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2020/08/20 - Knockout Presentations with Diane DiResta

[NEW EPISODE] Knockout Presentations with Diane DiResta

This week, on The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam welcomes Workplace Communications and Public Speaking Expert, Diane DiResta.

Diane is a media trainer, executive speech coach, and certified speech pathologist who works with executives in Fortune 500 companies, celebrities, and sports figures, to get them communicating with clarity and precision.

She trains business people to communicate with greater impact in the marketplace and coaches leaders to project their power to influence in order to achieve the result they want. She's also the author of the best-selling guide to public speaking and communicating from the platform, Knockout Presentations: How to Deliver Your Message With Power, Punch, and Pizzazz.

She has coached and consulted a vast number and range of clients, including executives at AT&T, Chase Manhattan Bank, Warner Brothers., the U.S. Army, the NBA, Merck, and IBM.

Tune in for this enlightening conversation or watch the Facebook Livestream by clicking here.

Show Notes
Segment 1

Sam begins the show with his quotes of the day. Mike Dooley’s quotes focus on feeling the things we want to feel. Sam talks about how we forget that the reason why we want the things we crave for is because of how it makes us feel. He emphasizes that it’s the feelings that are more important than the things. Sam shares an exercise that has helped his clients refocus on their feelings. After this quote, he shares a quote from Abraham on the Universe. Sam talks about the relationship between our actions and the energy we put into our lives. Following his quotes Sam introduces his quest, Diane DiResta. To begin, Sam asks Diane if she has always had an interesting speech and pathology. Diane shares her work history toward where she is today.

Segment 2

This segment begins with Diane talking about the challenges she faced during the early days and what she faces today. She touches on corporate culture and how technology - new and old - has affected her work. Diane and Sam discuss the current economic hardships and some of the general challenges business owners face today. In turn, they both share some tips for getting through not only this situation, but for others to come in the future.

Segment 3

Sam and Diane move on to the topic of communications. Diane talks about what has changed over the recent years and months. She speaks heavily about attention spans, and the presence of digital communications and having a “digital body language.” She touches on visuals, text communications, and engaging with others over video calls. Diane goes further on the topic of talking over video calls and reminds audiences to never forget the basics of public speaking.

Segment 4

This last segment, Diane talks about her husband, Ed, who was once in need of a kidney transplant. This led Diane to work on a virtual kidney awareness event. As she talks about some of the steps that go into kidney donors, Diane shares some of what she and the non-profit organization did to help make their awareness successful. Sam and Diane share how to learn more about Diane, her non-profit, and other resources those who are looking for donors can turn to.


00:00:24.870 --> 00:00:39.810 Sam Liebowitz: Good afternoon, my conscious co creators. Welcome to another edition of the conscious consultant. Our awakening humanity, I am very pleased that you are all here with me today.

00:00:40.470 --> 00:00:49.440 Sam Liebowitz: I've got a interesting show in store for us today with a wonderful guests who I personally know local a

00:00:49.980 --> 00:01:00.600 Sam Liebowitz: Fellow entrepreneur and business owner, who I will bring on board in just a moment. But first, of course, we have our quotes of the day.

00:01:01.140 --> 00:01:11.850 Sam Liebowitz: From Mike Dooley in the universe and from Abraham, let's get started with that already loyal listener Patty given me a lot to love here on on the Facebook Live thank you Patty.

00:01:12.660 --> 00:01:21.900 Sam Liebowitz: Good. You're having a good day. You still out in Tucson. I'm sure you're still having to sign. All right, let's get started. First from the universe.

00:01:22.530 --> 00:01:33.120 Sam Liebowitz: Okay, for just five minutes. Forget the box forget your soulmate to forget the new car, the home run and being on Oprah.

00:01:33.900 --> 00:01:57.270 Sam Liebowitz: Forget your fears your problems and your pain. And during those five minutes. Feel the feelings you most want to feel for the rest of your life. It might seem awkward. That's okay. It might seem silly to and I can just about guarantee at first, it'll feel utterly futile.

00:01:58.560 --> 00:02:13.350 Sam Liebowitz: Until your entire life begins to change. If I were a beggar. I beg you, if I prayed and question marks. This is what it asked for. And if I could implore you to do anything. Let this be it.

00:02:13.830 --> 00:02:23.070 Sam Liebowitz: Because nothing else that you might ever do will have a profound effect on your fortunes friendships and happiness.

00:02:23.370 --> 00:02:36.990 Sam Liebowitz: In navigating the illusions manifesting what you want and avoiding what you dread as this little five minute trill performed just once a day on as many days as you can remember to do it.

00:02:37.740 --> 00:02:50.280 Sam Liebowitz: And just so you know, if you do this right now, or even every day for the rest of your life. I'll add back those five minutes to each of those days you do it too.

00:02:50.850 --> 00:03:07.050 Sam Liebowitz: I'll just sneak them in there and they'll feel like 10 hosannas in the highest the universe. We love our quotes from Mike Dooley in the universe, having a wee bit of fun with us today. I think, but also reminding us that

00:03:09.900 --> 00:03:20.310 Sam Liebowitz: spending some time and you know Mike Dooley is very big on the visualization stuff, but he's actually not just talking about visualization is talking about.

00:03:21.000 --> 00:03:31.680 Sam Liebowitz: Feeling the feelings. We want to feel. And this is something that I think is very key because it's very easy for us to get a little bit too attached them a little bit too caught up in

00:03:32.100 --> 00:03:40.260 Sam Liebowitz: The thing that we want to create that we want to manifest in life that we want to bring to into our world.

00:03:41.370 --> 00:03:48.660 Sam Liebowitz: And we often forget that sometimes. And look, I'm guilty of this as anyone else. But we often forget that.

00:03:49.620 --> 00:04:07.260 Sam Liebowitz: Oh, the reason why we want the things. The reason why we want the new car, we want the nice home. We want the lasting friendships and the great career and job and business and whatever else is because of how it makes us feel

00:04:08.850 --> 00:04:18.870 Sam Liebowitz: And what the universe is trying to remind us here is that it's the feeling that's more important than the thing itself, and indeed.

00:04:19.770 --> 00:04:38.970 Sam Liebowitz: If we allow ourselves to just feel what it is that we want to feel like that's the whole purpose of it anyway, that it's all adjust an excuse to really help us to feel. I don't want to sing better

00:04:40.050 --> 00:04:41.670 Sam Liebowitz: It's really

00:04:43.410 --> 00:04:48.510 Sam Liebowitz: Energetically vibrate or energetically

00:04:49.650 --> 00:04:54.270 Sam Liebowitz: Can connect to ourselves in a way that serves us better

00:04:55.770 --> 00:05:09.990 Sam Liebowitz: I try and stay away from these, like, you know, positive and negative terms and and the right versus wrong because it's a very dualistic way of looking at things and I really believe that everything is here to serve us but

00:05:10.920 --> 00:05:15.780 Sam Liebowitz: In this case what I believe the universe is trying to remind us. And this is something that Abraham

00:05:16.350 --> 00:05:31.830 Sam Liebowitz: Not in this next quote. But in general, talks about a lot that it's all just an excuse to feel better because let's face it, what are we most attracted to were attracted to people who are fun energetic lively full of life.

00:05:33.120 --> 00:05:41.070 Sam Liebowitz: And if we like being around those kinds of people who do you think they are attracted to people who are fun energetic and full of life.

00:05:41.580 --> 00:05:51.360 Sam Liebowitz: And so the more fun energetic and full of life, we are, the more we're going to bring into us into our lives, the very things that we want.

00:05:51.990 --> 00:06:05.430 Sam Liebowitz: And indeed it not just bringing in those things. But the life experiences that we want and and the joy that we want. And it's really all an excuse. You know, they say that really

00:06:06.660 --> 00:06:22.500 Sam Liebowitz: We don't have to let our happiness, and our joy and our energy be subservient to what happens in the outside in, in what happens around us. It's all about what's inside of us.

00:06:22.800 --> 00:06:28.740 Sam Liebowitz: And, you know, often when I work with my clients. I usually if they don't believe me, I say, Look, just close your eyes for a minute.

00:06:29.640 --> 00:06:40.590 Sam Liebowitz: Think about a happy memory, put yourself back in that situation, what clothes were you wearing what kind of a day. Was it What smells were there. What do you see the colors and everything else.

00:06:41.610 --> 00:06:46.530 Sam Liebowitz: Now, how do you feel and inevitably they feel happy, joyful amazing

00:06:47.640 --> 00:07:00.570 Sam Liebowitz: But nothing on the outside shifted it was completely an internal state shift. And that's why if we spend some time each and every day. We're programming our minds, where our nervous systems, our bodies.

00:07:01.050 --> 00:07:13.830 Sam Liebowitz: To feel better. And when we feel better. We're more empowered, we're able to do more create more and we're more likely to bring to us, the very things we desire.

00:07:15.150 --> 00:07:34.380 Sam Liebowitz: So this is such an important exercise and I can't say that I do it every day. But I do know that when I do do it just the rest of the day. Feels so good. So I would implore you to listen to the universe today just spend that five minutes, you know, maybe

00:07:35.670 --> 00:07:43.890 Sam Liebowitz: You know, before you get out of the shower in the morning or before you start turning on the computer and getting on the phone calls, before you eat breakfast or

00:07:44.910 --> 00:07:52.320 Sam Liebowitz: You know, whenever you can sneak in and or maybe at the end of the day, whatever you can sneak it into your day just spending that little bit of time.

00:07:52.650 --> 00:08:02.910 Sam Liebowitz: To visualize how it is you want to feel can really make a big difference. Awesome. Alright, great quote from the universe today. Let's see what Abraham has in store for us. This one's a little bit shorter.

00:08:04.320 --> 00:08:11.280 Sam Liebowitz: It's not your work to make anything happen. It's your work to dream it and let it happen.

00:08:11.760 --> 00:08:20.100 Sam Liebowitz: Law of Attraction will make it happen in your joy you create something and then you maintain your vibrational harmony with it.

00:08:20.460 --> 00:08:31.830 Sam Liebowitz: And the universe must find a way to bring it about. It's the promise of Law of Attraction Abraham, so obviously to very much in alignment quotes today.

00:08:32.400 --> 00:08:48.300 Sam Liebowitz: And and again what Abraham is saying is it's not about doing the work. Now again, this is not to say that you shouldn't do any work. It's not to say that, you know, action does not help but what Abraham often says is that it is our

00:08:49.410 --> 00:09:01.470 Sam Liebowitz: Alignment energetic alignment to the very thing we want to bring into our lives that when we do that first. Then our actions are so much more potent

00:09:01.800 --> 00:09:20.520 Sam Liebowitz: And then the ease with which we bring things in is so much better. And again, it goes back to the first quote about, you know, just visualizing how we want to feel and that feelings is what the universe really reads and it's what people feel around us. It's what

00:09:21.930 --> 00:09:44.160 Sam Liebowitz: You know, I, for those of you who know like I'm really into quantum physics and on a on a very base level below the molecules below the atoms. What are we made up of it's all energy that's what Einstein's famous quote equals MC squared. That's what it's all about energy equals matter.

00:09:45.420 --> 00:09:58.920 Sam Liebowitz: Which means that we are energy made manifest in this material world. And if we are energy, everything is energy around us just condense different ways to look differently.

00:09:59.460 --> 00:10:10.530 Sam Liebowitz: Than it's our energy that's so important. So it's our energy that we need to pay attention to. And that's what both of these quotes are all about.

00:10:10.950 --> 00:10:35.670 Sam Liebowitz: It's all about our energy. So I hope that you really take this in today and and not just take it in. But utilize it. How can this idea of lining up with the feeling and paying attention to the feeling and help you in what you want to create in your life.

00:10:37.290 --> 00:10:43.080 Sam Liebowitz: Okay, so two wonderful, amazing quotes from my Julian the universe and from Abraham

00:10:44.460 --> 00:10:50.880 Sam Liebowitz: They're always so wonderful for setting the tone for the show and and now it is my pleasure.

00:10:51.630 --> 00:10:59.280 Sam Liebowitz: To introduce to you, Diane arrested Diane is a workplace Communications and Public Speaking expert.

00:10:59.640 --> 00:11:14.850 Sam Liebowitz: Diane is a media trainer and executive speech coach and certified speech pathologist who works with executives and fortune 500 companies celebrities and sports figures to get them communicating with clarity and precision. She's no slouch. Okay.

00:11:15.420 --> 00:11:27.000 Sam Liebowitz: She trains business people to communicate with greater impact in the marketplace and coaches leaders to project their power to influence in order to achieve the results we want

00:11:27.390 --> 00:11:33.030 Sam Liebowitz: They want she's also the author of the Amazon best selling guide to public speaking and communicating

00:11:33.360 --> 00:11:46.140 Sam Liebowitz: Called knockout presentations, how to deliver your message with power punch and Pizzazz. She's coached and consulted a vast number and a wide range of clients, including executives at at AMP T Chase.

00:11:47.040 --> 00:11:59.130 Sam Liebowitz: Bank Warner Brothers, the US Army. The NBA Merck and IBM and it is my pleasure to welcome my friend and arrested to the show today. Welcome, Diane to the conscious consultant hour

00:11:59.370 --> 00:12:03.420 Diane DiResta: Thank you, Sam and I love your music that made me feel good.

00:12:05.160 --> 00:12:05.940 Diane DiResta: Perfect.

00:12:06.360 --> 00:12:11.790 Sam Liebowitz: Thank you. Thank you. Well, you know, if you're gonna be have a show called The conscious consultant. How are you gonna have to be

00:12:11.790 --> 00:12:12.810 Diane DiResta: Perfect. Right.

00:12:14.040 --> 00:12:29.550 Sam Liebowitz: Wonderful. So I'm you're a certified speech pathologist. So I'm curious, have you always have like a drive or an interest about speech and speaking. I mean, is this something that's always been a part of your life, or is this

00:12:29.580 --> 00:12:31.350 Sam Liebowitz: Never developed a little bit later.

00:12:31.440 --> 00:12:38.190 Diane DiResta: It's funny that you say that because my first goal was to be a teacher and I was going to major in

00:12:38.550 --> 00:12:49.950 Diane DiResta: English because it was my favorite subject and teach it in high school, but there were no jobs at the time. And so I had to find a new career. So when I was in college, I took my first public speaking course which was required.

00:12:50.310 --> 00:13:02.730 Diane DiResta: And I learned about speech pathology from a professor. So I checked it out and I liked it. And that's how that happened. But now when I go back over my past, I realized that as a child I was correcting people's speech.

00:13:03.000 --> 00:13:10.320 Diane DiResta: And I think one of the reasons is yeah i'm sure was really popular. One of the reasons was I grew up in a military family.

00:13:10.440 --> 00:13:19.290 Diane DiResta: So even though we're from Brooklyn. I lived in Germany twice in North Carolina, Oklahoma, etc. So I didn't have a thick Brooklyn accent. So I would get

00:13:19.680 --> 00:13:29.520 Diane DiResta: compliments on my speech, but I would also developed an ear and I would hear certain sounds and I would correct them. So it's funny, the seeds were there. I just didn't realize

00:13:31.980 --> 00:13:33.150 Sam Liebowitz: See, I see.

00:13:33.840 --> 00:13:34.740 Diane DiResta: So I, I

00:13:35.070 --> 00:13:40.590 Diane DiResta: Still have my certification. I haven't practiced clinically for years, but that was my first career so I

00:13:40.920 --> 00:13:47.820 Diane DiResta: Worked in the Brooklyn schools for about eight years and then decided that there wasn't much of a career path in the Board of Education.

00:13:48.090 --> 00:13:57.960 Diane DiResta: And went to work for a company that did stand up presentations and that was my foray into business. And then from there I worked at Salomon Brothers as a management trainer.

00:13:58.290 --> 00:14:11.340 Diane DiResta: And then as a VP assistant vice president at Drexel Burnham for their institutional sales and trading training program. And what was that that meant I went on campuses and recruited MBAs for the trading floor. And so here's what I learned.

00:14:11.760 --> 00:14:17.880 Diane DiResta: I love the pace. I like the work I was doing. I liked the money. I did not like the culture of Wall Street.

00:14:18.150 --> 00:14:22.140 Diane DiResta: So I left. And by the way, this is really important when you talk about

00:14:22.200 --> 00:14:34.470 Diane DiResta: Consciousness and the conscious consultant, I found that most people are in the wrong jobs, not because of skill, but because of culture, it's not the right fit culturally and so

00:14:35.160 --> 00:14:50.640 Diane DiResta: I realized that wasn't for me and started freelancing, with the intention of finding a full time training manager job now as I was going. My intention my consciousness was about finding a job and yet I would say this is my personality. I'm

00:14:50.910 --> 00:14:51.360 Diane DiResta: Doing this

00:14:51.570 --> 00:15:01.140 Diane DiResta: But I didn't have the confidence. I didn't think I had enough experience. I didn't think I knew enough and I'll credit my husband who would say you know enough. You haven't experienced so

00:15:01.770 --> 00:15:14.640 Diane DiResta: Fast forward. Two years later, I'm offered a full time training manager position and my husband hears me on the phone at home and he said, You don't want that job. I said, What do you mean you don't sound excited. What do you think

00:15:15.120 --> 00:15:16.920 Diane DiResta: He's going to offer you more money.

00:15:17.040 --> 00:15:17.670 Diane DiResta: And he did.

00:15:18.300 --> 00:15:20.070 Diane DiResta: And I still turned it down.

00:15:20.310 --> 00:15:24.390 Diane DiResta: Because that's when you know when you were talking earlier about feeling and consciousness.

00:15:24.870 --> 00:15:40.440 Diane DiResta: To trust those feelings. So even though I was in the unknown zone. I didn't know what I was doing. I had no business courses at all. I turned this down because my heart wasn't in it. And so that was the deciding factor that I guess I'm in business for myself.

00:15:40.890 --> 00:15:51.030 Sam Liebowitz: All right, great, great. I want you to hold it there because we're going to take a quick break a great, that's a great spot for us to break on but yeah it's it's funny because I also worked on Wall Street for about

00:15:52.110 --> 00:16:05.610 Sam Liebowitz: How long. Well, I was in financial services for about six years. I think I worked on Wall Street, about three or four years. It's almost like a rite of passage in New York City at least back then I have some job connected to the finances.

00:16:05.670 --> 00:16:19.380 Sam Liebowitz: Right, I'm totally with you. I, I loved. I was doing computer work and I was working with people and and i love the work I was doing. But yes, I totally did not like the culture as well. So it's, it's just kind of funny how

00:16:20.340 --> 00:16:27.630 Sam Liebowitz: You know when you pay attention to the things that are important to you that you end up taking a different path.

00:16:27.720 --> 00:16:30.120 Sam Liebowitz: Than you necessarily consciously think makes

00:16:30.120 --> 00:16:30.900 Sam Liebowitz: Sense. Right.

00:16:31.110 --> 00:16:36.870 Sam Liebowitz: Right. All right. Wonderful. So we're gonna take a quick break and when we come back.

00:16:37.470 --> 00:16:47.460 Sam Liebowitz: Let's start to, I want to talk a little bit about you know that this idea of being a speech coach since starting your business and then sort of what you've learned over the years that really

00:16:48.060 --> 00:16:55.830 Sam Liebowitz: You find it informs what you're doing today, right, because a lot of people are are saying like, oh, things are totally different today you

00:16:55.950 --> 00:16:57.150 Sam Liebowitz: Have to be different but

00:16:57.270 --> 00:17:07.560 Sam Liebowitz: We've also learned a lot in the process. So let's talk about sort of what we've learned and and kind of apply it and then work it into how we apply to today. All right.

00:17:08.490 --> 00:17:23.970 Sam Liebowitz: So everybody please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consultant. Our awakening humanity we do this live every Thursday 12 noon to 1pm eastern time right here on talk radio dot NYC and all over Facebook Live and we will be right back after this

00:19:31.200 --> 00:19:47.610 Sam Liebowitz: Welcome back to the conscious consultant. Our awakening humanity. We're speaking today with the end or esta an expert in speaking and communication. So Diane you you've been out, I guess, relatively early on that.

00:19:49.110 --> 00:19:56.160 Sam Liebowitz: You know, you really thrived more being your own boss then then working for somebody

00:19:56.160 --> 00:20:08.880 Sam Liebowitz: Else. And how was it. What was it like the first couple of years when you started doing this as a business as opposed to a job. What were the challenges you had to overcome in the early days.

00:20:09.510 --> 00:20:17.820 Diane DiResta: Well, there were a lot of challenges because I didn't know what I was doing and I wasn't totally committed, because remember, I was looking for that other full time job, but

00:20:19.050 --> 00:20:29.430 Diane DiResta: Just getting basic supplies knowing what my I did not know how I was differentiated knowing what products. I was going to sell. So here's how I started

00:20:29.790 --> 00:20:36.600 Diane DiResta: I was a jack of all trades and an extra pair of hands for hire. So in the beginning, I would start with

00:20:36.900 --> 00:20:43.740 Diane DiResta: Doing someone sales training doing someone's outplacement. So that's how I got my leg, so to speak.

00:20:44.070 --> 00:20:56.460 Diane DiResta: And then from there, I said, Well, I don't really want to be freelance all the time. So what is my expertise. So for today, or as of today, my three areas of expertise, our presentation.

00:20:57.390 --> 00:21:07.050 Diane DiResta: interpersonal communication and media training and that's all under the umbrella of executive presence that wasn't the case when I started, but I started to look at where am I putting most of my energy

00:21:07.320 --> 00:21:13.680 Diane DiResta: And I started to consolidate and I realized it was important to be streamlined rather than having all of these programs and being

00:21:14.700 --> 00:21:25.020 Diane DiResta: A training house, so to speak. So that's where some of the challenges, finding good help accountants, lawyers that still continues to be a challenge. Good bookkeepers

00:21:26.070 --> 00:21:35.130 Diane DiResta: Setting up systems, all of that, knowing how to find business and I couldn't tell you have any system because I kind of just put one foot in front of the other.

00:21:35.550 --> 00:21:51.660 Diane DiResta: But today, it's I think it's even more challenging. There are some easier resources because we're so connected technologically, but on the other hand, it's the bar is very high. Now, so when I first started

00:21:52.740 --> 00:21:58.080 Diane DiResta: It was easier now they have all of these big training companies, big coaching companies.

00:21:58.320 --> 00:21:59.250 Diane DiResta: Big learning

00:21:59.790 --> 00:22:10.980 Diane DiResta: Management Systems. And so it becomes harder for the individual or small business to compete there because sometimes they can come in and take the entire Corporation

00:22:11.280 --> 00:22:14.490 Diane DiResta: And have an exclusive so that becomes a little bit more challenging.

00:22:14.730 --> 00:22:31.980 Diane DiResta: You also have to know more technology today. Yeah, in terms of the software and what it's doing. And then what happens is if something goes down, it'll bring you to your knees, whereas before you know you had a Rolodex that's how long I've been in business and

00:22:33.420 --> 00:22:44.700 Diane DiResta: A paper calendar. It was a lot easier. It was simpler. So in some ways the technology has made life easier or more connected in some ways it's also more complex.

00:22:45.180 --> 00:22:49.290 Sam Liebowitz: Yeah, it's kind of like it's lowered the barrier to entry.

00:22:49.320 --> 00:22:59.220 Sam Liebowitz: Yes, but then it's because the barrier to entry is lowered more people are doing more things. So then the standards are higher. So you have to do more. You have to distinguish yourself more

00:22:59.850 --> 00:23:05.010 Sam Liebowitz: You know, you have to stand out from the crowd more because it's not much more crowded now because it's easier to get in.

00:23:05.280 --> 00:23:23.910 Diane DiResta: And that's another difference the competition wasn't as extreme as it is today. Why, because during the 90s. We had all of those layoffs. So what a lot of people did is they just put out a shingle. And so I've had people who were my clients who hired me who are now my competitors.

00:23:24.120 --> 00:23:26.730 Diane DiResta: So there you know you and you have to keep

00:23:27.000 --> 00:23:31.950 Diane DiResta: On reinventing because the pace of life is so much faster now.

00:23:32.430 --> 00:23:36.150 Diane DiResta: And so what was true yesterday is obsolete today.

00:23:37.710 --> 00:23:48.510 Sam Liebowitz: And and you know it's interesting that you say that in that, you know, because of all the layoffs and in 2009 and 2008 2000 well in

00:23:48.990 --> 00:23:57.210 Sam Liebowitz: The 90s and then again in 2008 2009 and now that's kind of one of the things I'm hearing from people is that

00:23:58.170 --> 00:24:05.130 Sam Liebowitz: This is now another big push were many more people like the jobs are just not there.

00:24:05.730 --> 00:24:14.790 Sam Liebowitz: And so people have to find a way to be entrepreneurial in some fashion and kind of find a way to make money without working for someone else and

00:24:15.450 --> 00:24:27.000 Sam Liebowitz: It was interesting. I had a conversation with a friend of mine, Cynthia and she had said that like she'd been talking with a lot of thought leaders in the business world and that they had said like they're like

00:24:27.540 --> 00:24:41.910 Sam Liebowitz: This was like. Couple of years ago to three years ago that like 25 to 30% of people work for themselves and like 70 to 75% of people worked for other people.

00:24:42.840 --> 00:24:53.040 Sam Liebowitz: And but over the next they were saying like 10 1520 years that was going to shift to be like 75% of the people working for themselves and 25% working for

00:24:53.310 --> 00:25:03.720 Sam Liebowitz: For other people and but like now with what's happened with the pandemic and everything. Its accelerated that thing. So it's going to happen in like a couple of years, as opposed to a decade or

00:25:03.720 --> 00:25:07.020 Diane DiResta: Two. Yes. And we already call it the gig economy.

00:25:07.590 --> 00:25:11.640 Diane DiResta: Right, right. So you have places like fiber and

00:25:12.720 --> 00:25:15.990 Diane DiResta: Is it unflashy they're all of these places where you can get

00:25:16.170 --> 00:25:19.320 Diane DiResta: Or freelancers to help. So, in one way, that's very good.

00:25:19.650 --> 00:25:24.600 Diane DiResta: But we just have to stay ahead of the curve and the current and

00:25:24.990 --> 00:25:33.300 Diane DiResta: Figure out what's needed in the market, you know that the good news though is whenever you have any kind of downturn, there seems to be this other parallel path where people

00:25:33.600 --> 00:25:50.310 Diane DiResta: Are starting up and they're coming up with innovative products and you can have these young millionaires in a matter of years, whereas other people who've had that traditional path that's not really open as much anymore. So here we have to really changed the way we've been doing business.

00:25:50.670 --> 00:26:08.580 Sam Liebowitz: Absolutely, absolutely. I mean, lots of people point out how like some of the most innovative companies were started in recessions and in bad times because you have to think differently. I mean, so many of like the current a big companies like Airbnb.

00:26:08.640 --> 00:26:15.960 Sam Liebowitz: Uber, you know, all those kinds of world started in like 2007 2008 2009

00:26:16.470 --> 00:26:37.650 Sam Liebowitz: And like Apple and Microsoft, they were all started in the 70s and 80s when there was an economic downturn. So in some ways it's like when things are more challenging it almost pulls out of us more creativity that allows us to come up with something new that then turns into

00:26:37.950 --> 00:26:44.940 Diane DiResta: Something differently. And that's the message of hope for everybody. I believe the game Monopoly was invented during the Great Depression.

00:26:45.120 --> 00:27:05.010 Diane DiResta: And it's still still selling. So yeah, I mean, and just to let people know when you've been in business, a number of years, I would say, I've been through everything every layoff every freeze on consultants every recession 911 Sandy, all of it. But this is different.

00:27:05.100 --> 00:27:08.730 Diane DiResta: So just when you think you've been through it all, there's some other things. So

00:27:09.120 --> 00:27:18.690 Diane DiResta: I would say it's really important when, in terms of communication to be flexible, gotta be able to adapt and to be flexible and to be resilient.

00:27:19.260 --> 00:27:34.500 Diane DiResta: And to to plan for these that I couldn't have planned. You couldn't have planned for this. Who knew, but I would say the thing that's kept me in business so long is cash reserves. So I know that if I have to. I can live off my savings. Not that I want to do that.

00:27:34.740 --> 00:27:39.210 Diane DiResta: But there are times when it's raining and you have to reach into that.

00:27:39.390 --> 00:27:41.130 Diane DiResta: So I would encourage everybody

00:27:41.580 --> 00:27:58.620 Sam Liebowitz: To say, and I think this is like in some ways I was seeing. Personally, I was seeing like cycles speeding up of the up and down cycles. I felt were really speeding up in society, and it was calling us to be more flexible, more adaptable.

00:27:58.890 --> 00:28:06.240 Sam Liebowitz: But we still kind of held on to like the old ways of doing things. And I think what the current situation is like preparing us is like

00:28:06.930 --> 00:28:11.070 Sam Liebowitz: Boom. It's like you have to be flexible. You have to be adaptable, just to survive.

00:28:11.430 --> 00:28:27.330 Sam Liebowitz: And personally, this is just my own sort of intuitive feeling like this isn't going to be our only challenge that's going to totally change the way we do things. Now this is just the major one for the century right that's happened so far and that there's going to be more coming.

00:28:27.390 --> 00:28:34.380 Sam Liebowitz: And more coming. And they're going to be different things and they're going to be different kinds of challenges and they're going to call us to just think differently.

00:28:34.650 --> 00:28:42.360 Sam Liebowitz: And be able to pivot on a dime. And this is where being an entrepreneur and being a small business owner actually works to our advantages.

00:28:42.390 --> 00:28:42.810 Diane DiResta: Once he

00:28:42.900 --> 00:28:47.220 Sam Liebowitz: Was larger companies have a much harder time they're like this giant tanker that

00:28:47.460 --> 00:28:48.060 Sam Liebowitz: You know, to

00:28:48.420 --> 00:28:56.100 Sam Liebowitz: To turn them, it takes like days. You know when you're on the ocean. But if you're in a small little speed boat. You can turn much more quickly.

00:28:56.880 --> 00:29:00.060 Diane DiResta: Yes, and I don't think this is

00:29:01.500 --> 00:29:14.190 Diane DiResta: An accident. I think that this event is just like the Industrial Revolution, it is moving humanity in a different way, we are evolving, whether good, bad, whatever. And so let's think of it this way, Sam.

00:29:14.760 --> 00:29:29.550 Diane DiResta: People wanted to work from home and their bosses, they know it doesn't work. I need you here. Now they have to work for from home and they're finding, hey, this does work. So I really believe that we're going to have more of a hybrid. I don't think we're going to go back to the old normal

00:29:29.670 --> 00:29:30.090 Sam Liebowitz: Yes.

00:29:30.270 --> 00:29:40.290 Diane DiResta: We're going to have a hybrid and we are communicating differently. We didn't communicate this way. We had some online communication, but we have to show up differently, right.

00:29:40.440 --> 00:29:48.960 Sam Liebowitz: Absolutely and that's a great point. We need to take our next break. But when we come back I want to talk about communications that's that's really your expertise.

00:29:49.230 --> 00:30:01.650 Sam Liebowitz: And and what's different about communications today and what do we need to be mindful of when we communicate with people in the current environment that the different than maybe what we were used to doing in the past. Okay. Damn.

00:30:02.040 --> 00:30:15.450 Sam Liebowitz: Sure. Wonderful. So everybody please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consultant. Our awakening humanity sour. We're talking to Diane director Communications and Public Speaking expert and we'll be right back after this

00:32:32.310 --> 00:32:51.930 Sam Liebowitz: And welcome back to the conscious consultant. Our awakening humanity. We do this every Thursday 12 noon to 1pm eastern time right here on talk radio dot NYC and on facebook live all over the place. We're talking this hour with Diane arrest a public speaking and communications expert.

00:32:53.010 --> 00:32:55.260 Sam Liebowitz: So Diane, you've been doing this for a while.

00:32:56.640 --> 00:33:02.280 Sam Liebowitz: And we were talking the end of last segment, how things are really different. Now, and calling us to be more flexible.

00:33:03.180 --> 00:33:21.060 Sam Liebowitz: What what's really changed when it comes to communications. Now, whether it's public speaking executive communications communicating with customers. What do we need to keep in mind that maybe is different than the way it was just, you know, six, seven months ago.

00:33:21.930 --> 00:33:27.990 Diane DiResta: Well, I don't know about six or seven months, but I will tell you that the attention span has really shortened.

00:33:28.500 --> 00:33:34.590 Diane DiResta: And, you know, they'll say a goldfish has an attention span of eight seconds and a human has an attention span of seven.

00:33:35.040 --> 00:33:40.710 Diane DiResta: You know, it's a joke, but it really isn't too far off. In fact, let's say you're doing video

00:33:41.070 --> 00:33:50.190 Diane DiResta: I would say, change the frame every four seconds and how do I know that I tested it, because I have a short attention span. I'm easily bored and I was watching a video and I noticed

00:33:50.580 --> 00:33:54.030 Diane DiResta: Every time I was about to fast forward, it would flash and it would change.

00:33:54.330 --> 00:34:06.090 Diane DiResta: And I started to look and was like, about three or four seconds. So I said, Wow, this is a good videographer because they know their audience. So one thing is attention span, people are not going to wait for you to get to the point

00:34:06.540 --> 00:34:18.030 Diane DiResta: And that's why I actually did a webinar on how to communicate more by saying, less get to the point. So you need to get their attention right away. There's so much more competition for space.

00:34:18.420 --> 00:34:28.230 Diane DiResta: In people's minds that you've got to have something compelling and lead with that, more so than you ever did before. So that's one of the differences. The other thing is

00:34:28.530 --> 00:34:43.560 Diane DiResta: A lot of our communication is through text and email. And so now we have to have a digital body language because if you are not there, visually, and we both know as communications people that your visual is like

00:34:44.400 --> 00:34:50.730 Diane DiResta: Over 90% of the message. So with that, gone. What are you communicating. So here's what's interesting.

00:34:51.330 --> 00:35:02.700 Diane DiResta: With digital body language, you actually don't want anything to brief because brief means it's more complex. In other words, when I trained people when I coach them.

00:35:03.090 --> 00:35:08.700 Diane DiResta: It's good. I want sound bites short pieces get to the point really clear, crisp.

00:35:09.270 --> 00:35:19.620 Diane DiResta: If you're too Crispin an email, you don't get the context and there can be a lot of misunderstandings. So that's one of the things, and then there are styles. There are female.

00:35:19.920 --> 00:35:34.200 Diane DiResta: Communicators and male communicator. So for example, in an email that's very male, it gets to the point uses factual language. It doesn't use a lot of emojis. The females are more flowery they'll use more niceties you'll have more

00:35:36.030 --> 00:35:43.530 Diane DiResta: More emojis. So when I learned this. I said, You know, I think my style is pretty much male with a little female thrown in.

00:35:43.920 --> 00:35:46.050 Diane DiResta: So it's, it's about that. It's about

00:35:46.320 --> 00:35:55.230 Diane DiResta: Culture. If you're emailing someone from a culture outside the US it's different. So I would say one of the things that everybody can do all the time.

00:35:55.500 --> 00:36:03.870 Diane DiResta: Is simply start with a greeting. How are you, because if you don't do that, and you just get to the point with what I need is

00:36:04.350 --> 00:36:10.440 Diane DiResta: It can sound Curt abrupt or even commanding so I have to remind myself sometimes.

00:36:10.950 --> 00:36:20.700 Diane DiResta: Hi, how are you now what I really need is. So those are some of the differences we lose a lot of the communication meaning when we don't have the body language.

00:36:21.150 --> 00:36:32.370 Diane DiResta: Now, even when you do have the body language like we have now, it's a little bit different and how you show up in the virtual world on a virtual platform. So here's something that's ironic.

00:36:33.270 --> 00:36:41.700 Diane DiResta: You need to disconnect in order to connect on a virtual platform. So here's what I mean. Am I making eye contact with you right now.

00:36:44.220 --> 00:36:44.700 Sam Liebowitz: Yeah.

00:36:44.850 --> 00:36:57.300 Diane DiResta: Okay and I'm looking directly at the lens so I see you down here, Sam. I know you're there, I cannot see your facial expression I have to look like this. Now, if I do that, I'm not looking at you.

00:36:57.570 --> 00:37:09.810 Diane DiResta: So this is a real challenge. And it's something we have to get used to. Now broadcasters are great at this. And for years I've been saying tomorrow's President presenters will need broadcasting skills. Well,

00:37:09.960 --> 00:37:13.170 Diane DiResta: Tomorrow is here and we all need to master this medium.

00:37:13.440 --> 00:37:23.100 Diane DiResta: So it's about when you're speaking to somebody look directly in the lens when they're speaking, you can disengage and look but keep coming back to the lens so quick story.

00:37:23.550 --> 00:37:31.050 Diane DiResta: I was doing an event for my husband who needs a kidney. He, he's type of blood and we were doing a kidney awareness event on zoom

00:37:31.680 --> 00:37:40.710 Diane DiResta: And he had never done anything on zoom or a virtual platform. So I got him my laptop and I had to explain. Here's where you look at, he said, okay, yeah. Yeah, I know.

00:37:40.980 --> 00:37:56.040 Diane DiResta: Look at the dot this it right. The whole time you speak on what you're looking at that, Doc. So it's a learning curve. And even when people know that it's on comfortable. So when you said earlier about having to pivot going out of your comfort zone. This is one example. Yeah.

00:37:56.250 --> 00:38:02.010 Sam Liebowitz: And it's something like I have to deal with all the time. We're doing the show because I have a big monitor over here and so

00:38:02.010 --> 00:38:03.000 Sam Liebowitz: This makes it easy.

00:38:03.300 --> 00:38:07.740 Sam Liebowitz: And I'm the laptop here and the cameras right there. So in order for me to like

00:38:08.070 --> 00:38:21.720 Sam Liebowitz: Look at people. I have to look directly at the camera here and I'm not really seeing what's going on in the video. So it's kind of tricky. And then if I have to do something on the computer. I'm looking down, I'm looking away and I'm trying to always come back.

00:38:22.080 --> 00:38:28.770 Diane DiResta: Yeah, so I saw somebody who is a speaker and he had a video and he was talking to other speakers, but his eyes were

00:38:29.250 --> 00:38:45.090 Diane DiResta: All over the place, and there are a lot of arms. So I would say don't lose sight of the fundamentals, because they're amplified when you're on a video and really important to stay consistent. So if I had been critiquing him I would have said stay grounded.

00:38:45.600 --> 00:38:52.200 Diane DiResta: look directly at the lens. Pause more and don't say as many arms because it affects how people perceive you.

00:38:52.740 --> 00:39:09.210 Sam Liebowitz: Right. Right. Yes. And, and I know from my background in Toastmasters and doing public speaking, that paying attention to the arms. The you knows or is very important and and every now and then when I listen back to a show.

00:39:10.410 --> 00:39:24.270 Sam Liebowitz: That I've done and I hear myself. Not all the time. But once in a while. I can tell. Oh, there's a lot of arms here. Yeah, I was distracted. There was some problem or something and I was just like, oh, with like hurts my ears to listen to myself when it but you

00:39:24.270 --> 00:39:24.960 Diane DiResta: Know, the good thing.

00:39:25.650 --> 00:39:27.690 Diane DiResta: With video you can edit.

00:39:28.920 --> 00:39:37.470 Diane DiResta: So if you're in a live meeting in a room. You can edit yourself. But if you're going to send someone a video recording you can edit out those arms. So that's the good news. Right.

00:39:37.980 --> 00:39:48.960 Sam Liebowitz: I'm just did it again. So today, everybody is on zoom. I mean, I'm on zoom. I don't know 20 to 30 hours a week. Some weeks more some weeks last

00:39:49.530 --> 00:39:58.860 Sam Liebowitz: What's different about communicating over zoom or over whatever other video conference, whether it's Google need or you know whatever other platform, people might be using

00:39:59.190 --> 00:40:07.890 Sam Liebowitz: What should we keep in mind in terms of our communications that we aren't necessarily normally aware of when we communicate with

00:40:08.190 --> 00:40:18.420 Diane DiResta: Well, the first time. First thing, Sam is know your platform because I also use zoom. I have the enterprise model. I love it. But WebEx is different teams is different.

00:40:18.720 --> 00:40:26.520 Diane DiResta: Adobe Connect is different. And so you want to ask the person who is inviting you to a meeting or speaking what platform. Do you have

00:40:26.850 --> 00:40:35.640 Diane DiResta: And be prepared. Now one of the things that is helpful that we didn't have to worry about in the past is having an MC or a moderator.

00:40:35.910 --> 00:40:41.760 Diane DiResta: Now what or producer. So the MC or the moderator is the person who's actually running the meeting, as you know,

00:40:42.390 --> 00:40:55.890 Diane DiResta: Freeing you to do what you have to do, but the producer is a new role and that's your tech person who's behind the scenes. Who's making sure that everything is seamless. So for example, if anyone's noticing the light changed my light went out on the

00:40:56.910 --> 00:41:06.300 Diane DiResta: Luckily, I think you can all see me. So those are the kinds of things that can happen and that producer can help you behind the scenes in that regard.

00:41:06.960 --> 00:41:19.800 Diane DiResta: You know, few other things. So the first thing is, be prepared with the platform and always be cognizant that you're on stage. I've seen people who, when they're not speaking during the meeting. They're doing all kinds of things.

00:41:20.160 --> 00:41:31.110 Diane DiResta: And we can see on the screen because someone might have it on gallery view. So don't think you're off the hook always act as if the camera is on you that's really critical.

00:41:31.590 --> 00:41:45.660 Sam Liebowitz: That happened to me at a meeting. I was on where somebody was texting me during the meeting and I was texting them back. And so it's constantly looking down, but to the person running the meeting he saw me he thought I was sleeping.

00:41:46.290 --> 00:41:48.510 Sam Liebowitz: So he actually like like

00:41:48.540 --> 00:41:57.240 Sam Liebowitz: Chatted to me like, Hey, Sam, what's up, but I didn't respond to the chat, because I was looking down trying to handle this. And then all of a sudden, I got a text from I was like oh okay to

00:41:57.330 --> 00:42:01.770 Sam Liebowitz: That he thought I was thinking, but I wasn't sleeping. I was texting and so it's like you can get caught.

00:42:01.920 --> 00:42:09.600 Sam Liebowitz: So he's a you may not think people see what you're doing but but they do, and I am so so guilty of this. I really have to confess that

00:42:09.900 --> 00:42:16.500 Sam Liebowitz: Especially because I am on so many networking events and meetings during the day that it's

00:42:16.560 --> 00:42:21.780 Sam Liebowitz: So so difficult to stay focused and concentrated on on what's going on right in front of you.

00:42:22.200 --> 00:42:29.700 Diane DiResta: Well, I would say in terms of communication. One of the things we can do to check out without insulting that we couldn't in a live meeting is you can put

00:42:29.970 --> 00:42:39.150 Diane DiResta: Close your video. And sometimes that I do that if I'm going to the restroom, or if I need to check an email or a call important call came in at least, it doesn't disrupt

00:42:39.450 --> 00:42:43.740 Diane DiResta: And you you don't have that perception, because we all know as communicators.

00:42:44.130 --> 00:42:55.860 Diane DiResta: It's not what you intend, it's how the message is received. It's perception. So if your eyes are down, but people thought you were sleeping that gets out, you know, in the company. Oh, you know, Sam was sleeping during the meeting.

00:42:56.370 --> 00:43:10.110 Diane DiResta: Was and I was looking down, but that doesn't matter. That was the perception that becomes the narrative. So we need to be very careful about that. So be prepared, know that you're always on stage. And here's the other thing, the talking head is dead.

00:43:10.830 --> 00:43:11.250 Sam Liebowitz: What do you mean

00:43:11.820 --> 00:43:27.000 Diane DiResta: Alright, so in meetings on panels, people would yeah Yammer on ba ba ba ba ba ba. You can't speak for a long time. Notice that we have an interview, we're going back and forth. So you want to check in with your audience. So here's what I mean, let's say,

00:43:28.140 --> 00:43:42.510 Diane DiResta: You're the only speaker. You want to break that up because people need change and interaction. So even if it's something as simple like this. I had a friend who said I want to do a panel on authorship. She was a

00:43:43.050 --> 00:43:49.170 Diane DiResta: An editor. I had a my friend had been a new author, so she was coming as that new author

00:43:49.500 --> 00:43:58.260 Diane DiResta: And I was going to talk about how to use speaking to promote your, your book. And I said, We cannot go like you would in a regular situation.

00:43:58.830 --> 00:44:10.020 Diane DiResta: It's too long. We've got to keep this short. And you're going to see me interrupting from time to time as the moderator to keep it going. So one of the things that we did is we talked about traditional versus self publishing

00:44:10.650 --> 00:44:12.480 Diane DiResta: after they finished the point I said okay

00:44:12.690 --> 00:44:22.440 Diane DiResta: If you're leaning toward traditional type of tea. If you're leaning towards self publishing type in s in the chat box. Now what does that do you said earlier about energy. It's all energy

00:44:22.740 --> 00:44:28.530 Diane DiResta: That increases the energy you can feel it coming across the screen. It's fun. And then you're reading and you're connecting

00:44:28.740 --> 00:44:33.720 Diane DiResta: So that's another big piece that interaction and the engagement is critical.

00:44:34.830 --> 00:44:35.910 Diane DiResta: We've heard this right

00:44:36.180 --> 00:44:41.910 Diane DiResta: Oh, how do I engage people. They're not staying on the job right, they're not connected engagement is key. Right.

00:44:42.030 --> 00:44:54.300 Sam Liebowitz: Absolutely, absolutely. And I've heard that many, many times. Now that it's like the gold standard is How engaged are people with you on your, your show your video your presentation, whatever it is.

00:44:55.110 --> 00:45:05.790 Sam Liebowitz: Because the engagement is is the key that people are engaged, you know, they're paying attention. If they're not engaged. They might be paying attention, but you don't really know if they're paying attention.

00:45:06.330 --> 00:45:07.770 Diane DiResta: Well, especially if their eyes are down.

00:45:09.930 --> 00:45:28.140 Diane DiResta: But seriously, one of the benefits of zoom is all the tools. It gives you and the other platforms as well. So there's no rule that says you have to be a talking head. You can put people in breakout rooms like you did before with the break you making use the chat.

00:45:29.220 --> 00:45:41.310 Diane DiResta: This is the old fashion show of hands. How many feel a or b or you can use the tools they give you the the raising other hand or the yes or the check marks. So there are a lot of fun things that you can do. Right.

00:45:41.340 --> 00:45:50.910 Sam Liebowitz: Which I guess goes back to your earlier point of know your platform know what tools that has so that you can utilize them and integrate them into whatever you're doing in the moment.

00:45:51.330 --> 00:46:05.970 Diane DiResta: Exactly. So I just heard a different speaker on teams. And he said, one of the things they don't have yet or the breakout rooms of zoom, but they're working on it. So if that was part of your design, you're going to be in trouble if you're in another platform that doesn't offer that

00:46:06.210 --> 00:46:22.410 Diane DiResta: So really it the fundamentals are the same. It's different because it's called technology, the mediums different but same fundamentals, be prepared. Know your audience know your message. Pause. Use your body language.

00:46:23.490 --> 00:46:26.280 Diane DiResta: Show energy. All of those things are still true.

00:46:26.730 --> 00:46:35.430 Sam Liebowitz: Absolutely. Absolutely. All right, wonderful day, and it's time for us to take our last break of the show. When we come back I want to delve a little bit more into something you mentioned just

00:46:35.430 --> 00:46:47.850 Sam Liebowitz: Before about your husband needing a kidney because I didn't want to give us a chance to talk about that because that's a very interesting challenge, especially in these times. So I really want to spend a little bit of time talking about that. Okay.

00:46:48.090 --> 00:46:48.930 Diane DiResta: Thank you. Yes.

00:46:48.990 --> 00:47:01.320 Sam Liebowitz: Wonderful. So everybody please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consultant. Our awakening humanity, we've been speaking this hour with communications and presentations expert Diane dressed up and we'll be right back after this

00:48:54.840 --> 00:49:03.780 Sam Liebowitz: Welcome back to the conscious consultant. Our awakening humanity so pleased that you've stayed with us for this hour. We're talking with Diane Teresita

00:49:04.140 --> 00:49:20.460 Sam Liebowitz: Communications and presentations expert, author of a knockout whoops, the knockout presentations, how to deliver your message with power punch and possess in a friend of mine. And so, Diana, I really want to talk about. You mentioned it earlier.

00:49:21.510 --> 00:49:25.860 Sam Liebowitz: Yes, William, one of my loyal listeners William says you're now in the light

00:49:26.220 --> 00:49:26.700 Yes.

00:49:28.710 --> 00:49:39.930 Diane DiResta: Yes. Well, yeah. During the break, I started playing. I think what happened is one of the computers, where it was plugged in had low battery and now it's it's working. So thanks for noticing.

00:49:40.320 --> 00:49:50.670 Sam Liebowitz: And loyal listener Patty says, I've learned so much from your guests. I'm new to zoom, but to keep up with family matters. It's important. She said, you know, she has a court hearing. She's got to do views you

00:49:51.930 --> 00:49:54.960 Diane DiResta: See that's the thing that's it that's Natalie who's speaking

00:49:55.350 --> 00:50:04.980 Diane DiResta: Patty Patty patty. That's another thing that's changed because now we have telemedicine. My husband had to do some testing over the Internet.

00:50:05.340 --> 00:50:11.190 Diane DiResta: A YOU ARE GOING FOR YOUR COURT HEARING. And so you need to show up in a certain way and I don't know if the lawyers.

00:50:11.670 --> 00:50:24.930 Diane DiResta: Are prepared yet because they know how to prepare people when there are hearings. I don't know if they're up to date on how to prepare on a zoom call but it'd be interesting. Just thought of another line of business, actually.

00:50:26.910 --> 00:50:28.380 Sam Liebowitz: Zoom training for lawyers.

00:50:28.560 --> 00:50:29.370 Diane DiResta: Lawyers, yeah.

00:50:29.970 --> 00:50:32.250 Sam Liebowitz: So let's, let's talk about your husband.

00:50:33.600 --> 00:50:37.140 Sam Liebowitz: How long ago did this kidney trouble as start happening.

00:50:37.860 --> 00:50:47.010 Diane DiResta: Well, what we've discovered at a few years ago, they discovered he was born with one kidney it's horseshoe. He didn't know it it's horseshoe shaped but technically

00:50:47.430 --> 00:51:00.120 Diane DiResta: He's been on dialysis from 2016 on he is what's called end stage renal disease. So Stage five is the most severe and he can keep going for.

00:51:01.110 --> 00:51:14.880 Diane DiResta: Dialysis, but what is known is that dialysis is not good for you. It's like cleaning a fish tank and so his doctor said, even if you got a kidney for two years. That's still better than being on dialysis. So what I did.

00:51:15.720 --> 00:51:23.670 Diane DiResta: Last July not last month but July 29 2019 I did an event in my office for kidney awareness.

00:51:24.090 --> 00:51:34.290 Diane DiResta: Now, because of covert 19 we couldn't do that. So, the head of the nonprofit that were with said we're doing virtual events. I said, great. What we're on. So we did an event.

00:51:34.680 --> 00:51:38.280 Diane DiResta: On kidney awareness and what was great about this is

00:51:38.760 --> 00:51:47.310 Diane DiResta: There were two people from Pennsylvania. One was the recipient and one was a donor and they were able to be there, which they would not have been had been live in New York City.

00:51:47.670 --> 00:51:59.040 Diane DiResta: So it was a really fascinating event because the head of the nonprofit that were with talked all about the kidney donation process and

00:51:59.580 --> 00:52:13.890 Diane DiResta: How important it is and how seamless. It was for this donor, but so anyway. There are two things. He is my husband's name his head can either get a kidney from being on a list were listed with two hospitals.

00:52:14.280 --> 00:52:19.980 Diane DiResta: And they're in different regions, you can have, let's say, two in New York and New Jersey. So when New York, New Jersey.

00:52:20.370 --> 00:52:28.950 Diane DiResta: Or he can look for kidney donor. He is blood type is oh so what that means is if you're a healthy person and you test out you

00:52:29.550 --> 00:52:40.350 Diane DiResta: Could would be willing to give your kidney the nonprofit that we're with supports the donors every step of the way. They're in there in the operating room, not with the doctors but outside

00:52:40.650 --> 00:52:48.720 Diane DiResta: They provide some funding. So when you are out of work for those few weeks they they provide some monetary assistance and there they are.

00:52:49.320 --> 00:52:56.610 Diane DiResta: 100% for the donor. So we've done all kinds of things we had t shirts that we had made at needs a kidney with the email.

00:52:57.240 --> 00:53:16.230 Diane DiResta: And we held signs up front of the in front of the today show we had events virtual and in person. We had the fun most fun was we did an event in Times Square. We had flashing billboards. So every 15 seconds. These pictures were flashing so I can actually say, I've been on Broadway.

00:53:17.700 --> 00:53:18.780 Diane DiResta: And we have still pictures but

00:53:18.930 --> 00:53:24.840 Diane DiResta: Again, nothing came of that, but we don't know because here's the deal when you register with the nonprofit.

00:53:25.290 --> 00:53:31.110 Diane DiResta: They're never going to tell you if anyone stepped up because they don't want you to be on the roller coaster ride.

00:53:31.410 --> 00:53:42.060 Diane DiResta: And they know that you can really mess things up so they try to keep everything aboveboard clean and separate. So right now, there could be somebody from the event, who said yes I'll test.

00:53:42.450 --> 00:53:43.560 Diane DiResta: But we wouldn't know about it.

00:53:43.890 --> 00:53:56.250 Diane DiResta: Even if they test, they have to be a perfect match. When I say perfect match. They have to match. I think on three levels. So this is why it's a challenge now Ed has a kidney donation page. I think it's called kidney donor for Ed.

00:53:56.940 --> 00:54:04.560 Diane DiResta: But he also has a web page kidney for and you can learn more about that. And then I put in the chat box.

00:54:05.730 --> 00:54:06.720 Diane DiResta: Sam, the

00:54:06.750 --> 00:54:07.350 Diane DiResta: Email

00:54:07.500 --> 00:54:17.520 Diane DiResta: Which is capital R 23 881 at I have this memorized and so if somebody thought, you know, this is something I'd want to do

00:54:18.000 --> 00:54:22.050 Diane DiResta: I thought about it, or I never thought about it, and I'd like to think about it. That would be the

00:54:22.680 --> 00:54:30.510 Diane DiResta: Email and that goes directly to Ed's account so you don't even know even need to know his name, just say you want to donate a kidney to add and

00:54:31.020 --> 00:54:40.920 Diane DiResta: Then the renew the renewal organization will contact you. So you can learn a lot on his Facebook page because he posts things about kidney disease and kidney awareness.

00:54:41.430 --> 00:54:48.900 Diane DiResta: It's it's serious. There were thousands and thousands of people who have who need kidneys and there's just not enough supply

00:54:49.470 --> 00:55:00.750 Diane DiResta: And my hope is that in my lifetime. I would love to either see 3D printed or stem cell kidneys and then we wouldn't have this. So thank you for telling

00:55:01.110 --> 00:55:11.130 Diane DiResta: Give me the time to talk about ed and the need for kidney because he's not the only one. It's such a need right now and then during college at 19 they had stopped surgeries.

00:55:11.430 --> 00:55:14.760 Diane DiResta: So there were a lot of people who couldn't do it. So we're now back on track.

00:55:16.380 --> 00:55:35.550 Sam Liebowitz: Yes. I mean, it's something that is one of those things you don't often think about it. People need organ donors transplants, all kinds of things that got completely shut down for a while during this pandemic and now they're doing things but but there's got to be a backlog and

00:55:35.550 --> 00:55:36.090 Diane DiResta: And

00:55:36.150 --> 00:55:42.690 Sam Liebowitz: Kind of difficult and like you said to find somebody who matches so I posted into the the Facebook video

00:55:43.800 --> 00:55:58.380 Sam Liebowitz: The website the kidney for and the email address and so please, if anyone out there if you know somebody who might be willing to to do this would really appreciate it. I mean, this is how you know you help one person.

00:55:58.890 --> 00:56:10.500 Sam Liebowitz: You don't have to help the world sometimes we feel like, you know, we need to get out there and you know help thousands and millions of people sometimes just helping one person can make such a huge difference in someone's life.

00:56:10.560 --> 00:56:19.380 Diane DiResta: Yeah absolutely does. And again, think of a legacy you're you're saving a life. I don't know what greater legacy. There is than that and

00:56:19.800 --> 00:56:30.810 Diane DiResta: If, if you share that page. I know there are a lot of people out there who need the information so kidney donor for Ed for kidney for is the website right

00:56:30.990 --> 00:56:41.100 Sam Liebowitz: OK, Wendy. Thank you. You're most welcome. Diane. You're most welcome my pleasure to be able to use my platform to do some little bit of good in the world.

00:56:41.250 --> 00:56:42.780 Diane DiResta: raise the consciousness. Yes.

00:56:43.110 --> 00:56:50.970 Sam Liebowitz: Yes, exactly. And hopefully you know somebody hears it, who, you know, maybe they're, they're not the person to donate, but maybe they know somebody who might

00:56:51.600 --> 00:57:03.030 Sam Liebowitz: Be interested. So please share. Alright. And we're out of time. If people want to get in touch with you for presentation skills and for learning more about what you do. Where can they go for that.

00:57:03.120 --> 00:57:15.420 Diane DiResta: They can go to my website to rested calm and that's D as in David AI R E S as in SAM T as in Tom is duress or, as my friend Bruce Weinstein says

00:57:16.920 --> 00:57:18.240 Diane DiResta: Teresita is best

00:57:20.430 --> 00:57:23.820 Diane DiResta: Is the best so direct it rhymes with restaurant.

00:57:25.740 --> 00:57:32.370 Sam Liebowitz: Oh, beautiful. Listen to Carolina friend of mine from South Africa says, Great show today great sessions.

00:57:32.400 --> 00:57:33.510 Diane DiResta: And thank you, Caroline.

00:57:33.840 --> 00:57:41.460 Sam Liebowitz: Yeah so. Well, thank you, Diane. I really appreciate you taking the time to come on today. I hope you enjoyed it and

00:57:42.000 --> 00:57:45.510 Sam Liebowitz: Hopefully we'll see something good come out of this. I have a

00:57:45.780 --> 00:57:54.030 Sam Liebowitz: Great, great group of people who listen to the show and they've helped me when I've asked for help. So we'll see what what what can

00:57:54.150 --> 00:57:56.250 Diane DiResta: Thank you so much. Really appreciate it, Sam.

00:57:57.060 --> 00:58:05.400 Sam Liebowitz: So thank you all for tuning in today. Next week, I have actually I'm working on getting a special show I may have some

00:58:05.910 --> 00:58:12.240 Sam Liebowitz: rather high profile names on the show next week where I'm working with someone to see

00:58:12.840 --> 00:58:22.470 Sam Liebowitz: What's going to happen. But there's an anthology book coming out that has some high name people high level name people in it in the in the personal development field. So definitely

00:58:22.920 --> 00:58:30.780 Sam Liebowitz: Go and sign up for our newsletter, so you can hear all about it at talk radio dot NYC coming up next. It's of course

00:58:32.400 --> 00:58:46.770 Sam Liebowitz: Ken Foster in his show voices of courage followed later today by Antonio with her show. So now you know. And this evening. Graham dub, and with his show the mind behind. Thank you all for tuning in. Take care. We will talk to you next week.

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