are.

00:52:53.400 --> 00:52:55.560 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And who they are as an expression what they value most

00:52:56.580 --> 00:53:00.870 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: That's the thing that accesses their meaning in their purpose and feels like they have a reason for living.

00:53:03.810 --> 00:53:11.190 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And they want to be loved for that. And the way you love that is to articulate. What's important to you in terms of what's important to them.

00:53:12.060 --> 00:53:28.950 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And there's a there's an art and a science of communication that's trainable. And it's mind boggling to watch the difference and how to how to build respect if I had the time I would share a story that's a mind blowing story with an Israeli leader.

00:53:29.700 --> 00:53:32.730 Graham Dobbin: It's a mind blowing. So we got we've got about three or four minutes left, so if the

00:53:33.120 --> 00:53:34.200 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Audio is short version of it.

00:53:34.260 --> 00:53:40.980 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Please. Here's somebody that's perceiving that the individual that's in that room is absolute evil.

00:53:42.150 --> 00:53:47.670 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And they're trying to resolve conflict with somebody who's absolute evil and they're misperception. Yep.

00:53:48.120 --> 00:53:59.010 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: That's a waste of time. They're not going to go anywhere with that because there's they're talking down to them. So I went in there and I asked her, What is define is absolutely about intolerance. That was one of the trains.

00:54:00.180 --> 00:54:11.250 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And she couldn't see that she couldn't reflect that in our own life. And I said, I said, Well, listen, go to a moment where and when you perceive yourself displaying are demonstrating intolerant. She goes, I've never done that I pride myself and never been that way.

00:54:12.540 --> 00:54:20.790 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And I they outlined all the examples of where I do that to start her on the journey of self reflection and introspection and she finally got to it and

00:54:21.420 --> 00:54:30.270 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: It took a lot of examples in our own life, to find the realize that she's doing the same thing. Then I asked her. Now go to a moment when he this individual is intolerant.

00:54:30.840 --> 00:54:37.260 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And she went there and I said, Now how did it serve you and she goes, it doesn't. I said, well, if you are black and white. There's no communication.

00:54:37.740 --> 00:54:41.760 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Black and white is a narrow mind. It's not seeing the ripple effect.

00:54:42.150 --> 00:54:56.880 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Of the consequences that are that are infinitive. So I said, so let's go in and find the benefits and I sat and I stacked up the benefits. Meanwhile, the gentleman that she's thinking is evil is sitting there listening and thinking the same thing back on her. And what's interesting is

00:54:57.930 --> 00:55:02.130 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: In a two and a half hour session I had her tears of gratitude for that man.

00:55:03.420 --> 00:55:05.430 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: By asking for questions.

00:55:07.320 --> 00:55:24.360 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And at the end, she's in tears and goes and cleans up her face with makeup and he comes up to me. He goes, I could have swore that conversation was about me and I said it was, she says. He said, My, my entire perception of this individual just change when she opened her heart just now.

00:55:25.500 --> 00:55:33.390 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And what you just took us through. I said, unless you can see how whatever their highest values are as helping you fulfill whatever your highest values are

00:55:33.750 --> 00:55:38.340 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: You're going to have a degradation and ultimately monologues of communication, instead of dialogue.

00:55:39.120 --> 00:55:45.330 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I said, until you have dialogue and respect of equal levels and there's an equity between you and them and equanimity within both of you.

00:55:46.200 --> 00:55:59.010 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: This conflict is going to continue as a result of trying to get you authentic because when you're proud or ashamed and you're talking down narcissistically or altruistically up, you're not going to be able to be a mastery of communicating from your heart.

00:56:00.090 --> 00:56:11.610 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And there's no solution running that pride mentality is only a solution when you actually get authentic and authenticity doesn't have Pride Or Shame. It has appreciation and love.

00:56:12.210 --> 00:56:21.720 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: And so there's a there's a science to that and I love teaching the human behavioral component of that communication because that applies in businesses corporate government, you name it.

00:56:22.020 --> 00:56:34.140 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: It plays in trying to change management because you have no resilience. When you're highly polarized and therefore you have inability to change a lot of resistance, but the second you have a neutrality a transcendent

00:56:34.830 --> 00:56:43.950 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: Non attached state of awareness, you have the capacity to adapt incrementally to anything that comes your way and seeing on the way, not in the way. See this feedback, not as failure.

00:56:44.850 --> 00:57:02.850 Graham Dobbin: Um, what an incredible story to end this interview. I'm dr john Dee Martini. I can't thank you enough for coming in and sharing with us your thoughts, your opinions and also the experiences that you've got. I'd love you to come back on the show, sometime in the future.

00:57:03.120 --> 00:57:08.490 Dr. John Demartini ~ Demartini Institute: I love your, your, your, your funding to be within have to talk more about Scotland.

00:57:10.470 --> 00:57:15.300 Graham Dobbin: You're listening to the value behind leadership will be speaking with dr john Dee martini this evening.

00:57:16.740 --> 00:57:26.100 Graham Dobbin: We're back here next Thursday, seven o'clock, same time, same place and talk radio dot NYC thanks to some live events and make messenger for your help this evening, good night.

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