This week, on The Conscious Consultant Hour, we have another special show with just you and Sam as he shares about the challenges in doing deep transformational work.
We often romanticize what it means to do deep personal and spiritual transformational work. That the road to enlightenment is one paved with a smooth straight road, that takes us past all of our challenges.
Nothing is further from the truth.
As anyone will relate, when we step upon the path of transformational work, it is fraught with pain, mistakes and missteps, deep challenges, and chaos.
It takes real commitment to travel along this path. It takes faith and trust that things will get better, even when there is no sigh of improvement.
Sam has been through a lot over the past 15 years of traveling on this path, and he will share some of the biggest mistakes and challenges he has had to face and continues to face, to help you be a little more prepared for your own challenges.
Tune in and share your own thoughts about your own challenges on your path to transformation and change on our YouTube livestream or on our Facebook page.
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On this episode of The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam is by himself today to do a reflection on the many challenges of transformational work. To start the episode, Sam starts by reading one of his blog posts, which inspires this episode. The blog is from a few years ago and it is entitled “The Deep Inner Work Is Not About Fixing It Is About Uncovering What Is Present.” After the reading, Sam dives deeper into the reading with his perspective on the topic and brings some new points to light. As always, to read this blog and more content from Sam, please visit www.talkradio.nyc/blogs for more details.
After the first break, we return to Sam diving into the main topic of discussion, the challenges of transformational work. He makes a point that during transformational work it can be difficult to be present mentally, especially in this day with the constant rise of technology. Being present can be a good, yet terrifying thing because of the different emotions one can feel depending on the individual’s situation. Sam also makes an excellent point that the journey is never easy, you have to put in the work to see change, and sometimes with have to be ok with feeling certain emotions.
As the episode continues, Sam discusses how challenges may arise when starting transformational work. Sam shares stories from when he was starting in his current field, what he learned from those challenges, and what he took away from the aftermath of those challenges. He goes back to a previous point he made about how if we do not shine the light on challenging situations, it can cause greater damage in the end if we are not present.
To close this episode, Sam wraps up the conversation by talking about the emotions people may feel when things do not go their way and what can follow after the realization, such as dragging the past into the present and not allowing ourselves to move forward in our lives. Friction can also occur and Sam points out that when it happens, some people are good about seeing it and others are not. He also makes points about how everyone’s transformational journey might be the same but will be different most of the time. He goes back to the importance of being present in the journey and how there will be challenges no matter what one person may be going through. The reward that follows, will be a greater fulfillment than one could ever imagine.
00:00:45.430 --> 00:01:01.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: good afternoon, my conscious co-creators. Welcome to another edition of the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity. I am very, very pleased that you are all here with me today.
00:01:01.570 --> 00:01:03.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yes, it's one of those
00:01:04.080 --> 00:01:18.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: wonderful shows where it's just me and you no guest this hour. We will be just talking about a topic to day which is about the challenges of transformational work.
00:01:18.630 --> 00:01:28.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we'll we'll I'll share some stories and some some words of of warning.
00:01:28.970 --> 00:01:50.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and just share a different perspective about it, because sometimes I feel we tend to glorify this idea of doing transformational work, and is filled with rainbows and unicorns and everything's punky dory all the time, and the truth is far from that, as anybody who seriously engages this work will let you know.
00:01:51.170 --> 00:01:55.009 But first, of course, we have our blog post
00:01:55.090 --> 00:01:58.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: from a couple of years ago.
00:01:58.460 --> 00:02:03.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: which actually is sort of the inspiration for today's
00:02:03.670 --> 00:02:14.749 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: show, and today's blog post is entitled. The deep Inner work is not about fixing. It is about uncovering
00:02:14.820 --> 00:02:16.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what is present
00:02:18.220 --> 00:02:21.440 when we delve into deep spiritual work.
00:02:21.670 --> 00:02:36.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we can feel not good about ourselves as we recognize more of our conditioning. We may feel that we have to fix ourselves that there is something wrong with us for being the way we are.
00:02:36.460 --> 00:02:40.220 that we will never get to the end of all this work.
00:02:41.430 --> 00:02:55.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It is a trap the mind sets for us. for the mind is always looking for something to fix, something to accomplish. Yet the spirit knows otherwise.
00:02:55.920 --> 00:03:05.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Actually doing the deep inner work is more about uncovering than about fixing anything.
00:03:06.410 --> 00:03:09.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for really we do not need to be fixed.
00:03:10.250 --> 00:03:15.250 We feel this way because we lose sight of the fact that we are perfect.
00:03:16.130 --> 00:03:29.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for how can some one be perfect and still be in pain? Ultimately, pain is not really the issue. The issue is the story we make up around the pain.
00:03:31.400 --> 00:03:34.459 and that story creates suffering.
00:03:35.420 --> 00:03:37.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So when we dive
00:03:37.420 --> 00:03:43.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: into do into doing our own personal work, we can feel overwhelmed.
00:03:44.900 --> 00:03:50.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet if we take a different perspective. it can be a much gentler process.
00:03:51.940 --> 00:04:01.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for what we are really doing is just uncovering what is already there. not to get rid of it. but to shine a light on it.
00:04:03.120 --> 00:04:08.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to bring to our awareness the conditioning that developed to help us survive.
00:04:10.070 --> 00:04:19.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we did survive. So perhaps we can be grateful that that conditioning to that conditioning for doing its job
00:04:20.250 --> 00:04:23.170 as we bring it up to our consciousness.
00:04:23.850 --> 00:04:28.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we can now consciously take control of our lives
00:04:28.760 --> 00:04:32.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and allow that conditioning to sit beside us
00:04:34.040 --> 00:04:36.369 to bring it to our awareness
00:04:38.870 --> 00:04:40.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that the conditioning
00:04:40.980 --> 00:04:52.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to bring to our awareness, the conditioning that developed to help us survive. And we did survive. So perhaps we can be grateful to that conditioning for shop soups.
00:04:52.300 --> 00:04:55.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We are now in control.
00:04:55.060 --> 00:04:57.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We are the ones driving the car
00:04:57.590 --> 00:05:06.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: by uncovering what was there. We are not fixing ourselves, we are merely shining the light of consciousness
00:05:06.280 --> 00:05:10.519 on all the myriad aspects that reside within us.
00:05:10.930 --> 00:05:20.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not to destroy them or get rid of them. to integrate them into our awareness, and know that they are a part of us as well
00:05:21.510 --> 00:05:36.700 not to separate little demons that need to be exercised from our souls. and as we shine, the light of consciousness on more and more of our being. An interesting thing starts to happen.
00:05:37.320 --> 00:05:39.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We start to feel more whole
00:05:40.520 --> 00:05:45.440 appreciation for these aspects of ourselves is easier to cultivate
00:05:45.670 --> 00:05:50.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: acceptance and love for ourselves, emerge more fully
00:05:50.800 --> 00:05:57.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with each level of uncovering. We embrace our inner world a little bit more.
00:05:59.500 --> 00:06:03.250 It is not about working so hard until we die.
00:06:03.810 --> 00:06:13.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for as we travel deeper into our own patterning, we are merely revealing more of who we really are to ourselves.
00:06:14.740 --> 00:06:21.290 and we can begin to love ourselves with all our faults and flaws and warts.
00:06:22.360 --> 00:06:32.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: as we come to the realization that we truly are not broken. and we truly do not need to be fixed.
00:06:34.720 --> 00:06:36.490 So how can you
00:06:36.570 --> 00:06:38.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: be gentler with yourself
00:06:38.680 --> 00:06:43.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: as you uncover these challenging sides of your own Psyche?
00:06:45.860 --> 00:06:54.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So this is a long one, and I wrote this one after hosting a ceremony a couple of years ago.
00:06:57.680 --> 00:06:58.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and
00:06:59.920 --> 00:07:04.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it was after hosting a ceremony, and then I participated in a ceremony myself.
00:07:06.390 --> 00:07:10.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's just so fascinating how.
00:07:15.000 --> 00:07:20.160 when we become more aware of what's really going on inside us
00:07:21.550 --> 00:07:24.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: as we become more present, too.
00:07:25.980 --> 00:07:29.889 those uncomfortable feelings, those icky things
00:07:30.130 --> 00:07:33.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that just don't just don't feel that good.
00:07:36.400 --> 00:07:47.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We have this tendency. All of us have this tendency of I just need to fix it. I just need to get past it. I just need to not be suffering so much anymore. I just need to to to feel better.
00:07:49.810 --> 00:07:56.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we fall into this trap so easily.
00:07:57.690 --> 00:07:59.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: where we
00:08:01.970 --> 00:08:08.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we make up this story around our pain, around our suffering.
00:08:09.220 --> 00:08:16.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know what we went through before as as children or even young adults, adults.
00:08:17.450 --> 00:08:22.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's all these stories around the trauma and the experiences that we had.
00:08:24.940 --> 00:08:26.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then, because
00:08:27.190 --> 00:08:31.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: they're challenging, they're they're a little hard to accept.
00:08:33.720 --> 00:08:47.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We feel like we have to get rid of them. We we we feel like I've just got to get out of this situation. I've just got to change myself. I've just got to get rid of those. These. These
00:08:47.450 --> 00:08:50.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: anxious, depressed a
00:08:51.600 --> 00:08:55.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: painful, hurtful sides of myself.
00:09:01.420 --> 00:09:09.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that story causes the alienation of those different sides of ourself.
00:09:11.790 --> 00:09:16.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and instead of honoring. instead of seeing
00:09:17.010 --> 00:09:27.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what those pieces of ourselves actually did for us. and how they helped us, and how they they supported us
00:09:28.240 --> 00:09:35.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in getting through whatever situation we were in, that we needed to get through
00:09:37.410 --> 00:09:42.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that instead of honoring that. and appreciating that
00:09:43.340 --> 00:09:46.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we, we treat it like a
00:09:48.380 --> 00:09:57.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like a misbegotten child, we, we treat it like some, some part of ourselves, like an extra limb, that we need to cut off.
00:10:00.060 --> 00:10:06.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's that very attitude that really causes us the problem.
00:10:10.660 --> 00:10:17.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and as we sort of uncover these levels of things as we continue to do our work.
00:10:18.140 --> 00:10:30.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Sometimes it can feel like, Oh, my God! Underneath that there's this pain, and there's that pain. And there's this trauma, and there's that trauma and like, Oh, my God, they're all these things like, does it never end?
00:10:33.640 --> 00:10:34.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And
00:10:36.150 --> 00:10:39.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I hesitate to say this, but
00:10:40.980 --> 00:10:51.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it doesn't end until we take our last breath. cause there's always something more to see about ourselves. There's always something more to discover
00:10:54.290 --> 00:11:01.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the thing to hold on to when we're in the midst of so much pain and suffering
00:11:03.120 --> 00:11:07.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is that as we continue to do our work, things actually do get better.
00:11:12.820 --> 00:11:15.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but it doesn't always seem that way.
00:11:16.940 --> 00:11:25.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because it seems like every layer we peel. There's another layer that we have to process and deal with and feel our way through
00:11:28.230 --> 00:11:37.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: every time we do. We're learning to embrace what's truly going on inside of us.
00:11:39.890 --> 00:11:44.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's kind of like we're learning to map our inner landscape
00:11:46.940 --> 00:11:52.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in some some places on the inner landscape. There are these beautiful meadows and forests
00:11:52.710 --> 00:12:04.190 and mountains, and in other places there are these dark scary places. Maybe there's some deserts. Maybe there's some caves. and maybe there's some swamps.
00:12:05.700 --> 00:12:10.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and maybe there's some quicksand that we can get stuck in if we're not careful.
00:12:15.890 --> 00:12:26.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But what I have learned over the years of not just doing my own work, but working with other people and helping them to uncover their own in her landscape.
00:12:31.300 --> 00:12:47.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is that the more we uncover it. It's not about getting rid of anything. It's about shining a light on it. It's about exposing these unconscious
00:12:47.830 --> 00:12:57.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: aspects of ourselves, these unconscious programs that are sort of hiding in the shadows or in the dark
00:13:00.070 --> 00:13:03.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that are running us without our realizing that they're ruining us.
00:13:04.320 --> 00:13:09.369 And as we shine, the light on one and then another, and then another, and then another.
00:13:11.480 --> 00:13:20.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that now we can start to live from a more conscious place. And it's not that these programs and these
00:13:20.810 --> 00:13:27.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: mechanisms that we developed over time, aren't there? Yes, they're still there.
00:13:28.150 --> 00:13:30.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but they're no wrong longer running the show.
00:13:33.500 --> 00:13:42.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And sometimes this work is called shadow Work. Sometimes it's called inner child work, sometimes it's just. There are all kinds of names for it.
00:13:43.230 --> 00:13:46.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but in the end the names don't really matter
00:13:49.460 --> 00:13:52.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what it's really all about
00:13:53.540 --> 00:14:07.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is just coming home to ourselves and coming to that place of self-acceptance where we accept ourselves. Enough
00:14:09.600 --> 00:14:10.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: honor.
00:14:11.760 --> 00:14:16.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: everything that's brought us to where we are to day.
00:14:19.230 --> 00:14:21.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because let's face it.
00:14:22.830 --> 00:14:34.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Everything. We've been through, everything we've done, everything we've felt, all the tears we've cried. All the laughter, all the joy, all the pain.
00:14:35.250 --> 00:14:36.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: all of it.
00:14:38.920 --> 00:14:41.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: makes us who we are today.
00:14:45.910 --> 00:14:48.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and the fact that we're still here.
00:14:48.450 --> 00:14:51.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: still breathing, still living
00:14:53.260 --> 00:14:56.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: means we did something right
00:14:57.870 --> 00:15:00.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: doesn't mean everything was
00:15:00.500 --> 00:15:04.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: perfect in our mind's perception of perfection.
00:15:05.570 --> 00:15:08.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Spirit has a completely different perspective.
00:15:09.270 --> 00:15:15.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Doesn't mean that everything we did feels good, doesn't mean we didn't hurt people doesn't mean other people didn't hurt us.
00:15:16.640 --> 00:15:19.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's life. Life happens
00:15:20.930 --> 00:15:25.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: yet the more and more and more conscious we are
00:15:27.920 --> 00:15:31.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to how we're showing up in the world.
00:15:32.810 --> 00:15:35.770 The more consciously we can live our life.
00:15:36.200 --> 00:15:40.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the more in control we are consciously
00:15:40.240 --> 00:15:42.729 and the less. We are ruled
00:15:43.460 --> 00:15:47.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: by those hidden. unconscious.
00:15:47.690 --> 00:15:50.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: unaware sides of ourselves.
00:15:53.960 --> 00:16:04.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And maybe, just maybe, as we continue to do our work, we learn how to call upon those different sides of ourselves when we need them.
00:16:07.640 --> 00:16:09.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but it becomes
00:16:09.410 --> 00:16:13.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a conscious choice, not a default action.
00:16:16.430 --> 00:16:25.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So this is why this blog post is entitled, The Deep Inner Work is not about fixing. It is about uncovering what is present.
00:16:30.290 --> 00:16:33.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're not broken, and we don't need to be fixed.
00:16:34.650 --> 00:16:41.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But then, what's the work all about? If that's true. it's about uncovering what's here.
00:16:42.930 --> 00:16:51.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's about shining a light so we can see what's really going on inside of us
00:16:51.970 --> 00:16:54.990 when we show up in different situations.
00:16:55.680 --> 00:17:02.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In particular, the situations that are challenging that are difficult, that don't feel good.
00:17:03.380 --> 00:17:16.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but not just those, even the good ones. Sometimes it can be challenging for us to take care of ourselves, to, to listen, to praise, to listen to how people say, Hey, great job! Keep doing it
00:17:18.560 --> 00:17:22.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: sometimes the good stuff is the hardest stuff to hear.
00:17:24.859 --> 00:17:32.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: anyway. So that's my blog post. The deep inner work is not about fixing. It is about uncovering what is present.
00:17:32.300 --> 00:17:42.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and you can, of course, always read my blog. I publish it every Monday morning at 1010 1010 am@talkradio.com slash blog.
00:17:43.290 --> 00:17:53.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I would love to get more feedback about what you, how you feel about my blog post. Actually, one of my loyal listeners. I really want to give her a shout-out. Sonia
00:17:54.360 --> 00:18:08.999 sent me an email after we sent out the most recent newsletter and said, how much she does appreciate the blog posts and everything, and I do see loyal listener Patty, tuning in live and sharing. Thank you as always.
00:18:11.070 --> 00:18:34.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And if this is your first time tuning in, or maybe several times you've tuned in and you're listening to the show. Live, please put your comments in the Comments section. It's just me and you, I promise any questions you have any comments you have. I will get to them throughout my show. We have the whole hour to spend together. So let's have some fun. So
00:18:34.980 --> 00:18:38.349 that's the blog post. When we come back from our break
00:18:38.580 --> 00:18:45.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we'll dive into our topic for to day, which is the challenges of transformational work.
00:18:45.650 --> 00:18:47.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I guess we've already touched upon it.
00:18:48.480 --> 00:19:08.620 So everyone, please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity. We do this every Thursday 12 noon to one Pm. Eastern time, right here from New York City on Talkradio, Dot, Nyc. And we will be right back with the rest of our show in just a moment.
00:20:52.880 --> 00:20:54.520 And
00:20:56.110 --> 00:20:57.110 you.
00:21:03.270 --> 00:21:05.920 Okay. you
00:21:19.630 --> 00:21:22.380 You're
00:21:23.710 --> 00:21:51.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and welcome back to the conscious consult now awakening humanity. This is one of those shows. There's no guest. It's just me and you for the hour. And before I launch into today's topic, I do. Wanna mentioned Sania's comment on the live stream, she says, yes, I can now, except that my journey has brought me exactly to where I am supposed to be, and who I'm supposed to be
00:21:51.940 --> 00:22:01.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: love to see, good or bad, where else my inner work is taking me. Beautiful Sonia. That's exactly the point.
00:22:01.690 --> 00:22:10.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That that everything in our life is all about bringing us to exactly where and who we're supposed to be.
00:22:11.020 --> 00:22:14.319 and when we can really accept that and see that
00:22:15.510 --> 00:22:23.770 it gives us a certain sense of liberation. It gives us a certain sense of peace. There's that
00:22:23.970 --> 00:22:27.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: knowing this, that like, yes, like
00:22:27.690 --> 00:22:47.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm good. Life is good. Things are the way they are for a reason. So thank you for sharing Sina. Let me know. You know what challenges. Maybe you would like advice on and anybody else listening today. Please post your comments in in the comments of the live stream. So
00:22:48.250 --> 00:22:52.180 topic today is the challenges of transformational work.
00:22:53.100 --> 00:22:58.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I thought this might be, and I know, actually like this is my first
00:22:58.630 --> 00:23:15.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: me only show with no guest of of 2024 just because the last couple of months I've had some wonderful guests and store. Well, actually, no, it's not. Is it the first? No, it's not the first cause I had a guest cancel on me. But
00:23:16.160 --> 00:23:19.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This is the first planned one. Let me put it that way.
00:23:19.240 --> 00:23:27.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so I wanted to delve upon the topic to really give you a different perspective of things, because
00:23:28.670 --> 00:23:42.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I see it a lot that people tend to feel like, oh, when you're doing your personal development work. It's all about feeling great. And rah, rah! And that kind of Tony Robbins Ish
00:23:42.330 --> 00:23:55.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: point of view that that you know when I do my personal transformational work that I'm just gonna feel better. I'm gonna be better do better. And everything's so wonderful and great. And it's all gonna be hunky, dory.
00:23:56.850 --> 00:24:04.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And those of us who've been doing this for more than just a few days realize that know
00:24:04.960 --> 00:24:16.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the the path on the personal, transformational work. It's not a smooth, easy hop, skip, and a jump down the road. That this work
00:24:17.190 --> 00:24:18.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is
00:24:19.990 --> 00:24:21.970 tiring at times.
00:24:22.040 --> 00:24:28.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that doing our personal, transformational work can be really challenging.
00:24:29.740 --> 00:24:30.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And
00:24:30.840 --> 00:24:45.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the first part of the challenge is normally. And again, everyone's path is a little bit different. We're all unique human beings. And and and what we kind of go through is is always unique to us.
00:24:49.180 --> 00:24:53.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But normally, what happens when we start on this path?
00:24:54.960 --> 00:25:00.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The first thing is, we begin to be a little bit more present to our lives.
00:25:01.810 --> 00:25:17.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: which in this society is a big deal. because most of this society is about checking out distraction on your phone every 2 s. What's the latest social media? What's that tech talk video? Who's doing this? Who's calling me? Who's texting me? What am I doing?
00:25:17.640 --> 00:25:26.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we're normally so distracted and so checked out. We don't even feel what's actually going on right here right now.
00:25:30.090 --> 00:25:34.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so when we start to be a little more present
00:25:36.320 --> 00:25:42.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: actually start to feel things. We've been avoiding feeling for most of our lives.
00:25:43.520 --> 00:25:47.019 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that can be very difficult.
00:25:49.680 --> 00:25:54.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because if we don't feel good about ourselves. If we've
00:25:54.090 --> 00:25:58.260 have some pain, we've been avoiding feeling, if we're
00:25:59.140 --> 00:26:01.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: worried, concerned, anxious
00:26:02.720 --> 00:26:14.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that all starts to come up, and we actually feel it more than we did before, and we start thinking to ourselves, oh, my God, what's wrong with me? I'm doing this work. I'm supposed to be feeling better, and I'm actually feeling worse.
00:26:15.460 --> 00:26:16.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Huh?
00:26:19.120 --> 00:26:21.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that's one of the
00:26:22.240 --> 00:26:33.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: really. I don't want to say secrets, but it's it's one of the the unexpected aspects of doing this deep, personal, transformational work
00:26:35.540 --> 00:26:39.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that we actually feel worse before we feel better.
00:26:42.240 --> 00:26:44.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because what normally happens
00:26:45.240 --> 00:26:47.779 true for me as it is for anyone else
00:26:49.520 --> 00:26:55.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is we stuff down, and we avoid feeling those things that we don't want to feel, cause they don't feel good.
00:27:00.300 --> 00:27:03.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it can be everything from
00:27:05.290 --> 00:27:09.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: feeling the pain of having been abused as a child, whether it was
00:27:09.570 --> 00:27:13.689 physically, emotionally, mentally, sexually.
00:27:16.630 --> 00:27:24.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or could be feeling the pain of the neglect that maybe our parents just weren't available emotionally.
00:27:24.140 --> 00:27:28.689 or they just weren't there physically, because they were working all the time
00:27:29.420 --> 00:27:32.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of just the pain of not having our own needs met.
00:27:34.230 --> 00:27:44.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or maybe, as in my case. it's that feeling of not feeling good because it felt like we were compared to our brothers and sisters or other kids or cousins.
00:27:44.780 --> 00:27:48.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that.
00:27:48.640 --> 00:27:49.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah.
00:27:50.380 --> 00:27:54.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that that you know, we just don't feel good about it.
00:27:56.600 --> 00:27:59.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so when we start doing this work.
00:28:04.640 --> 00:28:07.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we have to face those pains.
00:28:08.810 --> 00:28:17.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's the first step towards feeling better. because as long as we're stuffing down those feelings, as long as we're
00:28:18.270 --> 00:28:25.650 running away from those uncomfortable feelings, they're still driving us. They're still
00:28:26.450 --> 00:28:30.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: controlling our actions and our choices and our decisions.
00:28:33.530 --> 00:28:38.000 And no, Logan, I am not calling you out. I am calling myself out.
00:28:38.970 --> 00:28:40.849 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But you see, here's the thing.
00:28:41.860 --> 00:28:43.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If what I'm saying
00:28:44.060 --> 00:28:57.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like rings a bell for yourself, if what I'm saying is like, Oh, my God! How does Sam know. Is he following me around with a camera? How did he know how? What I'm doing, how I'm feeling? I only know it because I do it myself.
00:29:00.860 --> 00:29:03.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because it's my path.
00:29:04.660 --> 00:29:10.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, a facilitator. I worked with my first facilitate I worked with, you know, 10 years ago.
00:29:10.970 --> 00:29:18.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: he said. Do you know your problem is, you're you're fine feeling the the good feelings. You're not so fine feeling, the uncomfortable feelings.
00:29:20.420 --> 00:29:21.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And of course my wife
00:29:23.690 --> 00:29:27.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: spent many years reminding me of that fact over and over again.
00:29:27.850 --> 00:29:31.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: As true as it may be, it still doesn't mean we want to hear them.
00:29:33.270 --> 00:29:40.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so when we face these truths about ourselves. It's not easy.
00:29:43.230 --> 00:29:45.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it's the only way forward.
00:29:47.840 --> 00:29:49.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: M. By
00:29:49.830 --> 00:30:03.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: admitting to ourselves that yes, this is true. You're absolutely right. Sam is calling me out on his show. I don't know how he knows what's going on inside of me, but somehow he does.
00:30:07.210 --> 00:30:14.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and when we can first start to admit that that's true and be okay with that.
00:30:16.580 --> 00:30:26.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The first thing is, we just have to be okay with the fact that we do avoid not feeling good. We don't like to feel bad. Nobody does.
00:30:28.370 --> 00:30:30.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Once we admit that.
00:30:31.340 --> 00:30:33.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we can be more present to it.
00:30:36.090 --> 00:30:43.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's the uncovering. That's the shining the light on what's there?
00:30:45.290 --> 00:30:56.319 But we're not shining the light on it to make ourselves feel bad. We're shining the light on it so we can make a more conscious decision about how we live.
00:30:59.480 --> 00:31:06.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that, you know, sometimes we're very consciously gonna say, you know what I'm feeling too uncomfortable right now.
00:31:06.520 --> 00:31:26.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I know this might not serve me. But I'm gonna go check out. I'm gonna go, play a video game, or do something on my phone, or watch a video or a movie to make me feel better, because this is just too uncomfortable. Right now for me to deal with. And I'm okay with that, I'm okay with that choice, because it's a conscious choice.
00:31:27.730 --> 00:31:33.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, it doesn't mean we keep making that same choice over and over and over again.
00:31:36.900 --> 00:31:47.129 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But we we want to be okay, sometimes making that choice. So that then we can also be okay making a different choice.
00:31:47.260 --> 00:31:48.320 and that
00:31:48.510 --> 00:31:58.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: after we've spent enough time kind of being aware that we're running away from something that we stop. And we say, You know what. Enough's enough.
00:31:58.860 --> 00:32:07.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I've really got to pay attention to this. I gotta dive into these uncomfortable feelings. and I have to start to really
00:32:08.550 --> 00:32:10.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: change, because
00:32:10.580 --> 00:32:14.730 the way I've been showing up for myself in my life just hasn't been serving me
00:32:18.070 --> 00:32:20.050 so
00:32:21.540 --> 00:32:23.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we come back from break.
00:32:23.560 --> 00:32:28.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm going to share some mistakes that I've made along the way.
00:32:29.440 --> 00:32:37.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and what I've learned from those mistakes. and hopefully, what can help you along your path as well.
00:32:38.450 --> 00:32:44.079 So everyone, please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity.
00:32:44.750 --> 00:32:49.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just you and me today. So please share your comments
00:32:49.790 --> 00:32:52.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: on the the live streams.
00:32:53.600 --> 00:33:01.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we will be right back. Continue our discussion of the challenges of transformational work in just a moment.
00:35:06.630 --> 00:35:15.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And welcome back to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity. We're talking this hour all about the challenges of transformational work.
00:35:16.520 --> 00:35:30.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I've kind of been talking about generalities, but their generalities that I've experienced myself. And perhaps they're something that you've experienced yourself in your life.
00:35:31.660 --> 00:35:37.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now let's talk about some specifics. How do these challenges show up?
00:35:39.750 --> 00:35:44.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So here's an example from my own
00:35:44.430 --> 00:35:50.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: from my, from doing my own work over the last, you know, 15 years
00:35:51.880 --> 00:35:58.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when when I started. but training to be a facilitator in the work that I'm I'm doing now.
00:35:58.720 --> 00:36:02.999 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I had a mentor who was very challenging for me.
00:36:03.290 --> 00:36:07.059 He's very challenging for me in a number of ways.
00:36:07.330 --> 00:36:20.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: First. I had come to this training with a lot of knowledge and background and things that I did beforehand. You know I've been doing energy medicine work, for
00:36:21.840 --> 00:36:34.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I don't even know how long I've been doing it now, for it's probably. you know, 19 years or something, but I've been doing it, you know, many, many years before I came to this, I had a lot of skills.
00:36:35.120 --> 00:36:37.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I was also
00:36:37.580 --> 00:36:44.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: kinda older than the other people training, I mean, I was in my fifties. They were in their like thirties.
00:36:44.680 --> 00:36:56.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So there was a certain maturity that II brought, and I felt like it was never recognized. And I was treated just like everyone else, and I didn't feel like I was just like everyone else.
00:36:57.760 --> 00:37:11.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I felt held back by this person, and they were a bit of a bully. I would say they they had a very aggressive side to themselves.
00:37:11.970 --> 00:37:24.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so it was really kind of tough dealing with them. But for this particular lineage there was no other mentor around, and in the New York area that I could work with. So I just kind of
00:37:25.330 --> 00:37:27.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: took it and and kept moving forward.
00:37:29.410 --> 00:37:37.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But because I never really confronted this resentment, because I never really stood up for myself in front of him.
00:37:38.940 --> 00:37:40.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I would.
00:37:40.490 --> 00:37:45.490 I do things to try and get around stuff, you know. I try and take shortcuts.
00:37:45.890 --> 00:37:52.999 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And what happened was I met a woman who was facilitating certain types of groups.
00:37:53.100 --> 00:38:05.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and so someone had connected me, and I hosted her in our wellness center. And I thought, Hmm, you know, what if I work with? And and this wasn't necessarily a conscious thought? This is, again, how
00:38:06.180 --> 00:38:23.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: revealing sort of the unconscious things going on, how it can affect cause. It wasn't so much a conscious thing of me thinking truly, thinking to myself. Hmm! You know what if I work with this woman like I can. She can be sort of the leader, and I can support her, and I can already start leading groups and doing stuff.
00:38:23.650 --> 00:38:25.199 It was more like, I just.
00:38:25.260 --> 00:38:30.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, that was the unconscious, unspoken, unaware motivation.
00:38:32.030 --> 00:38:37.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And because it was something I wanted so much, and I felt held back. I was.
00:38:37.980 --> 00:38:42.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I ignored. The red flags, I ignored
00:38:42.620 --> 00:38:44.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what
00:38:44.690 --> 00:38:46.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: was right in front of me.
00:38:48.270 --> 00:38:49.820 and so
00:38:49.870 --> 00:38:55.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: eventually it blew up in my face because this woman turned out to be very unstable.
00:38:55.510 --> 00:38:58.080 We. We ended up
00:38:58.560 --> 00:39:05.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: having a fight over something very minor, very stupid, and it was really
00:39:06.290 --> 00:39:09.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: inconsequential in some ways.
00:39:09.340 --> 00:39:20.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And because of this fight she ended up like contacting people in the organization and saying things. I did this and did that, that I didn't do.
00:39:20.330 --> 00:39:21.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and
00:39:22.060 --> 00:39:31.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: really kind of got me in trouble, and it set me back. It sent me back at least 6 months, if not a year, in my training
00:39:32.170 --> 00:39:34.080 because of what happened.
00:39:34.540 --> 00:39:35.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and
00:39:37.120 --> 00:39:40.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it was a real lesson for me, because I was trying to take a shortcut.
00:39:41.800 --> 00:39:54.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And this is what happens so often is we're in a rush. We're not really facing the real challenge in front of us. So then we try and get around it.
00:39:55.410 --> 00:40:01.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then by trying to get around it, we actually make things worse for ourselves. And it ends up taking longer
00:40:03.650 --> 00:40:05.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and so
00:40:06.340 --> 00:40:23.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and and literally, when all this blew up in my face, I thought I was gonna get kicked out of the training, and I'd lose being able to do the work in this lineage. And then II realized when when I saw the possibility of losing it, it it really affected me deeply. It really was like, Oh, my God!
00:40:24.180 --> 00:40:27.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I felt embarrassed. I felt ashamed
00:40:28.940 --> 00:40:39.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because this work was so important to me that the possibility of losing it because of doing something stupid like that.
00:40:39.270 --> 00:40:41.739 It really it really
00:40:42.320 --> 00:40:45.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: hurt me. It hurt myself. I hurt myself.
00:40:47.520 --> 00:41:00.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but it showed me really what was going on there, and it, and it took me a long time to deal with it. and you know there probably still some aspects of it. I haven't fully processed and worked through.
00:41:01.550 --> 00:41:04.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But again, this is just an example of how.
00:41:04.260 --> 00:41:13.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we don't shine a light on what's there, and we don't allow ourselves to be fully present to what's going on. It actually gets us in trouble in the end.
00:41:16.440 --> 00:41:20.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now again, am I making myself wrong for what I did?
00:41:20.700 --> 00:41:34.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: no, it's I couldn't have made any different choice, because that's where I was at the time, and and I was doing the best I could, and and I just couldn't make a better choice, because if I could have, I would have
00:41:34.790 --> 00:41:43.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, if I could see what I was doing if I could have pulled myself out and and and had a more objective view of what's going on.
00:41:43.950 --> 00:41:56.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know I would have heard the signals and the way the woman complained about people, and I would have noticed those red flags, and I would have like, no, you know what I got to shut this down now before it. It gets worse.
00:41:56.860 --> 00:41:58.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But I didn't.
00:41:58.940 --> 00:42:13.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So now that I've had that experience, and I've learned that lesson. I'm much more aware of those red flags, and I'm much more careful about how I engage with people, and making sure that I don't
00:42:14.830 --> 00:42:19.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: end up in another situation like that.
00:42:20.390 --> 00:42:27.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So did it serve me. Yes, was it painful and difficult? Yes. Did I learn from it? Absolutely?
00:42:28.140 --> 00:42:31.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Was I aware of what I was doing at the time now?
00:42:33.070 --> 00:42:48.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Did it feel good? No right. But that's what it's like when we're on our path towards transformational work. right? The the sides of ourselves come up that cause trouble that we never even knew were there, and it was like what the fuck.
00:42:49.190 --> 00:42:51.090 you know. What was that?
00:42:54.050 --> 00:43:00.929 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So that was a big lesson for me. and yet didn't feel good for quite a long time afterwards.
00:43:02.760 --> 00:43:06.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but I can admit that now I can be present to it.
00:43:07.490 --> 00:43:10.589 I can admit it without making myself wrong.
00:43:10.720 --> 00:43:12.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that's the key thing.
00:43:14.440 --> 00:43:19.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm just like. That's where I was. and I'm okay with it.
00:43:20.200 --> 00:43:33.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Do I wish I had not made that mistake and didn't delay my graduation, you know, but by having all that, of course. of course, I would rather learn by grace than learn by Karma, as they say.
00:43:35.010 --> 00:43:37.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's life. That's what happens.
00:43:38.280 --> 00:43:46.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I mean, I'm giving you just one instance, and when we come back from break I'll I'll I'll share some more stuff. But
00:43:48.890 --> 00:43:54.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm I'm pulling back the curtain and giving you a peek into my own process.
00:43:56.850 --> 00:43:58.150 Kind of
00:43:58.820 --> 00:44:02.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: dispel the mystery around it.
00:44:03.940 --> 00:44:07.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so that everyone gets this idea that
00:44:07.570 --> 00:44:26.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: doing our work. it's challenging. And sometimes when we're in the middle of it, we're like, Oh, my God! Why do I have to be so conscious? Can't I just go back to sleep and living life unconsciously, and not caring and not being so aware of all this stuff, so I can just feel better.
00:44:27.910 --> 00:44:37.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Unfortunately you can't. Well, I mean you can. I'm sure there are people who do. But most of the time it's sort of like. Once we've stepped on to this path.
00:44:37.200 --> 00:44:43.360 Once we've made the decision to start learning to live more consciously, to live
00:44:43.400 --> 00:44:53.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with more awareness and presence of what's going on right here in this moment. It's really hard to go back.
00:44:53.520 --> 00:45:03.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I've I've not met anybody who's gone back. I have met people who, without the right support, ended up, getting really twisted and messed up.
00:45:05.030 --> 00:45:09.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but with the right support, with the right facilitator, with the right guidance.
00:45:10.820 --> 00:45:12.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You're not going to go back.
00:45:13.610 --> 00:45:16.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We we we get on this path.
00:45:16.680 --> 00:45:18.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And this path is
00:45:19.620 --> 00:45:22.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: where we're going to be for the rest of our life.
00:45:23.930 --> 00:45:37.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And today I wouldn't have it any other way. Are there moments in the past where I wish that wasn't so absolutely. But from where I am today I wouldn't have it any other way.
00:45:37.570 --> 00:46:06.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All right. So it's time for us to take our last break of the show. When we come back. I'll share a little bit more, and we'll wrap this all up about the challenges of transformational work. And why? It's okay that there are challenges of the transformational work and how to be okay with our challenges along the way. So everyone, please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consult now awakening humanity, and we will be right back in just a moment.
00:48:08.760 --> 00:48:11.590 you're
00:48:14.730 --> 00:48:17.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and welcome back. So
00:48:17.700 --> 00:48:29.349 we've been talking all this hour sort of the challenges of transformational work. And as I see, loyal listener Sonia saying, this is true, you can't unsee or unravel your awareness absolutely.
00:48:30.150 --> 00:48:31.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So what do we do?
00:48:32.130 --> 00:48:38.650 We're travelling along this path of becoming a more conscious human being. And what do I need by more conscious
00:48:39.070 --> 00:48:44.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to be more conscious, is to be more aware, more awake, more present.
00:48:46.900 --> 00:48:54.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and presence is really key, because there is so much power in being present
00:48:55.090 --> 00:49:02.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in any situation, whether it's a business situation, a personal situation. a family situation
00:49:02.890 --> 00:49:11.520 when we're really present to what's going on inside of ourselves, and most present to what's going on with other people.
00:49:11.850 --> 00:49:14.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we can really have a
00:49:14.910 --> 00:49:17.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a better experience.
00:49:19.560 --> 00:49:23.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so
00:49:25.150 --> 00:49:33.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what do we do? We're on this path. and things are not always working out the way we expect.
00:49:35.330 --> 00:49:42.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we notice. we begin to notice more and more of how do we feel when things don't go the way we expect?
00:49:47.480 --> 00:49:50.929 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's sort of a reattuning
00:49:54.470 --> 00:49:59.510 our acceptance of ourselves, especially when things don't go our way.
00:50:01.460 --> 00:50:04.660 because normally, when things don't go our way.
00:50:05.460 --> 00:50:16.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we make up all these stories. and we drag the past into the present and make ourselves wrong, for where we are or what we're doing.
00:50:18.530 --> 00:50:32.700 and the more we see this, the more we are aware of this, the more we're conscious of this, we can make a different choice. We can choose not to make ourselves wrong, to accept ourselves where we are
00:50:33.750 --> 00:50:39.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and to move forward in the way we actually want to move forward.
00:50:42.940 --> 00:50:52.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that we don't have to keep telling ourselves that same story over and over and over and over again
00:50:54.060 --> 00:50:55.389 that we are
00:50:55.400 --> 00:51:06.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: strong enough now that we are capable enough. that we're willing willingness is so key that we're willing
00:51:06.090 --> 00:51:07.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to face
00:51:07.480 --> 00:51:09.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the difficult truths
00:51:09.830 --> 00:51:11.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: about ourselves.
00:51:14.700 --> 00:51:16.689 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: my wife and I. We have a lot of
00:51:17.550 --> 00:51:28.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: challenges because we're completely different people, I mean, so opposite. I'm an Aquarius Pisces. She's a Taurus. I'm a tiger in Chinese zodiac. She's a dragon.
00:51:28.410 --> 00:51:35.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: III mean, she's very grounded. I fly up into spirit so easily.
00:51:35.840 --> 00:51:51.689 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that causes challenges, because while we complement each other so well. when you're so different. you have a different view of the world, you show up in a different way, and and that causes friction.
00:51:54.560 --> 00:51:58.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and sometimes we're better at
00:51:58.300 --> 00:52:02.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: seeing that friction when occurs, and sometimes we're not as good.
00:52:04.760 --> 00:52:17.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and she is very present, has to deal with things isn't running away like it's got to be there, and I'm like, I'm there. But I'm checked out. I'm just gone. My old name.
00:52:21.260 --> 00:52:28.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so in the past. when we'd have challenging conversations.
00:52:31.060 --> 00:52:38.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I would just be checked out, not emotional, not present. not feeling what I'm feeling
00:52:41.710 --> 00:52:49.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because of past experiences and past traumas like that was how I made it. That's how I got through it.
00:52:52.690 --> 00:53:02.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But that way of being that way of showing up wasn't working for me anymore. And as a matter of fact, it was just causing more and more and more trouble between us.
00:53:04.770 --> 00:53:07.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it took a long time
00:53:08.560 --> 00:53:24.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for me to be able to be present with those difficult situations, to to stop running away internally. It's not an external running away. I never ran away externally, but internally I was running away
00:53:24.790 --> 00:53:26.849 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to stop running away
00:53:27.620 --> 00:53:34.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and to say to myself, in a way, Okay, I can be here. I can deal with this.
00:53:35.540 --> 00:53:39.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I can feel these uncomfortable feelings and still be present.
00:53:41.020 --> 00:53:46.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, that doesn't sound like such a big deal in some ways, but it was a very big deal for me.
00:53:48.630 --> 00:53:57.139 and whatever your core challenges on your transformational path, it's going to be probably a different one. Maybe it's the same one.
00:54:01.280 --> 00:54:05.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And when you actually deal with it. When you actually
00:54:07.080 --> 00:54:13.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: show up in a different way than you have in the past, things start to shift and change.
00:54:16.930 --> 00:54:20.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and things get better because we're getting better.
00:54:22.950 --> 00:54:29.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it does require being present to a lot of uncomfortable feelings and situations.
00:54:29.380 --> 00:54:33.309 It does mean having to do things that can be very scary
00:54:33.890 --> 00:54:41.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when you're in a relationship with someone, and that relationship is not working or not working the way it is
00:54:41.820 --> 00:54:57.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to be able to say, look, this isn't working. Either we need to split or we need to change one or the other, but it can't stay the same. and that's really hard, especially if you've been in a in a relationship with some 1 5, 1015 years, 20 years.
00:54:57.860 --> 00:55:04.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the longer it is, and maybe you're married. Maybe you have kids. I don't have kids. But maybe you have kids. And you've stayed together because of the kids.
00:55:04.590 --> 00:55:15.000 And it's just even though it's challenging. And it's hard. It's all you know. And it's scary to like disrupt that, even though it doesn't really work for you anymore.
00:55:21.970 --> 00:55:27.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So the challenge of doing the transformational work is that sometimes.
00:55:27.320 --> 00:55:34.520 once we've done the work, and we've realized that all these things that we've been running away from we now have to deal with
00:55:34.810 --> 00:55:36.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: can be uncomfortable.
00:55:37.290 --> 00:55:55.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And maybe it's not about your relationship with your partner. Maybe it's about relationship with your boss or at work or your business. Maybe you realize that you really hate the work that you do, and you need to do something different, or you want to do something different now. But you've never done anything different. So you don't know what to do.
00:55:56.020 --> 00:56:00.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and stepping out on that path of the unknown is really scary.
00:56:06.440 --> 00:56:15.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and the reward for stepping out on that path is greater fulfillment. greater joy, greater happiness.
00:56:16.330 --> 00:56:23.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not full-time happiness, not constant and and and only happiness.
00:56:25.690 --> 00:56:29.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Life has all kinds of aspects to it.
00:56:29.860 --> 00:56:32.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's about opening up to all of it.
00:56:37.400 --> 00:56:42.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So while there are challenges in doing this transformational work.
00:56:43.200 --> 00:56:46.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there's also great rewards.
00:56:48.910 --> 00:56:55.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And from somebody who's still in the middle of their path as much as I work with other people, and I help other people
00:56:56.130 --> 00:57:00.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to to get on this path and and travel on this path.
00:57:01.080 --> 00:57:10.700 I've just been maybe at it a little bit longer than they have. I'm by no means am I done like? I said. I'm not done with this work until my last breath.
00:57:12.600 --> 00:57:30.659 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: While there are challenges. There were beautiful moments. They're amazing, amazing times ahead. And I'll finish off with a comment from loyal listener. Sinaya, I'm so glad you're tuning in live Sinaya.
00:57:30.960 --> 00:57:36.419 When I hit an emotional roadblock I have to remind myself that the energy
00:57:36.570 --> 00:57:45.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that I need to progress is on the other side of that emotional block. I used to run to a safe place inside myself to quiet my spirit.
00:57:45.850 --> 00:58:03.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but I convinced myself now to bulldoze or chip away at the issue, journalling or meditating to get little piece of light poking through at a time until the transition gets smoother. Yes, very good, Sinaya. Beautiful.
00:58:03.570 --> 00:58:06.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm very, very happy to hear that.
00:58:08.970 --> 00:58:14.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because, yeah, it's easy to run away. It's it's not so easy to stay present.
00:58:16.720 --> 00:58:24.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And yeah, maybe it's not about bulldozing. Maybe it's just about finding what works for us
00:58:25.590 --> 00:58:29.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to be able to stay here in the here and now.
00:58:30.030 --> 00:58:34.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because pretty much the here and now is all we really have.
00:58:35.940 --> 00:58:38.960 So thank you all for tuning in today.
00:58:39.090 --> 00:58:52.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: II hope you enjoyed this show. If you. If you, if you, whether you're listening, live or you're listening to the recording afterwards, or you're listening on a podcast, platform, please share this show with your friends.
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00:59:09.540 --> 00:59:30.109 so thank you all for tuning in. I so appreciate you. Next week we have a wonderful guest. I do hope you'll tune in for it. And remember, if you missed any part of today's show, you can always catch the replay on top radio, Nyc or on your favorite podcasting platform apple, Google spotify Pandora
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